Why does even gentle feedback feel like an attack? In this episode, we explore how the mind turns ordinary feedback into a perceived assault — and why that reaction exists for a reason. Narcissistic defensiveness isn’t just about arrogance or fragility; it’s a complex system designed to keep you ‘company.’ The very attack that harms also protects — preserving connection with an internalized other, even if that connection is punishing. Through clinical examples, we look at how this dynamic pl...
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Why does even gentle feedback feel like an attack? In this episode, we explore how the mind turns ordinary feedback into a perceived assault — and why that reaction exists for a reason. Narcissistic defensiveness isn’t just about arrogance or fragility; it’s a complex system designed to keep you ‘company.’ The very attack that harms also protects — preserving connection with an internalized other, even if that connection is punishing. Through clinical examples, we look at how this dynamic pl...
Living with Narcissism: Why You Can’t Stop Reacting to Criticism or Control | Epi 117
The Narcissism Decoder
33 minutes
1 week ago
Living with Narcissism: Why You Can’t Stop Reacting to Criticism or Control | Epi 117
Have you ever cared deeply for someone who constantly leaves you feeling smaller, unseen, or blamed? In this interview with John Cordray, we look beneath the surface of those relationships — into the emotional patterns that fuel narcissistic dynamics. We unpack why it’s so hard not to react when you’re being judged or attacked, and I even attempt a Coca-Cola analogy to explain it (you’ll have to decide if it works). If you are interested in a consultation or seeking virtual therapy services, ...
The Narcissism Decoder
Why does even gentle feedback feel like an attack? In this episode, we explore how the mind turns ordinary feedback into a perceived assault — and why that reaction exists for a reason. Narcissistic defensiveness isn’t just about arrogance or fragility; it’s a complex system designed to keep you ‘company.’ The very attack that harms also protects — preserving connection with an internalized other, even if that connection is punishing. Through clinical examples, we look at how this dynamic pl...
