Self-control is the last on Paul’s list of the fruit of the Spirit—but in real life, it often feels like the one we struggle with most. In this episode, Natasha, Monique, and David kick off a backwards walk through the fruit of the Spirit, starting with self-control and how it uniquely shows up in the lives of single Christians.

From sexual temptation and “I deserve this” spending, to doom-scrolling, boredom, and loneliness, they talk honestly about the places where our wills feel weak and our excuses feel strong. Along the way, they unpack why self-control isn’t just willpower or personality—it’s a Spirit-given fruit, grown as we set wise boundaries, notice our triggers, flee what pulls us under, and repent when we fall.

If you’ve ever thought, “I should have more self-control by now,” this conversation is for you. Be encouraged that God hasn’t given you a spirit of fear, but of power, love, and self-control—and that His grace meets you even in the middle of the struggle.