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The Narcissism Decoder
Dr. Anthony Mazzella
117 episodes
1 day ago
In this episode, we continue our conversation with Deborah from Healing from Toxic Abuse to explore one of the most confusing and painful dynamics in narcissistic relationships—gaslighting. We look at how gaslighting isn’t always as clear-cut as it seems. Sometimes it’s deliberate and controlling, but other times it reflects someone trapped in their own distorted reality, unable to see beyond their perspective. We also talk about how, at times, it’s possible to “sneak around” narcissistic def...
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In this episode, we continue our conversation with Deborah from Healing from Toxic Abuse to explore one of the most confusing and painful dynamics in narcissistic relationships—gaslighting. We look at how gaslighting isn’t always as clear-cut as it seems. Sometimes it’s deliberate and controlling, but other times it reflects someone trapped in their own distorted reality, unable to see beyond their perspective. We also talk about how, at times, it’s possible to “sneak around” narcissistic def...
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The Narcissism Decoder
Is Narcissistic Gaslighting Always Intentional—or Sometimes Unconscious? | | Epi 112
In this episode, we continue our conversation with Deborah from Healing from Toxic Abuse to explore one of the most confusing and painful dynamics in narcissistic relationships—gaslighting. We look at how gaslighting isn’t always as clear-cut as it seems. Sometimes it’s deliberate and controlling, but other times it reflects someone trapped in their own distorted reality, unable to see beyond their perspective. We also talk about how, at times, it’s possible to “sneak around” narcissistic def...
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1 day ago
25 minutes

The Narcissism Decoder
Can Someone with Narcissism Truly Change—and Heal from Within? | Epi 111
In this episode, we join a conversation with Deborah from Healing from Toxic Abuse right at the moment she expresses surprise that people actually come to therapy identifying as narcissistic—because self-reflection is the very thing they resist. From there, we explore what happens when the illusion of the grandiose self begins to crack, when the fantasies that hold the self together collapse under reality. We look at how narcissistic defenses break down, how modes of repair can become destruc...
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1 week ago
22 minutes

The Narcissism Decoder
3 Steps to Protect Yourself in a Narcissistic Relationship Part 2 | Epi 110
In this episode, we break down 3 powerful steps to protect yourself from narcissistic manipulation — even when no contact isn’t possible. You’ll learn how to recognize their defenses, stop absorbing their projections, and reclaim your power without losing your sense of self. If you are interested in a consultation or seeking virtual therapy services, Dr. Mazzella is accepting new patients. Please click here for more detailed information. Want to go deeper? Join me in Office Hours — an open ...
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2 weeks ago
22 minutes

The Narcissism Decoder
8 Red Flags of Narcissism in Relationships: Overt vs Covert Narcissism Part 1 |Epi 109
Ever feel drained, confused, or like you don’t even exist in a relationship? You might be interacting with a narcissist—overt or covert—and not even realize it. In this episode, we will explore how to spot the red flags and understand the psychological defenses driving these behaviors. It’s time to reclaim your clarity, your power, and your peace of mind. If you are interested in a consultation or seeking virtual therapy services, Dr. Mazzella is accepting new patients. Please click here for ...
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3 weeks ago
22 minutes

The Narcissism Decoder
Am I a Narcissist? The Hidden Patterns Behind the Label Part 2 | Epi 108
Do you ever catch yourself withdrawing, lashing out, or dismissing someone you love when they don’t meet your expectations—and then wonder if it means you’re selfish, manipulative, or even “narcissistic”? In this episode we go beneath the surface of those labels to explore the unconscious patterns that drive these destructive behaviors. If you are interested in a consultation or seeking virtual therapy services, Dr. Mazzella is accepting new patients. Please click here for more detailed...
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4 weeks ago
29 minutes

The Narcissism Decoder
Why Does the Narcissist Humiliate You — Do They Enjoy Your Pain? Part 1 | Epi 107
Does your partner ever humiliate you in a way that makes you wonder—do they actually enjoy my pain? Have you caught yourself lashing out, withdrawing, or dismissing someone you love… and then regretting it later? Is the cruelty you feel in these moments really about sadism—or could something deeper be going on beneath the surface? In this episode we dive into one of the most painful questions people ask: Why does the narcissist humiliate, devalue, and discard? If you are interested in...
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1 month ago
27 minutes

The Narcissism Decoder
Why Do I Self-Sabotage? How to Break Free | Epi 106
Warning- this is a deep dive into unconscious processes Why do you keep repeating the same destructive patterns, even when you finally have something good—a loving partner, a promotion at work, or even just care and attention? In this episode, we explore the hidden forces that make receiving goodness feel threatening, from envy and shame to the fear of humiliation. Using real-life examples, we uncover why people unconsciously push away what they long for and how small moments of c...
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1 month ago
29 minutes

The Narcissism Decoder
Covert Narcissism: How to Break Free from the Control – Part 2/2 | Epi 105
In this episode, we uncover how covert narcissistic parents quietly take over their children’s choices through guilt, victimhood, and subtle emotional control. You’ll learn how these hidden dynamics can unconsciously follow you into adult relationships, shape your inner voice, and most importantly what it takes to start reclaiming your independence. If you are interested in a consultation or seeking virtual therapy services, Dr. Mazzella is accepting new patients. Please click here for more ...
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1 month ago
27 minutes

The Narcissism Decoder
Is My Parent a Covert Narcissist? How to Recognize the Hidden Patterns -Part 1/2 | Epi 104
In this episode, we uncover how covert narcissism can quietly hijack your choices. What happens when a parent’s tears, guilt, or subtle manipulations make independence feel like betrayal? Through a powerful clinical example, we reveal the hidden inner logic that keeps adult children bound to their parent’s needs—and why separating isn’t just about moving out, but breaking free on an inner level. If you are interested in a consultation or seeking virtual therapy services, Dr. Mazzella is accep...
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1 month ago
26 minutes

The Narcissism Decoder
Is the Narcissist an Empty Shell? Understanding Emptiness and Procrastination | Epi 103
In this episode, we take a deep dive into the psychic world of narcissistic emptiness — why everyday tasks can feel overwhelming, how withdrawal serves as a protective defense, and why shutting down can feel safer than engaging. Tune in to discover how small moments of engagement can be fostered to help shift a life overshadowed by withdrawal toward meaningful connection and authentic presence If you are interested in a consultation or seeking virtual therapy services, Dr. Mazzella is a...
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2 months ago
25 minutes

The Narcissism Decoder
Healing Narcissism: What If They See I'm Not Enough? (5) | EPI 102
In this episode we dive into one of the most hidden struggles of healing from narcissism: why success doesn’t always feel like success. What if every new achievement, every step forward, only brings dread instead of relief? Together, we explore the deeper truth behind this paradox—the way grandiose fantasies once acted as armor against unbearable shame, fear of exposure, and early wounds of not being “enough.” Through a powerful clinical example, we uncover the heart of the narcissistic bind:...
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2 months ago
26 minutes

The Narcissism Decoder
How to Work With a Narcissist - Without Losing Yourself- Part 2 | Epi 101
In Part 2 of this conversation, we move from identifying narcissistic traits in a boss to navigating the complex relationship without losing yourself. Merry Brown raises the question so many people are afraid to ask: How do I get my narcissistic boss to meet expectations without abandoning my own boundaries and sanity? We explore the importance of mental differentiation and I unpack how narcissistic leaders often draw others into subtle “relational enactments.” If you’ve ever felt pulled in, ...
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2 months ago
29 minutes

The Narcissism Decoder
Sneak Peak into Office Hours- Is My Partner a Narcissist? | Epi 100!
Is My Partner a Narcissist? When You’re Blamed, Erased, or Treated Like the Enemy In this special 100th episode, we’re pulling back the curtain on a moment from one of my new Office Hours sessions — a space where listeners bring real-life stories of complex, often painful relationship dynamics. You’ll hear a raw example from someone questioning whether their spouse is narcissistic, and I’ll walk you through my psychodynamic take: not only how to recognize the patterns at pla...
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2 months ago
25 minutes

The Narcissism Decoder
Narcissism at Work: Denial, Deflection and the Narcissistic Boss – Part 1
In this episode, we crack open a subtle but deeply toxic dynamic many professionals encounter: the narcissistic boss or coworker who deflects blame, rewrites reality, and leaves you questioning your own judgment. I sit down with Merry Brown to explore what happens when someone has too little inner conflict but causes constant conflict with others. We explore how pathological denial operates in narcissistic personalities—what it protects against, how it shows up at work, and why it's so ...
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2 months ago
26 minutes

The Narcissism Decoder
Healing Narcissism Revisited: The Most Downloaded Episode
We’re about to hit two huge milestones — Season 3 is just weeks away, and our 100th episode celebration is right around the corner! But before we launch into brand-new topics, fresh formats, and deeper dives into narcissism, I’m bringing back the most talked-about episode of the year. Healing Narcissism: If You Want to See Change — Start Here has sparked more downloads, shares, and “aha” moments than any other, and for good reason. It’s an unflinching look at what it really takes to create la...
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3 months ago
32 minutes

The Narcissism Decoder
From ‘I’m a Piece of Sh..!’ to ‘I Hurt You and I Care’: Shame To Guilt
In this episode, Renee and I peel back the curtain on the intense emotional battle between shame and guilt. You’ll hear about how to feel guilt without collapsing into self-hatred. Using Frank’s story, we reveal the delicate work of helping someone hold onto guilt without spiraling into destructive shame. Learn why this subtle skill is the key to true healing and emotional integration. Sign up here to be notified when Office Hours launches: https://www.drmazzella.com/officehours To read more ...
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3 months ago
27 minutes

The Narcissism Decoder
Is That Really an Apology—Or Just a Way to Feel Better?
Is your apology really an apology—or just a way to ease your own shame? In this episode, Renee Swanson and I dive into the hidden emotions behind guilt, rage, and “false apologies” that keep us stuck. Discover why saying sorry isn’t always enough—and what it takes to break free from shame’s trap. Sign up here to be notified when Office Hours launches: https://www.drmazzella.com/officehours To read more about the various facets of narcissism please click here If you are interested in a con...
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3 months ago
26 minutes

The Narcissism Decoder
Are You Too Hard on Yourself? Some Preliminary Thoughts on Guilt
Guilt is supposed to help us repair—but what happens when it turns into self-punishment? In this clip, Renee and I explore how guilt gets distorted, how it hides behind over-apologizing, withdrawal, or perfectionism—and how it can quietly undermine connection instead of restoring it. To listen to the full interview check out Renee's channel here: https://bleav.com/shows/the-covert-narcissism-podcast/episodes/guilt-vs-shame-the-emotional-crossroads-that-defines-healing/ To read more abou...
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3 months ago
17 minutes

The Narcissism Decoder
Let’s Talk—Office Hours Starts this Tuesday!
Sign up here to join the conversation: Reserve your spot and be part of the first session: https://www.drmazzella.com/officehours Office Hours has launched! Sign up here and we'll be in touch with next steps: https://www.drmazzella.com/officehours To read more about the various facets of narcissism please click here If you are interested in a consultation or seeking virtual therapy services, Dr. Mazzella is accepting new patients. Please click here for more detailed information. ...
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3 months ago
1 minute

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When Connection Feels Dangerous: How Shame Makes You Disappear
What if the reason you shut down, disappear, or attack yourself… isn’t weakness, but shame? In this clip with Renee Swanson, we uncover how shame hides behind perfectionism, silence, and even grandiosity—and why naming it is the first step to healing. To listen to the full interview check out Renee's channel here: https://bleav.com/shows/the-covert-narcissism-podcast/episodes/shame-vs-self-the-invisible-wound-behind-narcissistic-traits/ Sign up here to be notified when Office Ho...
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4 months ago
25 minutes

The Narcissism Decoder
In this episode, we continue our conversation with Deborah from Healing from Toxic Abuse to explore one of the most confusing and painful dynamics in narcissistic relationships—gaslighting. We look at how gaslighting isn’t always as clear-cut as it seems. Sometimes it’s deliberate and controlling, but other times it reflects someone trapped in their own distorted reality, unable to see beyond their perspective. We also talk about how, at times, it’s possible to “sneak around” narcissistic def...