In this live session, we explore one of the most overlooked dynamics in modern relationships: the thin line between care and control. Emotional monitoring can show up as “just checking in,” “wanting reassurance,” or “needing transparency” — but when does it cross into surveillance, anxiety-driven policing, or subtle forms of control?This conversation breaks down:• How emotional monitoring develops• Why it often feels like love (even when it’s not)• The difference between safety, transparency, and control• How trauma, attachment, and insecurity shape our behaviors• What healthy interdependence looks like• How to set boundaries without creating distanceWhether you’re healing from past relationships, preparing to date again, or supporting others on their journey, this session offers grounded, compassionate insight into reclaiming emotional freedom.✨ If you found this helpful, don’t forget to like, subscribe, and share with someone who needs this conversation.0:00 — Welcome & Opening Intentions1:42 — What Is Emotional Monitoring?5:10 — How Surveillance Shows Up in Relationships9:25 — “Care vs Control”: Understanding the Difference13:40 — Attachment Styles & Monitoring Behaviors18:55 — When Transparency Becomes Policing23:18 — The Role of Trauma & Past Relationships28:02 — Signs You’re Being Monitored Emotionally32:45 — Signs You Might Be Monitoring Others36:30 — Healthy Interdependence vs Hypervigilance41:12 — How to Set Boundaries with Compassion45:20 — Final Reflections & Takeaways48:00 — Closing & Next Steps
So many adults move through dating and relationships without realizing they’ve been operating from a place of self‑abandonment, emotional survival patterns, and unhealed relational wounds. This video guides you through the process of recognizing where you’ve been disappearing — and how to finally return to yourself with clarity, compassion, and power.Whether you’re rebuilding after heartbreak, re‑entering the dating world, or learning to trust your voice again, this session offers grounded, trauma‑informed insight to help you reconnect with your identity, boundaries, and emotional truth.---⏱️ TIMESTAMPS00:00 – Welcome & Overview 02:15 – What Is Self‑Abandonment? 06:40 – Childhood Roots of Losing Yourself 11:55 – How Self‑Abandonment Shows Up in Adult Relationships 17:20 – The Cost of Disappearing in Dating 22:05 – Signs You’re Disconnecting From Your Needs 27:30 – Rebuilding Self‑Trust & Emotional Safety 32:10 – How to Stop Over‑Functioning and Over‑Giving 36:45 – Boundaries as a Path Back to Yourself 40:20 – Final Reflections & Integration 43:42 – Closing
Join Coach Derrick, a certified healing journey and relationship coach, as he explores the intricacies of navigating conflict and building trust in relationships. This episode dives deep into understanding inner child dynamics, how childhood wounds influence adult conflicts, and the importance of healing for better relationships. Coach Derrick emphasizes effective communication, emotional safety, and the necessity of addressing unresolved trauma for relationship success. Tune in every Tuesday at 7:30 PM EST for live broadcasts, and access more resources at www.sitdownandheal.com.
00:00 Introduction to Sit Down and Heal
02:24 Navigating Conflict: A Deeper Look
04:53 Understanding Inner Child in Conflict
09:53 The Cycle of Unresolved Trauma
16:42 Coping Mechanisms and Their Impact
19:41 Trust and Safety in Relationships
21:47 Coping Mechanisms and Unresolved Issues
22:48 Understanding the Inner Child
24:10 Triggers and Reactions in Relationships
25:01 The Importance of Shadow Work
27:33 Building Trust Through Vulnerability
29:25 Communication and Conflict Resolution
32:23 The Role of Tools and Coaching
33:18 Final Thoughts and Encouragement
Tune in every Tuesday at 7:30 PM EST for live broadcasts, and access more resources at www.sitdownandheal.com.
Join Coach Derrickk in this thought-provoking episode of the Sit Down and Heal podcast as he dives deep into the topic of identifying the footprint of childhood trauma in adult relationships. He introduces the concept of 'Echoes of the Past' and discusses how unresolved childhood traumas manifest in our current behaviors and relationships. Drawing analogies from sci-fi, Coach Derrick emphasizes the importance of awareness, healing, and changing the trajectory of our lives. Don't miss this episode, which is the first in a series dedicated to Childhood Trauma Awareness Month, featuring insights into how our past shapes our present and the steps we can take to heal and build healthier relationships.
00:00 Introduction to Sit Down and Heal Podcast
01:28 Identifying Childhood Trauma in Relationships
03:12 The Importance of Childhood Trauma Awareness
04:36 Understanding and Breaking Patterns
14:46 The Concept of Time Travel in Healing
21:22 Understanding Triggers and Time Travel
22:21 Subconscious Protection Mechanisms
24:48 Repairing the Inner Child
25:05 The Multiverse and Life Trajectories
28:09 Impact of Trauma on Relationships
31:13 Awareness and Healing
34:04 The Importance of Coaching
36:49 Final Thoughts and Encouragement
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Busy Brain, Absent Heart: Repairing Unintentional Distance | Sit Down and Heal PodcastIn this episode of the Sit Down and Heal podcast, Coach Derrick dives into the concept of 'Busy Brain' and its detrimental effects on relationships. He explores how chronic stress and burnout can lead to unintentional neglect in relationships, causing feelings of resentment and loneliness in partners. Derrick discusses the importance of finding balance between work and personal life and provides actionable steps to manage busy brain, such as the pause and pivot technique, setting designated sacred presence times, and mindful listening exercises. He also touches upon how deeply ingrained childhood wounds can influence these patterns and emphasizes the need for empathy and effective communication in relationships. Join Coach Derrick in understanding and tackling the busy brain to foster healthier, more present relationships.00:00 Introduction to Sit Down and Heal Podcast01:02 Understanding the Busy Brain02:17 Symptoms and Causes of Busy Brain05:38 Impact of Busy Brain on Relationships06:31 Unintentional Neglect and Childhood Wounds09:30 Balancing Hustle and Relationships20:07 Solutions and Rebuilding22:50 Rebuilding and Repairing Relationships23:15 Pause and Pivot Technique24:40 Designated Sacred Presence Times26:59 Mindfulness Listening Exercises29:03 Empathetic Observation35:24 Creating Shared Experiences38:52 Setting Healthy Boundaries40:17 Checking In and Celebrating Moments45:04 Final Thoughts and Resources
In this episode, Coach Derek, a Certified Healing Journey coach and relationship coach, discusses 'Unmasking the Inner Critic: Survival Tactics.' Dive deep into understanding the inner critic, how it's formed, and its impact on your decision-making and self-perception. Learn about cognitive distortions, emotional reasoning, overgeneralization, labeling, and more. Discover practical ways to identify and manage these thought patterns to lead a healthier, more positive life. Replay available on YouTube and Spotify. Join us and start your journey to healing today!00:00 Introduction to Sit Down and Heal Podcast01:05 Unmasking the Inner Critic06:32 Understanding Cognitive Distortions08:42 Exploring Polarized Thinking11:19 Catastrophizing: Predicting Negative Outcomes14:45 Mental Filters: Focusing on Negatives18:02 Overgeneralization: Broad Assumptions19:59 Emotional Reasoning: Feelings Over Facts22:09 Labeling: Self-Perception Issues26:10 The Perpetual Critic: A Date Story27:28 Unmasking the Inner Critic28:22 Should Statements and Control Issues34:06 Personalization: Blaming Yourself40:17 Blaming Others: The Tunnel Vision43:22 Unfair Comparisons and Social Media45:17 The Power of Healing and Awareness47:57 Conclusion and ResourcesTo contact Coach Derrick for coaching information click here: www.sitdownandheal.com
Are you caught in the People Pleaser Paradox? In this episode of the "Sit Down and Heal Podcast," Coach Derrick unpacks the delicate balance between helping others and protecting your emotional well-being. Discover how self-awareness, personal growth, and healing can free you from the cycle of over-giving and unmet needs. Explore the six distinct types of people-pleasers, from the Yes Person to the Perfectionist, and uncover how childhood experiences shape patterns of people-pleasing behaviors that impact your mental health, relationships, and self-worth. Learn how emotional intelligence and understanding trauma bonds can help you set boundaries, nurture healthier relationships, and reconnect with your authentic self.Through relatable stories, insightful coaching, and practical strategies, Coach Derrick guides you on a journey of self-improvement and transformation. It’s time to prioritize your needs, break free from the pressure to please, and embrace a path of healing and authenticity. Join the conversation—reflect on your own patterns, share your thoughts, and let’s explore this healing journey together. Ready to stop rescheduling your healing? Let’s start now. Your transformation begins here.
CHAPTERS:
00:00 - Welcome
01:02 - People Pleaser Paradox
03:41 - The Yes Person
08:04 - The Empath/Fixer
14:38 - The Chameleon
24:20 - The Entertainer
29:55 - The Busy Bee
37:30 - The Perfectionist
44:20 - Outro
47:50 - Where to Find Me
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Why do empaths often find themselves entangled with narcissists? In this thought-provoking episode, we delve into the mysterious and often toxic attraction between empaths and narcissists. Join us as we explore the intricate dynamics of this relationship, offering insightful discussions and real-life examples to uncover why these two opposites seem magnetically drawn to each other. We examine how trauma bonds, manipulation and deceit, and self-awareness play pivotal roles in shaping these connections. Could it be possible that the empath's deep-seated need to help and the narcissist's unyielding quest for validation create an addictive cycle? We reflect on these unhealthy patterns and consider how understanding them can lead to transformative change. By fostering personal growth and emotional well-being, we can break free from these cycles and establish healthier, more fulfilling relationships. Join the discussion and reflect on how these insights might apply to your life. Together, we can build a community of healing and self-awareness.
Connect with Coach Derrick here: www.sitdownandheal.com
In this thought-provoking episode, we delve into the alarming truth about overthinking and its connection to trauma. Join us as we explore whether overthinking is a trauma response, examining how unresolved childhood experiences like trauma bonds, manipulation, and deceit can manifest in our dating and relationships. Through insightful discussions and real-life examples, we uncover the role of self-awareness and personal growth in transforming these unhealthy patterns into pathways for emotional well-being. Could it be possible that what we've accepted as a natural part of who we are is instead a call for healing?We invite you to reflect on your own experiences and consider how these insights apply to your life. As we navigate this journey together, let's foster a community that supports transformative change and shared exploration. Engage with us in this empathetic and authoritative narrative, and discover how addressing trauma can lead to healthier relationships and a more fulfilling life. Join the discussion and be a part of our collective healing journey.
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Welcome to the introduction to the Sit Down And Heal Podcast. Coach Derrick spends a few minutes letting you know a little about himself and what is in store for the podcast in general.
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