There’s a reason certain questions rise to the surface at 2:00 a.m.—the hour when the house is quiet and the worries feel loudest. One of the questions couples wrestle with most in those restless moments is, “When will my spouse ever change?” It’s a question born from disappointment, discouragement, and the fear that nothing will ever be different. In this episode, Rusty and Heather gently turn that question in a new direction. Instead of focusing on what a spouse is or isn’t doing, they explore the deeper truth that genuine transformation in a marriage often begins within the heart that is willing to be changed. When a person stops trying to fix or manage their spouse’s growth and instead comes to God with humility, readiness, and expectation, something shifts. A surrendered heart becomes the doorway to peace, clarity, and spiritual growth—even if the circumstances in the marriage haven’t moved yet. Listeners will hear how preparing one’s own heart creates space for God to work in ways frustration never could. Rusty and Heather describe the difference between waiting for a spouse to become someone new and allowing God to shape one’s own responses, attitudes, and patterns. It’s a hopeful reframe for anyone lying awake at night, exhausted from carrying the weight of change that was never theirs to hold. There’s hope at 2:00 a.m.And it starts with a simple shift:“God, change me first.” Visit our website Watch us on YouTube

We’re continuing our discussion on the questions that keep us awake at 2 a.m.—the ones that every married couple wrestles with at some point, especially those walking through betrayal or trauma. Last week, Heather opened up about her side of the question, “What’s wrong with me?” This week, Rusty shares his own sleepless nights—the nights filled with questions like, “Why wasn’t I enough?” and “What did I do wrong?” In this honest conversation, Rusty talks about the haunting thoughts that come when you feel unworthy, unchosen, or powerless to fix what’s been broken. He shares how learning to recognize and replace those lies became one of the most important parts of his personal healing and the redemption of their marriage. If you’ve ever battled feelings of not being enough—or wondered if your worth could survive what happened—this episode will remind you that shame doesn’t get the final word. The Redeemed Marriage Website The Redeemed Marriage YouTube Channel

We all have those 2 a.m. moments—the questions that swirl in our minds when everything feels quiet but our thoughts are loud. This week, Heather leads the conversation with raw honesty about a question she once wrestled with deeply: “What is wrong with me?” Before her infidelity, she remembers lying awake wondering why she was even entertaining the idea of another life—another marriage—something “different.” She shares what she wishes she could say to you if she could sit in your thoughts during those restless nights, especially in a world where social media constantly whispers, “You deserve more.” After betrayal, that same question turned darker: “How could I have done something so horrific?” Heather opens up about the shame, guilt, and self-condemnation that can feel crushing after failure—and how she learned to hear truth instead of lies in those moments. If you’ve ever questioned your worth, your sanity, or your faith in the middle of the night, this episode is for you. You’re not broken beyond repair. There is hope, even at 2 a.m. The Redeemed Marriage Website The Redeemed Marriage YouTube Channel

It’s 2 a.m. and your mind won’t stop racing. The question that keeps circling is one that hurts the most: Can I ever really trust you again? In this raw and honest conversation, Rusty and Heather open up about their own sleepless nights after betrayal and the long road toward rebuilding trust. They talk about what it felt like to question everything—each other, their reality, even God—and how over time, something new and stronger began to take shape. Theirs isn’t a story of quick fixes or easy forgiveness. It’s a story of slow, steady healing, of learning to depend on God when nothing else felt solid, and discovering that trust can grow back deeper than before. If you’ve ever wondered whether your marriage can truly recover from broken trust, this conversation will meet you right where you are—with honesty, hope, and a reminder that redemption is always possible. The Redeemed Marriage Website Watch and Subscribe on YouTube

What do you do when you’re lying awake at two in the morning, wondering if your marriage can really survive what’s happened? In this episode, Rusty and Heather Bryant open up about the fears, doubts, and late-night questions that come when trust has been broken or when a marriage feels stuck in survival mode. Drawing from their own story of restoration after betrayal, they share the honest emotions of those early, sleepless nights and the hope that grew from believing God wasn’t finished with their marriage. This is a conversation for any couple asking, “Can we really make it?”—a reminder that healing is possible, renewal is real, and your story doesn’t have to end in despair. Whether you’re navigating infidelity, emotional distance, or simply feeling disconnected, this episode will remind you that you’re not alone and that God is still in the business of redeeming marriages. The Redeemed Marriage Website Watch on YouTube

Rusty and Heather take you behind the scenes of their recent marriage retreat in breathtaking Montana — where four couples joined for an intimate, unforgettable experience. Between hiking Glacier National Park, sharing gourmet meals, and deep sessions on teamwork, spiritual intimacy, and communication, God showed up in powerful ways. You’ll hear how community was built through laughter, prayer, and amazing activities together. Rusty and Heather also pull back the curtain on their new book — how it began, the challenges of writing together, and the publishing process. If you’ve ever wondered what really happens at a Redeemed Marriage Retreat, this episode is your front-row seat — and your invitation to join the next one. The Redeemed Marriage Watch on YouTube

In this live episode from beautiful Montana, Rusty and Heather unpack what spiritual leadership in marriage truly looks like—and what it doesn’t. Many couples carry confusion or guilt around who should “lead” spiritually, but God’s design is richer and more personal than cultural stereotypes. Together, Rusty and Heather share how unrealistic expectations can damage unity, how husbands and wives both play vital spiritual roles, and how understanding your unique sacred pathways—the ways you naturally connect with God—can deepen intimacy and spiritual growth in your marriage. Whether you’ve struggled to find rhythm in prayer or felt pressure to “get it right,” this conversation will help you replace pressure with purpose and discover a more authentic way to walk with God together. The Redeemed Marriage WebsiteThe Redeemed Marriage YouTube Channel

Newly engaged or decades in? This candid conversation with Rusty and Heather unpacks one of the most practical skills for a healthy marriage: love your spouse the way they want to be loved—not just how love comes naturally to you. Using the Five Love Languages framework (words of affirmation, quality time, acts of service, gifts, and physical touch), they share real-life stories of how needs shift across seasons of life—work changes, parenting, even healing after betrayal—and why sacrificial love breaks the “crazy cycle” of withholding. You’ll learn why men often experience affirmation as respect, how deficits can skew quiz results, and simple daily ways to meet each other’s needs without manipulation or keeping score. Whether you’re dating, newly married, or rebuilding trust, this episode offers clear next steps for connection, communication, and emotional intimacy. Grab a date night, take (or retake) the quiz, and use today’s practical ideas to create more safety, closeness, and fun—one loving choice at a time. The Redeemed Marriage Website Watch on YouTube

Expectations can make or break a marriage—and they’re usually invisible until they collide. In this honest, light-hearted episode, Rusty and Heather share real stories (toilet seats, toothpaste, yard work, and yes…Downton Abbey) to show how unspoken expectations create conflict and how simple conversations create connection. Whether you’re engaged, newly married, or 29 years in, you’ll learn practical ways to name what you want, listen with grace, and renegotiate roles as life changes. Discover how family of origin shapes your assumptions, why “both” is often the healthiest answer for chores and decision-making, and how everyday choices—like going to bed at the same time—build emotional intimacy. Packed with encouragement and practical tools, this episode helps couples replace resentment with teamwork, boundaries, and clear communication. If you’re ready to stop fighting about the trash and start growing together, press play. The Redeemed Marriage Website Watch on YouTube

This week on The Redeemed Marriage Podcast, Rusty and Heather continue their special “Before the Vows” series—an honest, hope-filled look at what every couple needs to know before (and after) saying "I do." In this episode, they discuss the crucial topic of boundaries. While it might not feel like the most romantic subject, it’s one of the most important building blocks of a healthy, lasting marriage. Whether a couple is preparing for marriage or has been walking the journey for years, learning to establish and protect boundaries creates safety, unity, and trust. Rusty and Heather share personal stories and practical wisdom about what it really means to leave and cleave—putting your marriage above extended family ties—and how to navigate relationships with parents and in-laws after the wedding. They also talk about the importance of healthy boundaries with friends of the opposite sex and the intentional effort it takes to protect the private space of a marriage. Visit The Redeemed Marriage Website Watch on YouTube

This week on The Redeemed Marriage Podcast, Rusty and Heather kick off a brand-new series called “Before the Vows.” Inspired by their son’s recent engagement, they share timeless truths that every couple—whether dating, engaged, or married for decades—needs to know. In this episode, they open up about some of the biggest misconceptions couples carry into marriage—like expecting a spouse to “complete you” or assuming they can meet every single need. With plenty of laughter and real-life examples, Rusty and Heather unpack how God is the only one who makes us whole, and how friendships and community play a vital role in a healthy marriage. Their conversation is honest, hopeful, and practical—reminding us that these aren’t just lessons for newlyweds, but truths that continue to shape strong marriages over a lifetime. Whether you’re preparing for marriage, raising kids who are approaching that stage, or looking for fresh reminders to strengthen your current relationship, this conversation is for you. It’s not just premarital advice—it’s marriage wisdom that applies to every season. Visit The Redeemed Marriage Website Watch and Subscribe on YouTube

In the powerful conclusion to their four-part series, Rusty and Heather share the road to redemption after the painful confession that nearly destroyed their marriage. They pick up right where the story left off, walking through the raw and honest moments that followed the revelation—when non-negotiables had to be set, boundaries had to be drawn, and a clear line in the sand was established. They describe the moment of true brokenness that led to real repentance, and how that became the starting point of a long, difficult, but ultimately beautiful journey of healing. This episode highlights what rebuilding trust really looks like, the reality that forgiveness is both a decision and a daily choice, and the intentional work required to lay a new foundation for a marriage. Rusty and Heather also share the practical and spiritual tools that helped them—counseling, mentorship, marriage intensives, and the balance of navigating personal healing while fighting for their relationship. They reveal how God used their deepest pain to create a ministry that now brings hope and direction to couples around the world. For anyone who has ever wondered if a marriage can truly be redeemed after betrayal and heartbreak, this episode is living proof that with God, not only is it possible—but a stronger, more beautiful marriage can rise from the ashes. The Redeemed Marriage Website Subscribe to our YouTube Channel

What happens in the critical hours and days after infidelity comes to light? In this pivotal episode of The Redeemed Marriage Podcast, Rusty and Heather Bryant share the raw aftermath of confession—the fear, chaos, and the moment their private pain became a public reality. Rusty reveals the non-negotiable boundaries he set to give their marriage any chance of survival. Heather opens up about her journey from regret and shame to true, God-led brokenness—the turning point that made redemption possible. Together, they walk through the first, crucial steps toward trust, forgiveness, and healing. This episode is essential for anyone navigating the fragile space between betrayal and restoration. The Redeemed Marriage Website Watch and Subscribe on YouTube

An affair doesn’t begin in a single moment of passion—it starts with quiet compromises and subtle shifts of the heart. In this second part of their powerful testimony series, Rusty and Heather Bryant revisit the season before the confession that forever changed their marriage. With raw vulnerability, Heather shares how seemingly harmless “what if” thoughts and a craving for affirmation outside of her marriage slowly eroded her foundation and opened the door to betrayal. Rusty offers perspective from the betrayed spouse, reminding listeners that protecting a marriage begins with guarding your own heart. Together, they reveal how pride, discontentment, and the belief that you “deserve better” can become footholds for the enemy. This episode is essential for anyone seeking to understand the anatomy of infidelity—not to assign blame, but to build stronger boundaries, restore hope, and pursue a deeper walk with God. Visit The Redeemed Marriage Website Interested in Marriage Coaching? Interested in Marriage Intensives? Subscribe to TRM YouTube channel

In a single night, a confession of infidelity shattered their marriage—and opened the door for God to rewrite their story. On August 23, 2011, Rusty and Heather Bryant’s marriage faced its breaking point. After 15 years together, Heather confessed to an affair—a moment that devastated their relationship and set them on a path they never could have imagined. In this deeply personal episode of The Redeemed Marriage Podcast, they invite listeners into the raw, unfiltered story of that night: the phone call that forced a confession, the hours of fear and uncertainty before the truth came out, and the immediate aftermath that left their future hanging in the balance. Both share their perspectives—Heather recounting what was happening in her heart before confession and Rusty revealing what it was like to hear the words, “I’ve been unfaithful.” More importantly, they explain how God met them in the middle of their devastation, speaking clearly and giving hope when everything felt lost. This episode isn’t about sensational details—it’s about the power of God to restore even the most broken marriages. Whether someone is facing betrayal, walking through a season of hopelessness, or simply in need of encouragement, Rusty and Heather’s story points to the truth that redemption is possible and hope is real. Visit The Redeemed Marriage Podcast Watch on YouTube

In this week’s episode of The Redeemed Marriage Podcast, Rusty and Heather take on some classic marriage advice in a lighthearted game of “Truth or Trash.” From the famous “Never go to bed angry” to “Marriage is 50/50,” they dissect some of the most common sayings passed down through generations—sharing their personal perspectives, agreeing, disagreeing, and having a little fun along the way! They’ll dive into the real meaning behind these phrases, debunking myths, and offering fresh insights into what truly makes a marriage work. Whether you agree or disagree with their take, this episode will give you plenty to think about. Plus, there are plenty of laughs, sound effects, and a little talk about nose hair trimming! Tune in for some fun and practical marriage wisdom! The Redeemed Marriage Website Watch us on YouTube

This week on The Redeemed Marriage Podcast, Rusty and Heather celebrate their 29th wedding anniversary with honest reflections on love, redemption, and real-life struggles after infidelity. In this deeply personal episode, they share how even joyful moments like an anniversary can still stir up pain, triggers, and shame—especially when betrayal is part of your story. Heather vulnerably opens up about battling feelings of unworthiness and being defined by others. They talk about healing, handling emotional triggers years later, and finding freedom in knowing your true identity in Christ. Whether you’re in the middle of a marriage crisis or walking years into recovery, this episode offers hope, encouragement, and a real look at what it means to keep growing, loving, and choosing each other every single day. The Redeemed Marriage Website Subscribe to our YouTube channel

The viral 'Kiss Cam' moment has sparked countless memes and a lot of laughs, but it also opens up a much deeper conversation. For Rusty and Heather, it brings up raw emotions from their own story of walking through a painful and public mess. In this episode, they go beyond the memes to look at the destructive power of secrets, the reality of public shame, and the incredible opportunity for God to bring redemption from the rubble. They discuss what it means to have compassion, not just for the wife and family, but for everyone involved, and how a moment of public failure can become a catalyst for life-changing faith. If you’ve ever wondered how to find hope in humiliation or want to protect your own marriage from hidden dangers, this episode offers a perspective you probably won't hear anywhere else. Visit The Redeemed Marriage Website Subscribe to our YouTube Channel

This week on the Redeemed Marriage podcast, the tables are turned! After putting Heather in the hot seat last week, it's Rusty's turn to answer 10 surprising questions about what he finds romantic. If you've ever wondered what men really want when it comes to romance in marriage, this episode is a must-listen. Join Rusty and Heather for a fun, revealing, and honest conversation that goes beyond the typical date night ideas. Discover the simple, everyday actions that make a husband feel pursued, cherished, and truly loved. From the power of playfulness and adventure to the importance of feeling wanted, Rusty's answers might surprise you and give you powerful new insights into your own relationship. Learn how to improve communication, strengthen your connection, and keep the spark alive, whether you've been married for one year or thirty. This is the practical Christian marriage advice you need to understand your spouse on a deeper level and build a more romantic, redeemed marriage. Download Romantic Questions For Her Subscribe to our YouTube channel

Do you assume you know what your spouse finds romantic? As Rusty and Heather approach their 29th wedding anniversary, they kick off a brand new series to discover if the definition of romance changes over the years. In this fun and insightful episode, Rusty puts Heather in the hot seat with 10 specific questions to uncover what romance, connection, and intimacy look like for her today. Join them for an honest conversation about planning a romantic getaway, the difference between spontaneous gestures and thoughtful preparation, and why the love languages you spoke while dating might need an update. This discussion is a perfect guide for any couple looking to improve their communication and better understand how to love their spouse well in their current season of life. You’ll be inspired to ask these same questions in your own marriage and might be surprised by what you learn. Visit The Redeemed Marriage website Subscribe to The Redeemed Marriage YouTube channel