Send us a text The end of a relationship brings a flood of emotion and a maze of decisions. We sit down with financial planner and seasoned mediator Phil O’Connor to strip the process back to first principles: secure a home you can truly afford, protect your income, and keep a real buffer for life’s shocks. Phil O'Connor - Resolution Accredited Independent Financial Adviser I specialise in the financial aspects of divorce. I work with my clients to help them make better, more informed f...

Send us a text Tamsin speaks to actuary and head of Mathieson Consulting, Jonathan Galbraith about the complications of uniformed pensions and dividing them on divorce. If you or your spouse have this type of pension, this is an essential listen! Jonathan Galbraith Jonathan Galbraith is the CEO of Mathieson Consulting and Pensions on Divorce Expert (PODE) with around 8 years of experience. He is the creator of the Galbraith Tables, intended for use in placing a broad value on DB pension right...

Send us a text Tamsin and our guest Adele Ballantyne guide the listeners through the first decisions after a relationship ends, focusing on pacing, safety, and pathways that reduce conflict and cost. Adele shares practical ways to build a support team, choose kinder legal routes, and protect children while emotions run high. Adele Ballantyne MA Relationship Therapy, P/G Dip Relationship Therapy, RGN/RSCN, Dip Health Visiting and Social Care Adele specialises in relationship breakdown, separat...

Send us a text Planning a safe exit from a narcissistic or abusive relationship isn’t a single leap—it’s a step‑by‑step operation. We’re joined by Diana Jordan, former family law solicitor and author of How to Divorce a Narcissist and Succeed in the Family Court, to unpack what narcissism really looks like in separation and why time rarely calms a true narcissist. We draw a clear line between difficult divorce behaviour and entrenched narcissistic patterns, then map out a practical route to s...

Send us a text Divorce doesn’t have to be a maze of conflict, confusion, and spiralling costs. We sit down with award‑winning divorce coach Arabella Paul to map a steadier path: build your three‑part support team, get financially organised early, and protect your energy so you can make clear decisions for yourself and your children. Arabella Paul Arabella is a compassionate, empathetic and positive Relationship Breakdown Specialist with a corporate background in Investment Banking and E...

Send us a text We talk with trauma coach and mountain guide Ilaria Petrucci about healing after narcissistic abuse, the lines between kindness and people‑pleasing, and why walking in nature helps survivors rebuild trust in themselves. Her journey moves from isolation to community, from endurance to self‑respect, and from hope for someone else’s change to responsibility for her own. Ilaria Petrucci Ilaria Petrucci is a qualified mountain leader and trained Trauma coach who loves helping wome...

Send us a text "It's unreasonable to expect co-parenting with a narcissist." Our guest Dr. Supriya McKenna reveals why parallel parenting is the only viable option when dealing with a high-conflict ex. Are you trying to co-parent with someone who counter-parents instead? Dr Supriya McKenna Supriya is the UK's best known expert in narcissism. She originated from a background as a GP (family physician). She coaches and mentors the victims of narcissistic abuse, including in the high conflict ar...

Send us a text Helen Stuart is our guest on this important, though difficult topic. This episode explores prevention strategies and practical support for young people struggling with suicidal thoughts. Helen Stuart Helen has always advocated for good mental health, and vocalised the importance of ease of access to mental health support throughout her career. This has seen her working across community, outreach, counselling and domestic abuse prevention roles. Now Helen brings her wealth...

Send us a text The Smart Divorce Podcast has joined forces with Stowe Talks Podcast for this special collaborative episode! We are delighted to be joined by special guest Rhiannon Gogh, who is a SEND specialist financial planner. This is an area I am asked about more and more. It was great to have Matt Taylor, host of Stowe Talks, with us to answer the legal questions when it comes to ensuring that SEND families have the help they need. Rhiannon Gogh FPFS Rhiannon Gogh is an award-winni...

Send us a text "Just because you're going for therapy doesn't mean there's something wrong with you. It means you're trying to do something good for yourself." Tamsin & and our guest Helen Stuart discuss how therapy can transform co-parenting after divorce. Helen Stuart Helen has always advocated for good mental health, and vocalised the importance of ease of access to mental health support throughout her career. This has seen her working across community, outreach, counselling and domest...

Send us a text How do you work together with someone you may no longer like, trust, or even want to speak to? This question sits at the heart of co-parenting after separation, and our guest Marcy Shaoul brings both personal experience and professional expertise to this challenging terrain. Marcie Shaoul Marcie is a trailblazer in co-parenting. She’s the founder of the award-winning The Co-Parent Way and author of The Co-Parenting Method: Six Steps to Raise Happy Kids After Separation and Divo...

Send us a text Helen Stewart, Managing Director of Now You're Talking, shares how therapy can support children through parental separation and divorce, drawing from both professional expertise and personal experience. Helen Stuart Helen has always advocated for good mental health, and vocalised the importance of ease of access to mental health support throughout her career. This has seen her working across community, outreach, counselling and domestic abuse prevention roles. Now Helen bring...

Send us a text Your ex always seems one step ahead in divorce negotiations? They might be digitally spying on you. From email forwarding to WhatsApp monitoring—learn how abusers exploit technology and what you can do about it. In this episode, Tamsin is joined by Danny Franks, a cyber security expert to discuss the issues and how to protect yourself. Danny Franks Danny Franks, also known as "Danny the I.T. Man," is an experienced executive with the ability for helping people. He kicked off hi...

Send us a text This week family solicitor Karen Gray and divorce coach Sarah Steele join Tamsin to share their expertise on supporting domestic abuse survivors through divorce and separation, highlighting the vital importance of emotional support alongside legal guidance. Sarah Steele Sarah is an Accredited Breakup and Divorce Master Practitioner, ICF life Coach and NLP Practitioner. Sarah supports men and women navigate the emotional and practical complexities of their breakup or divorce. ...

Send us a text TRIGGER WARNING Are you aware of the signs of domestic abuse? Join me on a powerful journey as I speak with Samantha Billingham, a survivor turned advocate who shares her harrowing experience with coercive control and emotion-driven manipulation. This episode goes deep into identifying red flags, understanding the psychological impacts of abuse, and the difficult yet courageous process of leaving an abusive relationship. === Samantha Billingham Samantha Billingham is the founde...

Send us a text Facing a divorce with a partner exhibiting narcissistic traits? Tamsin and Rachel Ward walk through the challenging legal landscape and emphasise the necessity of a competent legal and emotional support team. Rachel and I share insights into the high thresholds required to establish conduct cases and discuss the emotional and financial burdens these impose on victims. This episode is a follow-up to last week's blog "Surviving Divorce from a narcissist" Rachel Ward Rachel is a...

Send us a text Unlock the secrets to empowering survivors of domestic abuse as we chat with our guest Sam Fisher, the inspiring CEO of Trafford Domestic Abuse Service (TDAS). Through her personal experiences, we shed light on how TDAS supports not only Trafford residents but also those connected through work or schooling, offering crucial services under the Domestic Abuse Act. Samantha Fisher, CEO, Trafford Domestic Abuse Service Samantha is currently the CEO of Trafford Domestic Abuse ...

Send us a text Join us for an insightful exploration of whether mediation can be appropriate for cases where domestic abuse is present as we welcome our guest, family lawyer and accredited mediator Elaine Richardson, who has a wealth of experience as a trauma-informed lawyer. Gain a deeper understanding of how psychological, economic, sexual, and physical abuses manifest, and learn effective strategies to support victim survivors through these challenging circumstances. Elaine Richardson I am...

Send us a text Our guest is Lucy Wade, the force behind "You Don't Own Me" and host of "Dip In and Out with Lucy." We uncover the often hidden struggle of post-separation abuse. Lucy's insights equip listeners with strategies to confront the ongoing control and manipulation many face during the divorce process, unveiling the harsh reality of financial and legal tactics used by abusers to maintain their grip. Lucy Wade Lucy is the creator of ydom.co.uk and host of the Podcast, DIP in and out ...

Send us a text Susan Bright, CEO of the Employers Initiative on Domestic Abuse (EIDA) joins Tamsin to explore the crucial intersection of domestic abuse and the workplace. Gain valuable insights as Susan discusses her mission to guide and educate employers on this sensitive issue. Susan Bright CEO, Employers’ Initiative on Domestic Abuse (“EIDA”) Susan Bright joined EIDA as CEO in 2022. EIDA is a charity with a member network of over 1,700 employers across the UK that are committed to ...