In this episode of The Open Bedroom Podcast, I welcome back sexuality and tantra expert Melissa Louise for a deep dive into men’s sexual energy, ejaculation, and the cultural narratives around male sexuality.
Melissa shares her personal stories and offers practical advice on how to harness sexual energy for vitality, creativity, and deeper intimacy.
We explore how early life experiences shape our relationships, discuss the importance of “sexual currency,” and share techniques like breathwork and intention-setting.
Melissa also introduces her “Man in Control” program, which provides tools for men to improve their sexual health. This episode encourages you to rethink sexuality as a source of connection and empowerment.
CHAPTERS:Melissa’s Origin Story (00:02:08) Working with Men and Women (00:06:34) Cultural Attitudes Toward Male Sexuality (00:09:00) The Power and Depletion of Ejaculate (00:10:31) Daoist Perspectives on Ejaculation (00:13:49) Historical and Cultural Shifts in Sexuality (00:15:29) Sexual Energy and Cultural Differences (00:16:34) Sexual Repression and Relationship Dynamics (00:19:10) Sexual Energy as Life Force (00:21:00)ABOUT MELISSA LOUISE:Melissa Louise is Your Absolute Pleasure Advocate Internationally recognized for her no BS, authentic expression she brings warmth, raw honesty, and unapologetic depth to the most intimate parts of being human.Melissa supports women to reclaim their non negotiable and divine birthright to feel alive, orgasmic, and turned the fuck on — no matter their age or relationship status.Melissa supports men to become more attractive, powerful, and trustworthy by mastering their sexual energy, lasting longer in bed, and unlocking freedom in their bodies and bank accounts.SUBSTACK: https://melissalouise.substack.com/subscribeMan in Control Program:https://melissalouise.world/man-6739?am_id=jennifer7672Follow Melissa Louise:https://www.instagram.com/melissa_louise_intimacy/Follow The Open Bedroom Podcast:https://www.instagram.com/theopenbedroompodcast/
In this episode of The Open Bedroom Podcast, I share the story of how Scott and I decided to get married after four years together. I reflect on our initial hesitations, the practical reasons behind our choice—including financial planning and a prenup—and our intimate, DIY park ceremony officiated by a close friend. I discuss the meaning behind our vows, our open relationship, and the importance of creating a wedding that felt authentic to us. I also offer insights into our life together, our recent home remodel, and encourage you to embrace relationships on your own terms.
Introduction & Wrestling with Marriage (00:00:03) Jen introduces the podcast and discusses her and Scott’s initial hesitations and conversations about marriage.
Financial Commitments & Decision to Marry (00:01:09) They consider buying a home and business together, leading to discussions about legal and financial security.
Prenup & Ceremony Planning (00:03:37) Jen and Scott agree on a prenup and begin planning a small, private ceremony focused on themselves.
Choosing the Location & Officiant (00:05:47) They select a park for the ceremony and ask their friend Steph, a minister, to officiate.
Photographer & Ceremony Details (00:06:50) Jen arranges for Ashton, their photographer, to capture the ceremony and describes the intimate guest list.
Wedding Attire & Weather (00:07:49) Jen shares her process of finding a dress, dealing with unexpected cold weather, and last-minute outfit changes.
Comparing Past Weddings (00:10:39) Jen reflects on her previous two weddings, their costs, and how this third wedding is different.
Ring Story & Design (00:12:29) She tells the story of her engagement ring, its history, and how she redesigned it for each marriage.
Vows & Writing Process (00:17:11) Jen discusses writing personalized vows, the importance of privacy, and how their open relationship influenced their promises.
Deciding Not to Invite Kids (00:20:23) She explains why they chose not to include their children in the ceremony for privacy and honesty in their vows.
Handmade Bouquet & Wedding Accoutrements (00:22:35) Jen describes making her own bouquet and boutonniere, and the importance of small details for photos.
DIY Wedding & Costs (00:26:18) She encourages listeners to have simple, affordable weddings and details their total expenses.
Scott’s Wedding Outfit (00:27:14) Jen talks about shopping for Scott’s non-traditional wedding attire and how it fit their style.
Building a Life Together & New Home (00:28:05) Jen shares about buying a house, remodeling, and the practical aspects of merging lives and finances.
Open Relationship & Home Design (00:30:05) They design their home, including a shower for three, to fit their open relationship lifestyle.
Reflections on Relationship Changes (00:32:15) Jen recaps the year’s changes in their relationship dynamics, including breakups and new dating approaches.
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Today I'm sharing an update about the breakup of my polyamorous triad with Scott and Jess, reflecting on the challenges of differing relationship needs. I discuss the evolution of my relationships, the importance of self-fulfillment, and lessons I’ve learned about communication, boundaries, and embracing change. I encourage you to cultivate a full life outside of partnerships and offer insights into navigating love, loss, and growth within open relationships. I also hint at some upcoming life events and future podcast topics.
Timestamps by PodSqueezeIntroduction and Setting the Stage (00:00:03)
Jen introduces the podcast, mentions the recent breakup, and sets up the episode’s focus.
Reflecting on the Triad Vacation (00:01:24)
Jen recalls their first vacation as a triad and the joy of having a third partner.
Scott’s Desire for Openness (00:02:33)
Scott expresses his need for a more open relationship, leading to conflict with Jess.
Jess’s Need for Stability and the Breakup (00:03:47)
Jess asserts her need for monogamy and stability, resulting in the end of the triad.
Being the Person in the Middle (00:05:44)
Jen discusses the pain and challenges of being caught between two partners with conflicting needs.
How Relationship Dynamics Change (00:07:01)
Jen reflects on how needs and dynamics shift over time, using her marriages as examples.
Personal Growth Through Relationships (00:08:14)
Jen shares her journey of self-discovery and growth during her second marriage.
Sexual Awakening and Changing Needs (00:09:05)
Jen describes her late-30s sexual awakening and the resulting end of her second marriage.
Accelerated Change in Open Relationships (00:10:09)
Jen explains how open relationships can accelerate personal and relational growth.
Shifting Dynamics with Scott and Steph (00:11:16)
Jen recounts how relationship dynamics with Scott and Steph evolved, including role reversals.
Tossing Out Relationship Rules (00:12:23)
Jen discusses moving away from rigid rules and embracing fluidity in open relationships.
Evolving Relationship with Steph (00:13:45)
Jen details how her relationship with Steph changed after Scott left the triad.
Intentional Time and Changing Expectations (00:15:45)
Jen describes efforts to schedule intentional time with Steph and how expectations shifted.
Letting Go of Guilt and Societal Roles (00:19:10)
Jen learns to release guilt and societal expectations, focusing on authentic connection.
Self-Fulfillment Outside of Partners (00:20:20)
Jen emphasizes the importance of self-fulfillment and not relying solely on partners for happiness.
Making Room for New Connections (00:22:37)
Jen discusses being open to new partners and connections as life and needs change.
Lessons from the Breakup with Jess (00:23:34)
Jen reflects on the pain of losing Jess and the importance of letting people come and go.
Unattached Love and Relationship Choice (00:25:49)
Jen shares insights about unattached love and choosing relationships without rigid requirements.
Outro and Upcoming Life Events (00:26:44)
Jen wraps up, mentions upcoming travel, moving, and thanks listeners for their support.
Podcast Closing and Listener Engagement (00:28:36)
Closing remarks, encouraging feedback, topic suggestions, and sharing the podcast.
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Ever wondered how couples navigate long-term commitment while exploring other connections? This candid discussion explores one couple's journey into ethical non-monogamy (ENM) after 20 years of marriage. From initial hesitations to embracing polyamorous connections, they share their story of redefining relationships and challenging norms. Learn about the realities of an open relationship and the courage it takes to rewrite your own rules.
Missi and Brian’s Origin Story (00:01:44) Missi shares how she and Brian began discussing adding a third, their early thoughts, and discovering polyamory.
Lisa’s Background and Entry (00:05:13) Lisa describes her background, previous marriage, initial interest in threesomes, and how she met Missi and Brian.
Navigating International Long-Distance (00:11:22) The triad discusses managing a cross-border relationship, travel logistics, and cultural differences between Canada and the US.
Political and Social Challenges (00:15:09) Lisa shares anxieties about political climates, social judgment, and how love overcomes external pressures.
From Casual to Committed (00:16:39) Lisa and Missi discuss how the relationship evolved from casual fun to a committed, equal triad.
Disentangling Marriage for Equality (00:29:31) Missi and Lisa explain how and Brian shifted from a married couple with a girlfriend to a more equal triad.
Navigating New Relationship Energy (00:32:26) They discuss the challenges of balancing new relationship energy, dyad connections, and letting relationships develop naturally.
Staying Connected Long-Distance (00:42:00) The triad shares how they maintain connection across distance, use technology, and structure dyad time.
Advice for Aspiring Triads (00:52:28) Final advice for listeners interested in triads: patience, communication, boundaries, and seeking peace over butterflies.
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Psychotherapist Jason Shires shares how childhood trauma shapes adult relationships. Jason explains how internal defense mechanisms formed in childhood impact our partner choices and relationship patterns. We discuss therapeutic approaches like Internal Family Systems and somatic experiencing, the dynamics of masculine and feminine energies, and the role of addiction as escapism. We also explore how you can heal anxiety inside of relationships, offering practical insights for navigating emotional triggers with compassion. Jason shares personal insights and resources for healing, emphasizing self-acceptance, vulnerability, and the ongoing journey toward deeper connection and intimacy. This episode offers compassionate guidance for understanding and transforming relational wounds.
Episode Topic Overview (00:01:13)
Announcement of the episode’s focus: trauma’s impact on adult relationships.
Childhood Wounds and Partner Selection (00:03:13)
How childhood wounds influence partner choice and relationship experiences.
Personal Story of Childhood Trauma (00:05:13)
Jason shares his own childhood trauma and its effect on his adult relationships.
Internal Defense Mechanisms (00:08:37)
Jason explains internal defense mechanisms as intelligent responses to childhood adversity.
Parts Work and Somatic Approaches (00:12:10)
Discussion of Internal Family Systems (IFS) and somatic experiencing in healing trauma.
Impact of Trauma Work on Relationships (00:15:05)
How trauma work can transform relationships and deepen connection.
Navigating New, Healthy Relationships (00:18:06)
The challenges and risks of embracing love after trauma.
Welcoming Insecurity in Relationships (00:22:18)
Welcoming and addressing insecurity to increase intimacy and trust.
Summary and Healing Journey (00:37:14)
Recap of the journey from trauma to healing and healthy relationships.
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This interview surprised me. I tried to enter it with an open heart, and didn't too too much pre-research that might sway my questions or energy toward Paul.I was honestly blown away by Paul's authenticity, the data behind why people cheat, how we can be better partners to avoid cheating, and how Ashley Madison provides a discreet platform so you're not boinking your fellow office workers and ruining your family's life.In this episode of The Open Bedroom Podcast, I talk with Paul Keable, Chief Strategy Officer at Ashley Madison, about the realities of sex, dating, and non-monogamy. Paul shares research on why people seek affairs, the impact of unmet needs in relationships, and the misconceptions around open relationships. Our conversation explores communication challenges, the evolving definition of marriage, and how platforms like Ashley Madison provide discreet ways for people to connect. Paul and I discuss the importance of honesty, consent, and creating relationship agreements that work for each unique couple.Why People Cheat: Research Insights (00:02:21)Paul discusses academic research on why men and women seek affairs, focusing on unmet sexual and emotional needs.Gender Differences in Validation & Desire (00:06:01)How men and women seek validation and desire, and the emotional needs driving infidelity.Personal Experience & Using Ashley Madison (00:08:06)Jen shares her open relationship journey and her research experience joining Ashley Madison.Why Men Send Unsolicited Photos (00:12:20)Paul explains men’s motivations for sending explicit photos and offers advice on respectful communication.Safety, Trust, and Communication in Dating (00:13:29)Importance of trust and safety for women, and how men can better approach online dating.How to Write a Good Dating Profile (00:14:43)Paul gives advice on creating effective, respectful dating profiles, especially on Ashley Madison.Regulation, Pornography, and Privacy Concerns (00:23:46)Jen discusses state-level porn restrictions and concerns about privacy and government regulation.Understanding & Combating Adultery (00:24:41)Paul emphasizes the need to understand infidelity rather than just prohibit it.Affairs as a Way to Save Marriages (00:25:27)Research on how affairs can improve primary relationships and relieve sexual frustration.Sexual Communication & Advice for Couples (00:29:18)Paul gives advice on sexual communication, feedback, and the importance of openness and trying new things.Ashley Madison’s Marketing & Gender Perspectives (00:31:33)Discussion on how Ashley Madison’s marketing resonates differently with men and women.Dead Bedrooms & Rights to Pleasure (00:35:55)Exploring what happens when one partner loses interest in sex and the ethics of seeking pleasure elsewhere.Modern Relationships & Open Arrangements (00:36:25)How open relationships can address unmet needs and misconceptions about non-monogamy.Redefining Marriage & Relationship Norms (00:41:37)Jen and Paul discuss rewriting marriage norms, the rise of non-monogamy, and the need for personalized relationship agreements.History and Evolution of Marriage (00:42:01)Paul explains the origins of marriage, societal expectations, and evolving attitudes toward sex and partnership.COVID-19’s Impact on Relationships (00:45:52)How the pandemic intensified relationship issues and increased Ashley Madison’s user base.Personalizing Marriage & Relationship Agreements (00:46:36)Advocating for individualized marriage agreements and ongoing communication between partners.Five-Year Monogamy Contracts & Final Thoughts (00:48:04)Advice on periodic relationship check-ins and the future of Ashley Madison as a platform for discretion and diverse needs.**Ashley Madison**:https://www.ashleymadison.com/**Follow The Open Bedroom Podcast**:https://www.instagram.com/theopenbedroompodcast/
In this episode of The Open Bedroom Podcast, I welcome Dr. Alison Ash, a trauma-informed intimacy coach, to discuss navigating mismatched libidos in relationships. We explore how libido fluctuates due to life circumstances, the shift from spontaneous to responsive desire, and the impact of stress and aging. Dr. Ash offers practical strategies like scheduling connection time, building an “intimacy bank,” and embracing non-sexual touch. Our conversation also covers self-pleasure, embodiment, and open relationships as options. I encourage listeners to communicate openly, release shame, and cultivate intimacy through compassion and intentionality.
Dr. Alison Ash shares personal updates, including new offerings for neurodivergent folks and her fertility journey.
Fertility, Hormones, and Intimacy (00:03:16)
Discussion on how fertility journeys, hormones, and aging impact intimacy and libido in relationships.
Introducing the Topic: Differing Libido (00:06:00)
Jen introduces the main topic: navigating differences in libido within relationships, with personal anecdotes.
Understanding Libido Fluctuations (00:06:57)
Dr. Ash explains that libido is not static, affected by physiological, situational, and contextual factors.
New Relationship Energy & Responsive Desire (00:08:34)
Exploration of how new relationship energy impacts desire, and the shift from spontaneous to responsive desire over time.
Cultivating Responsive Desire (00:10:30)
Discussion on tools and practices to cultivate responsive desire, especially in long-term relationships.
Aging, Attraction, and Sexuality (00:12:23)
Challenging cultural narratives about aging and sexual attractiveness, especially for women.
Creating Spaciousness for Intimacy (00:14:23)
Strategies for making time and space for intimacy, including rituals and sensory-based pleasure.
Scheduling Intimacy & The Intimacy Bank (00:18:22)
Advice on scheduling connection time and introducing the "intimacy bank" concept to build emotional and sexual connection.
Self-Responsibility & Erotic Blueprints (00:22:11)
The importance of self-care, understanding erotic blueprints, and meeting your own needs in relationships.
Sexual Scripts, Resentment, and Pleasure (00:24:36)
How societal scripts and having unwanted sex can lead to resentment and disconnection from pleasure.
Asexuality & Pleasure Spectrum (00:28:04)
Clarifying asexuality as an orientation and discussing the spectrum of sexual and sensory pleasure.
Erotic Blueprints & Love Languages (00:30:09)
Exploring different frameworks for understanding what turns people on and how to communicate desires.
Embodiment: What It Is and How to Practice (00:33:45)
Defining embodiment, its benefits, and practical exercises to become more embodied.
Medicines, Drugs, and Embodiment (00:38:07)
Discussion on the use of cannabis and other substances for embodiment, and their pros and cons.
Advice for Higher Libido Partners (00:41:09)
Tools and mindset shifts for higher libido partners, including self-pleasure and breaking the pressure/rejection cycle.
Physical Affection & Creativity in Intimacy (00:44:58)
Encouraging non-penetrative intimacy, rebuilding physical affection, and creative connection strategies.
Masturbation, Boundaries, and Inclusion (00:47:42)
Navigating boundaries around self-pleasure, reducing shame, and ways to include partners in the process.
Non-Monogamy as an Option (00:49:59)
Considering open relationships or non-monogamy for couples with mismatched libido, and the potential benefits.
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Today I'm giving you a life update - our engagement and upcoming wedding, hormones and my health, pilates, and how to vacation as a throuple!
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(3:39) Life Updates
(20:43) Intro to Jess, our Third
(24:37) Balcony Suite is the way to go with 3 people
(30:33) Why it's so great vacation with 3 partners vs. 3
(36:29) Key takeaways
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In this episode of The Feminine Rebellion, I join host Natty Frasca to discuss the realities of open relationships. As a certified sex and relationship coach, I share my personal journey—from experiencing sexual dissatisfaction to embracing ethical non-monogamy with my partner, Scott.
Together, Natty and I explore different relationship styles, address common misconceptions, and highlight the importance of communication, consent, and self-discovery. Our conversation encourages listeners to question societal norms, honor their desires, and approach relationships with curiosity, openness, and respect. I also offer practical advice for anyone considering or navigating open relationships.
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Timestamps by PodSqueezeDisclaimer and Introduction (00:00:00)
Host gives a content warning and introduces the episode’s focus on open relationships and guest Jennifer Callow.
Jennifer’s Backstory: Awakening and Therapy (00:02:56)
Jennifer shares her limited sexual experiences, therapy journey, and decision to propose an open relationship.
The Turning Point: Therapy Session and Decision (00:05:04)
Jennifer describes the pivotal therapy session and the ultimatum that led to opening her marriage.
Sexual Exploration and Inspiration (00:06:19)
Jennifer discusses influences like “Sex, Love & Goop,” and her initial solo exploration of sexuality.
Discovering New Sexual Possibilities (00:08:24)
Jennifer recounts her first experiences outside marriage and the contrast with her previous sex life.
Defining Open Relationships and Types (00:10:10)
Jennifer explains what open relationships are, including swinging, polyamory, and hybrid dynamics.
Jennifer and Scott’s Unique Dynamic (00:13:01)
Jennifer details her and Scott’s polyamorous relationship, dating women together, and their specific boundaries.
Navigating Jealousy and Relationship Rules (00:15:33)
Discussion on jealousy, emotional responses, and why they only date together to strengthen their bond.
Evolution of Their Open Relationship (00:17:42)
Jennifer describes the trial-and-error process of finding the right dynamic, including dating couples and single women.
Being Public vs. Private About ENM (00:22:58)
Jennifer talks about being open publicly, how friends and family react, and the importance of personal choice in disclosure.
Common Mistakes When Opening Up (00:26:23)
Jennifer outlines mistakes couples make, like abrupt conversations, and emphasizes education and gradual exploration.
Stigma and High-Achieving Women in ENM (00:30:07)
Discussion on the stigma of polyamory, and how many successful women are exploring open relationships.
Exploring Fetishes and Desires (00:32:41)
Jennifer introduces FetLife, discusses discovering new desires, and how different partners fulfill different needs.
Permission to Play and Mainstreaming Kink (00:36:50)
Conversation about the importance of play, mainstream depictions of kink, and the empowerment of sexual exploration.
Resources and Erotica for Exploration (00:40:39)
Jennifer recommends women-focused porn, audio erotica, and smut literature as safe ways to explore desires.
Final Thoughts: Curiosity and Permission (00:42:48)
Jennifer encourages curiosity, slow exploration, and permission to discover what works for each individual or couple.
In this episode of The Open Bedroom Podcast, I interview Rob Kancler, an expert in men’s sexual health and intimacy. We discuss the widespread crisis of physical intimacy, the impact of cultural conditioning, and the lack of honest conversations about sex—especially among men. Rob shares insights from his "Men of Substance" program, emphasizing the importance of body intelligence, nervous system regulation, and authentic connection. Together, we explore practical tools for cultivating deeper intimacy and announce upcoming programs for both men and women to foster healthier, more fulfilling sexual relationships.**Witnessing a 45-Minute Orgasm (00:00:04)** Rob describes witnessing a man induce a prolonged orgasm, sparking his curiosity about sexual potential.**The Crisis of Sexual Intimacy & Male Communication (00:01:51)** Rob discusses men’s lack of honest conversations about sex, cultural taboos, and the impact of sexual “lineages.”**Sexual Operating Systems & Widespread Dysfunction (00:07:08)** Rob explains the concept of a “sexual operating system” and common issues like mismatched libido and sexual dysfunction.
**Unfulfilled Sex Lives & Societal Statistics (00:11:45)** Rob highlights how few people experience fulfilling sex lives, referencing statistics on sexual dissatisfaction.
**Men’s Sexual Satisfaction & Awakening (00:16:20)** Discussion about when men realize their sexual approach is lacking and the importance of listening to partners.
**Beyond Routine Sex: Emergent Experience (00:20:05)** Rob describes the value of letting go of expectations and choreography to access deeper intimacy and pleasure.
**Sexual “Magic” and Forgetting What You Know (00:26:21)** Rob explains that advanced sexual experiences aren’t magic, but require unlearning cultural scripts.
**Horniness, Consciousness, and Spiritual Sex (00:33:28)** Rob introduces the idea of a bridge between horniness and consciousness leading to spiritual sexual experiences.
**Addiction, Arousal, and Embodied Safety (00:38:42)** Rob discusses how addiction to peak orgasms and dysregulation block deeper sexual experiences.
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In this episode of The Open Bedroom Podcast, I welcome Candia Raquel, a Mexican sensualist, scientist, and artist, to discuss how pleasure can be a powerful antidote to anxiety.
We explore the difference between sensuality and sexuality, the impact of societal conditioning on our relationship with pleasure, and practical somatic tools—like mindful rituals, breathwork, and embracing bodily signals—to help us reconnect with our bodies and the present moment.
Candia shares accessible strategies for busy listeners to cultivate daily pleasure, offering a compassionate approach to overcoming anxiety and fostering greater fulfillment.
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In this episode of The Open Bedroom Podcast, I talk with Andrea Dindinger, a veteran marriage and family therapist, about why couples have the same arguments repeatedly—often over small issues like running late or household chores.
Andrea explains these fights usually mask deeper needs for love, respect, and connection. We discuss relationship archetypes, emotional triggers, and practical tools like “bookmarking” conflicts.
Our conversation offers actionable advice for breaking negative cycles, improving communication, and turning recurring disagreements into opportunities for greater intimacy and understanding.
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Sex and Money: The Roots of Power Struggles (00:00:03)
Andrea discusses how sex and money are complex, power-based issues in relationships.
Podcast Introduction and Guest Welcome (00:00:32)
Jen introduces the podcast, Andrea’s background, and the episode’s focus on recurring fights.
Why Do Couples Have the Same Fights? (00:01:07)
Andrea explains why couples repeat the same arguments and the emotional needs beneath them.
Common Triggers: Running Late and Household Habits (00:01:44)
Discussion of typical recurring fights, like lateness and household chores, and their deeper meanings.
The Loop as an Invitation for Intimacy (00:03:23)
Andrea reframes recurring fights as opportunities for connection rather than blame.
Breaking Down the “Running Late” Archetype (00:04:22)
Jen and Andrea analyze the punctual “drill sergeant” archetype and its roots in childhood or military experiences.
Emotional Layers Behind Punctuality (00:06:07)
Exploring the fear, anxiety, and shame beneath anger about lateness.
The “Airy Fairy” and Multitasker Archetypes (00:08:05)
Discussion of the partner who is less time-focused, often multitasking or losing track of time.
Disassociation and Entitlement in Time Perception (00:10:18)
Andrea explains how some people disconnect from time and its social impact.
How Opposites Attract in Relationships (00:10:51)
Why punctual and non-punctual partners are drawn to each other and how their dynamics play out.
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What is New Relationship Energy? (00:01:19) Explains the chemical basis of NRE, its emotional impact, and outlines the episode’s structure: dangers, benefits, and management.Dangers of NRE: Neglect and Rash Decisions (00:02:44) Discusses neglecting existing relationships, children, work, and making impulsive decisions due to NRE.Dangers of NRE: Ignoring Red Flags and Jealousy (00:04:07) Covers ignoring red flags in new partners and how NRE can fuel jealousy and insecurities in existing relationships.Dangers of NRE: Partners Aren’t Therapists (00:05:28) Advises against using partners as emotional dumping grounds for NRE excitement; suggests finding friends or therapists instead.Dangers of NRE: Emotional Instability (00:06:42) Addresses emotional highs and lows, and the importance of maintaining emotional regulation and security with existing partners.Benefits of NRE: Mood, Libido, and Connection (00:09:09) Highlights NRE’s positive effects: mood boost, increased libido, emotional closeness, and willingness to try new experiences.Benefits of NRE: New Experiences and Growth (00:11:25) Shares personal stories illustrating how NRE encourages trying new things and expanding personal horizons.Managing NRE: Setting Boundaries (00:13:30) Emphasizes the importance of boundaries with new and existing partners to maintain relationship health.Managing NRE: Calendaring and Scheduling (00:16:01) Describes using calendaring systems to organize time with multiple partners and ensure everyone’s needs are met.Follow The Open Bedroom Podcast:https://www.instagram.com/theopenbedroompodcast
In this episode of The Open Bedroom Podcast, I interview Alley, the first “third” (a person joining a couple) featured on the show. Alley shares her candid experiences as a third in a polyamorous triad, discussing communication challenges, emotional complexities, and the importance of clear boundaries and self-awareness.
Our conversation explores misconceptions about thirds, the need for honest dialogue, and the realities of navigating love, jealousy, and logistics in ethical non-monogamy. Both Alley and I emphasize treating all partners as equals and highlight the ongoing growth required in open relationships.
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Ever wonder why some relationships feel effortlessly passionate while others lose their spark? The secret lies in masculine and feminine polarity. In this episode, we’re diving deep into how embracing your natural energy—whether masculine or feminine—can transform your relationship and help you get exactly what you want in love.We’ll explore: ⚡ Why polarity creates attraction and deepens connection 💃 How stepping into your feminine energy invites him to step up 🕺 The masculine drive to protect, provide, and pursue 🔥 Practical shifts to bring more balance, passion, and harmony to your relationshipIf you’re ready to create a dynamic that feels magnetic and deeply fulfilling, this episode is for you. Let’s talk about the power of polarity!👉 Tune in now and start shifting your love life today!Ashanti’s Story of Loss and Resilience (00:02:21)Ashanti recounts losing her home, financial collapse, and rebuilding her life and business.Defining Resilience vs. Strength (00:05:35)Ashanti explains the difference between resilience and traditional strength, emphasizing emotional processing.Moving Through Life Transitions (00:06:18)Jen shares her own experiences with life changes, motherhood, and emotional transitions.Privilege, Perspective, and Emotional Collapse (00:07:18)Ashanti discusses privilege, international experiences, and how people collapse after trauma or rejection.Turning Tragedy into Power (00:09:47)Ashanti describes how resilience can transform heartbreak or loss into personal growth and empowerment.Fluidity, Resilience, and Business Lessons (00:10:25)Jen and Ashanti discuss resilience in business, letting go, and trusting the process.Trust, Feminine Energy, and Blind Decisions (00:12:36)Ashanti talks about trusting intuition, making decisions without evidence, and shifting social media strategies.Divine PTSD and Growth vs. Running (00:14:13)Ashanti introduces the concept of “divine PTSD” and differentiates between running from problems and expanding.Love Languages and Self-Love (00:15:36)Ashanti challenges traditional love languages, advocating for self-sourced love and validation.Divine Love Bombing and Non-Attachment (00:17:26)Ashanti shares her approach to relationships, expressing feelings without attachment to others’ reactions.Self-Love, Divine Narcissism, and Sisterhood (00:20:19)Ashanti explains “divine narcissism,” loving oneself and others, and overcoming jealousy and sister wounds.Fulfilling Your Own Love Language (00:22:49)Jen and Ashanti discuss practical ways to meet your own needs, like physical touch and affirmation.Ordering from the Energetic Buffet (00:23:25)Ashanti explains manifesting ideal partners authentically, not through manipulation.Modern Relationship Challenges and Solutions (00:24:16)Jen asks about high divorce rates, unrealistic expectations, and how to restore polarity and happiness.Emotional Intelligence as the Foundation (00:25:48)Ashanti emphasizes the importance of emotional intelligence and energy work for women’s fulfillment.Inner Masculine and Manifesting Partners (00:29:43)Ashanti introduces the concept of the “inner king” and building a relationship with your inner masculine.Relationship Evolution and Masculine/Feminine Dynamics (00:32:04)Jen shares her relationship history and current challenges with masculine/feminine balance.Self-Worth Warriors Program and Offerings (00:50:16)Ashanti describes her Self-Worth Warriors course, community, and other coaching offerings.
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Driven by technological advancements and a growing emphasis on sexual wellness, the sextech market has exploded on a global scale in recent years. The wearables category has arguably seen the most interesting and compelling growth with products that do things like help alleviate pain during penetration, others use AI to map changes in the pelvic floor, and innovations like FirmTech’s award-winning Tech Ring—the first smart intimacy wearable of its kind—enhances pleasure while improving cardiac health.Join Dr. Justin Elliot and I a we talk about erections!Introduction and Erection Ring Demonstration (00:00:02) Dr. Justin demonstrates how an erection ring helps men maintain erections longer by holding blood in the penis.Podcast Introduction and Guest Welcome (00:00:44) Jen introduces the podcast, its topics, and welcomes Dr. Elliot Justin as the guest.Defining Erections and Erectile Dysfunction (00:01:21) Discussion on the definition of erections, erectile dysfunction, and the problematic broadness of the term.Causes of Erectile Dysfunction (00:02:06) Explains the difference between men who can't attain erections (blood flow issues) and those who can't sustain them.Nocturnal Erections as a Health Indicator (00:03:54) Nocturnal erections are discussed as a vital sign for cardiovascular and sexual health.Tracking Nocturnal Erections with Technology (00:04:57) Introduction of Firm Tech’s sensor-embedded erection ring for monitoring nocturnal erections.How the Erection Ring Works (00:05:48) Explains the dual function of the ring: tracking vital signs and sustaining erections.Importance of Nighttime Monitoring (00:06:22) Why nocturnal erections are a better health indicator than daytime erections.Predictive Value of Nocturnal Erections (00:06:44) Decrease in nocturnal erections predicts higher risk of heart attack; importance of early detection.Preventive Sexual Health and Standard of Care (00:08:33) Advocates for routine monitoring of erectile health as preventive care for men over 45.
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In this episode of The Open Bedroom Podcast, I sit down with Veronica Lynn Clark, a transformative coach and spiritual teacher, to explore conscious dating, self-discovery, and intimacy.
We discuss how beliefs and past trauma shape our relationship patterns, the importance of self-awareness, and embodying the qualities we seek in a partner. Veronica shares her personal healing journey, the value of vulnerability, and offers practical advice for authentic connection.
Our conversation emphasizes intentionality, clear boundaries, and doing the inner work as keys to attracting meaningful, heart-centered relationships. We hope to inspire you to pursue deeper intimacy and personal growth in your own love life.
Meeting from Innocence and Curiosity (00:00:02)
Veronica discusses meeting people from a place of innocence, curiosity, and embodied presence rather than intellect.
Being Present with Others (00:01:15)
Veronica emphasizes the importance of being present with others and how it impacts connection.
Letting Go of Preconceived Notions (00:02:30)
She talks about letting go of preconceived notions and expectations when interacting with others.
Embodied Presence (00:03:45)
Veronica explains what it means to be in embodied presence during conversations.
Listening Deeply (00:05:10)
She highlights the value of listening deeply to others without judgment.
Responding Authentically (00:06:25)
Veronica discusses responding authentically rather than reacting from habit.
The Power of Vulnerability (00:07:40)
She shares insights on the power of vulnerability in building genuine connections.
Creating Safe Spaces (00:09:00)
Veronica talks about creating safe spaces for open and honest dialogue.
Mutual Understanding (00:10:15)
She emphasizes the importance of mutual understanding in relationships.
Transformative Encounters (00:11:30)
Veronica describes how transformative encounters can arise from authentic presence.
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Melissa Louise joins Jen for a candid discussion on sexual satisfaction and intimacy.
They explore how many men remain stuck in adolescent sexual habits, the impact on relationships, and the importance of evolving one’s sex life.
Melissa emphasizes communication, emotional safety, and mutual responsibility for pleasure.
The conversation also covers women’s sexual awakenings, cultural taboos, and practical advice for deepening connection. Listeners are encouraged to embrace vulnerability, challenge shame, and pursue more fulfilling, conscious sexual relationships.
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Introduction & Setting the Stage (00:00:02)
Melissa and Jen introduce the episode’s focus: sexual satisfaction, responsibility, and the “are you still fucking like you’re 16?” theme.
Podcast & Guest Introduction (00:00:25)
Jen introduces the podcast, Melissa’s credentials, and outlines the episode’s edgy, adult content.
Viral Reel & Topic Setup (00:02:04)
Jen describes discovering Melissa’s Instagram reel about men’s masturbation habits and sets up the main discussion.
Sexual Dissatisfaction & Awakening (00:05:00)
Jen reflects on her own sexual evolution and how dissatisfaction often sparks curiosity and change.
The Need for Sexual Evolution in Relationships (00:08:14)
Melissa discusses why couples must evolve sexually, comparing it to growth in other life areas.
Cultural Silence, Shame & Training for Sexual Mastery (00:09:39)
The speakers address cultural taboos, shame, and the lack of open conversation about sex. Melissa uses sports analogies to highlight the need for sexual “training” and effort in relationships.
Responsibility, Communication & Safety in Sex (00:12:34)
Melissa emphasizes shared responsibility, honest communication, and introduces the concept of “RACE” (Respect, Acknowledgement, Safety, Excitement), discussing the different safety needs of men and women.
Erectile Dysfunction & Male Sexual Energy (00:20:42)
Melissa reframes erectile issues as signals of deeper dissatisfaction and discusses the value of semen retention, male sexual power, and honoring the body.
How Men Can Help Their Partners Open Up (00:30:06)
Advice for men whose partners are sexually closed off, including the importance of sexual currency, connection, and understanding love languages.
Celebrating Sexual Exploration & Healing (00:38:46)
Jen shares personal stories of sexual exploration and the transformative power of great sex. Melissa discusses sex as a spiritual, emotional, and healing practice, and the importance of stamina and collective responsibility for change.
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In this episode of the Open Bedroom podcast, I interview psychologist Don Edmundson about his journey into polyamory. Don opens up about his personal experiences navigating jealousy, attachment, and the societal expectations of masculinity while building a polyamorous family with two partners and children. We discuss how he overcame ingrained beliefs about control, the importance of open communication, and how polyamory can foster trust and personal growth. Our conversation also explores research on relationship satisfaction and the evolving acceptance of ethical non-monogamy, offering practical insights for anyone interested in non-traditional relationships.
Don Edmondson is a tenured professor, and the Director of the Center for Behavioral Cardiovascular Health at Columbia University Medical Center. He is also a polyamorous man living with his 2 partners and their 2 kids. He launched PolyamPsychologist in 2025, to communicate the revolutionary potential of polyamory for society.
Don’s Polyamory Origin Story (00:02:16)
Don shares his background, upbringing, and initial exposure to non-monogamy, including his Southern Baptist roots and early relationships.
Transition to Polyamory & Jealousy (00:05:20)
Don explains the shift from hierarchical non-monogamy to polyamory, struggles with jealousy, and the journey toward compassion.
Building a Polyamorous Family (00:07:48)
Don shares how his family expanded to include Saga and their children, forming a supportive household and evolving family dynamics.
Therapy, Exposure, and Healing (00:14:14)
Don discusses using therapy and exposure techniques to overcome jealousy, build trust, and experience compersion.
Gendered Advice for Polyamory (00:18:24)
Don explains how advice for polyamory differs for men due to patriarchal conditioning, and discusses attachment theory and secure relationships.
Deconstructing Patriarchy for Men (00:24:54)
Jen asks how men can question and unlearn patriarchal beliefs about control in relationships; Don shares his personal growth through feminist friendship and recommended resources.
Men, Polyamory, and Social Media (00:30:39)
Jen asks about Don’s TikTok series on men and polyamory; Don explains his motivation, themes, and addresses issues like vulnerability and manipulation.
Research on Polyamory vs. Monogamy (00:37:14)
Jen asks about scientific research comparing monogamy and polyamory; Don summarizes findings on satisfaction, trust, sexual fulfillment, and the growth of ethical non-monogamy.
Podcast Wrap-Up and Resources (00:45:17)
Jen and Don share where to find more resources, social media links, and thank listeners.
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