Name the fear, not just the failure. In this episode of The Work, Jake Hamilton goes beneath the surface of what we have called failure. What begins as fear of falling short unravels into deeper roots—disappointment, rejection, abandonment, and the longing for connection. Jake explores how many men mistake fear for failure, addiction for control, and isolation for strength. Together, we expose the hidden agreements that keep us bound to shame and the patterns that repeat until we name their source. This conversation invites men to stop managing symptoms and start doing the real work, replacing the story of “I’m not enough” with the truth of who they are. Whether it’s in marriage, leadership, or inner life, Jake reminds us that breakthrough isn’t about perfection. It’s about courage, honesty, and brotherhood. Healing begins when we stop hiding and let others stand with us. Related Materials: If you’re ready to go deeper, Jake offers one-on-one and group coaching. These coaching sessions are designed to help you face the pain that keeps showing up, break old agreements, and build tools for real transformation in your marriage, family, and personal life. Whether you’re a man, woman, or couple, coaching provides a space for honesty, clarity, and growth. Learn more at: https://thisisthefight.com/coaching/

Transformation requires confrontation. In this episode of The WORK, Jake unpacks why so many of us keep circling the same arguments, fights, and cycles in marriage, family, and life. Beneath the surface issues—finances, control, or time—are deeper longings: to be seen, to be safe, to be wanted. When we avoid confrontation, we trade transformation for fantasy, offering half-truths and quick fixes instead of the honesty that builds trust. We explore the temptation to want comfort over growth, and how coddling only feeds immaturity while covenant calls us higher. Consistency, follow-through, and the power of curious questions shift conversations from control to connection. From the ache of not feeling “enough” to the unspoken desire to be wanted, we see how childhood wounds often drive adult behaviors. This episode invites you to face the lies, stop running from the hard work, and embrace the long, faithful journey of building trust. Because at the end of the day, fruit grows when we refuse to give up. Related Materials: If you’re ready to go deeper, Jake also offers one-on-one and group coaching. These coaching sessions are designed to help you face the pain that keeps showing up, break old agreements, and build tools for real transformation in your marriage, family, and personal life. Whether you’re a man, woman, or couple, coaching provides a space for honesty, clarity, and growth. Learn more at: https://thisisthefight.com/coaching/

Pain repeats itself until it’s faced.   In this first episode of The WORK Jake Hamilton digs into why the same struggles keep showing up in our lives—whether it’s in relationships, family, or the hidden places of our story. Much of our pain is connected to childhood wounds, unspoken fears, and the deep need to be seen and heard. In typical Jake fashion, we quickly move from the surface conflict into the root issues of identity, worth, and trust. Discover why being combative often masks the desire to be recognized, why the lie of “not enough” keeps us on a cycle of burnout, and how fear shapes our conversations more than we realize. Often what we call conflict isn’t about the thing in front of us—it’s about the story underneath. In this episode, you’ll be invited to name your fears, break the cycle of old agreements, and move toward a deeper honesty that opens the door to real transformation. This is where truth meets courage—and this is where the work begins.   Related Materials: If you’re ready to go deeper, Jake also offers one-on-one and group coaching. These coaching sessions are designed to help you face the pain that keeps showing up, break old agreements, and build tools for real transformation in your marriage, family, and personal life. Whether you’re a man, woman, or couple, coaching provides a space for honesty, clarity, and growth. Learn more at: https://thisisthefight.com/coaching/