In this bonus episode of The Kink Compass, I dive into real questions from r/BDSMadvice. Stories of first-time dominance, mismatched expectations, subdrops, communication struggles, and the growing pains of learning power exchange.

I read the posts, share my thoughts, and highlight what each story teaches us about negotiation, aftercare, emotional safety, and staying grounded when kink gets messy or confusing.

Short, direct, and practical. This episode is a reminder that no one has all the answers at the start, and that most “problems” in kink are just opportunities to learn the language of each other a little better.

Except the sceond story. It should come with a huge trigger warning. So now you know!