If you’ve ever been told to “serve her more… sacrifice harder… be the good Christian man” — and yet your wife somehow got colder, less responsive, and less attracted — this episode is going to feel like a divine ambush.
Because the truth is brutal:
Most Christian husbands are following a model of masculinity God never designed for them. A model that strips you of desire, identity, and confidence… and turns you into a hovering, panting puppy dog instead of a grounded, fire-filled man of the Kingdom.
Today I’m exposing the Nice Guy Lie — the hidden teaching in church culture that unintentionally kills masculine polarity. We’re talking resurrecting your God-given desire, reclaiming your worth, breaking free from people-pleasing, and stepping into the strength that awakens your wife’s attraction again.
This episode is not soft. It’s not “churchy.”
It’s battle-tested truth from the trenches of my own marriage.
You don’t have to keep living small. You were made for fire, for desire, for authority — and your marriage is begging for that version of you to show up.
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CHAPTERS:
00:00 The Nice Guy Lie: A Christian Perspective
05:30 The Impact of Sacrifice on Relationships
10:31 Resurrecting Your Desires
15:02 Navigating Relationships with Confidence
20:09 Resources for Transformation
If the atmosphere in your home feels heavy, cold, disconnected, or spiritually attacked — today’s teaching is your turning point.
Most Christian husbands were taught to pray as beggars, not sons. To hope instead of command. To plead instead of decree. To wait on God’s will instead of standing in the authority Jesus already handed them.
But Jesus didn’t tell you to beg the mountain.
He told you to speak to it.
In this episode, I walk you step-by-step through breakthrough praying — the kind that actually moves in the real world. The kind that pushes back darkness, restores connection, ignites atmosphere, and awakens the king inside you. This is the shift from victim-prayer to kingdom-prayer.
When you start praying with authority… your wife feels it. Your home feels it. You feel it.
And if you’re ready to go deeper than prayer — into becoming a man your wife is drawn to again — the free training below is where we start.
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If you’ve tried to “work on yourself” as a husband, to transform from weak to confident, and it still hasn’t stuck… and your wife still doesn't desire you...this one’s for you.
You build new habits for a week or two, white-knuckle your way through being “more patient,” “more spiritual,” “more romantic”… and then your wife’s look tells you the truth: nothing really changed. The shame hits. You try harder. It fails again.
That cycle is PAINFUL— and it is not how the Kingdom works.
In this episode I’m unpacking why self-improvement keeps Christian men stuck and how the Holy Spirit actually transforms you from the inside out — from “weak, ashamed, spinning your wheels” into a man who walks in quiet confidence, masculine presence, and supernatural power. Not a man obsessed with avoiding sin… a Word-made man who embodies the promises of God.
In this episode we cover:
Why the version of faith you inherited feels disappointing and powerless
The brutal problem with “Christian change methods” (just pray, read, avoid sin…)
The difference between behavior modification and identity overhaul
How shame slowly poisons your transformation attempts
What it means to become a “word made man” instead of a rule-keeper
How the Holy Spirit convicts you into hope, not condemnation
The simple Kingdom way to renew your mind and tap real dynamite power
How this inner transformation turns you into a confident, attractive husband
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If you’re ready to move fast — identity, confidence, communication, attraction, even hearing God and seeing miracles in your everyday life:
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Too many Christian husbands have been discipled into hovering puppy dogs instead of dangerous, mission-driven men of God. We’ve been told “love your wife, be nice, serve more, be patient”… but nobody showed us EXACTLY how Adam lost his wife’s respect or how Song of Solomon shows a wife who can’t keep her hands off her man.
In this episode, we go deep into Genesis 2–3 and Song of Solomon to expose how Adam laid down his mission, orbitted his wife like a desperate puppy, and opened the door to the serpent. Then we contrast that with a king on mission whose bride says, “Draw me after you—let us run.” If you’ve felt like a different man at work than you are at home… if your wife feels cold, critical, or distant… this is going to punch you in the chest in the best way.
We’ll talk about how to stop obsessively hovering around your wife, reclaim your God-given mission, rebuild her respect, and invite her back into your chambers as a confident, grounded, masculine husband. Not by getting louder or harsher—but by becoming a man who is validated by God, rooted in identity, and willing to set boundaries and lead.
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You don’t have to stay stuck in a cold, resentful, sexless marriage. Heaven calls you more than a conqueror. Start acting like it.
Chapters
00:00 The Foundation of Marital Bliss
05:17 Identifying the Hovering Puppy Dog Husband
17:57 Restoring Respect and Attraction
25:19 Taking Action for a Thriving Marriage
In this episode of the Man Warrior King podcast, host Matt Hallock explores how the desire to please God can accidentally lead to passivity in marriage. He emphasizes the importance of taking action and partnering with God rather than constantly waiting FOR God. Through biblical examples, particularly the story of Jonathan, Matt encourages men to take initiative in their marriages and lives. He also discusses practical steps for change and highlights resources available for men seeking transformation.
Takeaways
Your desire to please God can lead to inaction.
Passivity in marriage can lead to deterioration.
Women are attracted to men who take action.
God desires partnership with us in our actions.
Moses was rebuked for inaction; God wants us to move forward.
Jonathan took initiative without direct revelation from God.
Taking action can initiate God's miraculous work.
You have a green light to act until told otherwise.
Transformation can feel effortless with the right mindset.
Resources like the Masculine Husband program can facilitate change.
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Chapters
00:00 The Desire to Please God: A Double-Edged Sword
07:25 Partnership with God: Action vs. Inaction
12:56 Taking Initiative: The Story of Jonathan
18:50 Practical Steps for Marital Improvement
25:07 Transformative Change: The Masculine Husband Program
27:27 Outro exported.mp3
Summary
In this episode, Matt Hallock discusses the detrimental effects of 'niceness' in marriage, contrasting it with the concept of 'kingdom masculinity.' He argues that niceness often stems from co-dependence and a lack of self-identity, leading to unhealthy dynamics in relationships. Instead, he advocates for a more assertive and confident approach to masculinity that fosters genuine kindness and respect. Matt provides actionable steps for men to transform their behavior and communication in their marriages, emphasizing the importance of self-worth and healthy boundaries.
Takeaways
Jesus wasn't nice; he was dangerous, challenging norms.
Niceness can lead to co-dependence in relationships.
Kindness is rooted in strength, while niceness stems from weakness.
Healthy masculinity involves setting boundaries and standards.
Christian marriage advice often promotes niceness over honesty.
Men should not shy away from confrontation in marriage.
The spirit of niceness can diminish attraction and passion.
Action steps include repenting and initiating change.
Men should advocate for their desires in relationships.
Transformation requires inside-out change, not just behavior modification.
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In this episode, Matt and Chris explore the concept of the 'adventure gene' and its implications for leadership, personal growth, and faith. They discuss the inherent human desire for adventure, the science behind risk-taking, and how biblical figures exemplify the call to adventure. The conversation also touches on the importance of healthy addictions, motivation in helping others, and the upcoming adventure that Chris is embarking on, aiming to inspire listeners to embrace their own adventures in life.
Contact Chris: chris@go-northbound.com
Find his Podcast, Heat & Light, on Spotify
If you haven't yet, be sure to grab the book, The DNA of a Man.
CHAPTERS
00:00 The Adventure Gene: An Introduction
04:35 Exploring the Passion for Adventure
07:35 The Science Behind Adventure and Risk
10:45 Adventure as a Path to Fulfillment
13:43 The Role of Risk in Life and Faith
16:44 Healthy Addictions and Their Impact
19:43 Finding Joy in Adventure and Service
22:25 The Call to Adventure in Scripture
25:41 God's Invitation to Take Risks
28:37 Navigating the Challenges of Following God
31:38 The Balance of Healthy Addictions
34:52 The Importance of Motivation in Service
41:09 Transforming Fear into Love in Healing
42:43 Motivation Behind Miracles: The Story of Simon
44:59 Authenticity in Spiritual Practices
45:55 The Complexity of Creation: DNA and Evolution
50:56 The Racism and Sexism in Evolutionary Theory
53:16 The Adventure of Seeking Truth
59:24 Preparing for the Pacific Crest Trail Adventure
In this episode of the Man Warrior King podcast, host Matt Hallock and guest Chris Miser discuss the critical importance of truth in parenting, particularly in the face of societal lies that affect children. They explore the impact of social media, the dangers of self-belief, and the misconceptions surrounding love. The conversation emphasizes the role of fathers in guiding their children and the necessity of speaking truth to combat the lies prevalent in today's culture.
Contact Chris: chris@go-northbound.com
Find his Podcast, Heat & Light, on Spotify
If you haven't yet, be sure to grab the book, The DNA of a Man.
CHAPTERS
03:51 The Importance of Truth for Children
11:13 The Lies of Social Media and Its Impact
23:29 The Effects of Visual Media on Children
28:52 Exploring Unconscious Behaviors and Their Roots
30:48 The Impact of Media on Behavior
32:09 The Dark Side of Pornography
34:21 The Influence of Music and Culture
37:48 Choosing What to Feed Our Minds
39:05 The Controversy of 'Love is Love'
41:53 Defining True Love
44:12 The Role of Parents in Guiding Children
46:20 The Consequences of Poor Leadership
50:46 Loving Others While Upholding Truth
59:37 Understanding God's Love
01:00:59 The Dangers of Self-Belief
01:03:31 The Balance of Confidence and Humility
01:05:47 Building Identity Through God's Perspective
01:13:43 The Impact of Lies on Mental Health
01:17:21 Speaking Truth as Oxygen
01:20:09 Encouragement and Support in Parenting
In this episode, Christopher Miser and Matt Hallock discuss the concept of 'Do Not Go Gentle,' emphasizing the importance of fighting against darkness and evil. They explore the significance of DNA in understanding our identity and purpose, the call to leadership and warrior spirit in men, and the dangers of passive Christianity. The conversation also delves into spiritual warfare, the importance of hope in the present, and the inspiring story of Desmond Doss as a model of courage and hope. Ultimately, they stress the responsibility of Christians to take charge of their world and make a positive impact.
Contact Chris: chris@go-northbound.com
Find his Podcast, Heat & Light, on Spotify
If you haven't yet, be sure to grab the book, The DNA of a Man.
CHAPTERS
00:00 Introduction to the Concept of 'Do Not Go Gentle'
04:36 The Significance of DNA and God's Design
07:37 Fighting Against Darkness and Evil
10:25 Understanding Passive Behavior in Men
13:36 The Role of Spiritual Warfare in Daily Life
16:39 Practical Steps to Combat Evil
19:37 The Nature of Demons and Spiritual Resistance
22:35 The Importance of Vigilance in Spiritual Warfare
26:30 The Power of Anger in Faith
28:56 Hope in the Present vs. Future
32:32 Desmond Doss: A Model of Faith in Action
36:13 Taking Responsibility for Our World
40:32 Looking Ahead: Future Endeavors and Projects
44:10 Outro exported.mp3
In this episode of the Man Warrior King podcast, host Matt Hallock and guest Chris Miser discuss the importance of breaking free from the status quo in various aspects of life, including marriage, faith, and leadership. They emphasize the need for boldness in faith, the role of fear in holding individuals back, and the significance of partnership in purpose within marriage. The conversation also touches on the reality of spiritual warfare and the encouragement to seek God and make new choices, regardless of past failures.
Contact Chris: chris@go-northbound.com
Find his Podcast, Heat & Light, on Spotify
If you haven't yet, be sure to grab the book, The DNA of a Man.
CHAPTERS
00:00 Introduction to Man Warrior King Podcast
04:57 Cutting the Chains of the Status Quo
14:26 Breaking Free from Guilt and Disqualification
20:18 Embracing God's Promises and Blessings
23:23 Extreme Examples of Standing Up for Truth
30:49 The Christian Response to Prevailing Mentalities
33:00 Family Dynamics and Christ-Centered Relationships
34:07 Breaking the Status Quo in Marriage
37:02 The Power Couple: A Divine Adventure
40:53 God's Call to Break Out of the Status Quo
44:08 Courage in Leadership and the Workplace
48:26 The Reality of Spiritual Warfare
51:19 The Importance of Boldness in Faith
57:34 Outro exported.mp3
In this episode of the Man Warrior King podcast, host Matt Hallock and guest Chris Miser delve into the concept of the 'Good Samaritan Husband.' They explore biblical principles of leadership, the importance of loving God first, and how to avoid idolatry in marriage. The conversation emphasizes the need for compassion, understanding, and the transformative power of God in leading a healthy marriage. Practical steps are provided for husbands to see and meet their wives' needs, highlighting the significance of spiritual growth and emotional health in relationships.
Contact Chris: chris@go-northbound.com
Find his Podcast, Heat & Light, on Spotify
If you haven't yet, be sure to grab the book, The DNA of a Man.
CHAPTERS:
00:00 Introduction to Chris Miser's Journey
01:02 The Impact of 9/11 on Chris's Life
05:14 Life in the Air Force and Family Dynamics
06:56 Transitioning from Military to Civilian Life
08:52 Spiritual Awakening on the Pacific Crest Trail
12:39 Personal Growth and Changes Over Five Years
21:11 The Role of Repentance in Spiritual Connection
25:16 Transformational Leadership and Future Plans
27:15 Transformational Leadership and God's Plans
30:03 Northbound Solutions: Bridging Professionalism and Faith
34:54 Christ-Centered Leadership and Human Capital Development
40:51 Heaven on Earth: The Role of the Church
46:54 Building God's Church Together
In this episode of the Man Warrior King podcast, host Matt Hallock interviews Chris Miser, a retired Air Force veteran who shares his journey of transformation and encountering God on the Pacific Crest Trail. Chris discusses the impact of 9/11 on his decision to join the military, and how God was laying a foundation for him over the course of his 20 years in the Air Force. He reflects on a pivotal moment during a hike on the Pacific Crest Trail that led to a deeper connection with God than he'd ever had and a new revelation of how he needs to begin integrating his walk with God into all aspects of life. Chris emphasizes the significance of living a repentant life, self-care for leaders, and the call to transformational leadership through his new venture, Northbound Solutions. The conversation also touches on the role of the church in society and the urgency of mobilizing for change and revival.
Contact Chris: chris@go-northbound.com
Find his Podcast, Heat & Light, on Spotify
If you haven't yet, be sure to grab the book, The DNA of a Man.
Be sure to register for Matt's upcoming FREE live webinar:
Chapters
00:00 Introduction to Chris Miser's Journey
01:02 The Impact of 9/11 on Chris's Life
05:14 Life in the Air Force and Family Dynamics
06:56 Transitioning from Military to Civilian Life
08:52 Spiritual Awakening on the Pacific Crest Trail
12:39 Personal Growth and Changes Over Five Years
21:11 The Role of Repentance in Spiritual Connection
25:16 Transformational Leadership and Future Plans
27:15 Transformational Leadership and God's Plans
30:03 Northbound Solutions: Bridging Professionalism and Faith
34:54 Christ-Centered Leadership and Human Capital Development
40:51 Heaven on Earth: The Role of the Church
46:54 Building God's Church Together
In this episode of the Man Warrior King podcast, Matt Hallock discusses the pervasive issue of negativity within Christian communities and how it can hinder personal growth and societal progress. He reflects on Inauguration Day, emphasizing the importance of a positive mindset and the need to break free from pessimistic theological beliefs. Hallock argues for a redefinition of peace and prosperity in the Christian faith, urging listeners to embrace a more hopeful perspective on life and the future. He concludes with a call to recognize the potential for positive change in society, likening it to the fall of Babylon and the dawn of a new era.
If you haven't yet, be sure to grab the book, The DNA of a Man.
And jump in to the FREE marriage training, The Marriage Reset Accelerator
Chapters
00:00 Breaking the Chains of Negativity
14:13 Celebrating Victories and Exposing Evil
22:33 Understanding True Peace and Prosperity
30:25 The Fall of Babylon and a New Dawn
In this episode, Matt Hallock discusses the profound impact of one's faith and self-perception on marriage. He emphasizes that viewing oneself through a lens of lack can lead to negative outcomes in relationships. Instead, he encourages listeners to recognize their completeness in Christ and to approach their faith and marriages with gratitude and empowerment. The conversation also touches on practical steps for improving marital relationships and fostering desire between partners.
If you haven't yet, be sure to grab the book, The DNA of a Man.
And jump in to the FREE marriage training, The Marriage Reset Accelerator
Chapters
00:00 The Influence of Faith on Marriage
04:40 The Pursuit of Holiness and Its Implications
07:37 Self-Perception and Its Impact on Relationships
09:15 Understanding Self-Worth in Relationships
14:26 The Paradox of Self-Confidence and Humility
17:15 Rethinking Our Approach to God
21:48 Embracing Abundance in Faith
24:45 Practical Steps for Marital Renewal
In this episode of the Man Warrior King podcast, Matt Hallock discusses the importance of communication in marriage and the transition from being a 'nice guy' to a 'warrior husband.' He shares personal experiences and challenges faced in his marriage, emphasizing the need for inner abundance and joy to foster better communication and attraction in relationships. The episode concludes with practical daily practices to cultivate a positive mindset and emotional wealth.
If you haven't yet, be sure to grab The DNA of a Man.
And jump in to the FREE marriage training, The Marriage Reset Accelerator
Chapters
00:00 Introduction to the Marriage Reset Accelerator
03:04 From Nice Guy to Warrior Husband
04:44 Overcoming Communication Challenges in Marriage
08:58 Daily Practices for Inner Joy and Abundance
In this episode of the Man Warrior King podcast, host Matt Hallock discusses the importance of understanding healing through faith and the authority believers have in prayer. He shares his personal journey with autoimmune disease and how his beliefs about healing have evolved. Essentially, sickness is not part of God's plan for believers. Matt encourages listeners to rest in their righteousness and health, independent of their current circumstances. The conversation explores the power of prayer, the significance of belief systems, and the journey towards self-healing.
If you haven't yet, be sure to grab The DNA of a Man.
And jump in to the FREE marriage training, The Marriage Reset Accelerator
Chapters
00:00 Introduction to the Man Warrior King Movement
04:04 The Journey of Healing and Faith
11:51 Understanding Healing Through Scripture
20:56 The Power of Righteousness in Healing
27:22 Self-Healing and Resting in Righteousness
In this episode of the Man Warrior King podcast, Matt Hallock addresses the pervasive issues of shame and disqualification in modern church culture. He emphasizes that the gospel is not about freedom from sinning but rather freedom from the entire realm and package of sin, including its punishment and consequences. We've got to understand that righteousness is not a reward for good behavior, but a gift received ONLY through faith in Jesus....not faith in your performance. It's time to let go of shame and guilt. True transformation comes from recognizing one's identity in Christ and the finished work of the cross.
If you haven't yet, be sure to grab The DNA of a Man.
Chapters
00:00 Introduction to Shame and Disqualification
11:29 Righteousness and Performance
16:50 Faith and Identity in Christ
21:28 Conclusion and Call to Action
In this episode of the Man Warrior King podcast, host Matt Hallock interviews Praying Medic, who shares his transformative journey from atheism to becoming a Christian and walking in the Holy Spirit's power, praying for the sick to be healed. He discusses the challenges he faced in his early healing ministry, the importance of authority and faith, and how identity plays a crucial role in operating in the supernatural. IUf you want to grow in power and authority, you MUST get out and get PRACTICAL experience in healing. You must encounter the fullness of God's love for YOU and others. And you've got to begin to grasp your God-given identity.
If you haven't yet, be sure to grab The DNA of a Man.
Chapters
00:00 Introduction to Praying Medic
03:16 From Atheism to Faith: A Personal Journey
06:11 The Challenge of Healing: A New Perspective
11:42 The Power of Commanding Healing
16:17 Understanding Authority in Healing
20:28 Overcoming Doubt and Fear in Healing
22:57 The Importance of Faith and Experience
27:06 Practicing Healing on Minor Conditions
28:25 Introduction to Supernatural Healing
29:48 Building Faith Through Small Healings
33:22 The Importance of Joint Injuries in Healing
36:17 Identity and Authority in Healing
39:34 Understanding God's Kingdom vs. Church Mentality
42:22 The Power of Identity in Manifesting Destiny
45:06 Asking God for a Revelation of His Love
48:09 Living in Authority and Purpose
51:48 Connecting with Praying Medic
In this episode of the Man Warrior King podcast, Matt Hallock shares his personal journey of transformation as he seeks significant change in his life, particularly in the areas of health, finances, and relationships. He reflects on his struggles with autoimmune disease, financial instability, and the impact of negative beliefs on his self-worth. Throughout the conversation, Matt emphasizes the importance of faith, the power of positive narratives, and the need to align one's beliefs with God's promises to achieve lasting change.
If you haven't yet, be sure to grab The DNA of a Man.
Chapters
00:00 Introduction to Personal Transformation
10:55 Faith and Healing Journey
22:39 The Battle of Negative Narratives
30:52 Keys to Life Change and Conclusion
31:54 Outro exported.mp3
In this episode, Matt takes you behind the curtain of the DNA of a man. He shows men the importance of their discovering their God-given identity, and how crucial it is in rebuilding a marraige. He also guides the discussion toward available marriage help, and the reasons why "secular" sources of wisdom often have more Kingdom-like teachings than even the church does when it comes to marriage.
If you want a fiery marriage, you'll want to listen in.
If you haven't yet, be sure to grab The DNA of a Man.
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