New York Times best-selling author and relationship coach, Allison Raskin, has spent the last few years researching what it really means to get married in today’s society. And now she is expanding her investigation with hands on experience as she navigates her first (and hopefully last) marriage with her husband and co-host, John Blakeslee. Pulling from the latest research, other couples and various experts, the duo will examine modern marriage from every angle including how it impacts the world on a societal level (think trad wives) and on the most personal (like losing a parent). Allison, a well-known mental health influencer, is used to sharing her life online, so opening up about the intimate details of her marriage to help others understand their own felt like a no-brainer. John, a former undercover CIA officer, who isn’t used to sharing his life so publicly, needed a little more convincing. But, hey, isn’t marriage all about compromise?
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New York Times best-selling author and relationship coach, Allison Raskin, has spent the last few years researching what it really means to get married in today’s society. And now she is expanding her investigation with hands on experience as she navigates her first (and hopefully last) marriage with her husband and co-host, John Blakeslee. Pulling from the latest research, other couples and various experts, the duo will examine modern marriage from every angle including how it impacts the world on a societal level (think trad wives) and on the most personal (like losing a parent). Allison, a well-known mental health influencer, is used to sharing her life online, so opening up about the intimate details of her marriage to help others understand their own felt like a no-brainer. John, a former undercover CIA officer, who isn’t used to sharing his life so publicly, needed a little more convincing. But, hey, isn’t marriage all about compromise?
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This week, Allison and John discuss the fundamentally unfair dynamic of the upcoming birth of their child as Allison prepares for her body to go through a crucible while John wonders whether he needs to buy himself a chair to sleep in. The two dive into their fear points around the pregnancy and postpartum. (Spoiler, this was recorded in October before their baby made an early arrival on Thanksgiving! Everyone is doing well!) Plus, Allison is excited to celebrate John’s birthday while John is excited to celebrate Loyalty Day in Argentina.
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Jackie Johnson joins the pod to share how her (terrible) first marriage impacted her (lovely) second one and why she had to change her approach to relationships in general. Also, John doesn't know how to pronounce muffins.
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This week, John and Allison dive deep into codependency. John opens up about his unhealthy relationship history. Things then get a little heated when they revisit a disagreement over who was busier this summer, and Allison reveals the times in their relationship when she feels most lonely. Also, John is available for your next BBQ.
If you would like to submit a “Marriage Moment’ or suggest a future episode topic, email us at startermarriagepodcast@gmail.com.
John's Substack : https://wrongmanforthejob.substack.com
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This week, Allison and John are joined by Jen Glantz, CEO and founder of Bridesmaid For Hire--a business that will shock you. Jen shares what it's like to go undercover at weddings and help strangers navigate their big day. Critics will call it a "jaw dropping" episode. (Hopefully.)
If you would like to submit a “Marriage Moment’ or suggest a future episode topic, email us at startermarriagepodcast@gmail.com.
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Allison coins a new phrase that will hit the zeitgeist by storm. The duo then dive into jealousy toward each other. Allison feels threatened by John's writing now that he has a Substack and is envious that he doesn't also live with OCD. And John reveals he hasn't always dealt with his jealousy in the healthiest of ways.
If you would like to submit a “Marriage Moment’ or suggest a future episode topic, email us at startermarriagepodcast@gmail.com.
John's Substack : https://wrongmanforthejob.substack.com
Learn more about the possibilities of modern marriage with a copy of I DO (I THINK): Conversations About Modern Marriage.
Purchase Allison’s new romcom novel Save The Date.
If you like the show, telling a friend about it would be helpful! You can text, email, Tweet, or send this link to a friend: https://bit.ly/StarterMarriage
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This week, Allison and John dive into John's least favorite topic: divorce. They each share their deal breakers and have a detailed debate over how much privacy is appropriate in a marriage. Allison then shares some divorce statistics that blow John's mind.
If you would like to submit a “Marriage Moment’ or suggest a future episode topic, email us at startermarriagepodcast@gmail.com.
John's Substack : https://wrongmanforthejob.substack.com
Learn more about the possibilities of modern marriage with a copy of I DO (I THINK): Conversations About Modern Marriage.
Purchase Allison’s new romcom novel Save The Date.
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This week, Allison and John are joined by their wedding planners, Katie and Adam Schuette. They dissect what it was like planning a wedding together, how many animals is too many animals for a formal event and why premarital counseling should be a part of every pre-wedding checklist. Also, John agrees on the record to get a tattoo.
If you would like to submit a “Marriage Moment’ or suggest a future episode topic, email us at startermarriagepodcast@gmail.com.
John's Substack : https://wrongmanforthejob.substack.com
Learn more about the possibilities of modern marriage with a copy of I DO (I THINK): Conversations About Modern Marriage.
Purchase Allison’s new romcom novel Save The Date.
If you like the show, telling a friend about it would be helpful! You can text, email, Tweet, or send this link to a friend: https://bit.ly/StarterMarriage
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In this solo episode, Allison and John dive into the minefield of parenting. Hot topics include whether or not to feed him meat, the right amount of technology access and if college even matters. There are a lot of disagreements along the way including if John is allowed to introduce him to baseball.
If you would like to submit a “Marriage Moment’ or suggest a future episode topic, email us at startermarriagepodcast@gmail.com.
John's Substack : https://wrongmanforthejob.substack.com
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Purchase Allison’s new romcom novel Save The Date.
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Professional Matchmaker Maria Avgitidis of Agape Matchmaking joins the show to talk about the biggest dating mistakes people make when looking for a spouse and the surprising advice she gives her clients. Also, John is defiant about not having to wear socks with loafers and tells a Marriage Moment story about panicking after getting out of the shower.
If you would like to submit a “Marriage Moment’ or suggest a future episode topic, email us at startermarriagepodcast@gmail.com.
John's Substack : https://wrongmanforthejob.substack.com
Learn more about the possibilities of modern marriage with a copy of I DO (I THINK): Conversations About Modern Marriage.
Purchase Allison’s new romcom novel Save The Date.
If you like the show, telling a friend about it would be helpful! You can text, email, Tweet, or send this link to a friend: https://bit.ly/StarterMarriage
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Allison and John unpack meeting their in-laws and what it was like for John to enter the very specific culture of Allison’s family. John shares his last conversation with Allison’s mom before she passed. And Allison admits the awkwardness of being with John’s family and the quiet grief of losing her relationship with her exes’ parents. In Marriage Moments, John has Allison crying with laughter over a strip-mall overreaction.
If you would like to submit a “Marriage Moment’ or suggest a future episode topic, email us at startermarriagepodcast@gmail.com.
John's Substack : https://wrongmanforthejob.substack.com
Learn more about the possibilities of modern marriage with a copy of I DO (I THINK): Conversations About Modern Marriage.
Purchase Allison’s new romcom novel Save The Date.
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Allison’s long-time creative partner Gabe Dunn joins the show to dissect their decade-long collaborations and share candid observations about Allison’s past romantic relationships. Gabe and Allison explore how their creative partnership was an actual "starter marriage” given how entwined they were personally and professionally. John reveals that while he isn't jealous of any of Allison's actual exes, he is jealous of Gabe.
If you would like to submit a “Marriage Moment’ or suggest a future episode topic, email us at startermarriagepodcast@gmail.com.
John's Substack : https://wrongmanforthejob.substack.com
Learn more about the possibilities of modern marriage with a copy of I DO (I THINK): Conversations About Modern Marriage.
Purchase Allison’s new romcom novel Save The Date.
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Allison and John discuss compatibility and how to tell if there is too much friction to make a relationship work. The conversation gets heated when Allison shares she only wants to have one kid and John isn’t so sure. During Stay or Leave, the pair decide whether they could get through an organic chemistry course
If you would like to submit a “Marriage Moment’ or suggest a future episode topic, email us at startermarriagepodcast@gmail.com.
John's Substack : https://wrongmanforthejob.substack.com
Learn more about the possibilities of modern marriage with a copy of I DO (I THINK): Conversations About Modern Marriage.
Purchase Allison’s new romcom novel Save The Date.
If you like the show, telling a friend about it would be helpful! You can text, email, Tweet, or send this link to a friend: https://bit.ly/StarterMarriage
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New York Times Bestselling author and podcaster Amanda Montell is joined on mic by her husband Casey Kolb for the first time! The newlyweds discuss their fairy tale romance, how they came around to joining the institution of marriage, and Amanda’s elaborate proposal to Casey. Meanwhile, Allison roasts John for not understanding the meaning of the word “prenatal.”
If you would like to submit a “Marriage Moment’ or suggest a future episode topic, email us at startermarriagepodcast@gmail.com.
John's Substack : https://wrongmanforthejob.substack.com
Learn more about the possibilities of modern marriage with a copy of I DO (I THINK): Conversations About Modern Marriage.
Purchase Allison’s new romcom novel Save The Date.
If you like the show, telling a friend about it would be helpful! You can text, email, Tweet, or send this link to a friend: https://bit.ly/StarterMarriage
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For the first time on the podcast, John opens up about being on and off estranged from his parents. He and Allison unpack how his parental relationship has strained their marriage and shaped how John thinks and reacts. They also share how they each came to the difficult decision to finally go no contact.
John has a new substack! : https://wrongmanforthejob.substack.com
If you would like to submit a “Marriage Moment’ or suggest a future episode topic, email us at startermarriagepodcast@gmail.com.
Learn more about the possibilities of modern marriage with a copy of I DO (I THINK): Conversations About Modern Marriage.
Purchase Allison’s new romcom novel Save The Date.
If you like the show, telling a friend about it would be helpful! You can text, email, Tweet, or send this link to a friend: https://bit.ly/StarterMarriage
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Wouldn’t life be easier if you could live on a commune with your favorite people? This week John and Allison bring their next door neighbor on the show, Celia Kettering, to talk about found family, making new friendships as adults, and the loss of community. Plus, John recounts Allison’s high-stakes wager over whether they’d eat “slop” for dinner.
John has a new substack! : https://wrongmanforthejob.substack.com
If you would like to submit a “Marriage Moment’ or suggest a future episode topic, email us at startermarriagepodcast@gmail.com.
Learn more about the possibilities of modern marriage with a copy of I DO (I THINK): Conversations About Modern Marriage.
Purchase Allison’s new romcom novel Save The Date.
If you like the show, telling a friend about it would be helpful! You can text, email, Tweet, or send this link to a friend: https://bit.ly/StarterMarriage
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Is it normal to piss each other off? Allison and John come prepared this week with a long list of the many ways they annoy each other--from John leaving all of his stuff out around the house to Allison’s penchant for diminishing her accomplishments. And during Marriage Moments, Allison dumps cold water on John's dreams of becoming a "nectarine guy."
John has a new substack! : https://wrongmanforthejob.substack.com
If you would like to submit a “Marriage Moment’ or suggest a future episode topic, email us at startermarriagepodcast@gmail.com.
Learn more about the possibilities of modern marriage with a copy of I DO (I THINK): Conversations About Modern Marriage.
Purchase Allison’s new romcom novel Save The Date.
If you like the show, telling a friend about it would be helpful! You can text, email, Tweet, or send this link to a friend: https://bit.ly/StarterMarriage
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After a harrowing week without hot water, John emerges as an expert on tankless water heaters, while Allison shares her battle with pregnancy exhaustion. She also takes aim at the corruption behind John’s new cutthroat competition: “Sweetie of the Week.” Writer and disability rights activist Emily Ladau then joins the chat to discuss how the disabled community has been denied marriage equality and how adopting a “curb cut” philosophy could benefit us all. The conversation leads Allison to reveal one of her main reasons for only wanting one child.
John has a new substack! : https://wrongmanforthejob.substack.com
If you would like to submit a “Marriage Moment’ or suggest a future episode topic, email us at startermarriagepodcast@gmail.com.
Learn more about the possibilities of modern marriage with a copy of I DO (I THINK): Conversations About Modern Marriage.
Purchase Allison’s new romcom novel Save The Date.
If you like the show, telling a friend about it would be helpful! You can text, email, Tweet, or send this link to a friend: https://bit.ly/StarterMarriage
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Gender roles can weigh especially heavy in a marriage. In this episode, John and Allison have a frank conversation about what it's like to be married to a member of the opposite gender, the pressures and expectations that come with it, and how those forces can drive a disconnection.
If you would like to submit a “Marriage Moment’ or suggest a future episode topic, email us at startermarriagepodcast@gmail.com.
Learn more about the possibilities of modern marriage with a copy of I DO (I THINK): Conversations About Modern Marriage.
Purchase Allison’s new romcom novel Save The Date.
If you like the show, telling a friend about it would be helpful! You can text, email, Tweet, or send this link to a friend: https://bit.ly/StarterMarriage
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It may be 2025 but the hottest trend on the internet is women pretending like it’s 1950. Trad Wives, short for “Traditional Wives,” boast millions of followers as they pretend to live the pastoral life of a submissive homemaker. But that image couldn’t be further from the truth. Journalist and novelist Jo Piazza joins the podcast to discuss this phenomenon and why she thinks Harry Burns and Sally Albright from When Harry Met Sally should have never gotten together.
If you would like to submit a “Marriage Moment’ or suggest a future episode topic, email us at startermarriagepodcast@gmail.com.
Learn more about the possibilities of modern marriage with a copy of I DO (I THINK): Conversations About Modern Marriage.
Purchase Allison’s new romcom novel Save The Date.
If you like the show, telling a friend about it would be helpful! You can text, email, Tweet, or send this link to a friend: https://bit.ly/StarterMarriage
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Most couples assume attraction fades over time, but does it have to? In this episode, Allison shares a fear that’s been on her mind during pregnancy: what if her body changes and John stops desiring her? The two talk about how attraction isn’t automatic. It’s something both partners have to nurture. John also reveals his harrowing appendicitis story. And Allison admits there’s one thing she always finds herself drawn to, no matter the circumstance: corn.
If you would like to submit a “Marriage Moment’ or suggest a future episode topic, email us at startermarriagepodcast@gmail.com.
Learn more about the possibilities of modern marriage with a copy of I DO (I THINK): Conversations About Modern Marriage.
Purchase Allison’s new romcom novel Save The Date.
If you like the show, telling a friend about it would be helpful! You can text, email, Tweet, or send this link to a friend: https://bit.ly/StarterMarriage
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New York Times best-selling author and relationship coach, Allison Raskin, has spent the last few years researching what it really means to get married in today’s society. And now she is expanding her investigation with hands on experience as she navigates her first (and hopefully last) marriage with her husband and co-host, John Blakeslee. Pulling from the latest research, other couples and various experts, the duo will examine modern marriage from every angle including how it impacts the world on a societal level (think trad wives) and on the most personal (like losing a parent). Allison, a well-known mental health influencer, is used to sharing her life online, so opening up about the intimate details of her marriage to help others understand their own felt like a no-brainer. John, a former undercover CIA officer, who isn’t used to sharing his life so publicly, needed a little more convincing. But, hey, isn’t marriage all about compromise?
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