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In this conversation, Justina explores the complexities of desire, acceptance, and the emotional journey of navigating what we want versus what we have.
She emphasizes the importance of slowing down, grieving unmet desires, and recognizing the power in acceptance. Through understanding the stages of grief and the difference between grief and rumination, Justina encourages listeners to focus on what they can control and to embrace their unique journeys.
Takeaways
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00:00Understanding the Desire for Change
01:43The Importance of Slowing Down
03:39Navigating Powerlessness and Acceptance
05:25Grieving vs. Rumination
07:24The Stages of Grief09:12Letting Go of Control
10:30Opening Up to Possibility
12:35Finding Your Unique Path
14:43Embracing the Human Experience17:07The Illusion of Certainty
18:52Choosing Acceptance and Trust
Episode Summary:In this episode, Justina talks about the messy middle—when life feels hard and uncomfortable even as you’re doing “the work.” She explores the illusion that things will feel easier once something outside of us changes—more clients, a better relationship, a new job—and reminds us that ease isn’t the goal; self-trust and consistency are.
Through stories about misaligned clients, business challenges, and the temptation to stay in comfortable misery, Justina unpacks what it means to choose discomfort that leads to growth over comfort that keeps you small. This episode will call you higher: to stop waiting for the right feeling and start doing the thing that aligns with the woman you’re becoming.
KEY MOMENTS:
00:00 – 03:00 | When Life Feels Hard
Justina opens up about the illusion that happiness begins once something external changes — a new job, relationship, or success milestone. She normalizes the duality of life’s ups and downs.
03:00 – 06:30 | The Difference Between Successful and Unsuccessful People
Drawing from Jesse Itzler’s quote, she explores how success isn’t about wanting to do the thing — it’s about doing it anyway.
06:30 – 12:00 | The Trap of Comfortable Misery
She shares a story about taking on a misaligned client for comfort and stability, revealing the hidden payoff of staying in draining situations that feel “safe.”
12:00 – 18:00 | Labels That Keep You Small
How identifying as “the sensitive one,” “the overthinker,” or “the introvert” can become another comfort zone that limits your growth.
18:00 – 24:00 | Redefining Success & Legacy
Reflections on Alex Hormozi’s take on legacy versus change — what it means to build a life and impact you’re proud of now, not someday.
24:00 – 28:00 | The Pursuit of Peace Over Happiness
Why happiness is fleeting but peace — or contentment — is sustainable when you accept both the good and the hard as part of being human.
28:00 – 31:00 | Closing Reflections: Becoming the Woman You’re Proud Of
Justina closes with a powerful reminder to keep taking steps toward your vision — not waiting to “feel like it,” but walking in alignment with your proudest self.
You’ll Learn:
Why hard seasons don’t mean you’re off track
The hidden payoff of staying in misaligned situations
How to recognize when comfort is really fear in disguise
What happens when you stop over-identifying with labels like “highly sensitive” or “overthinker”
How to build a life you’re proud of—even when it’s uncomfortable
Key Quotes:
“Sometimes comfort is staying in the dynamic that’s hurting you—because it’s familiar.”
“Do the thing you don’t feel like doing when it aligns with the life you say you want.”
“Peace isn’t found in everything being good; it’s found in accepting that both good and hard exist.”
“I’m not chasing happiness—I’m walking as the version of me I’m proud of.”
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In this conversation, Justina shares her personal weight loss journey, detailing the lifestyle changes and mindset shifts that helped her lose 30 pounds.
She emphasizes the importance of tracking daily actions rather than just focusing on the scale, the significance of enjoying the process, and the role of emotional awareness in making healthier choices.
Justina also discusses the necessity of self-compassion and resilience in overcoming setbacks and achieving long-term goals.
Takeaways
Chapters
00:00 Justina's Weight Loss Journey
11:27 Mindset and Daily Actions for Success
23:12 Emotional Awareness and Self-Compassion
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KEY PHRASEShow to set healthy boundaries, boundaries for beginners, self respect vs self abandonment, how to stop people pleasing, how to say no without guilt, emotional boundaries in relationships, signs of overfunctioning, how to stop overfunctioning, burnout recovery for women, why do I feel responsible for everyone, how to stop doing too much, high achieving women burnout, how to make aligned choices, following your desires, how to trust your intuition, how to embody authenticity, what to do when you feel stuck, breaking out of black and white thinking, am I asking for too much in relationships, why do I feel unseen in my relationship, how to stop overexplaining yourself, how to stop proving yourself, how to find emotional safety in relationships, how to deal with being misunderstood, mindset shifts for ambitious women, embody your next level self, how to get unstuck in life, how to create a life that feels like home, personal growth for sensitive women, power of self trust.
This episode explores the concept of detachment and how others' behaviors are reflections of their own experiences, not a reflection of you. Justina discusses the importance of understanding personal coding, regulating emotions, and maintaining authenticity in relationships.
detachment, personal coding, emotional regulation, authenticity, relationships
Other people's reactions aren't about you. Your expression may not be accepted. Everyone has unique coding. Regulate emotions to stay authentic. Detachment: others' responses aren't about you. Boundaries maintain personal responsibility. Practice detachment with others' discomfort. Breathing aids emotional regulation. Presence helps manage stress. Empathy without compromising values.
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What is your bounce back rate? Listen for a quick episode that it will encourage you if you’re facing a challenge today.
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Justina discusses the challenges of feeling busy and overwhelmed, emphasizing the importance of multiplying one's capacity. She highlights the concept of over-delivering and stresses that one's job is to lead, not to carry everything alone.
Chapters:
Takeaways:
Join the next monthly embodiment session:https://www.raindropmovement.com/feminine-embodiment-online-weekly-classesJoin the Nervous System Reset Mini-Course: Tools to Confidently Move Through Big Emotions Without Losing Yourself:justina-s-school7.teachable.com/p/nervoussystemreset🔗CONNECT WITH JUSTINA:On Instagram for more insights: https://www.instagram.com/justinabwashington/ ✉️Receive weekly letters of hope: https://justina.myflodesk.com/eb5svn6o52Share your thoughts and experiences with us!⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐Leave a podcast review on Apple https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/good-girl-free-woman-healing-codependency-toxic-relationships/id1541749752 ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐Leave a podcast review on Spotifyhttps://open.spotify.com/show/4Gfn08oYk6rjcJ168fdRoH?si=eb4e0dc584bd4a28Healing from Codependency, people pleasing, emotionally abusive relationships, toxic relationship patterns, love bombing, trauma bonds, and narcissism/narcissistic relationships, Healing from codependency, people pleasing, people pleasing recovery, healing after emotional abuse, healing after narcissistic abuse, highly sensitive women, empaths, boundaries, higher self, self love, healing after trauma and good girl conditioning🚨 DISCLAIMER: The information shared here is for educational and inspirational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional advice. It does not constitute medical, legal, financial, or professional advice. I am not liable for any actions taken based on this content. Please seek guidance from a qualified professional regarding your specific circumstances.
226. Building Self Respect vs Self Abandonment
The three mindset shifts that help me to achieve my goals step out and try new things
You already know what you want. But when fear, pressure, and outside opinions pile up, it’s easy to override your inner voice and stay stuck in misaligned choices. In this episode, I share how we’re conditioned to believe the loudest voice in the room—and how to come back to your own. You’ll learn how to separate projection from intuition, question what you’ve been taught to believe, and build the self-trust you need to make bold, aligned decisions in your work, relationships, and life.
In this empowering episode, we unpack what boundaries really are—beyond the buzzwords. If you're a sensitive, ambitious woman who struggles with saying no, overgiving, or feeling drained, this episode is for you.
You'll learn:
What boundaries actually are (internal vs. external)
How to tell when a boundary is needed
Simple scripts to set them without guilt
Common myths that keep women stuck in burnout
Why boundaries are an act of self-respect, not selfishness
With insights from experts like Dr. Henry Cloud, Terri Cole, Robin Norwood, and more—this episode gives you the clarity and tools to start honoring your time, energy, and peace.
Quote to Remember:
“You teach people how to treat you by what you allow, what you stop, and what you reinforce.” – Dr. Henry Cloud
In this episode, we dive into the power of keeping promises to yourself and the importance of following through on commitments, no matter how small. Justina shares her personal journey of overcoming the fear and resistance to stepping outside her comfort zone and why it’s crucial for building self-worth and confidence. She breaks down how even the smallest actions toward change can lead to big transformations and help you break free from old patterns that no longer serve you.
We also discuss how negative thoughts can keep you stuck, and how to recognize them as mere distractions when you’re on the path to growth. If you’re ready to make bold decisions, set healthy boundaries, and embrace your authentic self, this episode is for you. Tune in for practical tips on moving past self-doubt and taking action toward the life you truly desire.
Timestamps:
0:00 - Intro
1:40 - The struggle of following through on commitments
4:15 - Why we avoid discomfort and stay in our comfort zones
7:05 - The connection between self-worth and keeping promises to yourself
10:30 - The role of negative thinking and how to shift it
13:20 - Taking small steps outside your comfort zone for big growth
16:00 - Embracing discomfort for transformation
18:45 - How to overcome people-pleasing and live authentically
20:30 - Final thoughts & actionable takeaways
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Healing from Codependency, people pleasing, emotionally abusive relationships, toxic relationship patterns, love bombing, trauma bonds, and narcissism/narcissistic relationships
Join the Nervous System Reset Mini Course: Tools to Confidently Move Through Big Emotions Without Losing Yourself:justina-s-school7.teachable.com/p/nervoussystemreset
Follow behind the scenes on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/freewoman.podcast/Leave a podcast review on Apple https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/good-girl-free-woman-healing-codependency-toxic-relationships/id1541749752
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Healing from Codependency, people pleasing, emotionally abusive relationships, toxic relationship patterns, love bombing, and narcissism/narcissistic relationships, Introvert, Empath
Join the Nervous System Reset Mini Course: Tools to Confidently Move Through Big Emotions Without Losing Yourself:justina-s-school7.teachable.com/p/nervoussystemreset
Follow behind the scenes on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/freewoman.podcast/Leave a podcast review on Apple https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/good-girl-free-woman-healing-codependency-toxic-relationships/id1541749752
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Healing from Codependency, people pleasing, emotionally abusive relationships, toxic relationship patterns, love bombing, and narcissism/narcissistic relationships, Introvert, Empath