In this episode, Herson and Valerie "Valson" talk about how they have navigated around each other's high emotional need for meaningful conversation giving humorous and sometimes very touching anecdotes.   Show Notes: Good conversation is characterized by the following: (1) using it to inform and investigate each other, (2) focusing attention on topics of mutual interest, (3) balancing the conversation so both have an equal opportunity to talk, and (4) giving each other undivided attention while talking to each other. Conversation fails to meet this need when (1) demands are made, (2) disrespect is shown, (3) one or both become angry, or (4) when it is used to dwell on mistakes of the past or present. Some of this material is from the book "His Needs Her Needs: Building A Marriage That Lasts"  This Series is brought to you by Forest Haven. A place for pastors to come away with the Lord and rest. (Mark 6:31) www.foresthavennh.org

Let's talk about sex. But not just the act... sexual fulfillment is something that goes way beyond the act of sex.  When you are married, you and your spouse promised to be faithful to each other for life. You agreed to be each other's only sexual partner. You made this commitment because you trusted each other to meet your sexual needs, to be sexually available and responsive to each other. The emotional need for sex, then, is a very exclusive emotional need. If you have this need, you will be very dependent on your spouse to meet it. You have no other ethical choices. But that is not a life sentence that dooms you to routine and joyless sex. In fact, people who seek Sexual Fulfillment testify that intimacy and enjoyment get better over the years.  Some of this material is from the book "His Needs Her Needs: Building A Marriage That Lasts"  This Series is brought to you by Forest Haven. A place for pastors to come away with the Lord and rest. (Mark 6:31) www.foresthavennh.org  

Say hello to Councilwoman Valerie Gonzalez!!! In today's episode, "Valson" talk about their unexpected run for office and how, in her first political campaign, Val was the top vote-getter of a field of fourteen. 

Herson & Valerie AKA Valson, have started describing the top ten emotional needs of most people,. Once this series is over you will be able to share your most important emotional needs to your spouse as you learn what your spouse's most important needs are.  This Episode is dedicated to the Emotional Need of Affection.  When one spouse is affectionate toward the other, the following messages are sent: You are important to me. I will care for you and protect you. I'm concerned about the problems you face and will be there for you when you need me. The Top Ten Emotional Needs are (in no particular order)  Affection Sexual Fulfillment Conversation Recreational Companionship Honesty and Openness Physical Attractiveness Financial Support Domestic Support Family Commitment Admiration Some of this material is from the book "His Needs Her Needs: Building A Marriage That Lasts"   This Series is brought to you by Forest Haven. A place for pastors to come away with the Lord and rest. (Mark 6:31) www.foresthavennh.org

Welcome to our first show of 2020. We are so happy you joined us.  This podcast is dedicated to helping couples discover the beauty and power of their unique Us-ness.  Today Herson and Valerie kick off a new series that will help you enhance the level of love in any relationship. Drawing from a book very near to "ValSon" entitles His Needs Her Needs - Building an Affair-Proof Marriage, they speak from the heart, often pulling from their own experiences and insights.  The Top Ten Emotional Needs are (in no particular order)  Affection Sexual Fulfillment Conversation Recreational Companionship Honesty and Openness Physical Attractiveness Financial Support Domestic Support Family Commitment Admiration Some of this material is from the book "His Needs Her Needs: Building A Marriage That Lasts"   This Series is brought to you by Forest Haven. A place for pastors to come away with the Lord and rest. (Mark 6:31) www.foresthavennh.org  

Herson & Valerie talk about how they learned how to pretend to be happy by posing for pictures early in their marriage. Snapshots of a couple can easily be manipulated to show only the best parts of our story. But when you really want to be happy, you need to #stoppretending. 

Herson & Val introduce their new podcast by talking about every couple's unique "Us-ness" that is created as you live out your love story.