Episode 26
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In this episode, we talk about our own Valentine’s Day experiences and how our hopes are for the holiday this season. We both tend to low key things, but in general the themes are the same: talk to your partner, express your needs, and do not compare to what you think everyone else is doing, especially when that does not match who you are.
There’s a few pitfalls here we can stumble on. The dollar coaster of expecting a perfect (date, moment, gift, phrase) to stop your anxiety and PROVE that you have nothing to be anxious about.
Expecting our partners to minded and know exactly what we need when maybe we don’t know that ourselves.
And expecting our partner to like what would work for us even if they are a different person.
The YouTUbe channel for the debate show KC has found is Jubilee, with wonderful titles such as 25 Chriswtians vs 1 Atheist and 1 Politician vs 23 Undecided Voters. They also have fun episodes of “Middle Ground” where you try to find the commonalities between such differences, and Odd One Out wher you try to guess who is sus.
Another good debate I thought of loudly but didn’t bring up was Bill Nye vs. Ben Ham, with the iconic line of “The tides come in, the tides go out, YOU CAN’T EXPLAIN THAT”, and wonderful patient Bill Nye explaining that actually, he absolutely could. If new information challenges your views, learn it. Use it. Change your view. Become better. If new information strengthens your views, challenge it. Learn it. Become better. Never be afraid of learning more, even if it means proving yourself wrong.
I will caution that a lot of the time those “change my mind” meme’s/topics are not being genuine. They want to repeat their same talking points and feel better and justified for having “owned” the alternate viewpoint. The best chance of actually changing someone’s mind is talking with someone who respects you as an individual who has different views and experiences from themselves, typically friends, family, people we’re close to. That way there is some buy in and not the desire to just write off anyone as being ignorant or an extremist for having an alternate belief or opinion.
As always, thank you to the wonderful Miki Anderson for our intro and outtro music. She can be found under Pax Minerva on Apple Music and is all around a wonderful human being.
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