On this podcast we explore how the choices we make, big or small, shape our lives. Tune in to hear two coaches and friends from across the pond talk all things mindset, unpacking powerful ideas like perspective shifts, assumptions and how to create a life you love. If you're ready to question what you've always believed, rewrite your internal stories and start to choosing differently this podcast is for you.
On this podcast we explore how the choices we make, big or small, shape our lives. Tune in to hear two coaches and friends from across the pond talk all things mindset, unpacking powerful ideas like perspective shifts, assumptions and how to create a life you love. If you're ready to question what you've always believed, rewrite your internal stories and start to choosing differently this podcast is for you.
In this episode of The Power of Choosing, Trudi and Claire explore the essential practice of reflecting on past achievements to appreciate the moment you are in now. The discussion emphasizes how easily we forget our past struggles and accomplishments and the importance of celebrating these victories, both big and small.They share personal anecdotes demonstrating growth from past to present, highlighting how reflecting on these experiences can build confidence for future challenges.The hosts offer insights into finding joy in simple moments and maintaining a balanced perspective on life's journey.In this episode:~ Why it’s important to celebrate both little and big wins~ Personal stories of overcoming challenges and embracing achievements~ The value of being present and mindful in daily life~ How to cultivate joy in simple moments~ The pitfalls of always seeking the next big thing~ Practical steps for reflecting on past accomplishments and staying presentWhy this matters: Taking the time to reflect on how far you’ve come allows you to appreciate the journey and recognize your growth. This practice builds confidence and helps you to face future challenges with a sense of capability and resilience. Challenge: This week, take a moment each day to reflect on a past achievement and celebrate it. Notice how this practice impacts your overall sense of well-being and presence.If you would like to get in touch with either Claire or Trudi, you can reach us both at thepowerofchoosing@gmail.com #ThePowerOfChoosing #Mindfulness #CelebrateWins #BePresent #ReflectOnGrowth
In this episode of The Power of Choosing, we delve into the importance of honouring yourself. We discuss why it's essential to know yourself and believe you're important enough to be the main character in your life.Through personal stories and practical examples, we explore how failing to ask for what you need often leads to frustration and resentment. We highlight the value of clear communication, particularly the difference between 'what' and 'why' questions, and how this shift can impact your relationships positively.Additionally, we touch on the importance of establishing boundaries and provide actionable advice on adding joy to your life by doing things that fill you with energy. This episode aims to empower listeners to stand firm in their needs and take control of their life choices.Why this matters: Honouring yourself and clearly communicating your needs are vital steps to living a fulfilling life. By knowing and asking for what you need, you build more authentic and satisfying relationships.Challenge: Take five minutes to write down things that bring you joy and things that drain you. Make an effort to incorporate more of the joy-bringing activities into your daily routine.If you would like to get in touch with us, you can reach us both at thepowerofchoosing@gmail.com. We would love to hear from you!
In this episode of The Power of Choosing, we delve into how to navigate the pressure and expectations of the festive season to find genuine joy and connection. We discuss the importance of learning to say no, ensuring self-care, and choosing how you want to celebrate to avoid overwhelm and keep your holiday season enjoyable.Key highlights include:~ The significance of saying no to avoid overcommitting~ Prioritising self-care during the holidays~ Defining your own festive traditions and ignoring societal pressures~ Personal stories of adjusting to new priorities with life changes~ Coping with grief and mixed emotions during the season Why this matters: The holiday season often comes with significant external and internal pressures. By being mindful of your choices and priorities, you can create a more fulfilling, less stressful experience.Challenge: This holiday season, practice saying no to at least one obligation that doesn’t align with your needs and preferences, and see how it impacts your overall festive experience.If you would like to get in touch with us, you can reach us at thepowerofchoosing@gmail.com we would love to hear from you!
In this episode of The Power of Choosing, Trudi and Claire discuss the subtle yet impactful habit of over-apologizing with phrases like 'I'm sorry' and how it can manifest as playing small and people-pleasing behaviour, particularly among women. Sparked by an anecdote from a squash game, the conversation flows to the energy and consequences behind these phrases.Key insights include:~ Why phrases like 'I'm sorry' and 'Does that make sense?' can undermine your confidence and presence~ The difference between a genuine apology and a superficial one~ How over-apologizing can affect your personal and professional life~ Strategies to reframe your language to be more empowering~ The importance of awareness in spotting and changing these patterns**Why this matters:** Over-apologizing and using minimizing language can obstruct your personal and professional growth by affecting how others perceive you and how you perceive yourself. Recognizing and shifting these patterns allows you to show up more confidently and authentically.**Challenge:** Pay attention to when you say 'I'm sorry' and other minimizing phrases this week. Practice replacing 'I'm sorry' with lighter phrases like 'Oops, my bad' or ask directly, 'Are there any questions?' to foster a more assertive communication style.If you would like to get in touch with either Claire or Trudi, you can reach us both at thepowerofchoosing@gmail.com#emotionalintelligence #SubtleShifts #WomenInBusiness #Empower #PeoplePleasing #LanguageMatters #OwnYourPower #ConfidenceBuilding
In this episode of The Power of Choosing, Claire and Trudi explore how effective communication and clear expectations can save your marriage. They discuss the significance of open communication in relationships and how unchecked expectations can lead to unnecessary conflicts.
With personal anecdotes and actionable advice, they highlight the importance of understanding your own needs, the value of love languages, and practical exercises to align with your partner. This episode is a must-listen for anyone looking to strengthen their marriage or improve their relationship dynamics.
If this resonates with you, we'd love to hear from you. Reach out at thepowerofchoosing@gmail.com.
What if the biggest critic in your life isn't out there—it's the voice inside your head? In this episode, Claire and Trudi get honest about the internal commentary that tells us we're being judged, that we said the wrong thing, or that everyone is watching our every move. Sparked by Claire's real-time experience of her brain critiquing her while recording, this conversation explores how our inner voice keeps us small—and what to do about it.
Inside this episode:
~ Why you think everyone's watching you (and the truth about what they're actually thinking)
~ Why someone who looks confident might actually be panicking on the inside
~ The conversation that proved everyone's too busy judging themselves to judge you
~ Why vulnerability triggers the harshest self-criticism—and what to do about it
~ The simple practice that stops your inner voice from running the show
This is for anyone who's ever walked away from a conversation replaying everything they said, or held back from being fully themselves because of what others might think.
Main takeaway: Your inner voice doesn't have to rule the show. When you pause and question those automatic thoughts, you realize most of them aren't even true—and the ones that are don't matter nearly as much as you think they do.
If this resonates with you, we'd love to hear from you. Reach out at: thepowerofchoosing@gmail.com.
In this episode of The Power of Choosing, Trudi and Claire dive into the struggles around commitment. Brought about by a client's question, they explore why people often avoid putting events in their diaries and how the word 'why' keeps us stuck.
They share personal stories and insights on shifting from 'why' to 'what' to open up new possibilities. Key points include the comfort of chaos, fear of lack of freedom, and the role of self-doubt in avoiding commitments.
They also emphasize the importance of grace, compassion, and self-love in overcoming these barriers.
In this episode:
~ The pitfalls of constantly asking 'why' and the power of asking 'what' instead
~ Real-life examples of avoiding commitment and the underlying reasons
~ The comfort found in chaos and the societal pressure to stay busy
~ How fear, self-doubt, and a need for freedom can hinder commitment
~ Practical ways to practice self-love and compassion to move past these barriers
Why this matters: Understanding why we avoid commitments can help us break free from limiting patterns. By shifting from 'why' to 'what,' we open ourselves to new opportunities and more fulfilling choices.
Challenge: This week, when you find yourself avoiding a commitment, ask 'what's going on?' instead of 'why.' Notice how this changes your perspective and ability to act.
If you would like to get in touch with either Claire or Trudi, you can reach us both at thepowerofchoosing@gmail.com
In this episode of The Power of Choosing, recorded from sunny France, we discuss the importance of shifting away from blaming others for our unhappiness and instead focusing on our own needs and emotions.
The conversation was inspired by a client who struggled with her husband's drinking habits. We delve into why it's easier to blame others, the significance of understanding our own needs, and how taking radical ownership of our emotions can transform our lives.
Key takeaways include recognizing emotions as indicators of unmet needs, understanding the difference between control and connection, and the value of self-awareness in improving personal relationships.
Why this matters: Blaming others for our problems leaves us powerless and disconnected. By focusing on our own needs and emotions, we reclaim our power and improve our relationships and overall well-being.
Challenge: This week, whenever you feel the urge to blame someone else, pause and ask yourself, 'What do I need right now?' Reflect on your answer and take steps to meet your own needs.
We'd love to hear from you! Reach us at thepowerofchoosing@gmail.com and let us know how this episode has helped you.
#ThePowerOfChoosing #StopTheBlameGame #SelfAwareness #EmotionalIntelligence #PersonalGrowth #RelationshipAdvice
00:00 Introduction and Episode Overview
00:19 Client Story: The Blame Game
01:17 Self-Reflection and Personal Needs
04:58 The Role of Emotions in Relationships
09:59 Control vs. Connection
14:22 Conclusion and Key Takeaways
In this episode of The Power of Choosing, Trudi and Claire delve into the essential topic of self-love as the foundation for achieving personal and professional goals. They discuss the challenges of loving oneself in a society that often promotes self-criticism and consumerism.
The conversation highlights experiences with clients who struggle with self-worth and explores practical ways to embrace and celebrate oneself. Topics include the importance of compliments, the impacts of societal pressures, and actionable steps to build self-love, such as positive affirmations and acknowledging personal achievements.
In this episode:
~ The importance of loving oneself as the foundation for success and happiness
~ Real-life stories from coaching clients who struggle with self-love
~ Societal pressures that discourage self-love
~ Practical exercises to boost self-worth, such as accepting compliments and listing personal strengths
~ Why sharing genuine compliments can create a positive ripple effect
Why this matters: When we love ourselves, we set the stage for a life filled with joy, accomplishment, and meaningful connections. By starting with self-love, we can approach our goals and relationships from a place of strength and confidence. Challenge:
This week's challenge: Write down three things you love about yourself and if you're feeling really brave email them to us at thepowerofchoosing@gmail.com. We would love to hear from you!
Bonus challenge: practice saying 'Thank you, it is true' when someone gives you a compliment.
#ThePowerOfChoosing #SelfLove #PositiveAffirmations
00:00 Introduction to Self-Love
00:11 The Importance of Loving Yourself
02:13 Cultural Influences on Self-Perception
05:26 Practical Exercises for Self-Love
14:17 Sharing and Spreading Love
19:03 Conclusion and Homework
In this episode of The Power of Choosing, Trudi and Claire explore the idea that it’s okay for people to have differing opinions and why it’s important not to seek constant agreement.
The discussion delves into how societal and evolutionary pressures make us want to fit in and be liked and the freedom that comes with accepting that not everyone will agree with us. They touch on topics such as people pleasing, the impact of social media on opinions, and how respecting differing viewpoints can lead to richer, more authentic relationships. By Listening to different perspectives while staying true to oneself you can live a more fulfilled life.
Why this matters: Understanding that you don’t need everyone to agree with you can lift a tremendous weight off your shoulders and allow you to be more authentic in your relationships and interactions.
Challenge: This week, focus on allowing space for differing opinions without feeling the need to conform or persuade others. Pay attention to how this openness impacts your interactions and personal sense of self.
If you would like to get in touch with either Claire or Trudi, you can reach us both at thepowerofchoosing@gmail.com
00:00 Introduction to the Podcast
00:15 The Pressure to Conform
01:02 Embracing Differences
01:53 The Evolutionary Need for Acceptance
03:48 Personal Experiences with Divergent Beliefs
05:01 Respecting Different Viewpoints
06:53 The Importance of Open-Mindedness
08:30 Balancing Agreement and Individuality
10:50 Final Thoughts and Takeaways
12:39 Conclusion
In this episode of The Power of Choosing, Claire and Trudi discuss the philosophy behind the podcast's name. They explore the concept of choice in every aspect of life and emphasize how making conscious decisions leads to a more fulfilling and aligned life.
They share personal stories and insights on how choosing instead of defaulting to societal or external expectations has transformed their lives. The episode aims to empower listeners to recognize their ability to shape their experiences through intentional choices, ultimately leading to greater happiness and life satisfaction.
If you loved this episode, we'd love to hear from you. Reach out at thepowerofchoosing@gmail.com.
Main takeaway: Your life is a series of choices, and by making conscious decisions, you can lead a life of fulfilment and alignment.
#emotionalhealth choosing #lifecoaching #powerofchoice #personaldevelopment #consciousliving
00:00 Introduction to The Power of Choosing
00:16 The Essence of Choice in Everyday Life
01:38 Choosing vs. Default Living
04:14 Personal Stories of Choice
07:31 The Impact of Conscious Choices
14:12 The Power of Choosing: Final Thoughts
In this episode of The Power of Choosing, Trudi and Claire delve into common phrases that may no longer serve us. They explore how phrases like 'this is just who I am,' 'boys don't cry,' and 'be a good girl' can limit personal growth and authentic expression.
They also discuss empowering phrases like 'the universe has your back' and 'you can be anything you want to be.' The conversation aims to help listeners question these ingrained beliefs and choose phrases that push them forward rather than hold them back. This episode encourages self-awareness and the power of choice in shaping one's mindset and life.
If you loved this episode we'd love to hear from you. Reach out at thepowerofchoosing@gmail.com.
#limitingbeliefs #personalgrowth #empowerment #selfawareness #mindset
00:00 Introduction to Common Phrases
01:32 Dissecting 'This is Just Who I Am'
04:25 Exploring 'Boys Don't Cry'
06:23 The Impact of 'Be a Good Girl'
08:42 Positive Phrases: 'The Universe Has Your Back'
09:38 Limiting Beliefs: 'This Always Happens to Me'
17:11 Challenging 'Everything Happens for a Reason'
22:27 Debating 'Fake It Till You Make It'
25:15 Conclusion and Final Thoughts
In this episode, Claire and Trudi tackle one of the most misunderstood topics in personal development: the difference between healthy positivity and toxic positivity.
They don't entirely agree going into this conversation, which makes for an interesting clash of perspectives. This episode explores how to embrace joy without bypassing the messy, necessary parts of being human.
Inside this episode:
~ Claire's journey from emotional avoidance to vulnerability and why it changed everything
~ Trudi's perspective on energy shifts vs. forced positivity
~ The "someone has it worse" trap and why it keeps people stuck
~ A real story about stolen travel clothes and why Claire needed to cry about it
~ How gratitude can be a genuine tool (not a band-aid)
~ The difference between nice and kind - and why it matters
~ Why allowing yourself to feel sad doesn't make you negative
~ A simple gratitude practice that actually works (when you're ready for it)
This is for anyone who's been told to "just be positive" when what they really needed was permission to feel whatever they're feeling.
If this landed for you, we'd love to hear from you. Reach out at thepowerofchoosing@gmail.com.
Main takeaway:
True positivity isn't about avoiding difficult emotions—it's about building yourself up enough to handle whatever comes while still allowing space for the full human experience.
#toxicpositivity #lifecoaching #emotionalhealth