In this bonus episode of "The Kink Compass," host Chris delves into the essential yet often misunderstood concept of safe words and gestures in kink. Chris explores how these tools are not magical failsafes but vital communication signals that require understanding and respect. The episode emphasizes the importance of safe words and gestures in maintaining consent and safety, highlighting the need for a culture that normalizes their use. Join Chris as they unpack the myths and truths about these critical components of ethical kink practices.
Aftercare is often treated as the soft landing after a scene. A blanket, a drink, a few kind words. But what if aftercare is more than comfort? What if it’s a craft?
In this episode of The Kink Compass, Chris explores aftercare as an intentional practice. One that shapes how intensity settles in the body, how trust proves itself, and how scenes become something you can return to without fear. From physiology and drop, to symbolism, long-term care, and the often-forgotten aftercare needs of Dominants, this episode looks at how thoughtful aftercare turns powerful play into something whole.
Because it’s not just how a scene begins that matters it is also how you help each other come back.
Stepping into kink isn’t just about learning new activities. It is about entering a new culture.
In this bonus episode of The Kink Compass, Chris explores what really feels different when moving from vanilla into kink, and why so many misunderstandings happen along the way.
We talk about explicit consent, negotiation as connection, boundaries as erotic information, and the quiet grey areas where assumption replaces clarity. This episode is both a guide for newcomers finding their footing, and a reflection for experienced kinksters on how we welcome, teach, and protect the culture we’re part of.
Whether you’re crossing the threshold for the first time, or holding the door open for someone else, this episode is about making that transition safer, kinder, and more human.
Consent is binary. People are not.
In this bonus episode of The Kink Compass, Chris explores the uncomfortable but necessary reality of grey areas in consent. Not to excuse harm, but to prevent it. Starting from the powerful reminder that subspace is not an alibi, this episode unpacks how consent can quietly fail through assumption, silence, and unspoken pressure, long before anyone thinks a line has been crossed. A thoughtful reflection on communication, power, and responsibility, and why clarity, not smoothness, is the heart of ethical kink.
Rituals aren’t about theatrics. They’re about meaning.
In this episode of The Kink Compass, Chris explores how BDSM rituals create safety, structure, anticipation, and connection. What rituals are, where they come from, and how to ease into using them without pressure or performance.
And if his voice sounds a bit off it's because he has a cold. Sorry about that.
What if kink didn’t belong to a certain kind of body, but to any body that feels, desires, and responds?
In this bonus episode of The Kink Compass, Chris explores body positivity in kink without platitudes or pressure. We talk about illness, disability, age, scars, size, fatigue, pain, shame, and the quiet belief that kink is only for bodies that perform well.
This is a gentle, grounded conversation about adapting kink to the body you actually live in, and not the one you think you’re supposed to have. About care as erotic skill. About listening instead of pushing. And about why kink isn’t an athletic event, but an exchange between nervous systems.
If you’ve ever wondered whether your body is “too much,” “not enough,” or “the wrong kind” for kink, this episode is for you.
Because if you have a body, and you’re kinky…
you already have a kinky body.
What happens when fear decides what desire means?
In the 1980s, the United States became convinced that hidden networks of satanic abusers were everywhere. In schools, daycares, churches, and suburban homes. Lives were destroyed, memories reshaped, and entire subcultures quietly learned that being misunderstood could be enough to ruin you.
In this bonus episode of The Kink Compass, Chris takes a slow, careful walk through the Satanic Panic. What it really was, how it spread, and why its shadow still lingers in unexpected places.
We explore how kink, ritual, power exchange, and privacy became dangerously easy to misread in a culture gripped by hysteria, and how kink communities responded by reshaping consent, ethics, and visibility in ways that still shape modern practice today.
This isn’t a story about Satan.
It’s a story about fear.
About what happens when complexity gets flattened into danger.
And about how a community learned to survive by becoming clearer, louder, and more careful. Without losing its soul.
A historical detour. A cultural autopsy. And a reminder that moral panics never really disappear. They just wait for new names.
In this episode of The Kink Compass, Chris explores shame. Where it comes from, how it lives in the body, how it has shaped kink through history, and how it shows up in our scenes as both wound and spark. From early conditioning and cultural pressure to the psychology of exposure, attachment, and repair, this is a grounded, compassionate look at one of the most powerful emotional currents in kink. We end by turning the lens gently toward ethical, consensual ways people even choose to play with shame. With care, consent, and deep respect for the nervous system.
This is a bonus episode for you, and a palate cleanser for me after having dealt with shame all week. Short, hopefully funny, and even with a point to take with you. It's quick, written and recorded AND editied in under 30 minutes, and probably quite different from what I normally do, but hey. I can't be a professional all the time, right?
When ink holds memory and metal carries weight, impact becomes more than sensation. It becomes conversation. In this bonus episode of The Kink Compass, Chris reflects on how to practice impact on tattooed and pierced bodies with precision, awareness, and respect, where every strike listens as much as it speaks.
Impact is one of the most iconic expressions of kink, but it’s also one of the deepest crafts. In this episode of The Kink Compass, Chris explores impact as more than just striking: as rhythm, conversation, nervous-system negotiation, and trust in motion. We talk about why people are drawn to impact, sensation versus punishment, warm-up and anatomy, rhythm and pacing, cold versus warm implements, physical recovery, skincare, and aftercare. All through the lens of safety, presence, and intention.
This is an episode about learning to listen with your hands, and shaping intensity like music.
Some people seem to think I don't like brats, but I do. When they act ethically and understand that some days I'm too tired for the chase. So in this short bonus episode I discuss ethical bratting, and I hope those of you who are brats agree to my findings.
This episode is short due to real life, but I hope it still holds interest.
Rope doesn’t begin with knots. It begins with presence. In this episode of The Kink Compass, Chris gently guides you into the psychology, safety, and intimacy of rope play. From the simplest single-column tie to the deeper emotional language of restraint, this is an invitation to slow down, tune in, and discover how rope becomes connection long before it becomes technique. Perfect for beginners, and a grounding return for experienced players.
The Single-Column Tie and Double-Column Tie by Gorgone at Shibari Study: https://shibaristudy.com/programs/basic-knots-by-gorgone
If you only want to listen to one episode of this podcast, this is the one for you!
Consent is not a vibe. It’s not silence. It’s not endurance. In this essential bonus episode of The Kink Compass, Chris breaks consent all the way down. Psychologically, ethically, and legally. We explore what real consent is, what it is not, when it can be withdrawn, what must happen when it is, and what the law actually says in Norway, the USA, Canada, and Australia. This is a trauma-informed, no-myths, no-loopholes conversation about power, agency, regret, violation, nervous systems, and responsibility. Not a comfortable episode but a necessary one.
If today’s episode brings up difficult feelings and you need support, you can contact local sexual assault or crisis services in your country. If you’re in the U.S., you can reach RAINN at 800-656-4673. In Canada, you can contact Talk Suicide Canada at 1-833-456-4566, and they can also direct you to sexual violence support in your province. In Norway, DIXI at 22 44 40 50. In the UK, Rape Crisis at 0808 802 9999. In Australia, 1800RESPECT at 1800 737 732. For other countries, international crisis center directories are available at iasp.info or through the RAINN website. If you’re in immediate danger, please contact your local emergency number. I will also add this information in the episode’s blurb so you can find it on the podcast app you’re using.
Are age gaps more common in the kink scene than in the vanilla world? And if so, why? In this bonus episode, Chris explores age gap dynamics through the lenses of power, consent, community, and care. We look at why kink tends to attract cross-generational connections, how explicit power exchange changes the ethical landscape, when age gaps can be deeply healthy, and where they become dangerous. This is not about judgment but about visibility, structure, and the difference between stewardship and control.
This episode dives into something a lot of us experience, but not many people talk about openly: the laughter, the tears, the shaking, the stillness. All the emotional release that can rise during a scene.
Catharsis isn’t drama. It isn’t a mistake. It’s the nervous system finally letting go in a place that feels safe enough to surrender.
In the episode, Chris explores:
What catharsis actually is.
Why intense scenes unlock emotional release
Tears, laughter, trembling, freezing. What they really mean
The Dominant’s role in holding space
The submissive’s responsibility to communicate
How to handle aftercare when emotions run deep
A practical way to invite soft, natural release without forcing it
If emotional release has ever surprised you, or scared you, this episode will help ground it, normalize it, and give you tools to navigate it with confidence and compassion.
Negotiation is important but once the scene starts, the body gets the final vote.
In this episode, Chris explores how to read breath, tension, and movement so you can respond in real time instead of guessing.
You’ll learn how to tell the difference between surrender and discomfort, how to listen beyond words, and how to build scenes that feel safer, deeper, and more connected.
Because good kink isn’t just about what you do but how closely you notice.
In this bonus episode of The Kink Compass, I dive into real questions from r/BDSMadvice. Stories of first-time dominance, mismatched expectations, subdrops, communication struggles, and the growing pains of learning power exchange.
I read the posts, share my thoughts, and highlight what each story teaches us about negotiation, aftercare, emotional safety, and staying grounded when kink gets messy or confusing.
Short, direct, and practical. This episode is a reminder that no one has all the answers at the start, and that most “problems” in kink are just opportunities to learn the language of each other a little better.
Except the sceond story. It should come with a huge trigger warning. So now you know!
Impact play is one of the most recognizable, and most misunderstood, forms of kink. In this episode, Chris slows things down to explore the art behind the sound: Why people love it, how to start safely, and how rhythm, trust, and communication turn a strike into connection instead of chaos. From the first hand spanking to the steady pulse of a flogger, this episode blends psychology, technique, and care and remindis us that impact play isn’t about pain at all. It’s about listening through touch, building trust through rhythm, and finding the quiet power in every shared breath.
Power or exposure? Why not both.
Chris dives into the beautiful, awkward, terrifying current of vulnerability. What it really means for Dominants, submissives, and everyone in between, and how to make it your greatest strength in play and in life.