A reflective Q&A to close Season One of the Self-Work Podcast.
In this episode, I reflect on the lessons 2025 taught me through real life experiences — health, uncertainty, comparison, healing, boundaries, and learning to live in alignment with yourself.
No motivation. No fluff.
Just honest reflection on what life made clear this year.
We’re told to “just love yourself,” but for a lot of people that advice feels out of order.
In this episode, I break down why being hard on yourself can start to feel justified, why loving other people is often easier than loving yourself, and how your inner voice is shaped by conditioning, not failure.
We talk about why comfort gets mistaken for self-love, why neutrality comes before self-love, and how to step out of the constant fight with your own mind.
If self-love has never made sense to you, this episode will.
In this episode we break down shame in the most practical way possible.
What it actually is, how it shapes your identity, how it creates the shadow self and why it shows up in your addictions, your relationships and your confidence.
If you’ve ever felt confused about who you are or why you hide parts of yourself, this episode will make everything finally make sense.
In this episode, I’m answering your questions — everything from confidence, communication and comparison, to identity, childhood patterns, purpose, jealousy and emotional triggers.
Before we head into the final stretch towards Episode 30, I wanted to pause and reflect with you properly. These are the questions I see the most in my DMs, in the community, and in the conversations I have with people who are trying to grow.
If one of these answers hits you, sit with it.
Selfwork is a journey — not a rush.
In this episode, I break down a concept that will change how you approach discipline and self-sabotage:
Why your mornings feel heavier than they should
How you accidentally punish your future self
The Future Self Agreement and how it works
Why you fall off and how to get back on quickly
How to lower resistance so habits become easier
Tiny daily actions that rebuild self-trust
How to stop abandoning the next version of you
A simple mindset shift that makes your whole life feel lighter.
In this episode, I break down why friendships and relationships feel so difficult in today’s world — and what you can actually do about it.
We’re living in the most connected yet emotionally disconnected generation, and it’s affecting everything: how we bond, how we maintain people, how we let go, and how we show up for each other.
why so many people feel lonely even with “friends” around
how social media has completely twisted relationship expectations
the difference between real standards and delusion
what outgrowing people actually looks like
the ADHD link and “now vs not now” friendships
how to build new friendships without overthinking
how to maintain real connections (not just send memes)
boundaries, resentment, and honest communication
how to let go without creating drama or open loops
practical self-work to build healthier relationships
If you’re tired of feeling disconnected — or feel like you’re “bad” at friendships — this episode will change how you see people forever.
This episode, I break down the hidden link between intelligence and depression — why awareness often feels heavy, how ambition and overthinking create cycles of burnout, and how to finally find peace through purpose and faith.
In this episode:
Why intelligent minds often feel heavier
How quick learning becomes emotional pain
The loneliness of deep thinkers
The trap of ambition and burnout
How overexposure destroys peace
Turning heaviness into purpose
Spiritual grounding and surrender
Listen if: you’ve ever felt too aware for your own good, or like your mind just won’t switch off.
Everyone online looks like they’re winning — but no one teaches you what to do when you fail.
In this episode, I break down how to actually handle failure without losing yourself.
We’ll cover:
Why this generation fears failure more than ever
What really happens when you fail (and how to recover)
How to rebuild your confidence after taking an L
The mindset shift from failure → feedback
Staying grounded when everything’s falling apart
If you’re in a losing season right now, this one’s for you.
In this episode, we talk about:
Why the world feels so empty lately
How life turned into performance instead of presence
The speed trap that’s making everyone anxious
Why connection and sincerity have collapsed
What spiritual starvation actually feels like
How to slow down, protect your peace, and stay human
A real conversation on staying grounded in a world that’s lost its balance.
Most people say they want honesty
until it challenges their ego.
In this episode, we talk about why truth feels so uncomfortable,
how your reaction to it reveals your emotional maturity,
and what self-honesty really looks like in practice.
This isn’t about judgement — it’s about growth.
Because the moment you can hear the truth without breaking,
you start to evolve for real.
In today’s episode, we’re unpacking one of the most overlooked but powerful concepts in personal growth: self-education. Not the school kind. Not memorising for tests. I’m talking about being a real student of life — in a world that's trying to distract, pacify and dull your mind at every turn.
We’ll talk about:
Why most people don’t know how to learn
How brain rot is affecting your ability to focus
The myth of motivation (and why it’s a scam)
How to actually build a simple, realistic learning structure
What to do if you “don’t know what to learn”
And why playing the long game is the real cheat code
If you're tired of feeling behind, distracted, or like your attention span is cooked — this episode is your reset button.
No fluff. No fake hustle talk. Just real frameworks for people who are ready to rebuild their minds.
Nostalgia feels warm, but it can also trap you.
In this episode, I break down why we cling to the past, how it shows up in relationships and friendships, the cost of living in “remember when” mode, and the difference between nostalgia that poisons vs nostalgia that fuels.
The moments you’re living today will one day be memories. The question is — are you busy creating new stories, or just replaying old ones?
In this episode we dive into why critical thinking is quietly disappearing — from schools, parents, social media, even AI — and what it actually costs you.
What you’ll learn:
Why critical thinking is more about awareness than intelligence
How schools, parenting, and culture shaped the way we think
The hidden cost of assumptions in relationships, careers, and life
How social media and AI are killing your ability to reflect
Practical ways to sharpen your thinking and trust yourself again
We spend so much time in our heads that we forget to live. In this episode, I’ll break down:
How it fuels anxiety and destroys self-esteem
The hidden costs: time, creativity, health, relationships
Why decision-making and career direction get harder the longer you stay stuck
The connection between overthinking and constant fatigue
How presence and joy disappear when your mind never stops
Practical steps to break the cycle and trust yourself again
This is one of those episodes that’ll make you stop and reflect on how much of life you’ve missed by living in your head — and how to finally step back into the present.
What was life really like in 2015 compared to 2025?
At 17, weekends were simple: bike rides, football, family dinners, late-night walks with friends. At 27, life feels heavier: cost of living pressure, doomscrolling, short-form content, friendships fading, and a constant sense of being “behind.”
In this episode, I reflect on how the world changed in just 10 years — and why so many of us feel disconnected, stressed, and burnt out. I’ll break down:
The shift in friendships, family, and community.
How social media went from memes to a life support system.
Why ambition now feels like burnout.
The fear around money and choice overload.
And how we can still rebuild connection and meaning in real life.
It’s not about dwelling on the past. It’s about learning how to live differently in the present.
In this episode of the Selfwork Podcast, we’re unpacking why so many of us feel most alive when we’re starting over. New routines, new goals, new habits — it feels like growth, but is it actually progress… or just emotional escape in disguise?
We break down:
• The thrill of reinvention and why it’s addictive
• Why consistency feels threatening to some people
• Self-sabotage cycles masked as “fresh starts”
• How chaos can feel more familiar than peace
• The quiet fear of actually committing to change
If you’re stuck in a loop of burning things down and rebuilding them just to feel something — this one’s for you.
This episode is about the things you keep running from — the dreams you claim you want, but never seem to chase.
We break down:
• Why procrastination isn’t laziness, but emotional avoidance• How success can feel just as scary as failure• The hidden comfort in staying small and safe• How old identities and childhood stories keep you stuck• The spiral of Avoidance → Excuse → Identity• Why self-deception is the real killer of growth• How to turn avoidance into a compass for your next breakthrough
If you’ve ever caught yourself saying “I’ll start tomorrow” or “I don’t really want it that badly,” this episode will help you see avoidance for what it really is — not weakness, but a signal.
Your fears are real. But they don’t have to control your future.
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This episode is about the reactions you don’t even notice — the ones that spiral into stories, identities, and patterns you keep repeating.
We break down:
• Why certain comments or situations hit harder than they should
• The difference between truth, projection, jealousy, and envy
• How social media conditions you to be reactive
• The cycle of Trigger → Story → Identity
• Why avoidance isn’t healing, and how to actually grow from discomfort
• The power of self-honesty and reflection
If you’ve ever wondered why little things cut so deep, or why you keep reacting the same way again and again — this episode will help you see it differently.
Your feelings are real. But not every feeling deserves a reaction.
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This episode is for anyone who’s ever left a conversation thinking, "Why didn’t I say that?" or "Why did I stay quiet?"
We talk about:• The hidden ways poor communication closes doors in your life• Why “introvert” can be a mask for fear of being seen practising• How social anxiety trains you to hide instead of connect• The slow identity shift that happens when you stop speaking up• The small, low-pressure reps that rebuild your confidence fast• And the mindset shift that frees you from chasing approval
If you’ve been holding back, missing opportunities, or letting silence speak for you — this is your reminder that your voice is a muscle. And it’s time to start using it.
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