On The Lose Control Podcast, we explore what happens when we stop clutching for control... and start trusting the pull. Because life doesn’t just ask us to let go—it pulls us under. Into grief. Into love. Into silence. Into seasons that don’t make sense on paper but are perfectly designed to shape our becoming.
Submergence is the paradox: we sink in order to rise.
We dissolve in order to become whole.
The invitation isn’t to drown. It’s to surrender.
To be undone. Unnamed. Unraveled.
Because underneath the surface is where transformation gets real.
It’s dark there. Pressurized. Sacred.
But that’s the birthplace of peace—not the manufactured kind, but the raw, rooted kind. The kind that breathes under weight.
Lose control—not as defeat, but as initiation.
Because what if peace isn’t found in holding it all together…
but in letting yourself fall apart on purpose?
On this show, we don’t glorify drowning. We honor the dive.
We talk about the courage it takes to fall beneath the ego. To be still. To be stripped.
And to rise—not perfect, but honest. Not untouched, but transformed.
If you’re feeling like you’re sinking—good.
Maybe that’s exactly where your freedom begins.
Not above. But beneath.
Where control is surrendered
and the real you gets born.
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On The Lose Control Podcast, we explore what happens when we stop clutching for control... and start trusting the pull. Because life doesn’t just ask us to let go—it pulls us under. Into grief. Into love. Into silence. Into seasons that don’t make sense on paper but are perfectly designed to shape our becoming.
Submergence is the paradox: we sink in order to rise.
We dissolve in order to become whole.
The invitation isn’t to drown. It’s to surrender.
To be undone. Unnamed. Unraveled.
Because underneath the surface is where transformation gets real.
It’s dark there. Pressurized. Sacred.
But that’s the birthplace of peace—not the manufactured kind, but the raw, rooted kind. The kind that breathes under weight.
Lose control—not as defeat, but as initiation.
Because what if peace isn’t found in holding it all together…
but in letting yourself fall apart on purpose?
On this show, we don’t glorify drowning. We honor the dive.
We talk about the courage it takes to fall beneath the ego. To be still. To be stripped.
And to rise—not perfect, but honest. Not untouched, but transformed.
If you’re feeling like you’re sinking—good.
Maybe that’s exactly where your freedom begins.
Not above. But beneath.
Where control is surrendered
and the real you gets born.
Episode 30 PART 3 Special Guest: Ashleigh & Lance Cline "This is the life I prayed for"
The Lose Control Podcast
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1 year ago
Episode 30 PART 3 Special Guest: Ashleigh & Lance Cline "This is the life I prayed for"
Introducing our special guests this week: Ashleigh and Lance Cline – “This is the life I prayed for.”
Ashleigh and Lance's story began in 2019 when they connected through the Any Length Recovery Facebook page. At that time, Ashleigh was just four months out of prison, starting to rebuild her life, while Lance was emerging from his own prison, the trap houses of W. Baltimore. Both were early in their recovery journeys, with Lance seeking convenience rather than a relationship. Ashleigh made it clear she wasn't interested in casual encounters, and they decided to take it slow—a new experience for both. They spent a month talking on the phone, getting to know each other.
Once Ashleigh regained her license, she drove to Sumter to visit Lance, living at a men's recovery home, working full-time, and learning how to navigate life as an honest, responsible person. She drove every chance she got and began to fall in love. Initially, Lance viewed their connection as short-term and superficial. Despite their differences, they found solace, peace, and understanding in each other, creating an unshakeable foundation.
Those weekend visits became a cherished routine. Not long after, Lance experienced a new season of true love. He got a car, and together they maximized their time, traveling back and forth. Trust came naturally despite the distance. The power of a Higher Calm unveiled true love and brought them closer. Ashleigh fell in love with Lance's passion and commitment to recovery—his very essence. Lance fell in love with Ashleigh’s smile, goofy energy, and zeal for life.
On June 18, 2022, Ashleigh and Lance got married. Over the years, these two unlikely personalities have grown immensely together. Their love story is like a fairytale written by the Coen Brothers, transforming from hell to heaven on earth—a metamorphosis from a worm to a beautiful butterfly. They have learned to take responsibility and build their lives side by side, brick by brick. Honest and raw communication has been the cornerstone of their marriage, preventing real trials and tribulations. Navigating life as sober individuals, they continuously help others along the way.
Lance and Ashleigh are best friends and steadfast supporters in all areas of life. They are deeply in love with the concept of family and are committed to being a part of it. They understand the importance of giving advice when needed and practicing reflective listening to truly connect with each other's souls and thoughts. Their journey together is a testament to growth, love, and mutual support.
The Lose Control Podcast
On The Lose Control Podcast, we explore what happens when we stop clutching for control... and start trusting the pull. Because life doesn’t just ask us to let go—it pulls us under. Into grief. Into love. Into silence. Into seasons that don’t make sense on paper but are perfectly designed to shape our becoming.
Submergence is the paradox: we sink in order to rise.
We dissolve in order to become whole.
The invitation isn’t to drown. It’s to surrender.
To be undone. Unnamed. Unraveled.
Because underneath the surface is where transformation gets real.
It’s dark there. Pressurized. Sacred.
But that’s the birthplace of peace—not the manufactured kind, but the raw, rooted kind. The kind that breathes under weight.
Lose control—not as defeat, but as initiation.
Because what if peace isn’t found in holding it all together…
but in letting yourself fall apart on purpose?
On this show, we don’t glorify drowning. We honor the dive.
We talk about the courage it takes to fall beneath the ego. To be still. To be stripped.
And to rise—not perfect, but honest. Not untouched, but transformed.
If you’re feeling like you’re sinking—good.
Maybe that’s exactly where your freedom begins.
Not above. But beneath.
Where control is surrendered
and the real you gets born.
