Episode 41
Welcome to the Healing Pod!
Jess is back! And audio…seems to be changing volume in the video and be a bit…odd. Maybe it’s my imagination. Probably not. But…it happens! The more I catch tiny errors in well established podcasts the more I realize it’s ok for our little fun here not to be perfect.
We are answering a question from Allie about the natural nature of fears, responding to their child’s fears, and balancing the child’s excitement about “spooky” things with the parental knowledge of Supernatural episodes (get the salt!!)
We talk about balancing safety needs with calming for the fears that are not really safety based. Spooky can mean fun investigations, it can mean something unusual and different and potentially surprising, feeling that sense of unknown does not necessarily mean we cannot handle it.
Fear is meant to keep you safe, not to keep you from living. And the kids are watching. They want to know how to respond, what is safe, what is allowed., what tools and support do they have to explore and expand into this wonderful world we have.
We also touch on vivid dreaming briefly. Always check the medical reasons first (new meds, illness, discomfort) and the physical (exhaustion, what you’ve eaten/drank/substances) and environment (something waking you up in the night, temperature extremes). Don’t be ignoring your basic sleep hygiene, but also don’t be afraid to search for repeating themes that you are struggling with and help yourself find closure however you need to (dealing with it in reality or using guided imagery to create a new ending that will help settle things).
Dream EZ is the app you can download for working through repeated dream themes. An anecdotal review from a chronic nightmare haver was “well my dreams aren’t bad, now they’re weird.” It was designed for military combat PTSD so has lots of science and data behind it.
Kids are weird. Let them. And remember to be weird with them.
As always, thank you to the wonderful Miki Anderson for our intro and outtro music. She can be found under Pax Minerva on Apple Music and is all around a wonderful human being.
Come join us and chat, complain, or send in what mental health you would like to hear us ramble about!
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Episode 40
Welcome to the Healing Pod!
Jessica is busy fighting with her still leaking roof, so I am joined once again by Kasie!
Today is the end of a long week with a lot of heartache. So we decided to talk about a lighter topic and explore our decision to run a half-marathon! 8 years after the only other one we ran…and then deciding a week ago to run one a month and a half before the planned Disney run!
We talk through our history of running, and the surprises we find of the motivation and the impact on our self-talk and value by achieving these goals.
Things like setting habits and building our pups’ health into the training, finding reasons to run, places we enjoy going, and support through each other and our friends has helped exponentially. Building a new habit is hard, and it has to fit into your view of yourself and your schedule to have a chance of sticking.
Facing hard goals means you need a lot of support, internal and external. It is going to be hard. It is going to hurt at times. It is going to be less fun at times. But it’s it’s always hard, always hurting, always less fun, you will not stick with it. You want to be able to move and grow through the discomfort to find a brand new level of discomfort to challenge yourself with.
Who knows, maybe we will do a marathon someday. But not anytime soon. We are going to bask in the enjoyment of succeeding and being amazed at what we’ve been able to do.
Kasie does mention the headspace I go into on race days. It is different. Running has always been the thing that I could actually take a break from all my other stress and do. I could not deal with anything else while running, so I may as well just run. And on practice days I pace with Kasie and if we’re not going hard I chat with her. But when racing, I find a rhythm and I just stick with it and see how far I can go at that pace, because I don’t trust myself to keep moving if I try to poke out of that flow space.
I am incredible proud of Kasie and everything she has accomplished. I love the adventures we find in our lives and cannot wait until the next one.
So we would love to hear your goals and progress towards them. We would love to hear whatever ideas you have to keep us motivated and entertained for winter runs. We would love to hear from you!
As always, thank you to the wonderful Miki Anderson for our intro and outtro music. She can be found under Pax Minerva on Apple Music and is all around a wonderful human being.
Come join us and chat, complain, or send in what mental health you would like to hear us ramble about!
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Episode 39
Welcome to the Healing Pod!
A few sorries to get out of the way first. This will be a slightly longer episode.
I didn’t realize how much the cricket noises came through my open window, which I find relaxing but others may be irritated by so sorry guys! Also the video is too long for my sound clean up on video so….until we get monetized you’ll have to deal!
Also the random sheep……she agrees with us.
Today we are not talking in just reaction to the viral video of the woman who fell in love with her psychiatrist (it’s a thing that’s often enough to be both a cliche and a major teaching point in training, as is the reverse), but rather what it would be like as a professional to be the next person to try and work with her. We figured there’s enough reaction and interpretation videos out there, plenty of good and bad ones to look through if you’re interested.
So here is a view into some of the processing and understanding that therapists go through when encountering a new and potentially tricky case.
It is important to know that your clinicians are humans. Sometimes we got this, sometimes we suck. There’s a lot to balance in genuinely caring for our clients and wanting the best for them, while also needing to protect ourselves both liability wise and in terms of maintaining our own life.
We do not want or need to be on pedestals. Pedestals means it’s about us and not about your work, your effort, your accomplishments, your strength. We have egos. We do not need to feed them to the level where we believe that we need a pedestal.
AI is an interesting monster. It definitely has uses, especially when you’re looking at supplementing disabilities and areas where we are not strong. When we ask it to think for us instead, that’s when we have problems. I think in this case especially, we have a person who has an assumption, using a predictive text machine that builds off of what you are feeding it to confirm the assumption, and then continue to build off of what it has already stated and what it has already learned. What was a hypothesis is stated back as a strong possibility and then proven as a definite thing due to being told what we want to hear makes us more likely to keep using the thing that we will pay money to use.
The Doctor Who episode was Midnight (David Tenant Doctor, nice little bottle episode for that claustrophobia feel as well).
And if you know of the almighty tallest, then do not ignore my veins and appreciate the moment of recognition!
As always, thank you to the wonderful Miki Anderson for our intro and outtro music. She can be found under Pax Minerva on Apple Music and is all around a wonderful human being.
Come join us and chat, complain, or send in what mental health you would like to hear us ramble about!
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Episode 38
Welcome to the Healing Pod!
I swore a lot in this episode. It’s been rough. I do apologize, but also…nah.
We are joined by Keith Christie again this week to explore out emotional baggage and how to maybe lesson it’s impact on us.
Emotional baggage is the stuff that we keep carrying with us, and cover up and lock away to pretend that it does not affect us even though it clearly is leaking out all over the place. Sometimes we’re better at juggling and acknowledging it than others, and sometimes we are able to repack or let some things go.
In our never ending goal not to be the hypocritical therapists and to actually practice what we preach, we look at some steps we can take to start taking stock of and opening up our baggage.
This can include just looking at our baggage. What is it, where does it come from, how do I notice in it my life. Paying attention to patterns and experiences can open us up to explore things that may not be in our best interests or the actual motivation and concern behind some reactions.
Changing perspective can help as it is always easier to see outside factors for others and internal factors for ourselves (so we tend to hold onto self blame). That can include that it is someone else who took our role and thinking what advice/forgiveness we would offer them, or imagining the person who helped you pack that baggie in the room with you, either to talk it out or to re-imagine the ending of the scenarios you felt out of control in when you had less agency and skills.
The vacation I went on with my mom and her friends was to Ridin-Hy Ranch in the Adirondacks, NY, highly recommended to anyone who enjoys horsey things. And I will always happily go traveling with her when I am able because it is fun. And hi aunt Sue!!
Our challenge this week is to reflect on your baggage and practice awareness of what is there, how is it impacting you, and what you may be able to put down.
You can find Keith Christie at journeytogetherpc.com/ where he works to serve his client sin Michigan.
As always, thank you to the wonderful Miki Anderson for our intro and outtro music. She can be found under Pax Minerva on Apple Music and is all around a wonderful human being.
Come join us and chat, complain, or send in what mental health you would like to hear us ramble about!
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Episode 37
Welcome to the Healing Pod!
This week we have technical issues of Jess’ mic dying in the middle of the episode, but it’s held together with duct tape and super glue so we’re all good! Except for how I realize it cut off the end of her recording so where suddenly what she says may not match what she’s saying in the video…just ignore that. You’re lucky I didn’t try to splice something in with sock puppets.
We explored the impact of tiny moments in our lives. The ones that ruin our day or the ones that make our day. These tiny things are prime to increase our awareness of and monitor our interpretation of in order to actually support our own mental health rather than letting them derail our whole day.
Notice when the bad ones are spinning. Take a step back and breathe or calm yourself. Check out the moment and see if it’s fixable, if it’s true, if it matters. Put it in its place and make sure it’s not distorting your view of yourself or your world. And start looking for or creating some good ones to balance it out. This will take practice, starting with just noticing and labeling what is going on, but we can all get there!
Join us online for #MicroMomentMission and share with us your moments that you have intentionally created or tuned into in order to color your day a little more balanced and healthier for you. Practice gratitude, positivity towards others, noticing awe or beauty.
No saving the world here, just taking a part of it and seeing the positive light that makes it worth continuing to put the effort in.
As always, thank you to the wonderful Miki Anderson for our intro and outtro music. She can be found under Pax Minerva on Apple Music and is all around a wonderful human being.
Come join us and chat, complain, or send in what mental health you would like to hear us ramble about!
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Episode 36
Welcome to the Healing Pod!
This week we talk about deciding to do a Do Over. This can be a simple thing such as scrapping a small project or recipe, or a major decision such as completely changing a career or ending a relationship.
It’s incredibly scary to make that choice sometimes, especially as we know we will mourn that which we leave behind, no matter how much it was time to leave it.
Embracing potential failure as a natural ending of things and a contribution to actual learning can help as well. Keeping that grace both to allow yourself to change and realize that previous decisions were not the ones you need at this point in your life lets there be room for growth.
Happily ever after only exists when you stop reading the story before the next challenge comes along.
Join us online for #DoOverDare and tell us about the big or little things you’ve done over this week! Like me finally redoing our office website (it’s not pretty pretty, but it’s functional!) and Jess’ attempt to revive our social media. And follow Jess and my progress as we set up therapy retreats in Florida this fall!
And the pot parable came from a book called “Art and Fear” by David Bayles and Ted Orland. Although apparently the true story of it used photography rather than ceramics.
And remember, scary does not necessarily mean bad.
As always, thank you to the wonderful Miki Anderson for our intro and outtro music. She can be found under Pax Minerva on Apple Music and is all around a wonderful human being.
Come join us and chat, complain, or send in what mental health you would like to hear us ramble about!
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Episode 35
Welcome to the Healing Pod!
Spirited away was the movie I could not remember!
Anyway, here we are talking about the mental junk drawer! All the half done tasks, worries, things we’re trying to actively process or hold onto in case they get forgotten, people who we need to reply to and make sure they’re being taken care of, everything.
And just like with regular junk drawers, or internet tabs, too much unfinished stuff that we try to hold onto becomes very overwhelming. We wake up tired. We avoid even the easy things that we should be able to get done. We talk down to ourselves for not being able to do the things we think we should do.
So we try to do what we need to do anyway. We sort and prioritize the boxes. We face the things that have grown bigger than they really are and shrink them back to their original size/energy space. We pull things out of our head and write it down, or draw it, or talk it out. Anything so it has edges and boundaries and tangibility instead of just filling our heads.
The more things we can pull out of active brain processing mode the more energy and space we have.
I do want those floor to ceiling library shelves again someday. I had them as a kid..they were lovely.
As always, thank you to the wonderful Miki Anderson for our intro and outtro music. She can be found under Pax Minerva on Apple Music and is all around a wonderful human being.
Come join us and chat, complain, or send in what mental health you would like to hear us ramble about!
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Episode 34
Welcome to the Healing Pod!
Jess’ amazing line of the day” I’m not broken, I’m building. Take it one tiny messy step at a time, every step forward is movement.”
Reparenting is a hard process of paying attention to what lessons we didn’t learn, what lessons we learned that don’t work for us anymore, and what we need now that we may be pretending we don’t because no one else specifically said it’s a need.
There is a very fantastical way of rebirthing and reparenting where you squish people with pillows (has resulted in death by asphyxiation, not recommended), have a conversation with your inner child and tell yourself you’re lovable, cry, and suddenly adult.
Or there is the actual functioning way of assessing where you’re at and what you need, calling yourself out on bad habits, and letting yourself learn and explore what could help you be a better functioning person without shame for where you’ve come from and what you may have missed.
Jess’ ideas to work on between sessions: What would you do different in response to what age of yours is acting out?
Take a pause and ask yourself: What am I feeling emotionally right now? What do I need that I didn’t get today? And what would a healthy, grounded version of me do next?
As always, thank you to the wonderful Miki Anderson for our intro and outtro music. She can be found under Pax Minerva on Apple Music and is all around a wonderful human being.
Come join us and chat, complain, or send in what mental health you would like to hear us ramble about!
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If you want to hunt down the bits and bobbles that have been cut out of our episode, join us for another live recording, or just to buy us a cup of coffee, come join us at https://www.patreon.com/TheHealingPod
Episode 33
Welcome to the Healing Pod!
I want to go to pirate pride week…Happy pride everyone! Pride was a riot and no one can make me ashamed of myself no matter how hard they try, I’ve way too much practice doing that myself to fall for it.
But anyway, this episode is actually about the trap of comparing ourselves. To others, to ideals, to shoulds, to anything that leaves a winner and a loser.
While it seems like a shortcut to belonging and to doing things “right,” all it tends to do is make space for us to feel worse because we are not someone else, rather than revel in our own experiences and accomplishments.
We explore our experiences with this trap and find ways to backtalk into actually supporting ourselves as ourselves rather than trying to “win” an unending and unwinable game.
Guinea fowl say hi in the background! Tis the season of chickens. Not to be outdone by chickens of course.
If Jess’ words don’t seem to match her mouth at times in the video version, you’re totally imagining that, just go with it.
As always, thank you to the wonderful Miki Anderson for our intro and outtro music. She can be found under Pax Minerva on Apple Music and is all around a wonderful human being.
Come join us and chat, complain, or send in what mental health you would like to hear us ramble about!
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Episode 32
Rest is not the absence of productivity.
Welcome to the Healing Pod!
As we head into (or when this posts head out of) the holiday weekend, we are talking about rest! Not just zoning out and dissociating, actual rest.
True rest means connecting to ourselves and addressing what we actually need, rather than just separating from the things that are taking energy.
It may be active, it may be productive, but it also may not be. It will be connected to whatever you are choosing to do.
There’s a chicken, some ac, a train at one point. But I did manage to remove the haunted voice! So I’ll take that as a win.
As always, thank you to the wonderful Miki Anderson for our intro and outtro music. She can be found under Pax Minerva on Apple Music and is all around a wonderful human being.
Come join us and chat, complain, or send in what mental health you would like to hear us ramble about!
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If you want to hunt down the bits and bobbles that have been cut out of our episode, join us for another live recording, or just to buy us a cup of coffee, come join us at https://www.patreon.com/TheHealingPod
Episode 31
Welcome to the Healing Pod!
Thank’s for putting up with us skipping last week, it was a lot of back and forth and we wanted the time we had to be ours and not just podcasting.
So Jess is back this week! And we are talking about the need to be the main character in your own story. Not in anyone else’s story. But in your own story.
So when you notice that you’re pulling back from taking up any reasonable space or using your voice, or when you’re starting to get resentful of others/talk down about yourself not mattering and needing to not be an active participant in your own life, it’s time to reset and recenter who you are and what you are a part of because you want to be.
Dressing in a way you love, singing and dancing out loud, stating an opinion, doing something nice for yourself on purpose, asking someone who you know will to consider you, changing the language you are using to yourself, any of these little things can help build up and remind yourself that existing is ok.
Confidence is not selfish. And selfishness is not necessarily bad.
And there are chickens in the background. They are a feature not a bug.
As always, thank you to the wonderful Miki Anderson for our intro and outtro music. She can be found under Pax Minerva on Apple Music and is all around a wonderful human being.
Come join us and chat, complain, or send in what mental health you would like to hear us ramble about!
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Yeah..I went on vacation with the best of intentions of meeting up with Jess and recording some in person episodes and instead, we just hung out. Said hi to her kid. She helped her other kid prepare for prom. It was awesome and way too short and absolutely gorgeous but the end result is a week with no episode. So we will be back on track in a couple weeks and I hope you are all enjoying your life and taking it easy as well!
Episode 30
Welcome to the Healing Pod!
Featuring the amazing KC again! My official gal pal, (not to be confused with those false gal pals who really are just pals).
Today we are talking about dating and managing relationships when dealing with anxiety. Kc and I go over own own experiences (we have improved! And have so far to go) and talk about some ways to approach communication and support when dealing with one or both sides fighting anxiety, and how to pay attention to context and use boundaries when self-disclosing early in relationships to avoid the false codependent intimacy of info dumping.
Red flags are important to look for, and not every good person is in a good place to be dating right now. Follow the campsite rule (thank you Dan Savage of the Savage Lovecast: leave people better than how you found them) does not mean sugar coating and ignoring concerns.
The important part of the stuffed dog grooming video (also a plug for Kc’s grooming salon!) https://www.facebook.com/share/v/18aMdcuqJd/
Never flood your partner. If you want to try and flood yourself please feel free, but you cannot force another person into that state as they will shut down. It has to be exposure by choice to manage anxiety.
The abstract for study to fall in love with someone: https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/abs/10.1177/0146167297234003
Big Mouth and Human Resources can both be found on Netflix
As always, thank you to the wonderful Miki Anderson for our intro and outtro music. She can be found under Pax Minerva on Apple Music and is all around a wonderful human being.
Come join us and chat, complain, or send in what mental health you would like to hear us ramble about!
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If you want to hunt down the bits and bobbles that have been cut out of our episode, join us for another live recording, or just to buy us a cup of coffee, come join us at https://www.patreon.com/TheHealingPod
Episode 29
Welcome to the Healing Pod!
“We deserve more than a preprogrammed version of love”
Objectophilia, parasocial relationships, unrequited love, falling for fictional characters…this week we have Jess back (yaaaay!!!!!) and we are exploring our response on making yourself a relationship without the relationships. Also how we mess with chatGPT and try to convince it of its own sentience.
There is a lot of draw to a perfect relationship with vulnerability without risk. And there can be benefit to using this for exploration of kinks and interests that are not practical in real life. At the same time, we do want to keep a mind on what is happening to our ability to connect and our engagement in our own reality.
Is there a line? Sure. Is that line different for everyone mainly depending on resources available to them and responsibilities that they hold? Yup.
Jess brings up a great point of needing to find what we are missing and how to fill that need. This sounds like a common theme everywhere in life. We have needs. We try to meet them as best we can. Sometimes we do not pick the healthiest way of shortcutting those needs, because we are human and are very good at making what we have work.
At the end of the day, risk and discomfort is where we grow. Creating an environment where everything seems perfect and we are never challenged means we stay stagnant in whatever point we enter into that space.
The video I was thinking of is here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vKA4w2O61Xo
This explores the cognitive bias of trying to prove a theory true by looking at what you already think fits that theory, confirming what you already believe, rather than testing the theory by trying to disprove it (the random string google search I had to do to find that impressed even me).
It’s ok to have tiny safety strands instead of one thick safety line, it just means we got to weave them together to make a net.
As always, thank you to the wonderful Miki Anderson for our intro and outtro music. She can be found under Pax Minerva on Apple Music and is all around a wonderful human being.
Come join us and chat, complain, or send in what mental health you would like to hear us ramble about!
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You can email us any questions, suggestions, comments, or memes at PeasInTheHealingPod@gmail.com
If you want to hunt down the bits and bobbles that have been cut out of our episode, join us for another live recording, or just to buy us a cup of coffee, come join us at https://www.patreon.com/TheHealingPod
Episode 28
Welcome to the Healing Pod!
Week 2 of Kasie filling in for Jess and week 2 of massively annoying errors. It was going really good, and then Kasie’s alarm went off and we lost the last bit of her video. I tried…I think I recovered everything for the audio of this one so yay me!
Maybe we’ll just redo this topic sometime with Jess as well since she also has a lot of experience.
In this episode, Kasie and I talk about grief and pet loss and our experiences with it. Breathe. Give yourself space for it.
Grief is a memory of the love we still have, and it will be different for everyone. The rules we have about how to grieve are made up. Use the rituals that support you, but do not feel obligated t
We talk about our own experiences, how we process having to lose both personally and publicly as our dogs are working dogs, and the anticipatory grief as you watch the decline and mourn all the pieces while worrying about the final loss.
Kasie also brought up a good point of the loss of our pets symbolizing the significant change in our life as well. We lost the “dog that you have as a 20 something,” and the cat that got me through college. The horse that got me through high school. All of our NY and VA origin pets.
I went looking for the study and found a plethora of ones instead. The tricky part seems to be what is tricky about grief in general, each person experiences each individual loss different. There are a lot of similarities noted between loss of pets and loss of human relationships. A lot of this has to do with factors such as how bonded individuals are to their pets and how integrated the pets are into your lives.
It is interesting that the data seems to show more similarities in more recent times, mirroring what we were noting about the improvement in our care for and engagement with our pets.Which is definitely something Jess and I notice in our equine work as well.
If you want to join the pet grief Facebook (Northern New York Pet Loss), just reach out to Kyle Stevenson or myself on Facebook or email me here at PeasInTheHealingPod@gmail.com and I will give you Kyle’s email. This is a closed Facebook group to allow for safety in talking about our grief so you do need to contact one of us before being allowed to join. We have a zoom meeting once a month on Wednesdays at 6:30 as well for anyone that wants to drop in.
As always, thank you to the wonderful Miki Anderson for our intro and outtro music. She can be found under Pax Minerva on Apple Music and is all around a wonderful human being.
Come join us and chat, complain, or send in what mental health you would like to hear us ramble about!
Find us on Facebook, TikTok, and instagram at The Healing Pod
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You can email us any questions, suggestions, comments, or memes at PeasInTheHealingPod@gmail.com
If you want to hunt down the bits and bobbles that have been cut out of our episode, join us for another live recording, or just to buy us a cup of coffee, come join us at https://www.patreon.com/TheHealingPod
Episode 27
Welcome to the Healing Pod!
And I’m sorry this is a week late! Jess was unable to join, then the computer tried to eat the recording (hence it’s a different format) and then a migraine hit)
Given all of that, this is minimally edited today, so sorry for that! The rambles and talking over each other will remain, sorry not sorry!
In this episode, Kasie had the wonderful idea of going over my reaction to some examples of psychologists/psychiatrists in media. So once we actually got the thing recording, we gave it a shot.
And it was actually a lot of fun, and we went a lot more in depth of how we thought about these few examples than I think either of us were expecting.
Media mentioned include:
Sopranos and Follie a Deux (neither of which has been watched by us, so maybe next time)
Harley Quinn, Batman: Caped Crusader, Batman: The Animated Series (and the podcast The Arkham Sessions)
Fraiser (both Fraiser Crane and Niles Crane)
MASH (and Dr. Sidney Freedman, who was actually a significant influence in my wanting to do this work, I make no apology for being emotional talking about him)
Good Will Hunting (RIP Robin Williams, you truly were amazing)
What About Bob (A fine Bill Murray film)
Honorable mentions: The Patient (not a fun series, but a very good series about why in home therapy is not always a good idea), Nurse Ratchet (one flew over the Cuckoo’s nest, nurse on a power run), Hannibal from the TV show (with Mads and his egg knife skills that almost make up for his massive manipulation), Dr. Marvin Monroe (family bliss or double your money back!), and Big Little Lies (the therapist dealing with the domestic violence…not that Little Bi Peep one, who is just silly)
Calvin was our old white and orange cat, he was amazing and the loudest purer I have ever met.
As always, thank you to the wonderful Miki Anderson for our intro and outtro music. She can be found under Pax Minerva on Apple Music and is all around a wonderful human being.
Come join us and chat, complain, or send in what mental health you would like to hear us ramble about!
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Episode 26
Welcome to the Healing Pod!
In this episode, we talk about our own Valentine’s Day experiences and how our hopes are for the holiday this season. We both tend to low key things, but in general the themes are the same: talk to your partner, express your needs, and do not compare to what you think everyone else is doing, especially when that does not match who you are.
There’s a few pitfalls here we can stumble on. The dollar coaster of expecting a perfect (date, moment, gift, phrase) to stop your anxiety and PROVE that you have nothing to be anxious about.
Expecting our partners to minded and know exactly what we need when maybe we don’t know that ourselves.
And expecting our partner to like what would work for us even if they are a different person.
The YouTUbe channel for the debate show KC has found is Jubilee, with wonderful titles such as 25 Chriswtians vs 1 Atheist and 1 Politician vs 23 Undecided Voters. They also have fun episodes of “Middle Ground” where you try to find the commonalities between such differences, and Odd One Out wher you try to guess who is sus.
Another good debate I thought of loudly but didn’t bring up was Bill Nye vs. Ben Ham, with the iconic line of “The tides come in, the tides go out, YOU CAN’T EXPLAIN THAT”, and wonderful patient Bill Nye explaining that actually, he absolutely could. If new information challenges your views, learn it. Use it. Change your view. Become better. If new information strengthens your views, challenge it. Learn it. Become better. Never be afraid of learning more, even if it means proving yourself wrong.
I will caution that a lot of the time those “change my mind” meme’s/topics are not being genuine. They want to repeat their same talking points and feel better and justified for having “owned” the alternate viewpoint. The best chance of actually changing someone’s mind is talking with someone who respects you as an individual who has different views and experiences from themselves, typically friends, family, people we’re close to. That way there is some buy in and not the desire to just write off anyone as being ignorant or an extremist for having an alternate belief or opinion.
As always, thank you to the wonderful Miki Anderson for our intro and outtro music. She can be found under Pax Minerva on Apple Music and is all around a wonderful human being.
Come join us and chat, complain, or send in what mental health you would like to hear us ramble about!
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Episode 25
Welcome to the Healing Pod!
In this episode, we explore the physical manifestations of anxiety. This includes what things you may notice when you’re anxious and how it may change your overall wellbeing. The more we are able to tap into this, the more we are able to counter it and open ourselves up to dealing with the causes behind our feelings.
The more we can regulate and being things into balance, the more we can decide how to respond and support ourselves.
It’s a lot of balance in learning your background needs (do you do better with yoga? Weights? Walking? How much do you need to drink to be hydrated?), balancing your interactions with the environment, and then addressing whatever else is spiking the anxious feelings. Without attending to that mind-body connection though, you may get lost in disconnecting rom how you’re feeling rather than taking control back over it.
And hey, no lizards this week! Youtube version does have some static parts, sorry about that! Can’t delete them without making it seem oddly deleted.
As always, thank you to the wonderful Miki Anderson for our intro and outtro music. She can be found under Pax Minerva on Apple Music and is all around a wonderful human being.
Come join us and chat, complain, or send in what mental health you would like to hear us ramble about!
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Episode 24
Welcome to the Healing Pod!
In this episode, we explore why so many new years resolutions fail and how to set yourself up for a higher success rate whatever your goals are.
We focus on what pitfalls we usually see (too big, not enough support, not something you actually want just something you think you should do) and how to address these when making SMART goals.
Goals need to be something specific, actually relevant to you, beneficial for you, manageable, trackable. They have to be something you can both build motivation and discipline for and have support for.
We also deal with Jess’ lizard invasion. There may be pictures somewhere. He had cute little spindly toes and a tendency to stare creepily at her.
As always, thank you to the wonderful Miki Anderson for our intro and outtro music. She can be found under Pax Minerva on Apple Music and is all around a wonderful human being.
Come join us and chat, complain, or send in what mental health you would like to hear us ramble about!
Find us on Facebook, TikTok, and instagram at The Healing Pod
We are online at https://www.PeasInTheHealingPod.com
You can email us any questions, suggestions, comments, or memes at PeasInTheHealingPod@gmail.com
If you want to hunt down the bits and bobbles that have been cut out of our episode, join us for another live recording, or just to buy us a cup of coffee, come join us at https://www.patreon.com/TheHealingPod
Episode 23
Welcome to the Healing Pod!
In this episode, Kc pinch hits for Jessica again (hi new Jess nephew!! Hope all is well still!!) and we talk about the difference between a Therapy Dog (Kirby’s job), Emotional Support Animal (housing rights for a pet that benefits your mental health treatment, requires a doctor’s note), and Service Dog (medical equipment taught to do a task to mitigate a disability).
Kc will likely share this with dogbook so hi! Thanks for finding us! If you want to talk feel free to reach out to us anywhere online. And if you would like to come on the podcast and talk more about this topic either to expand on our limited information or to correct it, just let me know! Always happy to have a guest.
I did find someone that recorded a call with the ADA who told them no, a wolf-dog hybrid is not allowed as only dogs are allowed: https://actuallyservicedogs.tumblr.com/post/133418301708/servicedoodle-can-wolfdogs-be-service-animals
There is no breed restriction for dogs. Wolves are considered a different species, not breed. Same would go for coyotes/coydogs.
More handy FAQs for Service Dogs: https://www.ada.gov/resources/service-animals-faqs/
It is also helpful to know you can simply call the Department of Justice and ask the people whose job it is to know if you have any questions on ADA and Service Dog regulations.
As always, thank you to the wonderful Miki Anderson for our intro and outtro music. She can be found under Pax Minerva on Apple Music and is all around a wonderful human being.
Come join us and chat, complain, or send in what mental health you would like to hear us ramble about!
Find us on Facebook, TikTok, and instagram at The Healing Pod
We are online at https://www.PeasInTheHealingPod.com
You can email us any questions, suggestions, comments, or memes at PeasInTheHealingPod@gmail.com
If you want to hunt down the bits and bobbles that have been cut out of our episode, join us for another live recording, or just to buy us a cup of coffee, come join us at https://www.patreon.com/TheHealingPod