This one's about how being kind and being nice aren't the same thing. Nice is the person who sees you with a flat tire, says "aw that sucks," and keeps driving. Kind is the person who pulls over and helps you fix it, even if they're grumpy about it. There's some old letters from John Adams and Benjamin Franklin about sincerity and truth-telling. Default to kindness first, because doing the thing matters more than sounding pleasant while doing nothing.
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This one's pretty free-form. Sun Tzu, Roosevelt, Tesla, Dostoevsky, Tolstoy, and the Bible. The thread connecting them: you have to fail to learn anything, and that's okay. Love (for yourself, for life) is what you build through all that failure.________________Website: https://www.substratum611.comShop Substratum 611: https://shop.substratum611.comSocial Media Links: https://www.substratum611.com/social-media-linksThis video is for entertainment purposes only.The focus is gaining clarity over agreement on different perspectives of various topics, with an emphasis on Continuous Improvement over Delayed Perfection.The views and opinions expressed in this video are those of the individual speakers and do not necessarily represent the perspectives of Substratum 611, any affiliated third parties, or the personal/professional affiliations of the speakers
This one's about how the way you say something can matter more than what you actually say. A couple references to studies on tone of voice, then gets into how guys tend to offer logical fixes for emotional problems while women often do the opposite — and why that creates friction. When someone's being vulnerable with you, don't rush to fix it. Just hold it carefully, like they handed you something fragile.Emotivity in the Voice: Prosodic, Lexical, and Cultural Appraisal of Complaining Speech: https://doi.org/10.3389/fpsyg.2020.619222Listen to your mother: Motivating tones of voice predict adolescents’ reactions to mothers: https://psycnet.apa.org/doi/10.1037/dev0000827________________
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Love you guys. Always have, always will.
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Limerence, Self-Determination Theory, motivation, discipline, hedonic adaptation/treadmill, and making the mundane special.
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References:
- Isaiah Smallwood: https://www.instagram.com/isaiahsmallwoodd?igsh=czg4Z2dhcDV6aHFl
- Defining the Brain Systems of Lust, Romantic Attraction, and Attachment: https://doi.org/10.1023/a:1019888024255
- Self-Determination Theory and the Facilitation of Intrinsic Motivation, Social Development, and Well-Being: https://selfdeterminationtheory.org/SDT/documents/2000_RyanDeci_SDT.pdf
- Beyond the Hedonic Treadmill Revising the Adaptation Theory of Well-Being: https://doi.org/10.1037/0003-066x.61.4.305
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Emotional reciprocity, showing people you trust them, awareness of other people's implicit & indirect communication, and the duality of free agency and wanting to help others.
Sources:
The impact of disappointment in decision making: inter‑individual differences and electrical neuroimaging: https://doi.org/10.3389/fnhum.2010.00235
Steven Nowlin: https://youtu.be/RYq-t2kXeP4
David Porter 2: https://youtu.be/JA6b5X0Irwc
Mersedeh Cartwright: https://youtu.be/bXSUPi7tZSk
Jay Johnson 1: https://youtu.be/3jqLhDlgeL4Home Alone 2: Lost in New York (1992) is owned by its respective owners. I do not claim to own the clip. Used for educational purposes only.
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Richard William Cottingham II is a crypto entrepreneur, has a Bachelor's of Arts (history), and former Senior Mortgage Loan Officer.
Content Warning: Mature themes throughout including discussion of suicide, depression, strong language, and adult subject matter. PG-13/Mature audiences.
Not suitable for younger viewers.
Yes, that's his real name and yes, he is basically a lovable teddy bear.
"You're born looking like your parents, but it's the way you live your life that shapes what you look like when you die."
This is one of the rawest conversations you'll hear. Will Cottingham holds nothing back—talking about childhood trauma, massive business failures, loneliness, faith, and what it really means to show up authentically in a world that rewards being fake.
The conversation goes deep into what real masculinity looks like, the balance his parents provided (nurturing mom, tough-love dad), and his relationship with Sarah who's stood by him through everything. He talks about loneliness despite being surrounded by people—how he's the guy who remembers everyone's details and checks in on everyone, but almost no one reciprocates. It's a haunting admission about being the emotional support for everyone while quietly yearning for someone to ask if you're okay.
By the end, Will admits he's not proud of himself—not where he wants to be financially or personally. But he's still swinging. Still believing. Still showing up every day despite the failures. And maybe that's the point: life is hard as hell, authenticity costs you something, but giving up isn't an option.
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Isaiah Smallwood is a certified personal trainer with the National Academy of Sports Medicine, holding certifications as a Certified Personal Trainer, Corrective Exercise Specialist, and Performance Enhancement Specialist, and a really really really wacky guy.
Isaiah's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/isaiahsmallwoodd?
Ascend Perfomance: https://www.ascendperformanceva.com
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Steven Nowlin is a father, captain in the United States Army, and overcame a challenging childhood in Memphis to build a life centered on family, discipline, and service.
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Amy Lenius is a mother, professional speaker, Director of Group Coaching at Next Level University, and a Next Level Certified Holistic Success Coach
Amy Lenius explores the psychology of self-sabotage and personal growth, focusing on the distinction between fear of success and fear of failure.
She introduces a framework of three core wounds that unconsciously drive our behavior: "unlovable" (those who fear losing love and need social courage), "unwanted" (those who feel excluded and need vulnerability), and "defective" (those who struggle with competence and seek significance).
Amy then breaks down her 5-Point Consistency Star, which includes self-belief, humility, sustainability, adaptability, and grit—emphasizing that sustainable habits require starting small and having "check the box" versions for difficult days.
The overarching message is that growth is messy and non-linear, requiring us to show up imperfectly rather than waiting for perfect conditions, and that "lonely land" is a normal part of any growth journey.________________Website: https://www.substratum611.comShop Substratum 611: https://shop.substratum611.comSocial Media Links: https://www.substratum611.com/social-media-linksThis video is for entertainment purposes only.The focus is gaining clarity over agreement on different perspectives of various topics, with an emphasis on Continuous Improvement over Delayed Perfection.The views and opinions expressed in this video are those of the individual speakers and do not necessarily represent the perspectives of Substratum 611, any affiliated third parties, or the personal/professional affiliations of the speakers.
Dr. Mersedeh Cartwright has a doctorate of Education in Counseling Psychology, Master's in Professional Counseling, and a mother.
The core message emphasizes that while you can't control life or other people, you can control yourself through self-awareness, cognitive flexibility, and replacing "should" statements with conscious choices about what you actually want.
Key topics include understanding anxiety as not inherently negative, how unresolved emotions accumulate over time, the importance of dating yourself before seeking relationships, using grounding techniques to stay present, and recognizing that healing requires accountability and doing the work rather than seeking quick fixes.
Change is possible through building positive experiences, embracing both logic and emotion rather than treating them as opposites, and learning to bend (cognitive flexibility) rather than break (rigid thinking).
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Kasia Bukowska is an equestrian, artist, horse trainer, and a lupus survivor.
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Geoff Michael Hopf is the author of international bestselling "New World" series, writer of over 40 books, veteran of the United States Marine Corps, and co-founder of Beyond The Fray Publishing.
Oh yeah, he is the guy who said, "Hard times create strong men. Strong men create good times. Good times create weak men. And weak men create hard times."
Buy Geoff's books: https://www.amazon.com/stores/G.-Michael-Hopf/author/B00C6MUVN6?
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Rasmus Elnæs is purple belt in Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu, Mixed Martial Arts amateur, and a Battle Arena Featherweight Champion.
Morior Invictus - Death Before Defeat
“It is better to be a warrior in a garden than a gardener in a war.” - Miyamoto Musashi
Rasmus vs Tyreece Richards (Decision, Unanimous): https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FTmYNs6jzDY
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Angie Hawkins is a Inner Glow coach and author of Running in Slippers ("a raw and vulnerable memoir of my journey from self-loathing to self-love").
Upcoming event: Unshakable You: The 3 Keys to Inner Confidence that No One Can Take Away A live Zoom Masterclass: https://www.runninginslippers.com/unshakable-you
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Jay Johnson is a former United States Marine Corps First Lieutenant, Muay Thai Kru, purple belt in Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu, and a kind-hearted man.
The episode reveals the layered, multifaceted nature of both Jay as a person and the topics he discusses - from his nuanced views on social justice that resist simple categorization, to his intricate philosophy blending harsh discipline with genuine care, to his complicated relationship dynamics where logic and emotion pull in different directions.
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Henry Lunsford is a D3 wrestler, content creator, and the most extroverted man I have ever met.
Lunsford Loves Wrestling
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Kelly Kirk is the founder of the Sofia Graham Foundation, bodybuilder, and lover of believing in yourself (because that is what Sofia did for him).
Starting points:
00:00 Sofia Graham Foundation and Introduction
04:08 Problems with the Modern Day Education System
13:02 Sofia Graham
23:27 Life before Sofia Graham
28:04 July 31, 2021
39:41 How the Sofia Graham Foundation got started
59:09 "Grief doesn't stop greatness."
01:13:44 Nutrition and Experimenting with Diets
01:26:30 "Is that the beauty of hope?"
01:37:30 Loyalty to Those You Love
01:47:37 "Why did you and Sofia fit so well?"
02:04:40 Kelly and Having Internal Anger
02:22:41 Grief can build you
02:30:30 Childhood Lessons
02:57:13 Last Three Questions
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Support the Sofia Graham Foundation: https://sofiagrahamfoundation.org/ways-to-donate
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- Sofia Graham's Obituary
- Kelly Kirk's Background
- Ketones, Glycogen, Ketosis
- Hope Molecules
- Very low Carbs, High Fat (VLCHF)
- Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs
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