If why you do what you do is too strongly focused on the ideal outcome, weight loss, obedient children, a new home ... then you're missing the best part and will likely feel like a failure in the process.

This episode teaches you to put your attention on who you're becoming in the process of pursuing goals and dreams.

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In this episode, I take you behind the scenes of my actual morning. There's mess, noise, interruptions and all. I'm sharing how I protect the dreams in my heart while meeting the very real needs of my family. Enjoy this raw and honest conversation about the choices I make to anchor my day in joy through it all.

If you’ve ever wondered how to hold onto your vision while serving your home, or how to stay emotionally present without losing yourself in the demands of motherhood—this episode is for you.

Come take a peak at my sacred mess and let it spark gratitude for your own.

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This episode is taking you through the foundation of your identity in these moments and to be mindful of the "IF" that limits you in the hard moments.

Your entire internal atmosphere changes when you move like God is watching you. Suddenly there's peace and surrender in the places you wrestled with perfection, people pleasing and approval of others.

Imagine you're in the room with your close family and friends and "everyone else's" kids were playing, using manners and doing the "right" behavior for the room. Then you hear your child screaming, pushing a cousin over and saying "no" to grandma. Oh, boy... what happens IN YOU next?

Well, that depends on what your focus is on.

"What does Jesus think of how I handle this?"

"What does (friend, family, stranger) think of how I handle this?"

With a mind set on Jesus you experience peace and a guided hand to help you through.

With a mind set on man you experience pressure- perfect, perform and please.

Which do you want and which do you have? Let's make forward progress here, together.

I used to see "God-fearing" often referenced, especially in 2020 during heightened fear and stress in the world, and I'd wonder "why would you want to believe in a God you feel afraid of?"

Little did I know, that's a beautiful thing. Years later I'm here to share why "God-fearing" is a power word for me and what you can do to rise above the focus of man and the fears of the world.

The Alignment Journaling Course is having a black Friday sale and it's the only time it has been discounted this year! Save $20 off the course and check out our NEEEEW (incredible) Daily Prompt Vault that is full of follow along video journaling sessions with me, 2 min inspiration and of course, written prompts and examples. This ends soon so come save a little money and an enormous amount of time you would have spent feeling negative.

Teaching regulation to my children feels incredibly difficult at times. It challenges me, stretches my patience and requires more attention than I knew I had to give.

AND, seeing them take deep breaths when they feel upset, guide their brother to breathe and start doing 20 burpees without me even asking- IS WELL WORTH IT.

Today I'm sharing what has worked exceptionally well in my home with high energy big feeling boys, which is BURPEES.

I'm breaking down why I diligently emphasize regulation, what we do and how you can incorporate a plan like this, too.

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There are times in life we hear one little line that changes the trajectory for us. I was attending a funeral while six months pregnant with my first son when one little line did that for me. I hope this episode gives you hope and encouragement to bring more positive communication into your home and daily life. Even if you've said "no" right in line with the average of 400 times a day that children hear it. Even if you grew up with negative communication being the norm. You get to decide what you do next, my friend.

This holiday season is a great time to bring the story of Jesus into your home, with a guided story telling advent experience!This has been a favorite of ours for three years!

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I've been told "delayed obedience is disobedience" like it's a favorite line from a popular song since posting this reel.

It got me thinking about the rush and urgency parents put themselves and their children in. It's certainly a catchy line and I can confidently say it is not biblical.

Come explore where I have found the Bible praises pause, what could have gone differently and what Jesus would possibly do in our shoes.

I believe teaching our children to exercise discernment, regulate emotions, pray for clarity and ask question IS our job. We are not here to rush our kids along to fit into the status quo and ensure they respect authority... a delay can be a very, very good thing.

Good news, my Yes Language Course is now available for you to drastically reduce the times you say "no" and become a clear and kind communicator! It's 21 days long and incredibly effective to teach you with bite sized lessons and implementation! It's $50 off until 11/1/2025

This is a topic I have strong personal conviction and passion on and I'm sure you will feel that in this episode. After receiving criticism about a reel I made on IG that involved me waiting 90 seconds for my son to make the right choice and sharing that it takes 90 seconds to properly feel an emotion, I decided this podcast episode is the best way to respond.

Discipline, boundaries and expectations are powerful in our parenting and they are a foundation for our kids to thrive. We can use each of those tools effectively, arguably more effectively, when we use them with kindness, calm authority and self-discipline.

This episode has four key points in the heart of a disciple of Jesus Christ that is using discipline in parenting.

I strive to be a loyal disciple of Jesus Christ and that means doing what is right even when it is hard and committing to parenting with faith over fear. All of the "what if..." theories thrown by others are fear based and I have resounding faith in following Jesus today in my parenting is the best possible outcome for our future.

Well, wouldn't you know it that the Bible is in full support of Yes Language?! Let's go through some scripture together and see where the meaning connects to our home life.

Here are the links to Bibles I mentioned for any other beginners out there that want to start reading truth!

Jesus Story Book Bible (I LOVE this one with my kids)

Hosanna Revival NLT Bible (My first Bible I read for two years and appreciated the easy to understand language!)

Study Bible ESV (My new Bible I am loving. The language is the right amount of challenge for me right now. I can still understand what it is saying and it reflects more of the traditional writings.)

I am steadfast here, friends. I've seen the truth in my own home and beyond play out time and time again.

We need more positive minds, hearts and WORDS filling our homes if we want a better world.

Being a Yes Mom is a standard of excellence and while it can feel difficult to fulfill and meet- it is rewarding to strive towards.

I hope this encouragement reaches you warmly and with vigor.

All my love,

Tessa Romero

I've been sharing a lot of the Yes Language I use with my kids and a top question I receive regularly is "does your husband do this too?!"

Well- let's ask my sweet hubs if he uses it and what his take is on this communication style with our kids.

We are two parents doing the best we can- just like you! This is what we have found works really well for us to feel our best as the parents we want to be.

Truly love how open Marcus is and my goal is that you feel encouraged to start using Yes Language no matter who is or is not using it, too.

I've crafted out an entire Yes Mom Campus inside of my coaching membership. It's 21 lessons to teach you how to love what you say and how you say it- saving yourself time and energy. If you're ready to start using Yes Language and ditch a whole lot of "no, no, no" then join us!

Okay, guards are down. I've been watering down my passion and mission to try and keep myself out of the "heat"- all while seeing moms drowning in the consequences of negativity.

All done- welcome to my new ERA! Starting with 5 reasons to stop saying no to your kids.

I'm talking about NO, CAN'T, DON'T, WON'T, SHOULDN'T... reactivity, negativity and disconnection from your kids.

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Exciting News: I am making a 100 day marriage journal! Yes, husband AND wife journals that build a positive and appreciative mindset in marriage- leaving behind resentment, negativity and victim mentality.

Today as I worked on another round of edits (committed to the strength of each prompt and exercise) I felt stuck, so I called my husband into the office and asked for his feedback.

Well, it was a GOOD TIME. Tons of laughs and true understanding about the different way we think. That's when I turned on the mic and hit record.

Come share some laughs, insights and appreciation with us as we pour our love over the marriage journals in the making.

These journals means so much to me as I started implementing this writing practice in my marriage 18 months ago- now I'm putting the practice in your hands.

There are times that being kind, sincere, patient and truthful feel PHYSICALLY painful. As if a bone in your body may break if you say something kind when you feel angry.

What if yelling, perfectionism, people pleasing, lying, criticizing, shaming... could all be sanding off of you?

This perspective of "sanding your down" will completely transform the pain of that moment to an incredibly purposeful healing experience for you.

This will increase your patience, courage and discipline to do what is right even when it is hard.

Here is the link to If Only I Had A Green Nose that I LOVE. Every book in this series is incredible.

All my best friend,

Tessa Romero

Oh wowza, we need to have a heart to heart.

Writing negative thoughts just to "get them out" does NOT validate an emotion. Thoughts are not feelings and feelings are not thoughts.

THIS is the writing exercise you want to do to process through negative thoughts without getting stuck in them, so you can create empowering thoughts that serve you through ANY emotion and circumstance.

Turn to a blank page, friend. I'll teach you how to do it.

All my best,

Tessa Romero

p.s. I have this free email group where I send you word-for-word journaling examples.

I have butterflies posting this episode, it was SO fun to make! If you'd like to submit a "write with me" request for a future episode, simply send it to connect@momset.com

Grab your journal and turn to a blank page so we can fill it up together. This episode is perfect for building your confidence as a writer, while instilling an empowered mindset along the way.

We are taking two sections from Proverbs 31 to practice Alignment Journaling as the wife we want to be. You have full creative freedom to take my inspiration and run with it or write what I am writing word for word.

Ah, this is SO great and exactly what I want to be doing. Thank you for being here!

Tessa Romero

p.s. I have a journaling email sequence where I send you short writing examples every 2 days to help you stay clear and focused on your writing.

Are you rushing through the day just trying to get the "to-do" list checked off and get to bed "on time"? You're probably feeling disconnected, unavailable and resentful in the process.

I understand this to my core.

Which is how and why I came up with my new life mantra "Hands like Martha, Heart like Mary" to help me remain available to the Lord and my family, while also serving in ways that light me up.

This small shift in perspective has delivered the most wonderful results as I've been able to see how I can have BOTH.

I know that you can, too.

The power is in what we choose to think. I hope this one slips right in to your heart and your mind gives up the idea of your value being tied to your productivity.

I adore you, I really do.

Tessa Romero

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My workouts continue to look different and feel better over the years. I believe that is because I stay focused on what I want and OPEN to all the ways that can happen.

Do you know what you want?

Here's my fitness journey from running to weight lifting then to living room workouts and now family workouts in our home gym. It's a journey over the last 10 years and I hope it inspires you to know what you want and WHY you want it.

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Giving less than your best is a betrayal to yourself.

Yet, with perfectionism and the bags of tendencies that come with it, there seems to be an unspoken fear of striving for excellence and doing all that you can every single day.

You'll be told

"that's too much."

"you shouldn't expect so much from yourself."

"it's not realistic."

Even if you enjoy waking up to a clean kitchen that reminds you of fresh starts and new days... someone will tell you that the pressure to clean it every night before bed is just too much.

This is why understanding the difference between a mentality of Excellence and a mentality of Perfection will set you free.

This episode takes a look at why we use perfectionism, how you can practically condition your mind out of it and what it looks like to strive for excellence AND fall short.

I hope you enjoy it!

Details for my coaching membership where this episode was inspired are right here. Huge thanks to Danielle for being a light and someone we can learn alongside.

Tessa Romero

Today Ralphie Jacobs is joining the MOMSET Community to empower us to be a safe parent that sees the good in her children.

You can look forward to learning about positive parenting, "junk behavior," inconsequential behavior (this blew my mind) and remarkable perspective that keeps you going even when it feels really, really difficult.

Look at us- breaking cycles. "We are one generation from the "that's permissive" mentality..."

"Parenting is not a societal matter. It's personal, it's spiritual and it's emotional, but it's not societal..." - Ralphie Jacobs

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