Episode 103: “When Hope Helps — And When It Holds Us Back” It’s Christmas Eve — a night filled with symbolism, expectation, longing, and hope. But what is “hope” in real human terms? And how do we hold hope without drifting into passivity, denial, or waiting for someone else to rescue us? In this episode, JDK and Ashley gently explore hope’s emotional, spiritual, and psychological dimensions. They examine how hope can be a powerful motivator — and how, when misunderstood, it can keep us stuck, waiting, or disconnected from the present moment. Drawing on research from neuroscience, behavioral psychology, and meaning-based therapies, they reframe hope as an active, values-driven practice rather than a passive wish. With stories, reflection, and practical guidance, this Christmas Eve conversation invites listeners into a grounded, compassionate, and intentional way of bringing hope into each new day. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Episode 102: From ‘Should’ to ‘Want’: Creating Your Own Holiday Season The holidays can easily become a season of autopilot — traditions we never question, expectations we silently carry, and routines that leave little room for what we actually want. In this episode of Staying Power, JDK and Ashley explore the power of setting clear intentions — and actually following through on them — especially during a time when the world around us pulls hard in every direction. Drawing on insights from psychology, behavioral science, and nervous system research, they unpack why intention-setting works better than goal-setting, how to break out of holiday “shoulds,” and what it takes to make choices that protect our emotional, physical, and spiritual well-being. Through personal stories (including Ashley’s Thanksgiving unplugging), they offer practical tools to help listeners create a season — and a new year — that feels aligned and nourishing. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Episode 101: “Why Time With Our Elders Matters” We say we “should” spend more time with our aging parents and elders — but life gets busy, visits get delayed, and loneliness quietly grows. In this episode of Staying Power, JDK and Ashley explore why time with seniors is far more than a nice gesture. It’s medicine: for their bodies and brains, for our own mental health, and for a culture that often sidelines older adults. Drawing on geriatric medicine, the psychology of aging, neuroscience, and social interaction research — plus wisdom from ancient traditions — they unpack how intergenerational connection protects against dementia, depression, and early mortality, while also deepening meaning, perspective, and resilience for younger generations. The episode closes with practical, doable ways to show up for the elders in your life — and what pitfalls to avoid so those interactions feel dignified, mutual, and genuinely life-giving. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Episode 100: "One Hundred Episodes Strong!"  One hundred episodes. Countless lessons. Endless gratitude. In this milestone episode of Staying Power, JDK and Ashley look back on the show’s journey, reflecting on the people, stories, and moments that have shaped them — and the listeners who’ve made it all possible. Together they explore the real science of gratitude: how it strengthens resilience, rewires the brain, deepens relationships, and transforms hardship into meaning. Through shared reflections, practical tools, and a few surprises, they celebrate not just how far the show has come, but how gratitude can carry us all forward — especially as we enter the season of thanks. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Episode 099: "Nine Lessons From Our Hardest Moments"  As we all enter the season of gratitude, the show takes a look back — not at achievements, but at adversity. In this special episode, JDK and Ashley each share three personal challenges they’ve overcome that have shaped them, revealing them to each other for the first time live on air. Through spontaneous reflection, they explore what those experiences taught them about resilience, growth, and the process of integrating life’s hardest moments into lasting wisdom. Along the way, they’ll highlight the common threads that help all of us turn pain into purpose — and how to support others as they do the same. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Episode 098: "That Awkward Bridge Between Chapters" We all know that strange emotional space between life chapters — when something has ended or changed, but the next thing hasn’t quite begun. It’s awkward, disorienting, and often filled with doubt, waiting, and mixed feelings. In this episode of Staying Power, JDK and Ashley explore what happens inside us — psychologically, neurologically, and emotionally — during those “in-between” periods. Together they unpack why transitions can feel so heavy, how to navigate uncertainty without forcing clarity, and how to build trust in what’s still unfolding. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Episode 093: "Where Shall We Begin...Again!" This week, Ashley and JD grant the requests of listeners to play another round of “Where Shall We Begin”, the game created by famed relationship therapist, Esther Perel. They give on-the-spot answers to questions ranging from the deeply serious to downright silly, all revealing a great deal about the hosts as they build an even deeper connection! This conversation shows the power of asking, considering, and answering thoughtful questions meant to open us up to curiosity and vulnerability. What would your answers be to the questions they share?  See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Episode 097: “The Space Between My Truth and Yours” Disagreement doesn’t have to mean disconnection. In an age of constant polarization, we’re quick to assume that difference equals danger — but it doesn’t have to. In this episode of Staying Power, JDK and Ashley explore how two people can both “be right” from their own lived experience, and still stay curious, compassionate, and connected. They unpack what psychology and neuroscience say about cognitive flexibility, emotional safety, and why the brain craves certainty even when it costs us closeness. Learn practical ways to hold space for “two truths” in your relationships — from partners and coworkers to friends and family — and why the capacity to do so might be one of the most important resilience skills of our time. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Episode 096: “Letting People Be Themselves (Without Losing Yourself)” Why is it so hard to stop trying to “fix” or “improve” other people — even when we know it rarely works? Whether it’s a partner, co-worker, or family member, most of us try to shape others to meet our comfort zones, beliefs, or needs for control. In this episode of Staying Power, JDK and Ashley unpack the deep human drive behind this habit — from nervous system survival patterns to attachment conditioning — and explore how we can build healthier, more authentic connections through acceptance and self-awareness. Learn how to recognize manipulation (even subtle, well-intended kinds), set compassionate boundaries, and shift your focus from control to connection through both mindset and somatic tools. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Episode 095: “The Bright Side Has Clouds Too” We often think of “happy” people as immune to bad days — or that those who struggle with sadness or stress can’t genuinely embrace positivity. In this episode of Staying Power, JDK and Ashley explore why both ideas miss the mark. True happiness isn’t about constant positivity; it’s about balance — the ability to hold space for hard emotions and good ones without falling into toxic positivity or hopeless pessimism. With insights from psychology and neuroscience, they unpack how resilient people manage emotional ups and downs, what happiness actually means in research terms, and how to cultivate emotional flexibility in daily life. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Episode 094: "When Inner Turmoil Hijacks Your Best Habits" We all know the feeling: endless tasks, heavy responsibilities, and the pressure to perform—while at the same time trying to honor our health with sleep, exercise, food, connection, and calm. In this episode, JD and Ashley explore what happens inside us when inner turmoil disrupts our routines, why our brains make bad trade-offs under stress, and how to reset without guilt. We’ll share practical, research-based ways to prioritize, protect your well-being, and keep resilience alive even when life is relentless. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Episode 092: "The Advice Filter: Friends, Pros, and the Internet"  When life gets messy, who should we turn to - and who should we avoid? This episode breaks down how to pick trustworthy advice-givers (and why that's harder than it sounds), the psychology of why we sometimes chase the wrong voices, and a nuanced look at what online forums like Reddit get right and wrong. Hear about research-backed filters, questions to ask before acting on advice, and simple practices to build your own "inner board of directors." See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Episode 091: Values in Action: How to Align Our Lives with What Truly Matters | Staying Power In this week's episode, JD and Ashley dive into the importance of learning and knowing our values in building a better life. They introduce the VIA Strengths and Values Assessment, discussing their own results in depth. Join them as they reveal their top and bottom-ranked values, the introspection these rankings encourage, and how understanding these values can improve both personal growth and all sorts of relationships. Starting with values - rather than our shifting emotional states - is a key to creating viable life direction and purpose, so be sure to click the VIA link below to do your own Assessment! List of Resources: VIA: https://www.viacharacter.org/account/register More from Staying Power: On the Radio: https://1150kknw.com/shows/staying-power YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@StayingPower-TSPN Email: stayingpowershow@gmail.com Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/TheStayingPowerNetwork Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61561752300713 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/stayingpowershow/ Words by JDK: https://www.wordsbyjdk.com/ See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Episode 090: “The Courage to Act (When You’d Really Rather Not)” Big decisions aren’t just choices – they are also actions. This week, JDK and Ashley unpack why moving from intention to action with difficult decisions can feel so hard, biologically and socially, and how we can make courageous follow through more reliable. They explore the brain’s “freeze” response, why uncertainty always feels so uncomfortable, and various tools that anyone can apply at any time. You’ll leave with a decision-to- action “bridge” that you can use the next time a necessary change brings big feelings– plus get a frank look at the emotional and physical costs of not acting when you know you must. https://www.personality-quizzes.com/via-character-strengths VIA Character Strengths Test Free (2025 Edition) - Personality Quizzes Take the Free VIA Character Strengths & Values Test and Unlock Your Top and Bottom Strengths. Discover How You Rank on 24 Strengths. VIA Assessment Backed By Science. www.personality-quizzes.com Also, be sure to check out and subscribe to the new Staying Power YouTube channel:  https://www.youtube.com/@StayingPower-TSPN stayingpowershow@gmail.com The Staying Power Network | For a Better Life | Patreon Facebook Staying Power on Instagram Words by JDK See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Episode 089: “Healing is Hard, Healing is Worth It” First responders see and experience trauma daily — and often carry those wounds long after the sirens fade. In this episode of Staying Power, JD Wyneken and Ashley Knebel talk with trauma psychologist Dr. Denise Haselwood about how trauma rewires the brain, why it changes thoughts and behavior, and most importantly, how it can be healed. Denise shares practical insights, science-based therapies, and real stories from her work with firefighters, police, EMTs, and more. If you’re a first responder — or someone who loves one — this episode offers knowledge, hope, and proof that healing is possible, even if it feels a little “weird” along the way. Also, be sure to check out and subscribe to the new Staying Power YouTube channel:  https://www.youtube.com/@StayingPower-TSPN stayingpowershow@gmail.com The Staying Power Network | For a Better Life | Patreon Facebook Staying Power on Instagram Words by JDK See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Episode 088: “Learner-Driven Kids, Life-Ready Adults” Branching off of last week’s episode, JDK and Ashley are joined by Chris Wolf, co-founder of Pathfinders, a learner-driven school in Sammamish, WA that is part of the Acton Academy network. In a wide-ranging conversation, they explore why structured, Socratic-focused learning helps kids become resilient problem-solvers familiar with failures and successes, and how those same practices translate to healthier adult life. They also address the philosophical foundations of Acton, discuss how parents and home life are keys to success, and identify some important ways in which Pathfinders helps kids develop how to Do, how to Learn, and how to Be. Expect practical takeaways for families, educators, and any grown-up who’s wondering if there are better ways forward.  Be sure to check out these links to items mentioned on today’s show:  Pathfinders - Sammamish, WA: https://actonpathfinders.org/ “Courage to Grow” by Laura Sandefer:  https://a.co/d/cICSySs “The Hero With a Thousand Faces” by Joseph Campbell:  https://a.co/d/iWE4eRw Also, be sure to check out and subscribe to the new Staying Power YouTube channel:  https://www.youtube.com/@StayingPower-TSPN stayingpowershow@gmail.com The Staying Power Network | For a Better Life | Patreon Facebook Staying Power on Instagram Words by JDK See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Episode 087 - Fail Better: The Case for Small Stumbles Failure gets a bad rap. But what if failure — especially small, everyday stumbles — is one of the best tools we have for building strength and confidence? In this episode, JD Wyneken and Ashley Knebel explore why our brains are wired to avoid mistakes at all costs, why that avoidance often holds us back, and how embracing “micro-fails” can actually supercharge resilience. With stories, laughter, and science, they show how tripping up can be the best way to move forward. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Episode 086: “Holding the ‘Old Me’ Hostage” We’ve all done it — holding on to the old “version” of someone we know… or of ourselves. Maybe it’s your cousin who you still picture as the awkward teen, or the way you define yourself by that job you left 10 years ago. In this episode, JDK and Ashley explain why our brains are wired to cling to outdated stories about people (including ourselves), how this habit creates unnecessary emotional friction, and why learning to allow for change can transform relationships, boost self-esteem, and help us enjoy life more in the moment. With a mix of science, real-life examples, and a few laughs, you’ll learn how to hit “refresh” on your mental snapshots and embrace the ever-updating nature of being human. Also, be sure to check out and subscribe to the new Staying Power YouTube channel:  https://www.youtube.com/@StayingPower-TSPN stayingpowershow@gmail.com The Staying Power Network | For a Better Life | Patreon Facebook Staying Power on Instagram Words by JDK See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Episode 085: "Reclaiming Real: How to Keep Tech from Replacing Human Connection" In a world that’s more connected than ever, why do so many of us feel… disconnected? This week on Staying Power, JDK and Ashley explore how the convenience of technology—while incredibly helpful—can quietly erode our most vital human connections. From texting instead of talking to letting screens fill the silence, they examine how our habits around tech may be rewiring how we relate to ourselves and others. How can we use tech but not have it use us up? Hear what your hosts - and the science! - says, and get some practical tips you can use right away!  Also, be sure to check out and subscribe to the new Staying Power YouTube channel:  https://www.youtube.com/@StayingPower-TSPN stayingpowershow@gmail.com The Staying Power Network | For a Better Life | Patreon Facebook Staying Power on Instagram Words by JDK See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Episode 084: “Hiring a Coach Isn’t Weak - It’s a Power Move” So… you’re thinking about hiring a coach—but a little voice in your head whispers, “Shouldn’t I already have this figured out?” This week on Staying Power, JDK and Ashley unpack the myth that coaching is for the broken. From business to life, leadership to health, they explore how modern coaching builds emotional intelligence, strengthens nervous system regulation, and helps people live more aligned, empowered lives. Get a breakdown of what different types of coaches actually do, what to look for in a good one, and why the best performers in the world all have coaches on their team. Bonus: practical steps to find the coach that’s right for you—without the overwhelm. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.