In the previous episode, Amy gave a technique for how to resolve a glitch in the give and receive cycle in marriage using a discussion structure. Is talking about it still not working? In this episode Amy offers a deeper, but still simple, way of getting breakthrough in some areas that seem pretty stuck. www.nomythmarriages.com

In our lives we have sources of income, sources of food, sources of security and so on. Our marriages are also a source, and the benefits we receive from our marriage rely on a reciprocal cycle of give and receive. But what do we do when it feels like we're always giving but the other person isn't? Here's a 4-step process to repair and restore that give and receive cycle back into our relationships. This technique also works across any other types of relationships - among family, friends and coworkers too.

What even is marriage? From this episode, engaged couples will understand better what they are signing up for, and a thing or two about trust, including how to improve how much they can trust their future spouse not to hurt them in future. Plus, a story or two from a pilot's wife's world. www.nomythmarriages.com

"You're going to be married forever so you want it to be good if that's the case." "Sometimes we've already decided in our mind what that person's already thought, or what their conclusions are. We actually haven't asked them." Annika and Peter work together as Pastors of a successful local church - so they need to have a successful marriage! In this episode they generously share some of the insights they've had to gain and some of the joy they experience from being in it for the long term.

It's super important to be happy in your marriage. You can and should be happy in marriage not because your marriage is good but because you are happy and have mastered the art of being happy. How do I do that when I constantly have to pick up after people, do more than my fair share of washing, or get nagged at by my spouse? Live in the Gain, not the Gap! Listen on for a simple plan that I'm now using since I read The Gap & The Gain by Dan Sullivan with Dr Benjamin Hardy. www.nomythmarriages.com

(Or, The Questions You're Allowed to Ask.)This one thing, if you practise it, can make all the difference between a bickering, arguing and unhappy relationship, and a satisfying and happy one. Mastering this one skill is worth millions in what it can do for the world! It's probably not what you think. So please listen on. Got feedback or questions? Feel free to add them below in the comments section!

"It's very much a mindset thing." "There is a solution to every problem. You should not give up!"Yolandi and Ockie climbed out of a rough place in their marriage to a place of high satisfaction and enjoyment. Today they are generously sharing how they did it. Listen in on a come-back journey that can enrich even the most successful relationships.Note: there is a small mention of faith in God somewhere in here. For those  who might like to know that in advance.

After a looong break, the Pilot's Wife is back, and so excited to be recording again! We're doubling down on happy marriage vibes today. The topic: the game of marriage.

With much awaited anticipation, Amy today welcomes her husband Josh as a special guest on the Pilot's Wife show, for the 50th episode. Hear his perspective on the three things he notices most in couples and their relationships. Amy and Josh also talk about the one thing they would say (if they could only say one thing) to encourage couples around the world. And there are some analogies from within the cockpit that can be applied to romantic relationships - if you want to hear a little about how pilots talk while up front...

Have you ever wondered how you (or someone you know) ended up with a lazy / bossy / controlling etc partner? Here's one way it could have happened - but if this is the way it happened, the good news is, it's reversible. Find out how in this latest episode.

Has anyone ever told you you're too assertive, or not assertive enough? There's a certain connotation from the word that makes it a dirty word in romantic relationships. Amy shares the true definition of assertiveness to remove all doubt and explains how to set the scene to exercise some level of assertiveness, so as not to suffer consequences later on.

Take a chill break from whatever you are doing, and have a listen to this chilled "free time" chat from Amy McLaren on a couple of relationship musings. Amy takes a social psychology phenomenon to do with crowds, and wonders if the same thing doesn't happen even when there's just two, not even a crowd. She also chews the fat about contingency planning, given what Josh has been working through at his job this past week. (Backing track is "I Got This" from Fesliyan Studios)

Sometimes, we don't give each other enough credit. This episode is about correcting that. Hear a little bit about Josh & Amy's biggest conflict area in their marriage and how it has been working out during this time, when this area of their marriage has been under the most intense pressure in all their 18 years of being together. https://myweddingmag.co.nz

Has anyone ever asked you the rhetorical question: "What did you expect?" with the meaning that you shouldn't have expected anything other than what you got? In this episode Amy invites couples to actually seek the answer next time someone asks them that. And she invites the male listeners to go against a social norm (in the privacy of their own home of course). Plus, find out how many millions make a billion (oh, you already know? Amy had to look it up - must be all that lack of sleep!) in this refreshing episode of The Pilot's WIfe.

A whole lot of our communication is non-verbal. When we are having a heated discussion, the non-verbal stuff actually blocks the real message getting through. This is often why the argument goes around in circles without getting resolved: because the real message isn't getting through. Amy gives a hack for either type of non-verbal communication style - both body language, and tone, which can be applied in any relationship to trump the non-verbal stuff and allow the real message to get through.

In this episode Amy has been digging around, and found some research from a few years back about an unconventional method for preventing divorce.   http://www.rochester.edu/news/divorce-rate-cut-in-half-for-couples-who-discussed-relationship-movies/movie-list.html

In this special episode, you will get probably the one and only opportunity for you to be a fly on the wall within one of Amy's private couples counselling sessions. Amy goes through some of the values exercise material in a different way to usual, and explains a key concept in maintaining a successful and satisfying relationship that has not been covered before.

There are obvious benefits to working on our relationship skills, primarily being happier and enjoying our life much more when our marriage is doing well. There are also some hidden benefits to becoming relationship ninjas too. Amy highlights one benefit that contributes to a lasting legacy we can build, simply by having a good relationship with our spouse.

Happy New Year! If you're anything like Amy, you've experienced a number of relationships around you, maybe including yours, suffering from some kind of argument or tension over Christmas. It brings about the topic of when relationships feel like they are going in a downwards spiral, how to recognise if this is the pattern or if it's just a temporary, seasonal phenomenon, why it's happening and what to do about it. Be encouraged by the normality of relationship grumpiness and that there is something you can do about it and here is an answer for you.

Amy and Josh don't argue too often, but every couple has their hiccups. Amy has decided to have a break from arguing at all over Christmas - and has come up with a strategy she is going to try out. She invites you to partner with her in trying this method and explains how it would work. This is the final episode for 2020, episodes will re-ignite in early January 2021.