🧠 “I said the right thing — so why did it still go wrong?”

Sometimes you do everything “right.” You’re clear. You’re calm. You use the skill.

And the conversation still goes off the rails.

This episode dives into two core DBT tools — DEAR MAN and GIVE — and dissects what they really look like in real relationships. Not just in theory, but through raw, personal stories and scene-by-scene analysis of emotional breakdowns in film.

We go deep into:

• The devastating café scene from Beautiful Boy — and how it shows a DEAR MAN collapse

• GIVE failures in The Break-Up — where both characters lose the connection, the objective, and their self-respect

• Real-life examples from a running group confrontation and a co-working space standoff

• Why even “perfect” communication can backfire if it’s ungrounded, mistimed, or driven by fear

This isn’t about technique. It’s about survival, honesty, and learning how to walk out of a conversation without abandoning yourself.

🎧 Bring your overthinking brain and a pen. And maybe tissues. This one hits close to home.