Do you ever catch yourself thinking, “I don’t even know who I am anymore”?
Maybe it’s the smaller stuff — you don’t feel as fun, spontaneous, or creative as you used to.
Or maybe it’s the deeper questions that sneak in when the house is finally quiet:
“Who am I outside of motherhood?”
“What am I passionate about now?”
“What are my goals or vision for my life?”
“Who did God actually create me to be?”
If you’ve felt lost in motherhood, disconnected from yourself, or like your identity has gone missing since having kids, this episode is for you.
In today’s conversation, we’re unpacking what’s really going on when you feel like you’ve lost yourself as a mom — and why it doesn’t mean you’re broken, behind, or failing.
Why so many moms quietly feel like they’ve “lost themselves” after kids
How motherhood shifts your world, routines, and roles — and what that does to your sense of identity
The difference between losing yourself and simply losing access to the parts of you that once felt alive
Why exhaustion, mental load, and constant overstimulation make it hard to feel like “you”
How God isn’t trying to take you back to your old self, but is actually shaping a deeper, stronger, more grounded version of you
A powerful mindset shift: replacing “I’ve lost myself” with “I’m becoming someone new”
Simple questions to help you reconnect with who you are in this season of motherhood
This is a gentle, honest episode — equal parts validation, truth, and hopeful next steps.
Sometime this week, grab a notebook and sit with these three questions:
What parts of me do I miss?
Be honest. Think about your passions, personality, rhythms, hobbies, or ways you used to show up that you genuinely loved.
Which of those parts do I actually want back in this season?
Not everything from a past chapter has to come with you. Circle the ones that still matter to who you’re becoming now.
Who do I sense I’m becoming?
Don’t overthink it. Write down words, phrases, or pieces of a picture: How do you want to feel? Live? Love? Show up in your life, marriage, motherhood, and calling?
Come back to these questions often — they’re a beautiful starting point for rediscovering your God-given identity in the middle of real life, not after everything is “fixed.”
If you’re feeling stretched thin, snappy, or emotionally fried by 9 a.m., grab my free 5-Minute SAHM Reset.
It’s a short, guided reset you can use on the hard days to:
calm your nervous system
reconnect with God
get out of “survival spin”
and feel a little more like you again — even in the chaos
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I’d love to hear from you — what part of this episode resonated, where you’re struggling, or how I can be praying for you.
You can email me anytime with your questions, feedback, or story.
👉 Email: theunstucksahm@gmail.com
You are not lost, friend. You’re in a becoming season — and I’m so honored to walk it with you. 💛