When you’ve lived through betrayal, emotional abuse, or a life-saving divorce, your nervous system learns to survive by disconnecting from your own body. You become hyper-attuned to everyone else — their moods, needs, reactions — while abandoning your own. And when the world chants “new year, new you,” it can feel like pressure stacked on top of pain.
In this episode, I talk about what it really means to heal: not reinventing yourself, but gently returning to the you who has always been there. We explore why your body still feels braced, numb, foggy, or unsafe — and how to slowly rebuild self-trust through compassion, awareness, and safety. I share deeply personal stories, real-life examples, and supportive ways to reconnect to your sensations, intuition, voice, limits, and needs… without forcing anything or judging the pace.
If you’ve ever wondered, “Why can’t I just move on?” — this conversation will remind you that your body is not the problem. It’s the witness. And you are not broken — you are becoming.
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👣 Body Love Class – Learn how to reclaim your body after betrayal.
📍 Believing In You Group Coaching Ready to stop letting your brain hijack your healing? Learn how to work with your nervous system, shift your thoughts, and create the life you actually want. Next round begins in January—spots go fast!👉 Reserve your spot
📍 Divorce 101: Self-Paced GuideFeeling stuck in the aftermath of betrayal or unsure where to go next? This guide meets you right where you are and helps you make your next best step.🎯 Start by taking the quiz
📍 Intimacy Within: Self-Paced CourseWant real connection in a future relationship? Start by building healthy intimacy within. Learn the 7 levels of intimacy and how to practice them—first, with YOU.👉 Check it out here
📍 Should I Stay or Go? CourseThis guide walks you through one of the hardest questions you'll ever face. It's not about finding the right answer—it's about becoming the chooser of it.👉 Learn more + enroll
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This is a re-airing of a past episode that is so worth the second air time. When I read the new term and definition of Partner Adaptive Bonding Cycle created by my friend and colleague @Hope Ray, LPC, CSAT, CHFP, CCPS, I felt like something landed in my body and my body liked it. A language, if you will, to explain what I had experienced in my previous marriage. I also started to see how this also continues to show up in many ways post divorce.
In today's episode, I'm sharing a sub term that had also yet to be defined, and I wanted to define it– The Post-Divorce Adaptive Bonding Cycle (Post-Divorce ABC).
This definition and model matters because understanding it can empower you to make choices and heal, especially if you've experienced betrayal and violence in your divorce.
In todays episode I'm sharing the basic idea of this model with key components that qualify this.
Key Components of PABCPost-Divorce ABC comprises:
Join me today as I introduce this new model and your practice work from this episode is to. be curious as to how these key components might be showing up for you.
Want more awareness around your lived experience in your previous relationship so you can be aware of those patters in future relationship? Book your Relationship Dynamic Assessment with me today. It's a power and fast way to see how all 8 domains in your relationship have been impacted.
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👣 Body Love Class – Learn how to reclaim your body after betrayal.
📍 Believing In You Group Coaching Ready to stop letting your brain hijack your healing? Learn how to work with your nervous system, shift your thoughts, and create the life you actually want. Next round begins in January—spots go fast!👉 Reserve your spot
📍 Divorce 101: Self-Paced GuideFeeling stuck in the aftermath of betrayal or unsure where to go next? This guide meets you right where you are and helps you make your next best step.🎯 Start by taking the quiz
📍 Intimacy Within: Self-Paced CourseWant real connection in a future relationship? Start by building healthy intimacy within. Learn the 7 levels of intimacy and how to practice them—first, with YOU.👉 Check it out here
📍 Should I Stay or Go? CourseThis guide walks you through one of the hardest questions you'll ever face. It's not about finding the right answer—it's about becoming the chooser of it.👉 Learn more + enroll
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Have you ever wished you could just stop caring so much about what people think? Maybe you find yourself constantly worrying about what others believe about you—your ex, your in-laws, your friends—and completely forgetting what you think about you.
If you’ve gone through betrayal, abuse, or a life-saving divorce, this one’s for you. Because I get it. That deep need to be understood, to have people see your heart and the truth of your story—it can take up so much energy. But what if you could care less about the things that drain you and care more about what truly matters?
In this episode, I’m talking about why we care so much in the first place and how that’s connected to our attachment patterns, our nervous system, and what we learned early on about love and belonging. I’ll share how my own over-caring showed up during and after divorce, why it was tied to justice and survival, and what finally helped me release it.
You’ll also hear how Dr. Gabor Maté’s work around authenticity and attachment helped me understand that real belonging can’t exist without being true to ourselves. When we sacrifice who we are to keep connection, that’s not love—it’s compliance.
Together, we’ll explore how to rebuild self-trust—the kind that helps you stand strong in your truth even when others don’t understand or agree. Because caring less isn’t about becoming cold or detached. It’s about reclaiming your inner compass and letting your sense of safety come from within, not from other people’s comfort.
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👣 Body Love Class – Learn how to reclaim your body after betrayal.
📍 Believing In You Group Coaching Ready to stop letting your brain hijack your healing? Learn how to work with your nervous system, shift your thoughts, and create the life you actually want. Next round begins in January—spots go fast!👉 Reserve your spot
📍 Divorce 101: Self-Paced GuideFeeling stuck in the aftermath of betrayal or unsure where to go next? This guide meets you right where you are and helps you make your next best step.🎯 Start by taking the quiz
📍 Intimacy Within: Self-Paced CourseWant real connection in a future relationship? Start by building healthy intimacy within. Learn the 7 levels of intimacy and how to practice them—first, with YOU.👉 Check it out here
📍 Should I Stay or Go? CourseThis guide walks you through one of the hardest questions you'll ever face. It's not about finding the right answer—it's about becoming the chooser of it.👉 Learn more + enroll
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If you are walking through a life saving divorce, separation, co parenting or parallel parenting, the holidays can feel like emotional whiplash. One minute you are holding it together for the kids, the next you are hit with a wave of grief you did not see coming.
In this tender and honest conversation, Amie shares a live lesson from her December Q and A where she talks about:
Why the holidays can feel so triggering after betrayal and divorce
How your nervous system bonds to a shared dream and why grief shows up years later
What it looks like to feel alone at big milestone moments with your kids
The pressure to create the “perfect” holiday after divorce and why that backfires
How to notice when you are in a George Bailey moment from It’s a Wonderful Life
Why overwhelm is a trauma response and not a character flaw
How your presence still anchors your children. Even on the years you do not have them for Christmas
Simple grounding tools to help regulate your nervous system during holiday stress
Ideas for micro traditions and new rituals that feel gentle and doable in this season
How to rewrite your story and step back into agency, even in a quiet house
This episode is for you if:
You feel waves of grief around the holidays and wonder “Shouldn’t I be over this by now”
You are co parenting with an ex and the holiday schedule feels unfair or painful
You are spending Christmas or New Year’s without your kids and your heart hurts
Old traditions bring up more pain than joy
You want realistic, trauma informed ways to ground your body and calm your nervous system
Amie uses her own stories as a single mom watching her son play high school and college ball, and weaves in the symbolism from the movie It’s a Wonderful Life to remind you that your life and your impact still matter. Your nervous system is not broken. It is responding to loss, love and the shared dreams that did not happen the way you hoped.
You are not behind. You are not failing at healing. You are human.
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When betrayal shatters your trust and divorce changes everything you thought your life would be, hope can feel impossible. You might find yourself thinking, “I’ll never trust again.” or “Maybe I’m just too broken to start over.”
In this episode, we’re unpacking what hope after betrayal and divorce really means—what it is, what it isn’t, and how to find it again when it feels completely gone. Hope isn’t about waiting for someone else to change or for life to return to what it was; it’s about reclaiming your agency, your self-trust, and your ability to believe in what’s still possible for you.
We’ll talk about how to recognize false hope, rebuild your inner strength, and reconnect to the kind of hope that comes from within—the kind that lets you believe in you again.
Why false hope can keep you stuck in pain and waiting for change that never comes
The difference between survival hope and empowered hope
What Brené Brown teaches about hope as a learned practice
How to hold both grief and growth at the same time
Why hope isn’t naive—it’s an act of courage
How to root your hope in awareness, acceptance, and agency
“Hope isn’t waiting for someone to save you.
It’s realizing you have the power to choose yourself—again and again.”
If you’ve lost hope in love, in men, or even in your ability to trust yourself again—this is where healing begins.
Registration is now open for the Dating From Within Workshop, happening January 8–10.
This 3-day live experience will help you rediscover your confidence, rebuild trust with yourself, and learn how to date from a place of wholeness—not wounds.
You’ll walk away with:
✨ A clear understanding of what healthy connection feels like
✨ Tools to trust your intuition and body’s signals again
✨ Hope that real, secure love is possible
Because dating after betrayal isn’t about finding someone new—it’s about finding yourself first.
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he holiday season can bring a whirlwind of emotions — joy mixed with loneliness, gratitude alongside overwhelm, peace intertwined with pain. For those healing from betrayal, abuse, and divorce, this season often feels even heavier with added dynamics of custody schedules, in-laws, and navigating life post-separation.
In this episode, I invite you to pause and slow down. Together, we’ll explore what it really means to ground your body, how science supports this practice, and why grounding is such an essential step for nervous system healing after trauma.
✨ Guided Grounding Meditation begins at [10:00]
Take a powerful five-minute pause with me. I’ll walk you through a step-by-step body scan, breathwork, and visualization practice to help you reconnect with your body, regulate your nervous system, and feel more present.
Why the holiday season can feel especially overwhelming when you’re healing from betrayal and divorce
The science behind grounding (including the Schumann resonance, nervous system regulation, and benefits like reduced inflammation, better sleep, and mood balance)
How grounding creates enough safety in the body to allow deeper healing modalities like Brainspotting and somatic work to be effective
Common reasons we resist slowing down (and how to reframe them)
Journal prompts to help you reflect on your relationship with stillness and grounding
When I slow down, what feelings or fears show up for me?
Where in my body do I feel the safest right now?
What is one way I can give myself permission to pause, even in chaos?
How might grounding help me trust my body and my healing timeline?
Whether you are walking through divorce, betrayal trauma, or simply feeling the holiday stress, this episode will help you reconnect to yourself, your body, and your higher self.
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📍 Dating From Within Workshop January 8th-10th 2026\ 👉 Click here to register
💬 Empowered Divorce Q&A – Free monthly group coaching. First Thursday of each month.
👣 Body Love Class – Learn how to reclaim your body after betrayal.
📍 Believing In You Group Coaching Ready to stop letting your brain hijack your healing? Learn how to work with your nervous system, shift your thoughts, and create the life you actually want. Next round begins in January—spots go fast!👉 Reserve your spot
📍 Divorce 101: Self-Paced GuideFeeling stuck in the aftermath of betrayal or unsure where to go next? This guide meets you right where you are and helps you make your next best step.🎯 Start by taking the quiz
📍 Intimacy Within: Self-Paced CourseWant real connection in a future relationship? Start by building healthy intimacy within. Learn the 7 levels of intimacy and how to practice them—first, with YOU.👉 Check it out here
📍 Should I Stay or Go? CourseThis guide walks you through one of the hardest questions you'll ever face. It's not about finding the right answer—it's about becoming the chooser of it.👉 Learn more + enroll
💻 Want to work with Amie 1:1?Book a consult: Click here
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In this powerful episode of The Empowered Divorce Podcast, I sit down with custody strategist and high-conflict communication coach Bridget Bennett to talk about one of the hardest realities of divorce: post-separation abuse. The truth is, the toxic cycles that existed in your relationship don’t magically end when you leave—they often intensify.
We explore:
Why abuse often escalates after separation or divorce
How high-conflict exes bait you into endless drama—and how to protect your peace
The truth about parallel parenting vs. co-parenting in the eyes of the court
What to do when your ex pulls the kids into conflict and how to create safety at home
The power of boundaries, radical acceptance, and letting go of the “rope” that keeps you tied to their chaos
How to reclaim your energy, time, and emotional freedom, even when the legal system feels invalidating
Bridget shares her personal story of divorcing two abusive partners, navigating custody battles, defeating bogus restraining orders, and ultimately finding strength through radical acceptance. Her wisdom and strategies will give you hope that you can not only survive post-separation abuse—you can thrive beyond it.
If you’ve ever felt crazy trying to explain the covert abuse you’re still experiencing, or you’re exhausted from the constant barrage of texts, court filings, and emotional manipulation, this episode will validate your experience and show you that you are stronger than you think.
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📍 Dating From Within Workshop January 8th-10th 2026\
👉 Click here to register
💬 Empowered Divorce Q&A – Free monthly group coaching. First Thursday of each month.
👣 Body Love Class – Learn how to reclaim your body after betrayal.
📍 Believing In You Group Coaching Ready to stop letting your brain hijack your healing? Learn how to work with your nervous system, shift your thoughts, and create the life you actually want. Next round begins in January—spots go fast!👉 Reserve your spot
📍 Divorce 101: Self-Paced GuideFeeling stuck in the aftermath of betrayal or unsure where to go next? This guide meets you right where you are and helps you make your next best step.🎯 Start by taking the quiz
📍 Intimacy Within: Self-Paced CourseWant real connection in a future relationship? Start by building healthy intimacy within. Learn the 7 levels of intimacy and how to practice them—first, with YOU.👉 Check it out here
📍 Should I Stay or Go? CourseThis guide walks you through one of the hardest questions you'll ever face. It's not about finding the right answer—it's about becoming the chooser of it.👉 Learn more + enroll
💻 Want to work with Amie 1:1?Book a consult: Click here
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No one really talks about the in-between phase of divorce — the muddy middle, or what I sometimes call HELL. This is the stage after you’ve decided to divorce (or the decision was made for you), but before the papers are signed. Whether you’re still sharing the same space with your soon-to-be ex or navigating separate homes, this messy middle is one of the hardest parts of divorce.
In this episode, I’m validating what it feels like to live in divorce limbo:
The waiting game with lawyers, mediation, and endless paperwork
The anger, shock, and grief that come in waves
What it’s like to live with (or keep encountering) the person who betrayed you
The nervous system toll of walking on eggshells every day
The invisible losses that show up before the divorce is even finalized
If you’ve ever thought:
“I’m married on paper, but divorced in my heart.”
“Every day feels like walking on eggshells with a stranger in my house.”
“It’s like time has slowed down, but my body is racing.”
— then this episode is for you.
I’ll share practical tools to help you survive the in-between stage of divorce, including how to create micro-bubbles of safety, set and keep boundaries, name this stage out loud, and envision the future you are walking toward.
You don’t have to go through the middle space alone. This episode is about reminding you that the middle is a passageway, not a destination — and you are stronger than you feel right now.
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📍 Dating From Within Workshop\ January 8th-10th 2026 👉 Click here to register
💬 Empowered Divorce Q&A – Free monthly group coaching. First Thursday of each month.
👣 Body Love Class – Learn how to reclaim your body after betrayal.
📍 Believing In You Group Coaching Ready to stop letting your brain hijack your healing? Learn how to work with your nervous system, shift your thoughts, and create the life you actually want. Next round begins in January—spots go fast!👉 Reserve your spot
📍 Divorce 101: Self-Paced GuideFeeling stuck in the aftermath of betrayal or unsure where to go next? This guide meets you right where you are and helps you make your next best step.🎯 Start by taking the quiz
📍 Intimacy Within: Self-Paced CourseWant real connection in a future relationship? Start by building healthy intimacy within. Learn the 7 levels of intimacy and how to practice them—first, with YOU.👉 Check it out here
📍 Should I Stay or Go? CourseThis guide walks you through one of the hardest questions you'll ever face. It's not about finding the right answer—it's about becoming the chooser of it.👉 Learn more + enroll
💻 Want to work with Amie 1:1?Book a consult: Click here
🎥 Watch on YouTube: Get episodes early + visual tools to support your journey.📲 Follow me on social:Instagram | Facebook | TikTok → @amiewoolsey
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Sarah and I continue our conversation this week diving into what self gaslighting actually is and how to heal from it. We teach the "should" detector, and walk through the donut test that separates a true value from a shame script. We unpack compromise versus concession, raise the bar off the floor, and give scripts for co parenting requests so you protect your values without abandoning yourself.
What you will learn
• A clear definition of self gaslighting and how it begins with external gaslighting that gets internalized
• The should detector and the donut test that reveals alignment vs shame
• How to tell compromise from concession so you stop self abandonment
• Scripts for co parenting requests that honor the parenting plan
• Mantras and micro practices that bring you back to your authentic self
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Learn more about Sarah's work @sarahmorales.com
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💬 Empowered Divorce Q&A – Free monthly group coaching. First Thursday of each month.
👣 Body Love Class – Learn how to reclaim your body after betrayal.
📍 Believing In You Group Coaching Ready to stop letting your brain hijack your healing? Learn how to work with your nervous system, shift your thoughts, and create the life you actually want. Next round begins in January—spots go fast!👉 Reserve your spot
📍 Dating From Within Workshop\ 👉 Click here to register
📍 Divorce 101: Self-Paced GuideFeeling stuck in the aftermath of betrayal or unsure where to go next? This guide meets you right where you are and helps you make your next best step.🎯 Start by taking the quiz
📍 Intimacy Within: Self-Paced CourseWant real connection in a future relationship? Start by building healthy intimacy within. Learn the 7 levels of intimacy and how to practice them—first, with YOU.👉 Check it out here
📍 Should I Stay or Go? CourseThis guide walks you through one of the hardest questions you'll ever face. It's not about finding the right answer—it's about becoming the chooser of it.👉 Learn more + enroll
💻 Want to work with Amie 1:1?Book a consult: Click here
🎥 Watch on YouTube: Get episodes early + visual tools to support your journey.📲 Follow me on social:Instagram | Facebook | TikTok → @amiewoolsey
Need support ?📩 amie@lifecoachingwithamie.com
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My friend and guest Sarah Morales joins me today in a two part conversation around gaslighting and how it can lead to self gaslighting. Gaslighting after betrayal is not confusion, it is a system. In this episode Sarah and I map the methods that keep partners stuck, why abuse often escalates after separation, and how psychoeducation plus body awareness restores safety and choice. We unpack DARVO, reality challenges, chaos, conflict, and confusion, and we name the rope metaphor so you can spot it sooner and step away.
Check out Sarah's website for more information
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✨ WORK WITH AMIE + NEXT STEPS IN YOUR HEALING
💬 Empowered Divorce Q&A – Free monthly group coaching. First Thursday of each month.
👣 Body Love Class – Learn how to reclaim your body after betrayal.
📍 Believing In You Group Coaching Ready to stop letting your brain hijack your healing? Learn how to work with your nervous system, shift your thoughts, and create the life you actually want. Next round begins in January—spots go fast!👉 Reserve your spot
📍 Dating From Within Workshop\ 👉 Click here to register
📍 Divorce 101: Self-Paced GuideFeeling stuck in the aftermath of betrayal or unsure where to go next? This guide meets you right where you are and helps you make your next best step.🎯 Start by taking the quiz
📍 Intimacy Within: Self-Paced CourseWant real connection in a future relationship? Start by building healthy intimacy within. Learn the 7 levels of intimacy and how to practice them—first, with YOU.👉 Check it out here
📍 Should I Stay or Go? CourseThis guide walks you through one of the hardest questions you'll ever face. It's not about finding the right answer—it's about becoming the chooser of it.👉 Learn more + enroll
💻 Want to work with Amie 1:1?Book a consult: Click here
🎥 Watch on YouTube: Get episodes early + visual tools to support your journey.📲 Follow me on social:Instagram | Facebook | TikTok → @amiewoolsey
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A Re-airing of an old podcast this week. It's one of the most popular episodes. Just like his affair and sexual addiction had nothing to do with you, neither does his moving on have to do with you. Whats often happening here, underneath it all, is we are making this mean something about ourselves intrinsically.
Meaning, we are connecting our worth and value and enoughness to this- so it hurts. Our thoughts might be- I wasn't good enough for him to choose- whats wrong with me that he wouldn't do the work to be healthy for me but he will for her (which i will highly argue that he' healthy) your brain might be offering you the thoughts that he gets to have a happily ever after and you are now alone forever.
So the first thinking to avoid is making this mean anything about you. Let me save you so much time and energy here by just saying that when you give yourself the time and space to grieve and heal the relationships and divorce appropriately, you are going to thrive and make healthy connections in the future.
Today I offer you a few questions to ask yourself and journal as well as some tools to work on that will help you make the shift into the empowered divorce!
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👣 Body Love Class – Learn how to reclaim your body after betrayal.
📍 Believing In You Group Coaching Ready to stop letting your brain hijack your healing? Learn how to work with your nervous system, shift your thoughts, and create the life you actually want. Next round begins in January—spots go fast!👉 Reserve your spot
📍 Dating From Within Workshop\ 👉 Click here to register
📍 Divorce 101: Self-Paced GuideFeeling stuck in the aftermath of betrayal or unsure where to go next? This guide meets you right where you are and helps you make your next best step.🎯 Start by taking the quiz
📍 Intimacy Within: Self-Paced CourseWant real connection in a future relationship? Start by building healthy intimacy within. Learn the 7 levels of intimacy and how to practice them—first, with YOU.👉 Check it out here
📍 Should I Stay or Go? CourseThis guide walks you through one of the hardest questions you'll ever face. It's not about finding the right answer—it's about becoming the chooser of it.👉 Learn more + enroll
💻 Want to work with Amie 1:1?Book a consult: Click here
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In this short and heartfelt episode,I share reflections from my own neighborhood’s Diwali celebration — the Hindu Festival of Lights — and how its message of light triumphing over darkness mirrors the healing journey after betrayal and divorce.
Drawing on her Awareness, Acceptance, and Agency model, Amie explores how each stage of healing helps women reclaim their inner light:
Awareness — seeing the darkness for what it is without self-blame.
Acceptance — letting light settle into the places once filled with pain.
Agency — choosing to light your own lamp and create life from your worth.
She also weaves in wisdom from ancient Hindu texts like the Bhagavad Gita and Upanishads, reminding us that our light was never gone — only waiting to be seen again.
This is a gentle, inspiring listen for anyone ready to release the weight of darkness and remember their light.
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💬 Empowered Divorce Q&A – Free monthly group coaching. First Thursday of each month.
👣 Body Love Class – Learn how to reclaim your body after betrayal.
📍 Believing In You Group Coaching Ready to stop letting your brain hijack your healing? Learn how to work with your nervous system, shift your thoughts, and create the life you actually want. Next round begins in January—spots go fast!👉 Reserve your spot
📍 Dating From Within Workshop\ 👉 Click here to register
📍 Divorce 101: Self-Paced GuideFeeling stuck in the aftermath of betrayal or unsure where to go next? This guide meets you right where you are and helps you make your next best step.🎯 Start by taking the quiz
📍 Intimacy Within: Self-Paced CourseWant real connection in a future relationship? Start by building healthy intimacy within. Learn the 7 levels of intimacy and how to practice them—first, with YOU.👉 Check it out here
📍 Should I Stay or Go? CourseThis guide walks you through one of the hardest questions you'll ever face. It's not about finding the right answer—it's about becoming the chooser of it.👉 Learn more + enroll
💻 Want to work with Amie 1:1?Book a consult: Click here
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Most people think divorce ends with the papers. But if you’ve been through betrayal or abuse, you already know there’s another kind of divorce — the emotional divorce.
In this episode I go deeper into what emotional divorce really means, why it’s so hard, and how you can begin to step into freedom even when your ex never changes.
We’ll talk about:
The difference between legal divorce and emotional divorce and why the decree alone doesn’t bring peace
The emotions that keep you tied after betrayal — grief, anger, sadness, fear, and resentment
Why your brain, body, and attachment system make it so hard to let go
Real-life examples of staying emotionally married and why expectations keep you stuck
The five steps to begin your emotional divorce: awareness, releasing expectations, feeling your feelings, rebuilding self-trust, and redefining freedom
Emotional divorce is layered and not easy, but it’s the part of healing that truly brings peace and empowerment. If you feel like you’re still trapped in the emotional rollercoaster even after divorce, this episode will give you both validation and practical steps forward.
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✨ WORK WITH AMIE + NEXT STEPS IN YOUR HEALING
💬 Empowered Divorce Q&A – Free monthly group coaching. First Thursday of each month.
👣 Body Love Class – Learn how to reclaim your body after betrayal.
📍 Believing In You Group Coaching Ready to stop letting your brain hijack your healing? Learn how to work with your nervous system, shift your thoughts, and create the life you actually want. Next round begins in January—spots go fast!👉 Reserve your spot
📍 Dating From Within Workshop\ 👉 Click here to register
📍 Divorce 101: Self-Paced GuideFeeling stuck in the aftermath of betrayal or unsure where to go next? This guide meets you right where you are and helps you make your next best step.🎯 Start by taking the quiz
📍 Intimacy Within: Self-Paced CourseWant real connection in a future relationship? Start by building healthy intimacy within. Learn the 7 levels of intimacy and how to practice them—first, with YOU.👉 Check it out here
📍 Should I Stay or Go? CourseThis guide walks you through one of the hardest questions you'll ever face. It's not about finding the right answer—it's about becoming the chooser of it.👉 Learn more + enroll
💻 Want to work with Amie 1:1?Book a consult: Click here
🎥 Watch on YouTube: Get episodes early + visual tools to support your journey.📲 Follow me on social:Instagram | Facebook | TikTok → @amiewoolsey
Need support ?📩 amie@lifecoachingwithamie.com
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Are you wondering why you still care about your ex — even after divorce, even after betrayal, even when he continues to hurt you? You’re not alone. Many women find themselves stuck in the same cycle: still rescuing, still worrying, still hoping he’ll change, all while riding the exhausting roller coaster of chaos.
In this episode of The Empowered Divorce Podcast, I’ll help you understand why this happens — and how to break free without shutting down your heart. Because you don’t need to stop being caring or compassionate to heal. You just need to learn how to protect that beautiful heart of yours.
What you’ll learn in this episode:
💔 Why your caring impulse isn’t weakness — it’s your nervous system’s survival response.
🎰 How intermittent reinforcement (sometimes kind, sometimes cruel) creates trauma bonds that feel impossible to break.
🧠 The chemical roller coaster of betrayal trauma — how adrenaline, cortisol, dopamine, and oxytocin keep you tied to chaos.
👀 The part of you that still wants him to change, and the deeper truth: what you’re really longing for is respect and validation.
🛑 My 4-step process for breaking free from chaos: Awareness, Regulation, Replacement, and Consistency.
❤️ The power of Heart Checks: how to honor your compassion without letting it be weaponized against you.
✨ Key takeaway: You don’t have to stop caring. You just get to stop pouring that care into someone who harms you — and start pouring it back into yourself.
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✨ WORK WITH AMIE + NEXT STEPS IN YOUR HEALING
💬 Empowered Divorce Q&A – Free monthly group coaching. First Thursday of each month.
👣 Body Love Class – Learn how to reclaim your body after betrayal.
📍 Believing In You Group Coaching Ready to stop letting your brain hijack your healing? Learn how to work with your nervous system, shift your thoughts, and create the life you actually want. Next round begins in January—spots go fast!👉 Reserve your spot
📍 Dating From Within Workshop\ 👉 Click here to register
📍 Divorce 101: Self-Paced GuideFeeling stuck in the aftermath of betrayal or unsure where to go next? This guide meets you right where you are and helps you make your next best step.🎯 Start by taking the quiz
📍 Intimacy Within: Self-Paced CourseWant real connection in a future relationship? Start by building healthy intimacy within. Learn the 7 levels of intimacy and how to practice them—first, with YOU.👉 Check it out here
📍 Should I Stay or Go? CourseThis guide walks you through one of the hardest questions you'll ever face. It's not about finding the right answer—it's about becoming the chooser of it.👉 Learn more + enroll
💻 Want to work with Amie 1:1?Book a consult: Click here
🎥 Watch on YouTube: Get episodes early + visual tools to support your journey.📲 Follow me on social:Instagram | Facebook | TikTok → @amiewoolsey
Need support ?📩 amie@lifecoachingwithamie.com
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After betrayal or divorce, many women hear the relentless voice of the inner critic—the part that says “you should have seen this coming”, “no one will ever want you”, or “you’ll never get it right.” This voice can feel like fact, but it isn’t.
In this episode of The Empowered Divorce Podcast, Amie Woolsey unpacks what the inner critic really is, why it gets so loud after betrayal, and how you can begin to soften its grip. Drawing from Internal Family Systems (IFS), self-compassion research, and somatic healing practices, Amie helps you see the critic as a protector part—one that tries to keep you safe, but often leaves you stuck in shame.
You’ll learn practical tools to separate your higher self from the critic, anchor into your values, and reframe self-criticism into self-compassion. Amie also shares journal prompts, body-based practices, and a client story that highlights how you can literally release what isn’t yours to carry anymore.
If you’re ready to stop letting your critic write the story of your life and reclaim your agency, this episode is for you.
👉 Order your Trauma Trigger Kit mentioned in this episode here to support your nervous system when unexpected triggers hit.
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✨ WORK WITH AMIE + NEXT STEPS IN YOUR HEALING
💬 Empowered Divorce Q&A – Free monthly group coaching. First Thursday of each month.
👣 Body Love Class – Learn how to reclaim your body after betrayal.
📍 Believing In You Group Coaching Ready to stop letting your brain hijack your healing? Learn how to work with your nervous system, shift your thoughts, and create the life you actually want. Next round begins in January—spots go fast!👉 Reserve your spot
📍 Dating From Within Workshop\ 👉 Click here to register
📍 Divorce 101: Self-Paced GuideFeeling stuck in the aftermath of betrayal or unsure where to go next? This guide meets you right where you are and helps you make your next best step.🎯 Start by taking the quiz
📍 Intimacy Within: Self-Paced CourseWant real connection in a future relationship? Start by building healthy intimacy within. Learn the 7 levels of intimacy and how to practice them—first, with YOU.👉 Check it out here
📍 Should I Stay or Go? CourseThis guide walks you through one of the hardest questions you'll ever face. It's not about finding the right answer—it's about becoming the chooser of it.👉 Learn more + enroll
💻 Want to work with Amie 1:1?Book a consult: Click here
🎥 Watch on YouTube: Get episodes early + visual tools to support your journey.📲 Follow me on social:Instagram | Facebook | TikTok → @amiewoolsey
Need support ?📩 amie@lifecoachingwithamie.com
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Why does jealousy show up after divorce—even when you don’t want your ex back? And why does envy hit so hard when you see other couples, families, or friends with the life you thought you’d have?
In this episode of The Empowered Divorce Podcast, I’m unpacking jealousy and envy through the lens of betrayal trauma and divorce recovery. These emotions aren’t proof that you’re failing at healing—they’re actually signals pointing to unmet needs, hidden longings, and places where your worth feels shaky.
You’ll learn:
The difference between jealousy and envy (and why they both intensify after betrayal and divorce).
How jealousy is tied to fear of being replaced or left behind.
Why envy often reveals the deep desires for love, safety, and security you thought you had.
The compassionate way to respond to these emotions so you don’t get stuck in shame.
Practical steps to move through jealousy and envy with awareness, acceptance, and agency.
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💬 Empowered Divorce Q&A – Free monthly group coaching. First Thursday of each month.
👣 Body Love Class – Learn how to reclaim your body after betrayal.
📍 Believing In You Group Coaching Ready to stop letting your brain hijack your healing? Learn how to work with your nervous system, shift your thoughts, and create the life you actually want. Next round begins in January—spots go fast!👉 Reserve your spot
📍 Dating From Within Workshop\ 👉 Click here to register
📍 Divorce 101: Self-Paced GuideFeeling stuck in the aftermath of betrayal or unsure where to go next? This guide meets you right where you are and helps you make your next best step.🎯 Start by taking the quiz
📍 Intimacy Within: Self-Paced CourseWant real connection in a future relationship? Start by building healthy intimacy within. Learn the 7 levels of intimacy and how to practice them—first, with YOU.👉 Check it out here
📍 Should I Stay or Go? CourseThis guide walks you through one of the hardest questions you'll ever face. It's not about finding the right answer—it's about becoming the chooser of it.👉 Learn more + enroll
💻 Want to work with Amie 1:1?Book a consult: Click here
🎥 Watch on YouTube: Get episodes early + visual tools to support your journey.📲 Follow me on social:Instagram | Facebook | TikTok → @amiewoolsey
Need support ?📩 amie@lifecoachingwithamie.com
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What does decluttering a drawer full of hoodies have to do with healing after betrayal and divorce? More than you might think.
In this episode, I share how a simple project of cleaning out my dresser drawers turned into a powerful reminder of the healing journey. Just like those drawers, our inner world can get overstuffed with old roles, relationships, patterns, and guilt that no longer fit who we are today.
Together we’ll explore five healing shifts that can help you rebuild after betrayal and a life-saving divorce:
Letting go of guilt – releasing what no longer serves you without shame.
Intentional choosing – giving everything in your life a fresh “yes” instead of defaulting to obligation.
Private wins – why the most important victories in healing are often unseen by others.
Making space for what’s next – learning to tolerate the discomfort of empty space instead of rushing to fill it.
Choosing what goes back in – filling your “drawers” with peace, boundaries, values, and relationships that truly fit.
If you’ve ever felt weighed down by old patterns, caught in guilt for letting go, or unsure what should come next in your healing journey, this episode will help you find clarity, courage, and self-trust.
✨ Tune in to discover how decluttering your drawers can become a metaphor for decluttering your life after betrayal and divorce.
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✨ WORK WITH AMIE + NEXT STEPS IN YOUR HEALING
💬 Empowered Divorce Q&A – Free monthly group coaching. First Thursday of each month.
👣 Body Love Class – Learn how to reclaim your body after betrayal.
📍 Believing In You Group Coaching Ready to stop letting your brain hijack your healing? Learn how to work with your nervous system, shift your thoughts, and create the life you actually want. Next round begins in January—spots go fast!👉 Reserve your spot
📍 Dating From Within Workshop\ 👉 Click here to register
📍 Divorce 101: Self-Paced GuideFeeling stuck in the aftermath of betrayal or unsure where to go next? This guide meets you right where you are and helps you make your next best step.🎯 Start by taking the quiz
📍 Intimacy Within: Self-Paced CourseWant real connection in a future relationship? Start by building healthy intimacy within. Learn the 7 levels of intimacy and how to practice them—first, with YOU.👉 Check it out here
📍 Should I Stay or Go? CourseThis guide walks you through one of the hardest questions you'll ever face. It's not about finding the right answer—it's about becoming the chooser of it.👉 Learn more + enroll
💻 Want to work with Amie 1:1?Book a consult: Click here
🎥 Watch on YouTube: Get episodes early + visual tools to support your journey.📲 Follow me on social:Instagram | Facebook | TikTok → @amiewoolsey
Need support ?📩 amie@lifecoachingwithamie.com
#LifeSavingDivorce #NotYourNormalDivorce #DivorceHealing #BetrayalTraumaRecovery #EmotionalHealingAfterDivorce #DivorceJourney #DivorceFromAbuse #TraumaInformedDivorce #SurvivingDivorce #HealthyDivorceRecovery #DivorceAndHealing #DivorceEmpowerment #BetrayalTrauma #HealingFromBetrayal #AbuseSurvivorHealing #LifeAfterBetrayal #HealingThroughDivorce #DivorceAndSelfDiscovery #DivorceRecoveryJourney#shouldistayorgo #narcissist #Abuse #betrayal #divorce #infidelity #cheating #affair #ldsdivorce
It can be hard to know how to start living life after a life saving divorce. Where the story you thought you were writing with someone suddenly ends in shock, grief, and confusion. Using the powerful analogy of The Monster at the End of This Book, I explore why fear keeps us stuck in the past pages and how agency becomes your greatest plot twist. You’ll learn why your nervous system clings to old chapters, how to stop rereading the painful parts, and simple practices to begin turning the page into a future you get to author. If you’ve ever wondered how to move forward when the ending you dreamed of no longer exists, this episode will remind you that your story isn’t over—you’re still holding the pen.
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✨ WORK WITH AMIE + NEXT STEPS IN YOUR HEALING
💬 Empowered Divorce Q&A – Free monthly group coaching. First Thursday of each month.
👣 Body Love Class – Learn how to reclaim your body after betrayal.
📍 Believing In You Group Coaching Ready to stop letting your brain hijack your healing? Learn how to work with your nervous system, shift your thoughts, and create the life you actually want. Next round begins in January—spots go fast!👉 Reserve your spot
📍 Dating From Within Workshop\ 👉 Click here to register
📍 Divorce 101: Self-Paced GuideFeeling stuck in the aftermath of betrayal or unsure where to go next? This guide meets you right where you are and helps you make your next best step.🎯 Start by taking the quiz
📍 Intimacy Within: Self-Paced CourseWant real connection in a future relationship? Start by building healthy intimacy within. Learn the 7 levels of intimacy and how to practice them—first, with YOU.👉 Check it out here
📍 Should I Stay or Go? CourseThis guide walks you through one of the hardest questions you'll ever face. It's not about finding the right answer—it's about becoming the chooser of it.👉 Learn more + enroll
💻 Want to work with Amie 1:1?Book a consult: Click here
🎥 Watch on YouTube: Get episodes early + visual tools to support your journey.📲 Follow me on social:Instagram | Facebook | TikTok → @amiewoolsey
Need support ?📩 amie@lifecoachingwithamie.com
#LifeSavingDivorce #NotYourNormalDivorce #DivorceHealing #BetrayalTraumaRecovery #EmotionalHealingAfterDivorce #DivorceJourney #DivorceFromAbuse #TraumaInformedDivorce #SurvivingDivorce #HealthyDivorceRecovery #DivorceAndHealing #DivorceEmpowerment #BetrayalTrauma #HealingFromBetrayal #AbuseSurvivorHealing #LifeAfterBetrayal #HealingThroughDivorce #DivorceAndSelfDiscovery #DivorceRecoveryJourney#shouldistayorgo
Even if you chose divorce… you might still doubt it.
This episode is for every woman who left a harmful relationship—and now finds herself wondering:
“What if I made the wrong choice?”
“What if he really changed for her?”
“What if it wasn't that bad after all?”
This kind of doubt is so common after a life-saving divorce, especially when your nervous system is detoxing from the chaos, and you’re sitting in the quiet that once felt like peace—but now feels unfamiliar.
We talk about:
Why your doubt doesn't mean you made the wrong decision
Nervous system withdrawals (and why they make you question everything)
Cognitive dissonance and trauma bonds after betrayal
What “peace” actually feels like after a high-conflict or covertly abusive marriage
How to anchor into your truth even when your ex’s curated life makes you question your reality
If you’ve ever caught yourself spiraling in “what ifs” or stalking their new partner online, this episode will help you come home to your knowing again.
🧠 Doubt is not a red flag. It's part of healing from being gaslit.
You didn’t leave because it was easy. You left because you finally trusted yourself.
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✨ WORK WITH AMIE + NEXT STEPS IN YOUR HEALING
💬 Empowered Divorce Q&A – Free monthly group coaching. First Thursday of each month.
👣 Body Love Class – Learn how to reclaim your body after betrayal.
📍 Believing In You Group Coaching Ready to stop letting your brain hijack your healing? Learn how to work with your nervous system, shift your thoughts, and create the life you actually want. Next round begins in January—spots go fast!👉 Reserve your spot
📍 Dating From Within Workshop\ 👉 Click here to register
📍 Divorce 101: Self-Paced GuideFeeling stuck in the aftermath of betrayal or unsure where to go next? This guide meets you right where you are and helps you make your next best step.🎯 Start by taking the quiz
📍 Intimacy Within: Self-Paced CourseWant real connection in a future relationship? Start by building healthy intimacy within. Learn the 7 levels of intimacy and how to practice them—first, with YOU.👉 Check it out here
📍 Should I Stay or Go? CourseThis guide walks you through one of the hardest questions you'll ever face. It's not about finding the right answer—it's about becoming the chooser of it.👉 Learn more + enroll
💻 Want to work with Amie 1:1?Book a consult: Click here
🎥 Watch on YouTube: Get episodes early + visual tools to support your journey.📲 Follow me on social:Instagram | Facebook | TikTok → @amiewoolsey
Need support ?📩 amie@lifecoachingwithamie.com
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What does real self-love look like after betrayal and a life-saving divorce? It’s not bubble baths and retail therapy. It’s not pretending you’re “fine.”
In this episode, I share five powerful ways you can start practicing self-love today in the middle of healing. These tools go beyond surface-level self-care and get to the root of rebuilding your relationship with yourself—through alignment, boundaries, resilience, and compassion.
Together we’ll explore:
Getting honest about what’s out of alignment – learning how betrayal and divorce can knock you off balance, and how to come back to your values.
Setting and honoring boundaries – protecting your nervous system by not abandoning yourself when co-parenting or facing ongoing conflict.
Paying attention to who and what brings out the worst in you – and how to funnel your energy toward the spaces and people who help you feel grounded and whole.
Ruthlessly prioritizing your wellbeing – why self-care in trauma recovery is not a luxury, but a necessity for healing your nervous system.
Celebrating yourself – shifting from self-criticism to noticing your progress, honoring even the smallest wins, and building self-trust through compassion.
If you’ve ever wondered why self-love feels elusive after betrayal—or why you keep abandoning yourself in the process—this episode will give you both validation and practical tools to shift.
✨ Healing isn’t about becoming perfectly regulated or polished. It’s about practicing alignment, protecting your energy, and showing up for yourself—over and over again.
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✨ WORK WITH AMIE + NEXT STEPS IN YOUR HEALING
💬 Empowered Divorce Q&A – Free monthly group coaching. First Thursday of each month.
👣 Body Love Class – Learn how to reclaim your body after betrayal.
📍 Believing In You Group Coaching Ready to stop letting your brain hijack your healing? Learn how to work with your nervous system, shift your thoughts, and create the life you actually want. Next round begins in January—spots go fast!👉 Reserve your spot
📍 Dating From Within Workshop\ 👉 Click here to register
📍 Divorce 101: Self-Paced GuideFeeling stuck in the aftermath of betrayal or unsure where to go next? This guide meets you right where you are and helps you make your next best step.🎯 Start by taking the quiz
📍 Intimacy Within: Self-Paced CourseWant real connection in a future relationship? Start by building healthy intimacy within. Learn the 7 levels of intimacy and how to practice them—first, with YOU.👉 Check it out here
📍 Should I Stay or Go? CourseThis guide walks you through one of the hardest questions you'll ever face. It's not about finding the right answer—it's about becoming the chooser of it.👉 Learn more + enroll
💻 Want to work with Amie 1:1?Book a consult: Click here
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