Why does even gentle feedback feel like an attack? In this episode, we explore how the mind turns ordinary feedback into a perceived assault — and why that reaction exists for a reason. Narcissistic defensiveness isn’t just about arrogance or fragility; it’s a complex system designed to keep you ‘company.’ The very attack that harms also protects — preserving connection with an internalized other, even if that connection is punishing. Through clinical examples, we look at how this dynamic pl...
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Why does even gentle feedback feel like an attack? In this episode, we explore how the mind turns ordinary feedback into a perceived assault — and why that reaction exists for a reason. Narcissistic defensiveness isn’t just about arrogance or fragility; it’s a complex system designed to keep you ‘company.’ The very attack that harms also protects — preserving connection with an internalized other, even if that connection is punishing. Through clinical examples, we look at how this dynamic pl...
Narcissism and the Holidays: Why Do I Feel Forced and Unsafe? |Epi 116
The Narcissism Decoder
21 minutes
3 weeks ago
Narcissism and the Holidays: Why Do I Feel Forced and Unsafe? |Epi 116
In this episode, we’re going to pull back the curtain on what actually happens inside you during the holidays — not the surface-level stress you blame, but the internal shifts you feel. We’re going to explore why the season disrupts your psychological balance, why old wounds feel closer to the surface, and why the defenses you rely on all year suddenly stop working. Most importantly, we’ll look at how this exposure — uncomfortable as it is — can reveal something essential about your deeper em...
The Narcissism Decoder
Why does even gentle feedback feel like an attack? In this episode, we explore how the mind turns ordinary feedback into a perceived assault — and why that reaction exists for a reason. Narcissistic defensiveness isn’t just about arrogance or fragility; it’s a complex system designed to keep you ‘company.’ The very attack that harms also protects — preserving connection with an internalized other, even if that connection is punishing. Through clinical examples, we look at how this dynamic pl...