If you’ve tried to “work on yourself” as a husband, to transform from weak to confident, and it still hasn’t stuck… and your wife still doesn't desire you...this one’s for you.
You build new habits for a week or two, white-knuckle your way through being “more patient,” “more spiritual,” “more romantic”… and then your wife’s look tells you the truth: nothing really changed. The shame hits. You try harder. It fails again.
That cycle is PAINFUL— and it is not how the Kingdom works.
In this episode I’m unpacking why self-improvement keeps Christian men stuck and how the Holy Spirit actually transforms you from the inside out — from “weak, ashamed, spinning your wheels” into a man who walks in quiet confidence, masculine presence, and supernatural power. Not a man obsessed with avoiding sin… a Word-made man who embodies the promises of God.
In this episode we cover:
Why the version of faith you inherited feels disappointing and powerless
The brutal problem with “Christian change methods” (just pray, read, avoid sin…)
The difference between behavior modification and identity overhaul
How shame slowly poisons your transformation attempts
What it means to become a “word made man” instead of a rule-keeper
How the Holy Spirit convicts you into hope, not condemnation
The simple Kingdom way to renew your mind and tap real dynamite power
How this inner transformation turns you into a confident, attractive husband
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