What happens when erotic curiosity, psychology, and lived experience collide? In this special solo episode, M reflects on turning 40 and one year of The Erotic Realm Podcast — sharing the personal, psychological, and erotic motivations behind creating a platform devoted to desire, power, and the erotic mind. In this episode, we explore:Why desire is as unique as personality.How power and eroticism shape identity across a lifetime.Midlife as a psychological turning point, not a crisis.What listening to hundreds of erotic stories has revealed.Autism, kink, and why structure can feel safer than spontaneity.How M became a Sexologist.What's next for The Erotic Realm and the Psychology of Desire.Research article: "Comforting, Reassuring, and…Hot": A Qualitative Exploration of Engaging in Bondage, Discipline, Domination, Submission, Sadism and (Sado)masochism and Kink from the Perspective of Autistic Adults. This episode is both a celebration and a thesis — a reflection on what the first year of The Erotic Realm has taught me, and where the psychology of desire is heading next. Thank you for being part of this journey to support it continuing Subscribe to the Psychology of Desire Substack here. Sign up to the Her Climax Code Masterclass here. Apply to be on The Erotic Realm podcast here. Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠ The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to apply to be on the podcast. I'd love to chat to you. Thanks for listening! Stay perverted, Emma See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

What do kinksters confess live at a kink festival? Recorded live at a real kink festival, this fourth and final episode in the series of the special edition of The Erotic Realm invites you into the world’s first anonymous kink confessional booth—where people step behind the curtain to whisper their erotic truths. We explore: • What people confess when given total erotic anonymity. • How shame, curiosity, and power shape desire in public spaces. • Real power-exchange relationships as they unfold in real time. • The raw psychology of kinksters inside a living, breathing event. In the background you’ll hear music. Laughter. Conversations. People playing, watching, wandering. In the booth, you’ll hear anonymous confessions of darker desires. This is the soundscape of a living, breathing kink event. Unfiltered, immersive, alive. Some listeners will find headphones are a must for this episode, and they will deepen the intimacy—like you’re leaning in to overhear something you were never meant to hear. Love this project? Support future episodes by becoming a paid subscriber here or at psychologyofdesire.substack.com. Want The Erotic Confessional at your local kink event? Reach out here: emma@psychologyofdesire.com The Erotic Realm Confessional — Where you confess your desires. Thanks for listening! Stay perverted, Emma See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Subscribe to the Psychology of Desire Substack here to receive the Female Orgasm Case File direct to your inbox What happens when a woman discovers she can climax again… and again… and again? In this episode, Thinker — a bisexual sensualist and rope bottom — joins M to explore hyper-orgasmic sexuality, erotic sensitivity, and what it means to reclaim pleasure after decades of repression. We discuss: • The four levels of orgasm and how she moves through them. • The psychology of erotic sensitivity and hyper-climaxing. • How religious repression shaped (and delayed) her erotic awakening. • Why mindfulness expands arousal and deepens sensation. • The emotional landscape of reclaiming desire after silence. Research article: Effects of mindfulness training on body awareness to sexual stimuli: implications for female sexual dysfunction. Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠ The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to apply to be on the podcast. I'd love to chat to you. Thanks for listening! Stay perverted, Emma See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

What can decades of lived BDSM history teach us about power, desire and the erotic mind? We’re closing out the year with a special End-of-Year Erotic Realm Series — two episodes every week, some brand new, some returning favourites. Together they trace the biggest themes that emerged across 2025: gender, BDSM roles, fantasy, and the psychology of desire. You’ll hear our first-ever live recordings from the Erotic Realm Confessional at OzKinkFest, reflections from past guests, and a 40th birthday special exploring my own erotic realm — all building toward a New Year’s episode on kinky desires and erotic resolutions for 2026. This week we go all the way back to episode 3 and explore The Hedonist Mentor: Kinkalong on 40 Years of BDSM, Bisexuality & Erotic Psychology In this episode, we delve into the rich experiences and wisdom of Marc, a bisexual hedonist, switch, and mentor with decades of involvement in the kink community. We discuss:The evolution of the kink scene over the past few decades.The intersection of bisexuality and mental health in navigating identity.Lessons learned from living the lifestyle as a mentor and switch.Balancing power dynamics in relationships with his Domme wife.And much more... Research paper: Disclosure and Concealment of Sexual Orientation and the Mental Health of Non-Gay-Identified, Behaviorally-Bisexual Men. The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ If you enjoy what you hear please follow and rate the show, and if you want to support Emma's work please consider supporting her ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Substack on the Psychology of Desire.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to apply to be on the podcast. I'd love to chat to you! Thanks for listening! Stay perverted, Emma See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

#52 The Erotic Realm Confessional #3: Live Kink Festival Confessions

#51 Feminist Submission, Masochism and Kink Education with AncillaL (Re-release)

#50 The Psychology of Bisexuality: Skirt Club Founder Genevieve LeJeune on Female Desire & Erotic Freedom

#49 The Sole of Desire (Re-release): Foot Fetish Origins with Feetfixations

#48 The Erotic Realm Confessional #2: Live Festival Confessions & The Psychology of Kink

#47 Shapeshifting Desire (Re-release): Primal Play, BDSM as Healing, and the Erotic Self.

What do kinksters confess live at a kink festival? Recorded live at a real kink festival, this special edition of The Erotic Realm invites you into the world’s first anonymous kink confessional booth—where real people step behind the curtain to whisper their erotic truths. We explore: • What people confess when given total erotic anonymity • How shame, curiosity, and power shape desire in public spaces • Real power-exchange relationships as they unfold in real time • The raw psychology of kinksters inside a living, breathing event In the background you’ll hear music. Laughter. Conversations. People playing, watching, wandering. In the booth, you’ll hear anonymous confessions of darker desires. This is the soundscape of a living, breathing kink event. Unfiltered, immersive, alive. Some listeners will find headphones are a must for this episode, and they will deepen the intimacy—like you’re leaning in to overhear something you were never meant to hear. Love this project? Support future episodes by becoming a paid subscriber here. Want The Erotic Confessional at your local kink event? Reach out here: emma@psychologyofdesire.com The Erotic Realm Confessional — Where you confess your desires. Thanks for listening! Stay perverted, Emma See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

#45 The Psychology of Erotica: Aurore on Writing Desire, Healing Shame & Feminist Submission

The Psychology of Cuckolding: Desire, Power & the Erotic Mind of CuckofanAngel

What happens when philosophy meets BDSM? In this episode, writer and Dominant Athos Khan joins M to explore the intimate architecture of power, devotion, and consciousness inside monogamous kink. We discuss: • The Jungian concept of “making the darkness conscious” through BDSM. • Monogamy as a site for transformation, not limitation. • The flow state of dominance — where eroticism becomes meditation. • The archetypes that shape desire and relationship roles. • Emotional vs. sexual free use and what gendered desire reveals about intimacy. Research Article: ‘You want to be swept up in it all’: illuminating the erotic in BDSM. Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠ The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Want to be part of edgy research exploring the qualitative nature of the female orgasm? Anyone can participate! Take the Her Climax Code Female Orgasm Survey and contribute to the #02 Psychology of Desire Case File on female orgasm released later this month. ⁠⁠Link here.⁠⁠ Psychology of Desires first course is NOW available: Activate Your Desire explores your unique erotic psychology. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Link here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to apply to be on the podcast. I'd love to chat to you. Thanks for listening! Stay perverted, Emma See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Can surrender be feminist?  In this episode of The Erotic Realm, M speaks with Lina Dune — writer, educator, and host of the hit podcast Ask A Sub — about the psychology of submission, feminist desire, and the edges of consensual non-consent. We discuss: • How Lina reframes submission as self-discovery, not self-abandonment. • What makes feminist surrender so psychologically rich. • The emotional truth behind CNC and exploring dark fantasy safely. • How CNM can deepen honesty and communication in relationships. • Why kink can be a mirror for both chaos and self-creation. • The lessons Lina has learned from Ask A Sub about community and growth. • A message for anyone learning to trust their desire. Research discussed: On the Margins: Considering Diversity Among Consensually Non-Monogamous Relationships. Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠ The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Want to be part of edgy research exploring the qualitative nature of the female orgasm? Anyone can participate! Take the Her Climax Code Female Orgasm Survey and contribute to the #02 Psychology of Desire Case File on female orgasm released later this month. ⁠⁠Link here.⁠⁠ Psychology of Desires first course is NOW available: Activate Your Desire explores your unique erotic psychology. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Link here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to apply to be on the podcast. I'd love to chat to you. Thanks for listening! Stay perverted, Emma See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Can pain become prayer? Can spanking be a spiritual practice? In this episode of The Erotic Realm, M speaks with Iya (MousyMistress) — a mystic Domme, minister, and self-described sacred spanko — about the healing, transcendent, and psychological dimensions of erotic pain. We discuss: • How erotic discipline and spanking became a path to self-knowledge. • Why Jung’s shadow work applies to kink and erotic healing. • What research says about pain as emotional release and transcendence. • Iya’s live guided meditation for entering your Dominant self. • How kink bridges spirituality, psychology, and power. • The difference between cruelty and care in sacred sadism. • A message for anyone seeking to integrate their desire and divinity. Research article: What Is So Appealing About Being Spanked, Flogged, Dominated, or Restrained? Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠ The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Want to be part of edgy research exploring the qualitative nature of the female orgasm? Anyone can participate! Take the Her Climax Code Female Orgasm Survey and contribute to the #02 Psychology of Desire Case File on female orgasm released later this month. ⁠⁠Link here.⁠⁠ Psychology of Desires first course is NOW available: Activate Your Desire explores your unique erotic psychology. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Link here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to apply to be on the podcast. I'd love to chat to you. Thanks for listening! Stay perverted, Emma See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Can humiliation and devotion coexist as love languages? In this episode of The Erotic Realm, M speaks with Petitmortician — a submissive, worshipper, and emotional masochist — about the psychology of male submission, cuckolding, and worship as pathways to self-understanding. We discuss: • The emotional and erotic layers of cuckolding beyond the stereotype. • How humiliation, jealousy, and devotion can coexist in intimacy. • Why research shows cuckolding is a normal and complex sexual expression. • The misunderstood psychology of male submission and worship. • Why pain can be pleasurable for some — and transformative for others. • A message for submissive men seeking freedom through surrender. Research Article: Cuckolding and Troilism: definitions, relational and clinical contexts, emotional and sexual aspects, and neurobiological profiles.  Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠ The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Want to be part of edgy research exploring the qualitative nature of the female orgasm? Anyone can participate! Take the Her Climax Code Female Orgasm Survey and contribute to the #02 Psychology of Desire Case File on female orgasm released later this month. ⁠⁠Link here.⁠⁠ Psychology of Desires first course is NOW available: Activate Your Desire explores your unique erotic psychology. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Link here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to apply to be on the podcast. I'd love to chat to you. Thanks for listening! Stay perverted, Emma See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

What if the most powerful phase of your sexuality starts at menopause? In this episode of The Erotic Realm Podcast, I sit down with MsSugarSpice, a 55-year-old Domme, cuckoldress, and writer who lives a 24/7 female-led relationship. Her story is one of transformation — from repression to erotic power, from silence to soulsexual expression, from wallflower to Dominant. We explore:Female-led relationships: daily rituals, dominance, and devotion.Post-menopause sexuality as an erotic awakening.Cuckolding as intimacy, not humiliation.How kink became a tool for healing after trauma.The importance of sharing erotic wisdom later in lifeand more Research Article: Current biopsychosocial science on understanding kink. Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠ The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Want to be part of edgy research exploring the qualitative nature of the female orgasm? Anyone can participate! Take the Her Climax Code Female Orgasm Survey and contribute to the #02 Psychology of Desire Case File on female orgasm released later this month. ⁠⁠Link here.⁠⁠ Psychology of Desires first course is NOW available: Activate Your Desire explores your unique erotic psychology. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Link here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to apply to be on the podcast. I'd love to chat to you. Thanks for listening! Stay perverted, Emma See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

What happens when repression breaks open into erotic freedom?  In this episode of The Erotic Realm, we meet HelenATL — a submissive and self-described seeker of “erotic intensity.” From a shocking electric chair scene in the 90s to the reawakening of her sexuality after decades of silence, Helen’s story shows us the risks, rewards, and realities of living authentically. We discuss:How yoga and kink reawakened her erotic self after repressionThe challenges and transformations of opening a long-term marriage“Erotic intensity” as a personal kink and altered state of consciousnessWhat research tells us about CNM satisfactionAdvice for those in sexless marriages yearning for integrity and desireand much more! Research Article: What do we know about consensual non-monogamy? Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠ The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Want to be part of edgy research exploring the qualitative nature of the female orgasm? Anyone can participate! Take the Her Climax Code Female Orgasm Survey and contribute to the #02 Psychology of Desire Case File on female orgasm released later this month. ⁠⁠Link here.⁠⁠ Psychology of Desires first course is NOW available: Activate Your Desire explores your unique erotic psychology. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Link here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to apply to be on the podcast. I'd love to chat to you. Thanks for listening! Stay perverted, Emma See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Why do people eroticize regression, petplay, and degradation — and what does it mean to be your own Dom? In this episode, Valkyrie shares her journey from Pro-Domme to submissive pet. We explore the misunderstood kinks of ABDL, degradation, and regression, and end with her powerful reflection on self-domination. You’ll hear about:How she shifted from dominating others to surrendering herself — and what that taught her about power.Petplay & ABDL: the emotional logic behind regression, care, and erotic release.Degradation vs. liberation: when words sting, and when they open new erotic truths.Why stigma around “dark” kinks often misses the intimacy behind them.Valkyrie’s insight on being her own Dom — and why every submissive should cultivate inner authority.Research Article: ⁠Sadomasochistically Oriented Behavior: Diversity in Practice and Meaning.⁠ Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠ The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Want to be part of edgy research exploring the qualitative nature of the female orgasm? Anyone can participate! Take the Her Climax Code Female Orgasm Survey and contribute to the #02 Psychology of Desire Case File on female orgasm released later this month. ⁠⁠Link here.⁠⁠ Psychology of Desires first course is NOW available: Activate Your Desire explores your unique erotic psychology. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Link here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to apply to be on the podcast. I'd love to chat to you. Thanks for listening! Stay perverted, Emma See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.