The Open Nesters

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The Open Nesters

221 episodes

4 days ago

Re-Imagining the Empty Nest

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Re-Imagining the Empty Nest

Episodes (20/221)

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Courage (Season 6 | Episode 219)

4 days ago

34 minutes 17 seconds

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Leaning in to Better Lives

1 week ago

44 minutes 2 seconds

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Reflect and Celebrate The Open Nesters 2025 (S5 | E217)

2 weeks ago

15 minutes 38 seconds

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Evolution Intimacy

3 weeks ago

42 minutes 53 seconds

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Thank and Grow Rich (S5 | E215)

1 month ago

53 minutes 37 seconds

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Give Thanks with Tessa and Amir (E5 | 214)

1 month ago

16 minutes 18 seconds

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The Permission to Desire with Dr. David Freeman (S5 | E213)

1 month ago

50 minutes 21 seconds

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What Do Women Want? (S5 | E212)

What Do Women Want? (S5 | E212)
with Vicki Larson

What Do Women Want?
In this episode of The Open Nesters Podcast, we dive deep into the world of open nesting with a returning guest, Vicki Larson, a researcher and writer who is flipping the script on aging for women. She challenges the stereotype that women over a certain age are invisible, irrelevant, or unworthy of vibrant experiences. Larson presents a powerful narrative that underscores the importance of curiosity, agency, and intention, advocating for a redefined vision of aging that's far from bleak.

Vicki Larson
We revisit Larson's groundbreaking work, "Not Too Old for That," which seeks to change outdated perceptions of aging women. The discussion pivots to the significant demographic shift that will occur by 2030, where older people, particularly women, will outnumber children for the first time, thus raising essential questions about the future for this empowered group. Larson emphasizes the urgency of developing supportive frameworks and inclusive communities that embrace the realities and contributions of older women, allowing them to shape their narratives rather than being defined by societal norms.

EPISODE TIME CODE

20:20 Explore More
37:32 The Power of Friendship
38:39 Living Apart Together
41:53 Closing Thoughts and Reflections

The conversation also probes deeply into personal journeys and financial realities. Larson shares her own experience navigating financial independence post-divorce, which is a crucial aspect of this conversation. She reflects on the societal barriers that have historically impeded women's financial literacy and security. With stark honesty, she recounts her awakening to the importance of taking charge of her financial future after a long period of being disengaged from the household finances. This revelation resonates on many levels, demonstrating the need for women to forge a strong financial identity that empowers them well into their later years.

In another layer of the discussion, Larson unpacks the internal prejudices women face as they grow older, including societal pressures around beauty and desirability. She poignantly highlights the harmful impact of ageism and the need for women to create positive narratives about their aging. By showcasing examples of women who have reinvigorated their love lives and friendships later in life, Larson encourages women to reject the notion of being "too old" for romance or connection and instead embrace the abundant opportunities that mature relationships can offer.

Throughout the episode, the emphasis remains on community and the importance of connecting with other women who share similar experiences. Larson advocates for cultivating a supportive network where women uplift one another, debunking stereotypes and fostering genuine connections across generations. The discussion culminates in a call for women to reflect on their perceptions and narratives surrounding aging, nurturing a mindset that honors their evolving identities without fear of societal judgments.

Overall, this conversation is a treasure trove of insights and encouragement for anyone navigating the complexities of adulthood.

1 month ago

53 minutes

The Open Nesters

Erotic Healer (S5 | E211)

From Engineer to Erotic Healer (S5 | E211)
with Dr. David Freeman

From Engineer...
This episode of The Open Nesters Podcast delves into the inspiring journey of Dr. David Freeman, who has transitioned from a successful engineering career to a life dedicated to exploring intimacy and sexual well-being. In this enlightening two-part conversation, we engage with David about the concept of "open nesting"—embracing new possibilities and experiences at this stage of life.

To Erotic Healer
David shares his unique insights on vulnerability, relationships, and the courage to pursue a path of self-discovery. He recounts his previous role as a retired engineer at MIT, where he dedicated 17 years of his life before realizing it was time for a profound career change. Through the lens of his own experiences, he opens up about the estrangement from his daughters and the emotional toll it has taken on him. David discusses the impact of this estrangement and how it spurred him toward self-development, influenced by past guests, such as Dr. Joshua Coleman, who spoke about reclaiming estranged relationships.

EPISODE TIME CODE

1:37 David Freeman's Journey
7:34 The Shift to Self-Development
14:32 The Role of Sexual Energy
27:44 Courage to Explore Self
30:35 Preparing for Part Two

As David navigated the complexities of reconnecting with his daughters, he reveals the significant lessons learned about communication and emotional openness. He discusses his introduction to orgasmic meditation, a practice that not only fosters intimacy but also serves as a gateway to greater self-awareness and body positivity. This meditation practice emphasizes being present and attuned to one’s own sensations, allowing participants to revel in their vitality and life force.

Throughout the conversation, we explore broader themes of aging and vitality, dispelling myths around the notion that one's sexual energy diminishes with age. David passionately argues that our life force is something to cultivate and nurture rather than resign to loss. He emphasizes the importance of integrating pleasure and self-care into our daily routines and how practices like orgasmic meditation can help maintain this sense of vitality.

David also provides a thoughtful perspective on BDSM, presenting it as an opportunity for relational growth and exploration within a safe framework. He illustrates how establishing boundaries and safe spaces enables individuals to address deep-seated traumas and have crucial conversations that might otherwise be daunting or unmanageable.

As we unpack David’s transformative path, it becomes evident that his journey is both a personal reclamation of joy and an outward commitment to supporting others in their quests for connection and health. The episode beautifully intertwines the struggles and triumphs of open nesting, reminding us that it is never too late to recalibrate our lives, pursue new dreams, and ignite our passions.

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2 months ago

32 minutes 39 seconds

The Open Nesters

Relationship Anarchy (S5 | E210)

Relationship Anarchy (S5 | E210)
with Josh and Tammy

RELATIONSHIP ANARCY
In this episode of The Open Nesters Podcast, we dive deep into the dynamic and evolving relationship of Tammy and Josh, returning guests who previously shared their experiences with non-monogamy and emotional intimacy. With a lens focused on the complexities of open relationships, they reflect on their journey since their last appearance and how their connection has grown amidst challenges and changes.

Tammy shares her recent move to South Carolina, which marked a significant transition in her life, both geographically and relationally. The conversation opens with an exploration of how long-distance relationships can remain vibrant and fulfilling, particularly through the lens of non-monogamy. Tammy outlines her experiences navigating dating in her new community and how she joyfully discovered a supportive polyamorous community, enhancing her romantic interactions while managing the emotional complexity of her connections with Josh.

EPISODE TIME CODE

3:54 Long-Distance Love Adjustment
11:03 Navigating Jealousy and Attachment
17:31 Understanding Relationship Anarchy
33:29 Embracing New Relationship Structures
44:01 Reflections on Future Relationships
49:49 The Journey of Authentic Living

Josh elaborates on his own emotional journey, revealing the struggles he faced with feelings of jealousy. While Tammy started dating someone new, he found himself grappling with the discomfort that jealousy can bring. He emphasizes the importance of communication and emotional vulnerability in their relationship, drawing parallels between his practices and concepts from the book "Polysecure." This idea of facing pain and discomfort rather than fleeing became a pivotal learning point for both of them, deepening their emotional bond and understanding of each other.

The episode further delves into the concept of relationship anarchy, which Josh explains as a way to redefine connections without the societal pressure of hierarchy. Instead of prioritizing romance over other types of relationships, they discuss how important it is to honor friendships and various forms of intimacy equally. This perspective enables them to form unique, custom connections based on their current needs and desires rather than adhering to traditional relationship scripts.

As they navigate their relationship's complexities, Tammy and Josh candidly discuss the challenges of coming out to friends, family, and even their children regarding their lifestyle choices. They reflect on the varying reactions they received and how important it has been for them to live their truths despite societal norms. Their discussions also touch on the significance of emotional labor in relationships, including how to support one another through discomfort without attempting to "fix" each other's feelings.

Wrapping up the episode, both Tammy and Josh express gratitude for the growth they have experienced individually and as a couple. They highlight that emotional intimacy, honesty, and vulnerability are crucial for maintaining healthy relationships, regardless of their form.

2 months ago

The Open Nesters

The Balance Between Us (S5 | E209)

The Balance Between Us (S5 | E209)
with Tessa and Amir

THE BALANCE BETWEEN US
In this episode of The Open Nesters Podcast, we dive into the often-asked questions we've received from our dedicated listeners and friends about embracing this unique stage of life we call "open nesting." Rather than viewing ourselves as empty nesters, we embrace new opportunities for adventure, relationships, and personal growth. Together, we explore what it means to be open to endless possibilities, including the evolution of our connection through travel, interests, and valuing our individual journeys.

We begin by addressing the common inquiries around how we navigate our different interests, particularly in travel, and how we've cultivated autonomy while still maintaining a strong bond. Sharing personal anecdotes, we discuss the balance of enjoying experiences apart and together, emphasizing that these separate adventures have significantly enriched our relationship. We've learned to support each other's desires—whether it’s attending conventions or exploring new destinations solo—while positioning our shared trips as a cornerstone of our connection.

EPISODE TIME CODE

2:16 Traveling Together and Apart
7:36 Intentional Time and Emotional Growth
8:55 Keeping Love Fresh
12:06 Balancing Different Life Stages
17:26 Embracing the Jubilee Years
19:24 The Concept of Retirement

The conversation seamlessly transitions into the deeper aspects of our relationship, including how we maintain emotional intimacy amidst changing dynamics. We reflect on the importance of communication and gratitude, framing our journey through open relationships as one that encourages growth and appreciation for each other's happiness. Addressing potential challenges such as jealousy, we emphasize the value of intentional time together, allowing our love to flourish through curiosity and mutual encouragement—qualities that keep our dynamic vibrant and engaging.

Moreover, we tackle the various stages of life, balancing career pursuits with newfound freedom as we age. Each of us brings unique perspectives on work-life balance and fulfillment. I share insights into my continued professional engagement, while my partner reflects on the joys of pursuing passions without the constraints of a full-time job. Together, we emphasize how prioritizing time for each other, alongside our individual pursuits, lays the foundation for lasting love.

As we wrap up, we acknowledge that navigating this open-nesting stage is an ongoing and sometimes imperfect journey. Yet, it’s through the recalibrations, honest conversations, and mutual respect that we continue to thrive. We express our intentions to engage further with our audience by answering additional questions in future episodes, reflecting our commitment to sharing the wisdom and insights gathered through our unique experiences.

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2 months ago

22 minutes 44 seconds

The Open Nesters

Becoming Beloved (S5 | E208)

Becoming Beloved (S5 | E208)
with Kari and Steven Cardinale

BECOMING BELOVED
In this episode of The Open Nesters Podcast, we revisit a thought-provoking conversation with Kari and Steven Cardinale, experts in coaching and thought leadership. Kari, the Senior Vice President of Digital Strategy at the Modern Elder Academy, and Steven, an entrepreneur and author of "Synaptic Alchemy," share insights into their journey of becoming open nesters and the transformative power of love and relationships at this stage of life.

We delve into the idea of open nesting, a concept that transcends the traditional empty nester label. Rather than feeling empty or lost when children leave home, we explore how open nesters can embrace new adventures and deepened relationships. Kari and Steven's personal story offers a rich tapestry of experiences, highlighting how they navigated their individual transitions and merged their lives together, creating space for growth, exploration, and joy in their relationship.

EPISODE TIME CODE

3:43 Entering the Open Nest
15:52 Navigating Long-Term Decisions
24:38 Teaching at Modern Elder Academy
34:02 The Essence of Beloved
47:32 Closing Thoughts on Open Nesting

Throughout the discussion, we highlight the importance of curiosity and communication in couples' dynamics. Kari and Steven reflect on their unique personalities — Steven as the adventurous Tigger and Kari as the more cautious Eeyore — emphasizing how embracing these differences can foster stronger bonds. They introduce the idea of "casting a spell" over everyday moments, encouraging couples to transform mundane experiences into joyful and meaningful interactions.

Their insights on the book they co-authored, "Becoming Beloveds: A Practical Guide to Building Stronger Relationships," shed light on how recognizing and addressing fundamental needs within relationships can lead to richer connections. By applying Maslow's principles to romantic partnerships, they outline how couples can evolve from mere coexistence to partnerships characterized by intention, reverence, and love.

The couple also shares their aspirations at the Modern Elder Academy, where they teach methods for navigating midlife transitions and cultivating purpose. They provide guidance on how to explore values such as adventure and family while planning for the future — a process that can involve global adventures or simply deepening family ties, all while keeping the door open for full-circle connections with loved ones.

Listeners are encouraged to take actionable steps towards improving their own relationships, from identifying love languages to engaging in self and partner exploration through assessment tools. As they underline the necessity of maintaining curiosity in relationships, Kari and Steven invite us to consider: what if we shifted our perceptions of love? Could the simple act of referring to our partners as "beloved" elevate the quality of our interactions and fulfill emotional needs?

2 months ago

53 minutes 46 seconds

The Open Nesters

Our Cosmic Curriculum with Eric Meyers (S5 | E207)

OUR COSMIC CURRICULUM (S5 | E207)
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A SEASONED ASTROLOGER
In this episode of The Open Nesters Podcast, Tessa engages with Eric Myers, a seasoned counseling astrologer and author, to explore the transformative journey of open nesting—where life beyond raising children opens doors to new adventures and personal growth. We dive deep into Eric's unique background, starting with his early life in Connecticut and journey into spiritual exploration. His experience in transpersonal counseling psychology has shaped his distinctive approach to astrology, where he pairs psychological insights with metaphysical perspectives.

Eric discusses his fascinating experiences as a digital nomad over the past few years, reflecting on how his travels across Europe have shifted his perspective on American culture. Through his lens of spirituality and community, he contrasts the individualistic nature of the United States with the more collective social structures he observed abroad. This exploration serves as a foundation to understand how diverse environments can impact our inner selves and our relationships with others.

EPISODE TIME CODE

1:09 Meet Eric Myers: Astrology and Freedom
7:48 The Importance of Astrology Today
12:45 Astrology: Owner's Manual for Your Life
16:37 The Chocolate Cake Analogy
29:47 Life Lessons in the Open Nesting Stage

Highlighting the shift of becoming an open nester, Eric underscores how this life stage can be a pivotal time for self-discovery, urging listeners to view the empty nest phase not as a loss but as an opportunity for reinvention. He emphasizes how astrology can serve as an insightful tool for understanding one’s spiritual curriculum—unique life lessons intended for personal growth. Eric provides a nuanced view of astrology, steering away from common misconceptions and emphasizing its role in revealing deeper truths about our soul’s journey rather than predicting destinies.

Eric articulates the significance of recognizing our karmic patterns and how they can inform our choices, especially in relationships. Through illustrative examples, he shares insights into how people can engage with their lessons rather than shy away from discomfort. These discussions lead to a richer understanding of how personal growth can stem from engaging with challenges and examining the dynamics we share with partners.

Throughout the conversation, Eric also sheds light on the importance of self-authorship in our later years, encouraging listeners to break free from societal conditioning. He shares practical tools for listeners to assess whether they are operating from a space of personal fulfillment or simply conforming to external expectations. This nuanced view provokes thought on how to reconcile our past socializations with the spiritual desires that emerge during this stage of life.

Listeners are invited to reflect on their own curricula and consider what lessons lie ahead. Eric notes that various astrological passages experienced throughout life serve as mark...

2 months ago

36 minutes 31 seconds

The Open Nesters

THE PLEASURE MECHANICS | EXPANDING EROTIC PLEASURE AS WE AGE (S5 | E206)

EXPANDING EROTIC PLEASURE AS WE AGE (S5 | E206)
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THE PLEASURE MECHANICS (Chris and Charlotte)
In this episode of The Open Nesters Podcast, we delve into the concept of open nesting—embracing the opportunities and adventures that arise as we transition into a new phase of life. We are joined by Chris and Charlotte from The Pleasure Mechanics, who share their unique expertise in the realm of pleasure and intimate relationships. This engaging conversation reminds us that the empty nest doesn't have to equate to loss or stagnation; instead, it can be a vibrant opening to new experiences that invigorate our spirits.

Chris and Charlotte recount their journey of love and professional dedication, starting from their meeting in San Francisco in 2006, where their paths intertwined through a shared commitment to erotic massage. They discuss their evolution as partners and educators, emphasizing how their personal and professional lives have shaped their understanding of pleasure, relationships, and intimacy. Through the lens of open nesting, they explore the idea of reclaiming desire and passion, especially after years focused on parenting.

EPISODE TIME CODE

2:01 The Genesis of The Pleasure Mechanics

8:27 Communicating Desires and Needs

33:03 Expanding the Definition of Pleasure

50:19 The Journey of Pleasure and Connection
1:06:43 Conclusion and Future Explorations

As they navigate their own transitions—balancing the joys and challenges of raising a young child while rediscovering their individual and mutual desires—the couple highlights the importance of open communication and vulnerability in intimate relationships. They candidly speak about their contrasting experiences during significant life changes, such as health challenges and grief, which led them to reassess their sexual selves and redefine their relationship dynamics. Their shared wisdom encourages listeners to embrace and explore their own erotic curiosities while fostering a supportive space for their partners.

The discussion also addresses the landscape of aging and sexuality, debunking myths and celebrating the pleasure that can be found in later stages of life. Chris and Charlotte illustrate that aging does not mean a decline in sexual vitality; instead, many find themselves with renewed vigor and desire to experiment. They invite listeners to engage in mindful practices that focus on half-forgotten pleasures—reminding us that discovering joy in our bodies can be an endless journey filled with growth and fulfillment.

Throughout the episode, the concepts of compersion, jealousy, and the importance of nurturing individual pleasure are interwoven with practical advice—encouraging couples to communicate openly about their desires. They emphasize the significance of exploring both personal and shared joys as a means to foster deeper connections and enhance intimacy. By sharing their vulnerability and triumphs,

3 months ago

1 hour 7 minutes 19 seconds

The Open Nesters

Every Day is the Day (S5 | E205)

Every Day is the Day (S5 | E205)
The Open Nesters Podcast

Every Day is the Day with Darcy and Gary
In this episode of The Open Nesters Podcast, we have the pleasure of continuing our engaging conversation with Gary and Darcy, who shed light on how they embrace the open nesting phase of life with passion and adventure. As they explore themes of aging, vitality, spirituality, and sexuality, they redefine what it means to be in an empty nest, promoting the exciting concept of being "open nesters"—ready to embrace endless possibilities. To explore an event featuring Darcy click here.

Gary and Darcy share their inspiring journey, diving deeper into how they overcame hardships to cultivate a joyful and adventurous life together. The couple discusses how a near-death experience prompted Gary to seize each day actively, transforming mundane tasks into opportunities for exploration and connection. They reveal their approach to navigating daily life with curiosity, emphasizing that adventures don’t always require extensive planning; sometimes, spontaneity leads to the most rewarding experiences.

EPISODE TIME CODE

1:46 Embracing Adventure in Daily Life
7:10 The Importance of Vulnerability
13:36 Exploring Life After 60
18:03 Shifting Dynamics of Sexuality
23:00 The Journey of Healing and Intimacy

Throughout our conversation, the couple describes their adventures—from wandering through unfamiliar streets in Playa del Carmen to infusing excitement into grocery shopping. By adopting a mindset that embraces the unpredictable, they’ve learned to appreciate the hidden joys in everyday moments. Their stories highlight that adventure can be as simple as allowing an unexpected direction to guide your experience, leading to meaningful moments of connection.

Gary and Darcy also address the importance of vulnerability in their relationship. They articulate how embracing each other's authentic selves has allowed them to experience deeper intimacy, both emotionally and physically. Their dialogue around sexuality reveals a journey of rediscovery, emphasizing trust and open communication as cornerstones of their current partnership. They candidly discuss how transitioning into new relationships later in life offers a chance to explore uncharted territories while navigating the complexities of past experiences.

Further, they delve into the concept of "60 New Things"—a fun goal they’ve set for themselves as they embrace their 60s. They discuss how it encourages them to continuously explore opportunities for growth and excitement, from motorcycle rides to dance camps. Their insights inspire listeners to pursue their desires, reinforcing that life’s stages can be ripe with possibilities for personal exploration and connection.

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3 months ago

40 minutes 24 seconds

The Open Nesters

Sex and Laughter (S5 | E204)

Sex and Laughter with Joyce Saltman
(Season 5 | Episode 204)

[Tessa] In this episode of The Open Nesters Podcast, I explore the joy and laughter that come with the journey of aging and the phenomenon of open nesting. Conversing with my dear friend and mentor, Joyce Saltman, we dive deep into the many aspects of what it means to embrace life after our children have flown the coop. Joyce, an inspiring figure who seamlessly blends wit and wisdom, shares her experiences and insights from her life, including her personal adventures in dating, relationships, and the challenges and joys that arise in our later years.

As we reminisce about Joyce's unique perspective, she recounts her journey into the world of dating after her kids left home. With humor, she reflects on the lessons learned from her past relationships, including the societal expectations she faced regarding love and intimacy. Now at 78, she offers a candid look at how she has navigated the landscape of romance and friendship, making a case for being open to new experiences and connections during this vibrant stage of life.

Joyce's enchanting stories are mixed with her deep understanding of intimacy, relationships, and the importance of setting boundaries. We discuss how open nesting is about more than just an empty house; it’s about redefining personal freedom, maintaining relationships with our adult children, and creating new narratives for ourselves. Joyce emphasizes that open relationships, whether romantic or platonic, can thrive when built on solid foundations of trust and communication.

We delve into the delightful topic of sex and aging, where Joyce, with her characteristic lightheartedness, shares her humorous take on the subject. This includes her unique presentation titled “A Humorous Look at Sex and Aging”, where she combines research findings with laughter, focusing on the misconceptions and realities of intimacy as we grow older. She highlights not only the importance of physical affection but also the role of emotional connection—stressing that true intimacy goes far beyond just the physical act itself.

Throughout our conversation, Joyce provides sage advice on maintaining joy, whether through rituals of intimacy, engaging in laughter, or setting personal goals. We touch on the significance of nurturing friendships and the profound impact they have on mental well-being, especially in our golden years. Joyce’s anecdotes about her "husband equivalent" serve as further testament to embracing life’s possibilities, and her infectious spirit encourages us all to open our hearts and homes to new experiences.

In closing, Joyce offers a rich tapestry of humor and insights, reminding us to live fully, cherish our connections, and not be afraid to indulge in the pleasures life offers—be it celebrating the beauty of relationships or simply enjoying a good piece of chocolate. This episode is filled with laughter, love, and the reminder that we have the power to shape our experiences in this third act of life, making it one of the most rewarding chapters yet.

About Joyce Saltman
Joyce Saltman is a Professor Emeritus of Special Education at Southern Connecticut State University in New Haven, CT. She chose to receive her doctoral degree from Columbia because she loved the color of their doctoral gown. It was no small feat that she was able to persuade her mentor to allow her to write her dissertation on “Humor in Adult Learning.” She also holds four graduate degrees in the field...

3 months ago

45 minutes 24 seconds

The Open Nesters

Resilient Hearts, Perfect Match (S5 | E203)

Resilient Hearts, Perfect Match (S5 | E203)
The Open Nesters Podcast

Darcy and Gary
In this eye-opening two-part episode of The Open Nesters Podcast, we delve into the transformative journey of our guests, Darcy and Gary, who have successfully navigated the complexities of grief, love, and personal growth in the open nesting phase of their lives. As they share their powerful stories, we explore how they have redefined what it means to edge into new beginnings, emphasizing that being an open nester is about embracing life's possibilities rather than feeling empty.

Darcy and Gary begin by reflecting on their individual journeys, each emerging from significant loss while fostering a profound personal evolution. Darcy recounts her experience as a double breast cancer survivor, which catalyzed a reckoning with her life choices and relationships. Through a process of introspection and a willingness to surrender, she discovered the necessity of living fully, seeking adventure, joy, and intimacy in her life. Gary, on the other hand, faced the unanticipated death of his wife, which propelled him into a deep exploration of personal transformation. He emphasizes the importance of owning one's part in past relationships and recognizing the need for continual growth, regardless of external circumstances.

EPISODE TIME CODE

1:14 Meet Darcy and Gary
7:29 Overcoming Grief and Finding Purpose
11:54 Embracing Intimacy and Surrender
21:20 Navigating Relationships with Adult Kids
26:30 Growth Through Vulnerability and Intimacy

The intersection of their lives occurs shortly after their respective losses. They share how they met through Facebook dating, united by their love for outdoor adventures and a spiritual inclination. Despite the initial doubts about Gary's readiness for a new relationship following the sudden death of his wife, the connection between them flourished in an authentic and supportive manner. Darcy reveals how her openness created a safe space for Gary to grieve, illustrating the importance of vulnerability and intimacy in forging new connections.

As the conversation progresses, we explore the concept of surrender—how it became essential in both their healing processes. Darcy explains that true surrender does not equate to giving up; instead, it is about relinquishing control over outcomes and trusting in the unfolding of life. She introduces her five core elements for growth: surrender, love, honest communication, developing intimacy, and allowing joy. Gary contributes by sharing the importance of confronting grief and intentionally engaging in personal transformation as part of their shared journey.

Their burgeoning relationship showcases how deep emotional work can lead to intimacy—not just in a romantic sense but in a broader understanding of connection with oneself and others. Each narrator articulates their struggles and triumphs, pointing to the resilience that comes from acknowledging pain and transforming it into joy. They emphasize the unique camaraderie of open nesters, who often bear burdens of grief yet lean into new experiences with enthusiasm and openness.

As the episode wraps, Darcy and Gary express their commitment to maintaining an ope...

3 months ago

38 minutes 30 seconds

The Open Nesters

The Strap On: We Discuss (S5 | E202)

Buckle Up and Strap On (S5 | E202)
The Open Nesters Podcast

Two Sex Educators, One Goal - Give Us All The Opportunity to Expand Our Sexual Horizons
In this episode of The Open Nesters Podcast, Amir and Tessa introduce the concept of "open nesting," redefining the experience of becoming an empty nester as an opportunity to embrace new adventures, relationships, and passions in the third act of life. They dive deep into the topic of sexuality and personal growth, bringing back an exciting encore from Season 2 featuring sex educators Reed Mahalko and Allison Moon. This episode is distinctly aimed at adults, marked by its frank and humorous take on topics often laden with societal stigma.

Reed and Allison bring their expertise in sexual education to the conversation, shedding light on the notion that sex is a normal part of life, rather than something to be shamed or hidden. Their approach intertwines humor and education as they share insights into kink, submission, and other facets of sexuality. The duo's dynamic interaction paints a vivid picture of their partnership, which works to break down barriers and normalize conversations around sexual exploration, especially for those in their later years.

EPISODE TIME CODE

1:16 A Humorous Encore Episode
2:25 Exploring Sexuality and Relationships
8:16 Workshops and Presentations
10:16 Understanding Pegging
15:38 Evolving Sexual Desires
29:44 Embracing the Journey of Growth

Allison Moon, Author
Allison Moon is the author of five books including the critically acclaimed sexual education guide Girl Sex 101 (Goldie Award for Nonfiction, Rainbow Award), Getting It: A Guide to Hot, Healthy Hookups and Shame-Free Sex, and the erotic memoir Bad Dyke (Publisher’s Weekly Starred Book). Allison is a popular sex educator, leading workshops on sexual pleasure and technique, polyamory, LGBTQ+ issues, and more. She has been quoted in Cosmopolitan, New York magazine, and the Washington Post. Her other writing includes articles for Bustle, and stories for the RISK! podcast, Bawdy Storytelling, and various anthologies.
Allison was a 2011 Lambda Literary Emerging LGBT Authors Fellow. She has a degree in Neuroscience from Oberlin College. Allison has presented her workshops — on strap-on sex, polyamory, sexual self-expression, erotica writing, and more — to thousands of people around the US and Canada.

Reid Mihalko
Reid Mihalko (He/Him) of ReidAboutSex.com, Relationship10x.com, and Sex10xOnline.com helps adults and college students create more s...

4 months ago

1 hour 51 seconds

The Open Nesters

Joy Among My Tears (S5 | E201)

Joy Among My Tears (S5 | E201)
with Guest: Audrey Carlson

The Journey of Healing Through Loss
[Tessa] In this episode of The Open Nesters Podcast, we delve deep into the incredible journey of resilience and growth through immense tragedy with our guest, Audrey Carlson. A mother, grandmother, and a source of inspiration, Audrey shares her poignant story of navigating profound loss while cultivating a life filled with gratitude and purpose. We explore the concept of open nesting—embracing the freedom and opportunities that come in the later stages of life rather than viewing it as a transition into emptiness.

Audrey opens up about the tragic murder of her 24-year-old daughter, Elizabeth, which occurred nearly two decades ago. Through honest reflection, she discusses the lasting impact of this loss on her family and how they have chosen to respond with love and strength. Instead of allowing grief to define them, they have cultivated space for healing and ongoing connection, affirming their commitment to each other during their darkest days. Audrey emphasizes that healing is a continuous process, accentuated by her mantra of choosing happiness as a conscious decision—an approach she adopted after extensive personal reflection and therapy.

As we dialogue, Audrey reveals the transformative power of gratitude in her life. She acknowledges that, despite the heartache, she finds herself surrounded by blessings each day. Her journey leads her to become a lifelong learner, where she actively engages in personal development and initiatives that uplift others. She founded the Happiness Club, a supportive community dedicated to exploring positive psychology, reinforcing her belief that happiness can be cultivated and shared.

Throughout our conversation, we also touch on the importance of emotional resilience and the mindset needed to navigate life’s challenges. Audrey recalls her own experiences with cancer and her unwavering faith throughout the process. Her insight into healthcare collaboration, particularly with her daughter, who works in the medical field, invites listeners to understand the deeper connections that can emerge from adversity.

Audrey shares vital lessons on listening, the delicate balance of nurturing versus fixing others, and the importance of allowing individuals, especially our children, to solve their own problems. We uncover her approach of leading by example rather than through words alone, revealing how her daughter, Leslie, has embraced the values she instilled, creating her own legacy of care and compassion for others.

HARTFORD HAPPINESS CLUB, HARTFORD, CONNECTICUT
The first meeting was on Thursday, May 1, 2014.
Meetings are the first Thursday of every month.
Date & Time: First Thursday each month from 7:00 - 8:30 PM
Place: Town and County Club, 22 Woodland Street, Hartford, CT 06105
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The episode culminates with powerful reflections on nature, personal growth, and the necessity of self-care. Audrey emphasizes the significance of dedicating time to one's own happiness and the role of community in fostering a supportive environment. With insights from notable thought leaders, like Dr. Bernie Siegel and the philosophies shared within Show more...

4 months ago

37 minutes

The Open Nesters

Not Your Grandmother’s Monogamy (S5 | E200)

Not Your Grandma's Monogamy (S5 | E200)
The Open Nesters Podcast

Dr. Tammy Nelson | Not Your Grandmother's Monogamy
[Tessa] In this episode, we revisit a compelling conversation with Dr. Tammy Nelson, a prominent sex therapist and author of "Open Monogamy." I had the distinct pleasure of discussing the dynamic landscape of relationships, particularly the concepts of polyamory and open relationships, and how they can lead to deeper happiness and fulfillment for some individuals, especially women. Dr. Nelson provides insightful perspectives on the evolving definitions of monogamy and emphasizes that non-monogamous arrangements are not for everyone, but they warrant discussion and exploration.

Dr. Nelson shares her personal journey, revealing how her experiences as a therapist over 35 years have informed her understanding of relationships. As we discuss her latest book, I encourage her to define "open monogamy," which she describes as a commitment to a primary partnership that allows for flexible relationships with others. This concept reframes traditional ideas about monogamy, acknowledging that the landscape of love and intimacy has significantly changed, particularly over the past few decades.

We delve into the societal shifts that have led many couples to reconsider their relationship structures. Particularly striking is Dr. Nelson's observation that women have increasingly taken charge of their sexual and relational needs, often acting as gatekeepers in discussions around opening relationships. This dynamism contrasts with previous eras where non-monogamous arrangements frequently involved secrecy and deception.

Dr. Nelson describes various exercises from her book that can help couples navigate these conversations openly. She explains how foundational honesty and integrity are to any relationship, and she urges couples to examine what monogamy means to them, emphasizing that definitions may vary greatly. Each couple's journey is unique, filled with opportunities for enhancing intimacy and connection through open dialogue about desires and boundaries.

Our enlightening discussion also touches on the age-related dynamics accompanying open relationships. Dr. Nelson categorizes couples into two groups: those experiencing a resurgence of vitality in their relationships as their children grow older, and younger couples rediscovering their identities apart from familial obligations. She elaborates on how these life stages often prompt individuals to seek new experiences, which can lead to fulfilling open relationships.

Throughout the episode, Dr. Nelson highlights the importance of transparency in navigating fears about non-monogamy. She encourages listeners to engage in "what-if" conversations that allow couples to explore potential scenarios and their emotional repercussions proactively. By setting boundaries rather than rigid rules, couples can create a more fluid understanding of their relationship agreements, fostering exploration while maintaining emotional safety.

As we conclude our conversation, Dr. Nelson offers to share a complimentary ebook containing starter questions for those interested in opening discussions about their relationships. Her insights encourage listeners to embrace curiosity and vulnerability, reminding us that evolving needs in relationships require periodic reassessment and open communication.
This episode serves as a platform for exploring the in...

4 months ago

47 minutes 10 seconds