Send us a text What if your stress, your arguments, and your burnout all point to one simple mismatch—using the right energy at the wrong time? We explore a Jungian-informed model of four energies—Stabilizer, Transformer, Initiator, Responder (STIR)—and show how balancing them reduces conflict, eases burnout, and strengthens relationships. Real client stories ground the ideas in clear steps you can use. We start with the Stabilizer: the part that craves order, fairness, and control. Through r...
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Send us a text What if your stress, your arguments, and your burnout all point to one simple mismatch—using the right energy at the wrong time? We explore a Jungian-informed model of four energies—Stabilizer, Transformer, Initiator, Responder (STIR)—and show how balancing them reduces conflict, eases burnout, and strengthens relationships. Real client stories ground the ideas in clear steps you can use. We start with the Stabilizer: the part that craves order, fairness, and control. Through r...
Send us a text A single line sparked the conversation: the life you want is on the other side of the work you’re avoiding. From that starting point, we unpack what actually turns insight into movement and why so many smart plans stall before they start. We talk candidly about initiating energy—the force that begins things—and how non‑initiators can find it without trying to become someone they’re not, while initiators learn to temper speed with care so progress doesn’t cost connection. We ge...
Send us a text Ambition can build bridges or burn them—so how do you keep the fire without scorching your team or your relationships? We dive into the Initiator, a personality expression defined by dynamic masculine energy: goal-first, action-forward, and relentlessly independent. Think founders, crisis leaders, and the people who move when everyone else hesitates. We unpack the real strengths—decisiveness, clarity, and momentum—alongside the predictable blind spots: shallow listening, impati...
Send us a text We unpack the Responder style—how nurturing brings safety and connection, and how over-functioning turns love into control. You’ll hear the difference between static care that over-plans every risk and dynamic care that adapts in the moment. We talk through the classic attraction dance: why unintegrated Responders often choose highly driven, aggressive partners, how dependency erodes respect, and where emotional or even physical abuse can take root. Instead of pathologizi...
Send us a text Ever been the life of the party—and then felt the crash after? We dig into the “dynamic feminine” energy: the magnetic spark that says the unsaid, generates fun, and moves people forward, but can also ignore limits, dodge accountability, and create chaos when it runs the show. Together, we map where this energy shines at work and at home, and where it needs a counterbalance to sustain trust, health, and momentum. We call this person The Transformer. We start with a real-world ...
Send us a text Episode 7: The Four Personality Styles We continue the discussion of personality. We propose that there are four aspects or expressions of personality. Those four aspects include a dynamic energy, a static (or stabilizing) energy, a feminine expression and a masculine expression. These combine to create four different personality types. Most everyone has within them the possibility of accessing any of these types, though there is typically a dominant type. The four types are as...
Send us a text Feminine, masculine and androgynous characteristics are in every person. This is not a description of male versus female. Rather it is an acknowledgement that human personality has a broad spectrum of expression, and we might benefit greatly from better understanding of those parts of ourselves that dominate our personality and those parts that have remained undeveloped. Cohosts Dee Kelley and Jim Shalley provide some pathways for understanding and growth. Here are some of the ...
Send us a text This episode explores the dynamic and static components of our personality. Cohosts Dee Kelley and Jim Shalley provide useful examples of how these different styles complement one another and antagonize one another. Some of the key points include the following: 1. A dynamic energy or style is typically action-oriented, creating movement and change. A static energy or style organizes, puts systems in place and manages. 2. A person who has ...
Send us a text The cohosts present the Stabilizer personality style, referred to as a static-masculine energy. Everyone has this within them. For some it is dormant and rarely accessed, and for others it is their dominant style. This style is discussed, both in its healthy form and in it dysfunctional form. It is also compared to the other three styles (Initiator, Transformer and Responder). Here are some of the key issues discussed. 1. What is your natural style and is it...
Send us a text Episode three continues the discussion of our family of origin and its affects on our current relationships. Here are some of the key concepts and questions. 1. How did your parents handle emotions? (This is not about blaming anybody; it is just diagnostic.) 2. Do you see any similarities between how your parents handled emotions and how you handle emotions in your current relationships? 3. Each child is raised in a di...
Send us a text Episode two explores how our family of origin affects our adult relationships, particularly in how we handle our emotions. Below are some key ideas and questions considered by your cohosts, Dee Kelley and Jim Shalley. 1. First let’s consider that you are not in a bad marriage. Instead it might be things you don’t yet understand about your family of origin. 2. Consider your family of origin, and how, as a child, you formed attachments to y...
Send us a text This opening episode of the first season of Therapy, Coaching & Dreams (TCD), provides an introduction to therapy and life coaching. The cohosts provide a model for understanding personality, that is based on Jungian principles. There are two different expressions of personality; masculine and feminine. These are not gender specific designations, but rather expressions that are in everyone. (Some people refer to yin and yang. The terms may be different, but the distinction ...
Send us a text What if your stress, your arguments, and your burnout all point to one simple mismatch—using the right energy at the wrong time? We explore a Jungian-informed model of four energies—Stabilizer, Transformer, Initiator, Responder (STIR)—and show how balancing them reduces conflict, eases burnout, and strengthens relationships. Real client stories ground the ideas in clear steps you can use. We start with the Stabilizer: the part that craves order, fairness, and control. Through r...
