In this episode of Talking Kinky, Tom and Isabelle dive head-first into one of the most talked-about (and misunderstood) sexual fantasies: the threesome. From curious first conversations to real-world experiences, they unpack why threesomes are so appealing, what people think will happen… and what often actually does.
They explore the different dynamics of MMF, FMF, and same-sex threesomes, the emotional undercurrents that can surface, and why communication, boundaries, and aftercare matter far more than most people realise. Is jealousy inevitable? Can a threesome strengthen a relationship, or expose cracks that were already there?
This is a laugh out loud episode as our hosts navigate the topic with their trademark mix of humour, honesty, and grounded insight. Tom and Isabelle talk through expectations vs reality, common mistakes, power imbalances, and how to decide whether a threesome is genuinely right for you , not just hot in theory.
Whether threesomes are a firm yes, a cautious maybe, or a definite no, this episode offers a refreshingly real, shame-free look at what it actually means when two people consider adding a third.
Curious, cautious, or already experienced, this one’s for you.
In this fast-paced, delightfully irreverent crash course, Tom and Isabelle take listeners on a whirlwind tour through 30,000 years of human desire. From prehistoric fertility carvings and ancient ritual sex, to Greek mischief, Roman indulgence, medieval repression, Victorian kink coded in corsets, and the explosion of modern BDSM culture, this is the entire history of kink… in half an hour.
Expect humour, curiosity, and a surprising amount of “Wait, they did what back then?” as your favourite hosts break down how human sexuality has evolved, been policed, celebrated, hidden, rediscovered, and reinvented across the ages.
Whether you're a history lover, a kink enthusiast, or just here for the wild ride, this episode proves one thing:
kink isn’t new,humans have always been deliciously inventive.
Tune in for 30 minutes of facts, fun, and fascinating filth.
30 Days of Connection: Introduction & Welcome (Day 0)
Tom and Isabelle set the stage for their 30-day intimacy programme in this introduction. Which includes a PDF you can read and 150 minutes of audio prompts across 30 episodes, all personally narrated by Tom and Isabelle to guide you along your way.
Whether you want to rekindle passion, deepen connection, or just spend more intentional time with your partner, this welcome episode explains how the 30 days of connection challenge works, what to expect, and why just a few minutes a day can transform your relationship.
Let’s begin, with curiosity, kindness, and a little bit of kink. You can find 30 Days of Connection on www.talkingkinky.shop
In this electrifying episode of Talking Kinky, Tom and Isabelle dive head-first into the world of bio-hacking your body for better sex, better arousal, and wildly better orgasms.
If you’ve ever wondered why some nights everything flows effortlessly… and other nights you’re left wondering if your libido evaporated on the commute home, this one’s for you.
From the subtle tweaks that boost your baseline desire to the science-backed hacks that crank up intensity, the duo explore how stress, sleep, alcohol, nutrition, and hormones shape our ability to get turned on—and stay turned on.
And yes, they get into the juicy stuff:
• Why supplements like Length & Strength can support libido, stamina, and performance, especially for men who want a stronger, more responsive body.
• Tom shares his own experience trialing Jolt the Bolt sexual performance booster that’s been shaking up his energy, focus, and sexual vitality.
• The pair explore whether modern biohacks can actually retrain your orgasm pathways for more pleasure, more responsiveness, and deeper connection.
From cold showers to breathwork, L-arginine to maca root, dopamine resets to nervous system training, this episode blends science with honesty, humour, and pure Talking Kinky curiosity.
Whether you’re single, partnered, kinky, vanilla, or somewhere deliciously in-between, this episode is your permission slip to take your pleasure seriously and to discover how a few intentional upgrades can lead to longer build-ups, stronger sensations, and orgasms that hit harder than ever.
Why do some sensations hurt… and others heat you up?
In this episode of Talking Kinky, Tom and Isabelle explore the intimate, complex relationship between pain and pleasure and why, for many people, the two are far more intertwined than we realise.
From the biology of endorphins and the psychology of trust, to kink dynamics, consent frameworks, and the fine art of reading your partner’s cues, this episode unpacks what really happens when we flirt with intensity.
Expect science, stories, giggles, and a few “oh wow” moments as we break down:
Why the brain sometimes confuses pain with arousal
How sensation play works (and why it can feel so good)
The difference between good pain, bad pain, and absolutely not
Emotional safety, aftercare, and conscious exploration
Real-world examples from both male and female perspectives
Whether you’re curious, experienced, or just love understanding human intimacy, this episode offers a grounded, playful, and surprisingly enlightening look into one of the most misunderstood aspects of kink.
Listen in — your body might already know the answer.
In an 'electrifying launch' of Season 11, Tom and Isabelle plug into the future of pleasure, where artificial intelligence, virtual reality, and haptic technology collide. From AI-driven lovers that learn your every desire to immersive VR sexscapes that blur the line between fantasy, fidelity and 'teledildonics' (Isabelle's new favourite word) this episode dives deep into the rise of “Haptic Lust” , touch you can feel, but never see.
Expect humour, curiosity, and a healthy dose of kink philosophy as Tom and Isabelle debate whether AI can ever truly understand human intimacy, what happens when your virtual partner becomes your emotional one, and how far we’ll go to satisfy digital desire.
Welcome to the brave new world of sensual technology, where connection, consent, and code all meet in the same bed and kink needs a software upgrade.
Need an intimacy boost? Try our 30 Days of Connection - www.talkingkinky.shop
In this fascinating episode, Tom and Isabelle explore how kink and neurodiversity intersect in beautifully complex ways. From sensory sensitivity to the need for structure, ritual, and deep trust, they unpack how neurodivergent minds experience pleasure, intimacy, and connection differently and sometimes, more intensely.
Whether it’s autistic hyper-focus meeting bondage precision, ADHD thrill-seeking finding expression in role-play, or the soothing predictability of routines blending with D/s dynamics, this conversation celebrates the many ways our brains and bodies seek stimulation, safety, and satisfaction.
With empathy, laughter, and plenty of real-world insight, Tom and Isabelle open up the conversation about embracing difference — in desire, communication, and play.
Sensory seekers, this one’s for you.
Try the missing link for better intimacy - 30 Days of Connection on talkingkinky.shop
In Part 2 of our role-play deep dive, Tom and Isabelle slip back into character, this time exploring two of the most popular and often misunderstood kinks: medical role-play and DDLG (Daddy Dom / Little Girl dynamics).
From stethoscopes, nurses, and “clinical scenarios” that mix power with vulnerability, to unpacking the myths, boundaries, and realities of age-dynamic play, the co-hosts keep the conversation candid, insightful, and funny. They cover why medical role-play holds such a powerful psychological charge, the importance of trust when exploring taboo spaces, and how DDLG is less about pretending to be a child and more about nurturing, care, and structured dominance.
As always, Tom and Isabelle balance education with humour, helping listeners navigate these fantasies safely while making sense of why they turn us on.
In this first part of a two-part deep dive into role play, Tom and Isabelle unleash their inner beasts as they explore the raw and untamed world of primal play. From chasing, wrestling, growling, and clawing, to predator-and-prey dynamics, this kink taps into something ancient, instinctive, and deeply erotic.
What makes primal play so electrifying? Why do some people crave being the hunter while others revel in being the hunted? Tom and Isabelle pull apart the psychology, the thrill, and the boundaries that make this kink both exciting and safe.
Expect laughs, honest reflections, and a candid exploration of how letting go of “civilized” sex can create some of the most powerful connections.
Join us as we sink our teeth into the wild side of desire—this is just the beginning of our primal adventure, with part two coming next episode.
Connect to Spark (no its not an electrostim episode) , Tom and Isabelle get real about the role of connection in lasting relationships. Whether you’re in a long-term partnership, newly dating, or navigating the ups and downs of intimacy, connection is the foundation stone that keeps love alive.
No connection = No desire, No desire = No intimacy, No intimacy = NO KINK!
In this heartfelt episode, they share stories, insights, and practical tips on how connection shapes desire, trust, and intimacy and why it’s the piece so many couples overlook.
There is also a small cameo of 30 Days of Connection, the team's guided programme of curated daily activities, including some kink, that are designed to help couples reignite passion, rebuild intimacy, and rediscover each other, one day at a time.
If you’ve ever felt the relationship spark slipping, this episode will remind you how to find it again.
In this episode, Tom and Isabelle are stirring the pot with a little Vanilla & Spice. Discussing what happens when one partner is kinky and the other isn’t?
How do you navigate the differences without losing intimacy or connection? We’ll dive into the challenges, the joys, and the creative ways couples can bridge the gap between different sexual appetites.
And that’s not all—today we’re also tackling the big, brave step of coming out kinky. Whether it’s to a partner, friends, or even yourself, we’ll unpack the fears, the freedom, and the community waiting on the other side.
Honest, funny, and full of heart—this is one conversation you won’t want to miss.
In this revealing and witty episode of Talking Kinky, Tom and Isabelle explore the world of sissification — a kink that blends elements of feminization, role-play, and erotic power dynamics. With their trademark mix of curiosity, humour, and non-judgement, they unpack where fantasy meets identity, the psychology behind the practice, and how it plays out in both consensual kink and lifestyle choices.
From the allure of silky lingerie and stockings to the deeper emotional and psychological layers, the hosts cover safety, consent, and the importance of clear boundaries in sissification play. They also highlight popular online communities where enthusiasts connect, share, and learn — including FetLife’s Sissification & Feminization groups, SissyKiss, and Reddit’s r/sissies — showing how these spaces help people explore and express their kink in a supportive environment.
Whether you’re a curious newbie, an experienced player, or simply fascinated by the psychology of transformation, this episode offers insight, empathy, and a few laughs along the way.
I Wanna Be Your Panda
Furries, fluff, and full-on fantasies — in this episode, co-hosts Tom and Isabelle go whiskers-first into the furry fandom, uncovering what makes it such a fascinating and often misunderstood corner of the kink world.
From playful cosplay and anthropomorphic crushes to full-blown fursuiting and fursonas, we explore the blend of identity, community, kink, and comfort that defines furry culture. Why do some people feel most like themselves in a tail and paws? Where does the erotic element come in — and where does it absolutely not?
What’s the difference between being a furry and being into animal roleplay?
We look at the history of the fandom, its explosive growth online, and how mainstream media continues to get it mostly wrong — with a healthy dose of humour, curiosity, and cuddly panda references.
Whether you're a seasoned fur-tastic explorer, curious newcomer, or someone who just wants to know why Tom wrote a whole ska-reggae song about being a PANDA… this episode is for you.References & Communities Mentioned:
FurScience.com – Ongoing academic research project dedicated to studying the furry fandom
FurAffinity.net – One of the largest online art and community platforms for furries
r/furry on Reddit – A bustling online community where thousands of furries share, discuss, and connect
Psychology Today: What the Furry? – Dr. Courtney Plante explores the psychology of furries and the media myths
Anthrocon – One of the largest furry conventions in the world
BBC: Inside the World of Furries – A documentary look at furry life and love
We’re kicking off Season 10 with a bang — or should we say, a boot — as Tom and Isabelle slide into the world of foot and stocking kinks. From silky nylons to wrinkled soles, this episode toes the line between fascination and fetish, with the usual mix of humour, warmth, and open-minded curiosity you’ve come to love from Talking Kinky.
Why are feet such a common turn-on? What is it about a pair of sheer stockings or a cheeky arch that stirs up desire? And how does one navigate foot play, from massage to worship, in a way that feels sexy, safe, and consensual?
Tom shares a rather memorable moment with a pair of hold ups, while Isabelle offers insight into why feet and legs are such a rich landscape of erotic potential.
Whether you're a seasoned sole-lover or just foot-curious, this episode is a playful and respectful journey into one of the most popular (and misunderstood) kinks around.
In this bold and revealing episode of Talking Kinky, Isabelle and Tom sit down with the extraordinary Colin Richards – intimacy coach, somatic sex engineer, and the man behind some of London’s exclusive sex parties.
Colin opens up about the intersection of power, pleasure, and presence, sharing his journey from therapist to sensual facilitator, and what it really takes to help people unlock their erotic potential in a safe, conscious, and playful way.
We discuss the art of creating exquisite group experiences, the dynamics of intimacy coaching, the importance of consent and somatic awareness, and what truly separates performative kink from embodied intimacy.
Whether you're curious about elite sex parties or looking to deepen your connection in the bedroom, this episode is packed with insight, real talk, and a few jaw-dropping stories.
Find Colin online:
Website: www.intimacymatters.co.uk
Instagram: @intimacymatters
In this thought-provoking episode, Tom and Isabelle discuss the state of sex education — or the lack thereof. They explore how porn has become the default sex educator for many young people, why pleasure, consent, and diversity are still missing from mainstream curriculums, and what a truly inclusive and empowering sex education could look like.
With humor, honesty, and a healthy dose of frustration, your favourite co-hosts examine the long-term effects of abstinence-only teaching, the role of parents, and how the digital age is shaping sexual understanding (and misunderstanding). They also share real-world examples, including the moving story of a rape survivor, to illustrate the importance of comprehensive and compassionate sex education.
Trigger Warning: This episode contains discussion of sexual assault, including the mention of a rape survivor’s experience, which some listeners may find distressing.
This week on Talking Kinky, Tom and Isabelle are diving lock-first into the world of chastity – where pleasure, power, and patience collide. Whether you're curious about caging the cock, padlocking panties, or just want to understand why anyone would voluntarily hand over the key to their orgasms… this one’s for you.
We explore the history of chastity devices (yes, they go way back), the psychology behind denial and control, and the kinky thrill of being locked up—with or without release. From long-distance key-holding dynamics to orgasm control in established couples, we're unpacking how chastity can be both torturous and tantalising.
Plus, we chat about the different types of devices for men and women, safety tips, hygiene (yes, please), and how to negotiate a chastity scene with trust and communication at the core.
Expect laughs, confessions, and more than one “blue ball” reference as we tease out all the juicy details of this fascinating kink. Who’s holding the key to your pleasure?
This week, Tom and Isabelle are getting handy as they dive into the wonderfully wide world of masturbation. From solo pleasure to mutual play, from women’s clit-orientated routines to penetrative fantasies, this episode unzips the myths, mess, and magic of self-touch.
Whether you're into edging, exploring your G-spot with toys, or jacking off with an audience on Chaturbate, this one’s for you. The duo discuss the rise of video-led guided masturbation, group play, kinkier turn-ons like being told what to do, and even some good old-fashioned 'me time' with your favourite imagination.
With humour, heat, and hard truths, they’ll cover:
Clitoral, penetrative, and combo orgasms for women
The psychological power of mutual masturbation
Masturbation in long-term relationships
Masturbation as kink (yes, watching counts)
And why it’s totally normal to talk about it
Plus, your listener confessions, the latest research on who’s doing what and how often, and Tom’s attempt to explain “ruined orgasms” without blushing.
So dim the lights, charge your toys, and get ready to embrace the most loyal lover you’ll ever have: yourself.
Are you gagging for some pleasure? Well this week, Tom and Isabelle clamp down on one of kink’s more intense — and often misunderstood — turn-ons: gagging. But not just one kind. Oh no, they're looking closely at two sides of the gagging coin — the physical act of being gagged with toys, tools, or hands, and the visceral reaction of gagging from being made to swallow... things or stuff .
From ball gags and bite bars to forced oral scenarios and the psychology of submission, your favourite co-hosts explore the delicate dance between power, breath, and pleasure. Whether it’s about sensory deprivation, drool, dominance, or deep-throat thrills, they’re talking safety, satisfaction, and starter tips for anyone curious about losing control in the best possible way.
Plus, Tom reads a particularly juicy passage from Exhibit by RO Kwon — a novel so drenched in desire and psychological surrender it practically begs to be discussed. And yes, he read it cover to cover on a plane to and from New York while trying not to blush too hard at 30,000 feet.
With their usual humour, honesty, and a mouthful of research, Tom and Isabelle take listeners into the world of gagging kinks — where silence is golden, and drool is definitely in fashion.
"Stretch Me Baby, One More Time"
In this deliciously daring episode of Talking Kinky, Tom and Isabelle go deep—literally—as they explore the world of stretching orifices. From anal acrobatics to vaginal veneration, they dive into the why, the how, and the holy-wow of people who love to push the limits of what goes in (and sometimes what comes out).
Our curious co-hosts chat about the joys and risks of insertions, gape play, and using toys of truly intimidating sizes. They cover safety, lube, warm-up routines, and what to never put in your body (hint: that Buzz Lightyear toy is not designed for re-entry). There's also a look at some real-life ER stories that prove why reading the label matters.
Whether you’re a beginner curious about plugs or a seasoned stretcher eyeing your next challenge, this episode will have you wincing, laughing, and learning in equal measure. Expect honest talk, anatomical truths, and just the right amount of smut. Not for the faint of sphincter.