Toddlers Don’t Lie — They’re Communicating (Here’s What to Do)
"If you’re struggling with toddler tantrums and behaviors like hitting & not listening... I have a free guide for you! It’s called The Tantrum and Behavior Guide: 7 Toddler Struggles and How to Solve Them Fast—It's HERE!
Welcome to Toddler Toolkit Podcast! In this episode, we talk about why toddlers and preschoolers say 'I don't wanna go' and how they communicate distress through behavior, stories, and resistance.
We'll explore how different rules and environments can create nervous system distress in children and how parents can respond effectively.
This episode is useful for co-parents, married parents or partners with different parenting styles, grandparents, daycare transitions, and more. We will also cover five common ways toddlers communicate nervous system distress and discuss how to respond without shutting them down. Join us to learn how to better understand and support your child's behavior and meltdowns.
00:00 Welcome to Toddler Toolkit Podcast
00:03 Understanding Toddler Communication
00:16 Why Kids Say 'I Don't Wanna Go'
00:22 Nervous System Distress in Toddlers
00:48 Toddlers Don't Lie: A Deeper Look
02:04 Behavior as Communication
03:39 Five Common Ways Toddlers Communicate Distress
04:23 Avoidance as a Coping Strategy
05:19 Symbolic Communication: Making Up Stories
10:57 Fear of Being Alone: Sleep and Separation
13:05 Dysregulation at Pickup and Drop Off
14:21 Clinging to One Parent
15:20 How Not to Shut Down Your Child's Distress
17:55 Clarifying the Truth Without Teaching Fear
21:27 In Closing: Supporting Your Toddler's Communication
22:50 Resources and Next Steps
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"If you’re struggling with toddler tantrums and behaviors like hitting & not listening... I have a free guide for you! It’s called The Tantrum and Behavior Guide: 7 Toddler Struggles and How to Solve Them Fast—It's HERE!
Watch us Chat for the Podcast Interviews with YouTube Video HERE!
Heather has her M.Ed, and a proud Twin Mama of busy toddlers. She's the Toddler Toolkit Podcast Host, a co-author of the #1 International Best Selling Book, The Perfectly Imperfect Family & the founder of the Happy Toddler, Confident Parent Cohort and Course. You might've tried advice tailored for one child, but that's not our journey, right? With a decade of teaching experience under her belt, she's seen it all – from toddlers to teenagers in the classroom. Now, as a parent to toddlers, she's experiencing the flip side of the coin. She's discovered a toolbox to help parents with everything toddler times two!
Let's unlock the secrets to understanding toddler behavior, preventing meltdowns, and raising intuitive, resilient children.
Why Your Toddler Keeps Melting Down: The Pattern You’re Missing
✨📝Featured Article:
Companion Episode:
The Hidden Reason You Snap and 4 Things That Stop the Cycle
In this episode of the Toddler Toolkit Podcast, we'll explore how the hardest moments with your toddler – tantrums, meltdowns, power struggles – aren't the real problem.
Learn about the underlying patterns in both your toddler's behavior and your own reactions. Discover how changing these patterns can ease perfectionism, shame, and blame, and improve your parenting experience.
We'll also touch on personal experiences, the importance of self-compassion, and plans for upcoming podcast episodes and YouTube content. Tune in for practical, heartfelt advice just before the New Year.
00:00 Welcome to Toddler Toolkit Podcast
00:41 Understanding Toddler Behavior Patterns
01:17 Personal Reflections and Holiday Challenges
02:46 The Toddler Reactivity Loop
04:13 Addressing Root Causes of Toddler Behavior
05:52 Parental Patterns and Self-Compassion
08:03 Breaking the Pattern: Practical Tips
12:54 Final Thoughts and Upcoming Plans
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"If you’re struggling with toddler tantrums and behaviors like hitting & not listening... I have a free guide for you! It’s called The Tantrum and Behavior Guide: 7 Toddler Struggles and How to Solve Them Fast—It's HERE!
Watch us Chat for the Podcast Interviews with YouTube Video HERE!
Heather has her M.Ed, and a proud Twin Mama of busy toddlers. She's the Toddler Toolkit Podcast Host, a co-author of the #1 International Best Selling Book, The Perfectly Imperfect Family & the founder of the Happy Toddler, Confident Parent Cohort and Course. You might've tried advice tailored for one child, but that's not our journey, right? With a decade of teaching experience under her belt, she's seen it all – from toddlers to teenagers in the classroom. Now, as a parent to toddlers, she's experiencing the flip side of the coin. She's discovered a toolbox to help parents with everything toddler times two!
Let's unlock the secrets to understanding toddler behavior, preventing meltdowns, and raising intuitive, resilient children.
Is Your Dog Really “Fine”? The Hidden Signals Parents Miss (w/ Dog Meets Baby’s Dominika Knossalla-Pado) - Toddler Toolkit Podcast
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In this episode of the Toddler Toolkit podcast, host welcomes Dominika Knossalla-Pado, a professional dog trainer since 2008 and founder of Dog Meets Baby.
Dominika shares her journey starting with her training at the acclaimed Academy of Dog Trainers, her life-changing experience adopting her dog Lola, and how her predatory reaction to her newborn twins motivated her to create essential resources for families.
Dominika discusses safety tips, educating children on dog behavior, handling dog and toddler interactions, and the importance of setting boundaries during high-energy times like mealtime. She also introduces her new children's book, 'Lola and the Bubble Mission', which aims to teach kids about respecting a dog's space. Learn from Dominika's expertise to make sure your household is a safe and happy environment for both kids and dogs.
00:00 Welcome to Toddler Toolkit Podcast
00:03 Meet Dominika Knossalla-Pado: Dog Trainer Extraordinaire
00:25 Dominika's Journey: From New York to Dog Meets Baby
00:32 Lola's Story: From Shelter Dog to Family Member
00:37 The Birth of Twins: A Life-Changing Event
01:11 Creating Dog Meets Baby: A Resource for Parents
01:27 Dominika's Upcoming Children's Book: Lola and The Bubble Mission
02:30 Dominika's Media Features and Global Reach
03:17 A Life-Changing Moment in the Park
03:33 Pursuing a Dream: From Poland to San Francisco
06:14 Lola's Adoption and Training Journey
09:08 Challenges of Balancing Twins and a High-Energy Dog
10:05 Navigating Predatory Reactions: A Scary Experience
18:40 The Importance of Preparation and Training
22:30 Understanding Dog Behavior: Signs of Comfort and Tolerance
23:23 Recognizing Stress Signals in Dogs
24:26 Communicating with Dogs: Subtle Signs
25:39 The Importance of Understanding Dog Body Language
27:15 Teaching Children Safe Dog Interactions
30:13 Helping Children Overcome Fear of Dogs
37:51 Managing High-Energy Times with Dogs
41:13 Introducing 'Lola and the Bubble Mission'
43:01 Where to Find More Resources
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"If you’re struggling with toddler tantrums and behaviors like hitting & not listening... I have a free guide for you! It’s called The Tantrum and Behavior Guide: 7 Toddler Struggles and How to Solve Them Fast—It's HERE!
Watch us Chat for the Podcast Interviews with YouTube Video HERE!
Heather has her M.Ed, and a proud Twin Mama of busy toddlers. She's the Toddler Toolkit Podcast Host, a co-author of the #1 International Best Selling Book, The Perfectly Imperfect Family & the founder of the Happy Toddler, Confident Parent Cohort and Course. You might've tried advice tailored for one child, but that's not our journey, right? With a decade of teaching experience under her belt, she's seen it all – from toddlers to teenagers in the classroom. Now, as a parent to toddlers, she's experiencing the flip side of the coin. She's discovered a toolbox to help parents with everything toddler times two!
Let's unlock the secrets to understanding toddler behavior, preventing meltdowns, and raising intuitive, resilient children.
Your Toddler Isn’t Misbehaving — They’re Unanchored (Here’s What They Need)
"If you’re struggling with toddler tantrums and behaviors like hitting & not listening... I have a free guide for you! It’s called The Tantrum and Behavior Guide: 7 Toddler Struggles and How to Solve Them Fast—It's HERE!
In this episode of the Toddler Toolkit Podcast, we dive into the real reasons behind toddler meltdowns and unruly behavior. Learn how understanding your child's 'state' and nervous system can help you guide them back to calmness without power struggles. From changing the environment to sensory resets, we'll discuss practical tips to help your toddler regulate their emotions. Don't forget to check out the free guide 'The Seven Toddler Struggles and How to Solve Them Fast,' available in the show notes.
00:00 Understanding Toddler Meltdowns
00:22 Welcome to Toddler Toolkit Podcast
00:55 The Real Issue Behind Misbehavior
01:38 State Drives Behavior, Not Discipline
02:35 How to Reset Your Toddler's State
04:02 Personal Stories and Practical Examples
10:45 Effective State Change Strategies
14:19 Conclusion and Upcoming Episodes
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"If you’re struggling with toddler tantrums and behaviors like hitting & not listening... I have a free guide for you! It’s called The Tantrum and Behavior Guide: 7 Toddler Struggles and How to Solve Them Fast—It's HERE!
Watch us Chat for the Podcast Interviews with YouTube Video HERE!
Heather has her M.Ed, and a proud Twin Mama of busy toddlers. She's the Toddler Toolkit Podcast Host, a co-author of the #1 International Best Selling Book, The Perfectly Imperfect Family & the founder of the Happy Toddler, Confident Parent Cohort and Course. You might've tried advice tailored for one child, but that's not our journey, right? With a decade of teaching experience under her belt, she's seen it all – from toddlers to teenagers in the classroom. Now, as a parent to toddlers, she's experiencing the flip side of the coin. She's discovered a toolbox to help parents with everything toddler times two!
Let's unlock the secrets to understanding toddler behavior, preventing meltdowns, and raising intuitive, resilient children.
Reset Your Toddler Before the Holidays: How to Bank Calm in Their Nervous System (and Yours) | Toddler Toolkit Podcast
"If you’re struggling with toddler tantrums and behaviors like hitting & not listening... I have a free guide for you! It’s called The Tantrum and Behavior Guide: 7 Toddler Struggles and How to Solve Them Fast—It's HERE!
When you get the FREE Guide, you get access to my Black Friday Deals this Week! Don’t forget to mark your calendar:
✨ Wednesday 11/26: The 5-Workshop Vault — $3
✨ Friday 11/28 : The Calm Parent Holiday Pass — $7
✨ Cyber Monday 12/1: The Premium Calm Superpower Transformation Bundle — $17
Make sure to also listen to this episode:
Holiday Overwhelm: Why Your Toddler Falls Apart Around Family (and How to Make Thanksgiving Easier)
Welcome to the Toddler Toolkit Podcast! In today's episode, we're diving into strategies to reset your toddler’s nervous system before the holidays, helping both you and your child remain calm during the festive chaos.
We'll explore the concept of 'calm banking,' inspired by Dr. Matthew Walker's sleep banking principles, to proactively build your toddler's emotional resilience.
Learn about the impact of good sleep, the sensory diet, connection banking, and predictability boosting on your toddler’s stress levels. Plus, discover practical tips to stay grounded and prepared as a parent.
We also discuss special offers like the $3 Mini Toddler Toolkit workshop vault, the $7 Calm Parent Holiday Pass, and the $17 Calm Superpower Transformation Bundle. Don't miss out on these fantastic resources to make your holiday season smoother. To access these deals, download the 'Seven Toddler Struggles and How to Solve Them Fast' guide via the link in the show notes. Have a fantastic Thanksgiving, and we'll see you in the next episode!
00:00 Introduction to Toddler Toolkit Podcast
00:39 Black Friday Deal Announcements
02:21 Understanding Calm Banking for Toddlers
04:36 Implementing Sleep Banking Strategies
06:24 Sensory Diet and Connection Banking
12:46 Predictability and Parent Preparation
16:26 Handling Imperfect Holiday Situations
20:54 Conclusion and Final Thoughts
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"If you’re struggling with toddler tantrums and behaviors like hitting & not listening... I have a free guide for you! It’s called The Tantrum and Behavior Guide: 7 Toddler Struggles and How to Solve Them Fast—It's HERE!
Watch us Chat for the Podcast Interviews with YouTube Video HERE!
Heather has her M.Ed, and a proud Twin Mama of busy toddlers. She's the Toddler Toolkit Podcast Host, a co-author of the #1 International Best Selling Book, The Perfectly Imperfect Family & the founder of the Happy Toddler, Confident Parent Cohort and Course. You might've tried advice tailored for one child, but that's not our journey, right? With a decade of teaching experience under her belt, she's seen it all – from toddlers to teenagers in the classroom. Now, as a parent to toddlers, she's experiencing the flip side of the coin. She's discovered a toolbox to help parents with everything toddler times two!
Let's unlock the secrets to understanding toddler behavior, preventing meltdowns, and raising intuitive, resilient children.
Holiday Overwhelm: Why Your Toddler Falls Apart Around Family (and How to Make Thanksgiving Easier)
"If you’re struggling with toddler tantrums and behaviors like hitting & not listening... I have a free guide for you! It’s called The Tantrum and Behavior Guide: 7 Toddler Struggles and How to Solve Them Fast—It's HERE!
When you get the FREE Guide, you get access to my Black Friday Deals this Week! Don’t forget to mark your calendar:
✨ Wednesday 11/26: The 5-Workshop Vault — $3
✨ Friday 11/28 : The Calm Parent Holiday Pass — $7
✨ Cyber Monday 12/1: The Premium Calm Superpower Transformation Bundle — $17
In this episode, we address the common issue of holiday overwhelm for toddlers and why they often have meltdowns during family gatherings.
We’ll provide practical tips on how to manage your toddler’s behavior, prevent sensory overload, and reduce social pressure. We’ll also offer scripts to handle unsolicited parenting advice from family members and share mantras to help you stay calm. Plus, stay tuned for exciting Black Friday deals designed to help you manage holiday stress with fewer tantrums and more tranquility at home.
00:00 Understanding Toddler Overwhelm During Holidays
02:32 Tips to Handle Unsolicited Advice and Expectations
04:13 Exciting Black Friday Offers for Parents
07:00 Managing Toddler Meltdowns and Holiday Triggers
09:33 Holiday SOS Tools and Strategies
11:52 Proactive Scripts for Family Gatherings
14:09 Thanksgiving Mantras for Parents
17:28 Conclusion and Upcoming Episodes
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"If you’re struggling with toddler tantrums and behaviors like hitting & not listening... I have a free guide for you! It’s called The Tantrum and Behavior Guide: 7 Toddler Struggles and How to Solve Them Fast—It's HERE!
Watch us Chat for the Podcast Interviews with YouTube Video HERE!
Heather has her M.Ed, and a proud Twin Mama of busy toddlers. She's the Toddler Toolkit Podcast Host, a co-author of the #1 International Best Selling Book, The Perfectly Imperfect Family & the founder of the Happy Toddler, Confident Parent Cohort and Course. You might've tried advice tailored for one child, but that's not our journey, right? With a decade of teaching experience under her belt, she's seen it all – from toddlers to teenagers in the classroom. Now, as a parent to toddlers, she's experiencing the flip side of the coin. She's discovered a toolbox to help parents with everything toddler times two!
Let's unlock the secrets to understanding toddler behavior, preventing meltdowns, and raising intuitive, resilient children.
The 7 Types of Toddler NO’s (and How to Respond to Each One)
"If you’re struggling with toddler tantrums and behaviors like hitting & not listening... I have a free guide for you! It’s called The Tantrum and Behavior Guide: 7 Toddler Struggles and How to Solve Them Fast—It's HERE!
Recommended Podcast Episodes Referenced in the episode:
How Your Child’s Hurtful Words Reveal the #1 Thing You Need Most
What “No!”, “Go Away!”, and Other Toddler Phrases Actually Mean
In this Toddler Toolkit podcast episode, we discuss the seven types of toddler 'no's and the best strategies for each one.
We'll cover types like transition 'no', routine 'no', social 'no', connection 'no', cognitive load 'no', sensory 'no', and fatigue 'no'. Understanding these can help parents avoid power struggles and better support their child's needs. Also, get details on the Black Friday special and the Calm Superpower cohort.
00:00 Welcome to Toddler Toolkit Podcast
00:15 Understanding Toddler Behavior
01:35 The Seven Types of Toddler Nos
02:08 Special Announcements and Offers
03:22 Deep Dive into Toddler Nos
03:55 Transition Nos
04:55 Routine Nos
06:32 Social Nos
08:00 Connection Nos
09:22 Cognitive Load Nos
10:41 Sensory and Fatigue Nos
14:15 Conclusion and Final Thoughts
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"If you’re struggling with toddler tantrums and behaviors like hitting & not listening... I have a free guide for you! It’s called The Tantrum and Behavior Guide: 7 Toddler Struggles and How to Solve Them Fast—It's HERE!
Watch us Chat for the Podcast Interviews with YouTube Video HERE!
Heather has her M.Ed, and a proud Twin Mama of busy toddlers. She's the Toddler Toolkit Podcast Host, a co-author of the #1 International Best Selling Book, The Perfectly Imperfect Family & the founder of the Happy Toddler, Confident Parent Cohort and Course. You might've tried advice tailored for one child, but that's not our journey, right? With a decade of teaching experience under her belt, she's seen it all – from toddlers to teenagers in the classroom. Now, as a parent to toddlers, she's experiencing the flip side of the coin. She's discovered a toolbox to help parents with everything toddler times two!
Let's unlock the secrets to understanding toddler behavior, preventing meltdowns, and raising intuitive, resilient children.
5 Mistakes Parents Make When Toddlers Say No (And What to Do Instead!)
Welcome to the 100th episode of Toddler Toolkit Podcast!
Join the Calm Superpower Cohort HERE!
In this 3-week live experience, starting November 3rd, we’ll walk through the three biggest areas of toddler struggle:
1️⃣ Listening and cooperation
2️⃣ Meltdowns and emotional coaching
3️⃣ Triggers and your own calm superpower
You’ll get live Q&As, short lessons, and strategies that actually work in real life.
In this episode, we discuss the five common mistakes parents make when their toddlers say 'no' and provide effective strategies to handle these situations. From avoiding saying 'no' too often, to understanding the root cause behind the behaviors, and the limitations of offering choices, we cover it all. Tune in for practical tips to navigate your toddler's challenging moments and improve your parenting approach. Plus, don't forget to check out our free guide on the Seven Toddler Struggles and How to Solve Them Fast. See you in the next episode!
00:00 Welcome to the 100th Episode!
00:14 Introduction to Toddler Toolkit
00:54 Mistake #1: Saying No Too Much
02:03 Mistake #2: Trying to Change Too Many Behaviors
03:57 Mistake #3: Misunderstanding the Root Cause
05:49 Mistake #4: Teaching What Not to Do
06:52 Mistake #5: Assuming Choices Are the Only Fix
10:48 Recap and Final Thoughts
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"If you’re struggling with toddler tantrums and behaviors like hitting & not listening... I have a free guide for you! It’s called The Tantrum and Behavior Guide: 7 Toddler Struggles and How to Solve Them Fast—It's HERE!
Watch us Chat for the Podcast Interviews with YouTube Video HERE!
Heather has her M.Ed, and a proud Twin Mama of busy toddlers. She's the Toddler Toolkit Podcast Host, a co-author of the #1 International Best Selling Book, The Perfectly Imperfect Family & the founder of the Happy Toddler, Confident Parent Cohort and Course. You might've tried advice tailored for one child, but that's not our journey, right? With a decade of teaching experience under her belt, she's seen it all – from toddlers to teenagers in the classroom. Now, as a parent to toddlers, she's experiencing the flip side of the coin. She's discovered a toolbox to help parents with everything toddler times two!
Let's unlock the secrets to understanding toddler behavior, preventing meltdowns, and raising intuitive, resilient children.
Moms, You Don’t Need More Patience—You Need More Presence (w/ Katie Krimitsos)
If you’ve ever whispered to yourself, ‘I just need more patience,’ this episode is your permission slip to stop striving and start being. Katie Krimitsos, founder of the Women’s Meditation Network, joins us to share how presence—not perfection—is what actually brings calm in motherhood.
Say goodbye to Anxiety with Katie!
Download the 5 Secrets to Unleashing Your Meditation Magic, HERE!
Listen to Dailly Affirmations with Katie:
I Am Proud of the Mother I Have Become-Here
In this special episode of the Toddler Toolkit podcast, we sit down with Katie Krimitsos, founder of the Women's Meditation Network. Katie's meditations have been downloaded over a hundred million times by women worldwide. Join us as Katie shares her inspiring journey from recording in her bedroom closet to reaching nearly 200 million downloads.
We discuss the power of stillness amid motherhood chaos, moving from reaction to reflection, and embracing the idea that we already are love. This episode is full of grounding and emotional wisdom for every overwhelmed or disconnected mom. Katie also shares practical tips on building a meditation practice, the importance of self-love, and intentional parenting. Tune in for a heartfelt and insightful conversation that will resonate with moms everywhere.
00:00 Welcome to Toddler Toolkit Podcast
00:05 Meet Katie Krimitsos: Founder of Women's Meditation Network
01:07 Katie's Journey: From Bedroom Closet to Global Impact
02:55 The Turning Point: Pregnancy and Intuition
04:26 Launching the Women's Meditation Network
04:56 Overcoming Imposter Syndrome
07:04 Balancing Motherhood and Meditation
10:36 The Power of Meditation in Motherhood
12:29 Debunking Meditation Myths
17:34 Connecting with Intuition Amidst Chaos
21:13 Mindful Parenting: Handling Meltdowns with Grace
22:54 Struggles with Reading and Self-Perception
24:06 A New School Brings New Beginnings
25:36 The Power of Meditation in Parenting
28:14 Intentional Parenting and Family Values
30:35 Self-Compassion and Overcoming Mom Guilt
37:37 Modeling Love and Self-Acceptance
42:20 Closing Thoughts and Encouragement
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"If you’re struggling with toddler tantrums and behaviors like hitting & not listening... I have a free guide for you! It’s called The Tantrum and Behavior Guide: 7 Toddler Struggles and How to Solve Them Fast—It's HERE!
Watch us Chat for the Podcast Interviews with YouTube Video HERE!
Heather has her M.Ed, and a proud Twin Mama of busy toddlers. She's the Toddler Toolkit Podcast Host, a co-author of the #1 International Best Selling Book, The Perfectly Imperfect Family & the founder of the Happy Toddler, Confident Parent Cohort and Course. You might've tried advice tailored for one child, but that's not our journey, right? With a decade of teaching experience under her belt, she's seen it all – from toddlers to teenagers in the classroom. Now, as a parent to toddlers, she's experiencing the flip side of the coin. She's discovered a toolbox to help parents with everything toddler times two!
Let's unlock the secrets to understanding toddler behavior, preventing meltdowns, and raising intuitive, resilient children.
How Your Child’s Hurtful Words Reveal the #1 Thing You Need Most
Join the Calm Superpower Cohort HERE!
In this 3-week live experience, starting November 3rd, we’ll walk through the three biggest areas of toddler struggle:
1️⃣ Listening and cooperation
2️⃣ Meltdowns and emotional coaching
3️⃣ Triggers and your own calm superpower
You’ll get live Q&As, short lessons, and strategies that actually work in real life.
And when you enroll by October 31st, you’ll save $100 and get a free Toddler Toolkit T-shirt while supplies last.
Listen to a related and helpful episode, 'The Hidden Reason You Snap and 4 Things That Stop the Cycle' here.
Back to the Episode:
Ever feel stung by your toddler's words?
In this episode, we talk about why toddlers say hurtful things like 'Go away, Mommy' and 'I don't love you,' and how these moments reveal what you need most as a parent.
We'll discuss toddler tantrums, emotional boundaries, and the hidden fix-it loop that can leave you feeling drained. Learn how to stay calm and ensure your peace doesn't depend on your child's behavior.
Plus, join the Calm Superpower cohort starting November 3rd for strategies to handle listening, meltdowns, and triggers. Sign up by October 31st to save $100 and get a free Toddler Toolkit T-shirt!
00:00 Introduction: The Hidden Fix-It Loop
00:31 Understanding Toddler Tantrums and Hurtful Words
00:58 Introducing the Calm Superpower Cohort
02:19 Exploring Emotional Boundaries
06:51 The Hidden Fix-It Loop Explained
10:14 Nervous System Link: Safety vs. Seeking
11:30 Emotional Boundaries vs. Emotional Walls
18:26 Practical Responses to Hurtful Words
20:25 Conclusion and Next Steps
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"If you’re struggling with toddler tantrums and behaviors like hitting & not listening... I have a free guide for you! It’s called The Tantrum and Behavior Guide: 7 Toddler Struggles and How to Solve Them Fast—It's HERE!
Watch us Chat for the Podcast Interviews with YouTube Video HERE!
Heather has her M.Ed, and a proud Twin Mama of busy toddlers. She's the Toddler Toolkit Podcast Host, a co-author of the #1 International Best Selling Book, The Perfectly Imperfect Family & the founder of the Happy Toddler, Confident Parent Cohort and Course. You might've tried advice tailored for one child, but that's not our journey, right? With a decade of teaching experience under her belt, she's seen it all – from toddlers to teenagers in the classroom. Now, as a parent to toddlers, she's experiencing the flip side of the coin. She's discovered a toolbox to help parents with everything toddler times two!
Let's unlock the secrets to understanding toddler behavior, preventing meltdowns, and raising intuitive, resilient children.
Transforming Toddlerhood: How to Embrace and Enjoy Parenting with Devin Kuntzman!
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Get Devon's new book, Transforming Toddlerhood here!
Welcome to the Toddler Toolkit podcast! In this episode, we're thrilled to have modern parenting expert Devin Kuntzman.
Devin is well-known for her work on Instagram as the original toddler parenting coach, trusted by millions of parents worldwide.
Devin shares her mission to shift the narrative around toddlerhood, viewing it as a stage filled with opportunities rather than challenges. She discusses her comprehensive new book, 'Transforming Toddlerhood,' coming out on October 21, 2025, that's packed with actionable advice for caregivers.
Devin also talks about the importance of understanding toddler behavior as communication and shares practical tips for dealing with power struggles and tantrums. Join us as we explore ways to navigate the ups and downs of toddlerhood with confidence and joy.
00:00 Introduction to Toddler Behavior Challenges
01:05 Welcome to the Toddler Toolkit Podcast
01:11 Meet Devon Kuntzman: Transforming Toddlerhood
03:59 Understanding Toddler Behavior as Communication
09:03 The Importance of Realistic Expectations
12:54 Practical Tips for Positive Parenting
22:40 Behavioral Red Flags to Watch For
25:23 Navigating Parenting Overwhelm
26:33 The Messiness of Toddlerhood
27:31 Empathy and Parenting Challenges
29:11 Balancing Discipline and Emotional Wellbeing
31:00 Embracing Imperfection in Parenting
34:17 Real-Life Parenting Struggles
38:35 Building Awareness and Growth Mindset
42:15 The Impact of Transforming Toddlerhood
46:10 Final Thoughts and Resources
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"If you’re struggling with toddler tantrums and behaviors like hitting & not listening... I have a free guide for you! It’s called The Tantrum and Behavior Guide: 7 Toddler Struggles and How to Solve Them Fast—It's HERE!
Watch us Chat for the Podcast Interviews with YouTube Video HERE!
Heather has her M.Ed, and a proud Twin Mama of busy toddlers. She's the Toddler Toolkit Podcast Host, a co-author of the #1 International Best Selling Book, The Perfectly Imperfect Family & the founder of the Happy Toddler, Confident Parent Cohort and Course. You might've tried advice tailored for one child, but that's not our journey, right? With a decade of teaching experience under her belt, she's seen it all – from toddlers to teenagers in the classroom. Now, as a parent to toddlers, she's experiencing the flip side of the coin. She's discovered a toolbox to help parents with everything toddler times two!
Let's unlock the secrets to understanding toddler behavior, preventing meltdowns, and raising intuitive, resilient children.
Stop Trying to Get Your Toddler to Listen: Right Intention, Wrong Strategy
The Calm Superpower Cohort starts the week of November 3rd.
It’s three weeks, three live Q&As on Zoom (recordings available after), and one calm superpower that changes everything.
You’ll learn how to handle meltdowns, power struggles, and those “push your button” moments with tools that actually work in real life.
Enroll before October 31st to get the Sweet Treat Deal — $97 (regularly $197) and a free Toddler Toolkit T-shirt (value of $30 USD) for the first 5 sign-ups. Sign up here!
In this episode of the Toddler Toolkit podcast, we’re exploring the true meaning of 'listening' when it comes to toddlers.
Learn how to distinguish between mere compliance and genuine cooperation, and discover why the latter is crucial for your child's long-term development.
Join us as we discuss practical tips for fostering cooperation, the hidden costs of enforcing compliance, and the importance of connection in shaping resilient kids. Plus, get all the details on the upcoming Calm Superpower cohort starting the week of November 3rd, designed to equip you with real-life tools for handling toddler meltdowns and power struggles.
00:00 Introduction to Toddler Toolkit Podcast
00:02 Understanding Listening vs. Cooperation
00:56 Introducing the Calm Superpower Cohort
02:38 Back to the Episode: Listening vs. Compliance
04:04 The Importance of True Cooperation
06:26 Compliance vs. Cooperation Pathways
12:07 The Hidden Costs of Good Listening
16:51 Conclusion and Upcoming Episodes
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"If you’re struggling with toddler tantrums and behaviors like hitting & not listening... I have a free guide for you! It’s called The Tantrum and Behavior Guide: 7 Toddler Struggles and How to Solve Them Fast—It's HERE!
Watch us Chat for the Podcast Interviews with YouTube Video HERE!
Heather has her M.Ed, and a proud Twin Mama of busy toddlers. She's the Toddler Toolkit Podcast Host, a co-author of the #1 International Best Selling Book, The Perfectly Imperfect Family & the founder of the Happy Toddler, Confident Parent Cohort and Course. You might've tried advice tailored for one child, but that's not our journey, right? With a decade of teaching experience under her belt, she's seen it all – from toddlers to teenagers in the classroom. Now, as a parent to toddlers, she's experiencing the flip side of the coin. She's discovered a toolbox to help parents with everything toddler times two!
Let's unlock the secrets to understanding toddler behavior, preventing meltdowns, and raising intuitive, resilient children.
The Hidden Reason You Snap and 4 Things That Stop the Cycle | Toddler Toolkit Podcast
"If you’re struggling with toddler tantrums and behaviors like hitting & not listening... I have a free guide for you! It’s called The Tantrum and Behavior Guide: 7 Toddler Struggles and How to Solve Them Fast—It's HERE!
In this episode of the Toddler Toolkit Podcast, I reflect on a key insight inspired between my personal life and by an interview with Katie Krimitsos (coming on air soon!): why is it easier for moms to show compassion to their children than to themselves?
We dive into real-life scenarios where self-criticism depletes our patience, explore the concept of 'compassion leaks,' and discuss how this imbalance affects our ability to care for our kids effectively.
I share personal stories and offer practical steps for practicing self-compassion and maintaining emotional balance. Join me for an honest conversation about the importance of giving yourself grace and how it benefits both you and your family.
00:00 Introduction: The Compassion Dilemma
01:11 A Real-Life Example: Nighttime Meltdown
04:28 Understanding Compassion Leaks
04:44 Common Compassion Leak Scenarios
08:30 The Importance of Self-Compassion
12:47 Practical Steps for Preventative Regulation
14:44 Conclusion: Embracing Imperfection
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"If you’re struggling with toddler tantrums and behaviors like hitting & not listening... I have a free guide for you! It’s called The Tantrum and Behavior Guide: 7 Toddler Struggles and How to Solve Them Fast—It's HERE!
Watch us Chat for the Podcast Interviews with YouTube Video HERE!
Heather has her M.Ed, and a proud Twin Mama of busy toddlers. She's the Toddler Toolkit Podcast Host, a co-author of the #1 International Best Selling Book, The Perfectly Imperfect Family & the founder of the Happy Toddler, Confident Parent Cohort and Course. You might've tried advice tailored for one child, but that's not our journey, right? With a decade of teaching experience under her belt, she's seen it all – from toddlers to teenagers in the classroom. Now, as a parent to toddlers, she's experiencing the flip side of the coin. She's discovered a toolbox to help parents with everything toddler times two!
Let's unlock the secrets to understanding toddler behavior, preventing meltdowns, and raising intuitive, resilient children.
Toddler Fighting You? 3 Ways Parents Accidentally Shut Down Kindness
🎤I’m so honored to be a speaker in the Happily Family Online Conference (Oct 9–13) alongside Dr. Daniel Siegel,
More than 100,000 families are already joining in. Together, we’ll hear from 25+ parenting experts sharing practical tools for real family life—the messy, imperfect, beautiful kind.
👉 Get a Free Ticket Here. 🎫
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In this episode of the Toddler Toolkit Podcast, we explore why toddlers often seem defiant and how parents might unintentionally suppress kindness in their children.
Learn the three common mistakes—missing the care, shaming the care, and focusing on the negative—and find out how to reframe these moments to foster kindness instead of conflict.
I'll share real-life examples, exact words you can use, and practical tools for parenting.
Plus, don't miss insights from the upcoming Happily Family Conference, featuring experts like Dr. Daniel Siegel. Tune in to strengthen your parent-child bond and nurture emotional intelligence in your kids.
00:00 Introduction: Understanding Toddler Behavior
01:00 Common Parenting Challenges
01:47 The Concept of Invisible Care
04:04 Three Ways Parents Shut Down Kindness
05:28 Real-Life Examples and Reframes
12:32 Biology and Negativity Bias
16:20 Growing More Kindness
18:05 Conclusion and Upcoming Events
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"If you’re struggling with toddler tantrums and behaviors like hitting & not listening... I have a free guide for you! It’s called The Tantrum and Behavior Guide: 7 Toddler Struggles and How to Solve Them Fast—It's HERE!
Watch us Chat for the Podcast Interviews with YouTube Video HERE!
Heather has her M.Ed, and a proud Twin Mama of busy toddlers. She's the Toddler Toolkit Podcast Host, a co-author of the #1 International Best Selling Book, The Perfectly Imperfect Family & the founder of the Happy Toddler, Confident Parent Cohort and Course. You might've tried advice tailored for one child, but that's not our journey, right? With a decade of teaching experience under her belt, she's seen it all – from toddlers to teenagers in the classroom. Now, as a parent to toddlers, she's experiencing the flip side of the coin. She's discovered a toolbox to help parents with everything toddler times two!
Let's unlock the secrets to understanding toddler behavior, preventing meltdowns, and raising intuitive, resilient children.
Realistic Fitness and Nutrition for Busy Moms ft. Athena Concannon | Toddler Toolkit Podcast
Most moms don’t fail because they lack willpower—they’re stuck in fitness myths that don’t work. In this episode, Athena Concannon reveals the truth that actually helps busy moms see real results without extremes.
Connect with Athena HERE:
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/athenaconcannon/
Website: https://www.achievewithathena.com/
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I’m so honored to be a speaker in the Happily Family Online Conference (Oct 9–13) alongside Dr. Daniel Siegel! My favorite author in the parenting education and neuroscience space. 💛
-A lot of different people come to the Happily Family Conference… foster and adoptive parents, grandparents, aunts and uncles, teachers, therapists, and coaches. If you live with kids or work with them, then this conference is for YOU. People attend from all over the globe.
-More than 100,000 families are already joining in. Together, we’ll hear from 25+ parenting experts sharing practical tools for real family life…the messy, imperfect, beautiful kind.
👉 Save your free spot and get your FREE TICKET HERE!
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Watch us Chat for the Podcast Interviews with YouTube Video HERE!
Join us on today's episode of the Toddler Toolkit Podcast as we welcome Athena Concannon, a certified personal trainer, nutrition coach, and creator of the Balanced Body Project.
Athena shares her journey from fitness enthusiast to helping busy women, especially moms, achieve their fitness goals without the extremes.
Learn about her practical strategies, the importance of balance, and how to prioritize self-care in the chaos of motherhood. Athena also talks about the impact of mindset shifts and how to avoid the common all-or-nothing trap. Perfect for moms looking for realistic and compassionate approaches to health and fitness.
00:00 Introduction and Guest Announcement
00:51 Athena's Journey into Fitness and Nutrition
04:22 Balancing Fitness with Motherhood
06:42 Overcoming the All or Nothing Trap
10:17 Realistic Fitness Strategies for Moms
23:13 Customizable Fitness Plans
28:37 Mindset Shifts and Client Success Stories
35:15 Final Thoughts and Contact Information
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Heather has her M.Ed, and a proud Twin Mama of busy toddlers. She's the Toddler Toolkit Podcast Host, a co-author of the #1 International Best Selling Book, The Perfectly Imperfect Family & the founder of the Happy Toddler, Confident Parent Cohort and Course. You might've tried advice tailored for one child, but that's not our journey, right? With a decade of teaching experience under her belt, she's seen it all – from toddlers to teenagers in the classroom. Now, as a parent to toddlers, she's experiencing the flip side of the coin. She's discovered a toolbox to help parents with everything toddler times two!
Let's unlock the secrets to understanding toddler behavior, preventing meltdowns, and raising intuitive, resilient children.
In this episode of Toddler Toolkit, we explore the difference between control language and connection language when dealing with toddler meltdowns.
"If you’re struggling with toddler tantrums and behaviors like hitting & not listening... I have a free guide for you! It’s called The Tantrum and Behavior Guide: 7 Toddler Struggles and How to Solve Them Fast—It's HERE!
Watch us Chat for the Podcast Interviews with YouTube Video HERE!
Learn why phrases like 'calm down' and 'stop crying' often backfire, and discover 12 effective swaps to help support your child's emotional regulation. We also discuss the importance of intention and body language in parenting.
Plus, hear about the upcoming Happy Family Online Conference in October 2025 and get tips on how to navigate meltdowns even when you're burned out.
00:00 Introduction: From Control to Connection
01:35 Understanding Control Language
02:44 The Importance of Connection Language
04:42 12 Helpful Swaps from Control to Connection
10:18 Real-Life Examples and Final Thoughts
12:25 Upcoming Events and Conclusion
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Heather has her M.Ed, and a proud Twin Mama of busy toddlers. She's the Toddler Toolkit Podcast Host, a co-author of the #1 International Best Selling Book, The Perfectly Imperfect Family & the founder of the Happy Toddler, Confident Parent Cohort and Course. You might've tried advice tailored for one child, but that's not our journey, right? With a decade of teaching experience under her belt, she's seen it all – from toddlers to teenagers in the classroom. Now, as a parent to toddlers, she's experiencing the flip side of the coin. She's discovered a toolbox to help parents with everything toddler times two!
Let's unlock the secrets to understanding toddler behavior, preventing meltdowns, and raising intuitive, resilient children.
From Tantrums to ‘I’m Sorry’: Emotional Milestones Every Parent Should Know
"If you’re struggling with toddler tantrums and behaviors like hitting & not listening... I have a free guide for you! It’s called The Tantrum and Behavior Guide: 7 Toddler Struggles and How to Solve Them Fast—It's HERE!
Watch us Chat for the Podcast Interviews with YouTube Video HERE!
Episode Mentions:
3 Phrases That Calm Toddler Meltdowns Over Mistakes
What You Do in Your Child’s 'Big Emotional Moments' Changes Everything
Today's Episode:
Parents love celebrating first steps and words, but what about emotional milestones?
In this episode of Toddler Toolkit, we'll talk about key emotional milestones like empathy, self-calming, and remorse.
Join us as we share practical tips and real-life stories, including an embarrassing but insightful incident at Chick-fil-A, to help you recognize and celebrate your child's emotional growth.
Learn how to notice and name these important skills and how to support your toddler’s emotional development. Plus, hear about special announcements including upcoming conferences and our second anniversary celebration!
00:00 Introduction to Emotional Milestones
01:06 The Indoor Play Place Incident
04:35 Key Emotional Milestones
07:29 7 Notice and Name Scripts
09:40 Understanding Delayed Processing
11:21 Regret vs. Remorse
13:06 Supporting Emotional Growth
14:46 Announcements and Upcoming Events
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Heather has her M.Ed, and a proud Twin Mama of busy toddlers. She's the Toddler Toolkit Podcast Host, a co-author of the #1 International Best Selling Book, The Perfectly Imperfect Family & the founder of the Happy Toddler, Confident Parent Cohort and Course. You might've tried advice tailored for one child, but that's not our journey, right? With a decade of teaching experience under her belt, she's seen it all – from toddlers to teenagers in the classroom. Now, as a parent to toddlers, she's experiencing the flip side of the coin. She's discovered a toolbox to help parents with everything toddler times two!
Let's unlock the secrets to understanding toddler behavior, preventing meltdowns, and raising intuitive, resilient children.
3 Phrases That Calm Toddler Meltdowns Over Mistakes
"If you’re struggling with toddler tantrums and behaviors like hitting & not listening... I have a free guide for you! It’s called The Tantrum and Behavior Guide: 7 Toddler Struggles and How to Solve Them Fast—It's HERE!
In this episode, Heather shares personal stories and practical tips for parents to help their toddlers build resilience. Through reassurance and a growth mindset, toddlers can overcome frustration and perfectionism.
The episode includes specific scripts for parents to use, discusses common toddler struggles, and emphasizes the importance of validating emotions and encouraging retrying. Listeners will learn how early intervention can have a long-lasting positive impact on their child's development. The episode concludes with an invitation to explore further resources and celebrate the podcast's achievements over its two-year journey.
00:00 Welcome to the Podcast
00:02 Understanding Toddler Meltdowns
01:26 The Remote Truck Struggle
03:36 Teaching Moments from Accidents
06:28 Validating and Reassuring Your Child
09:29 Common Toddler Perfectionism Triggers
12:17 Building Resilience for Life
13:01 Exciting Announcements and Final Thoughts
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Heather has her M.Ed, and a proud Twin Mama of busy toddlers. She's the Toddler Toolkit Podcast Host, a co-author of the #1 International Best Selling Book, The Perfectly Imperfect Family & the founder of the Happy Toddler, Confident Parent Cohort and Course. You might've tried advice tailored for one child, but that's not our journey, right? With a decade of teaching experience under her belt, she's seen it all – from toddlers to teenagers in the classroom. Now, as a parent to toddlers, she's experiencing the flip side of the coin. She's discovered a toolbox to help parents with everything toddler times two!
Let's unlock the secrets to understanding toddler behavior, preventing meltdowns, and raising intuitive, resilient children.
Why School Drop-Off Can Get Hard & What to Do About Late Separation Anxiety
"If you’re struggling with toddler tantrums and behaviors like hitting & not listening... I have a free guide for you! It’s called The Tantrum and Behavior Guide: 7 Toddler Struggles and How to Solve Them Fast—It's HERE!
In this episode of the Toddler Toolkit podcast, we discuss why separation anxiety can show up later than expected and offer creative strategies to ease drop-offs. Sharing personal experiences and practical tips like Jobs of Connection, you'll learn how to help your toddler feel more secure and connected during their transition to preschool or kindergarten. Tune in for helpful insights and support for handling these common challenges.
00:00 Welcome to Toddler Toolkit Podcast
01:10 Understanding Delayed Separation Anxiety
01:42 Real-Life Examples of Separation Anxiety
02:50 Why Separation Anxiety Happens
05:13 Creative Solutions for Drop-Off Challenges
05:39 Jobs of Connection: Practical Tips
10:32 Conclusion and Additional Resources
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Heather has her M.Ed, and a proud Twin Mama of busy toddlers. She's the Toddler Toolkit Podcast Host, a co-author of the #1 International Best Selling Book, The Perfectly Imperfect Family & the founder of the Happy Toddler, Confident Parent Cohort and Course. You might've tried advice tailored for one child, but that's not our journey, right? With a decade of teaching experience under her belt, she's seen it all – from toddlers to teenagers in the classroom. Now, as a parent to toddlers, she's experiencing the flip side of the coin. She's discovered a toolbox to help parents with everything toddler times two!
Let's unlock the secrets to understanding toddler behavior, preventing meltdowns, and raising intuitive, resilient children.
Understanding Your Toddler's Tantrums: Find Your Parenting Style
"If you’re struggling with toddler tantrums and behaviors like hitting & not listening... I have a free guide for you! It’s called The Tantrum and Behavior Guide: 7 Toddler Struggles and How to Solve Them Fast—It's HERE!
This episode was referenced for you to also listen to:
What You Do in Your Child’s 'Big Emotional Moments' Changes Everything
Why Your Toddler Can’t Hear You in a Meltdown & What to Do Instead
Welcome to the Toddler Toolkit podcast! In this episode, we tackle toddler tantrums and the different styles parents use to handle them: the fixer, the shusher, the avoider, and the controller. We discuss why these behaviors happen, what might be missing in each approach, and introduce the balanced parent style for a healthier way to manage meltdowns. We'll also reflect on how our own upbringing influences our reactions and offer insights to help you become more intentional and self-aware in your parenting. Don't forget to grab the free guide 'Seven Toddler Struggles and How to Solve Them Fast' from the show notes.
00:00 Welcome to Toddler Toolkit Podcast
00:22 Understanding Tantrum Styles
04:02 The Fixer Tantrum Style
07:45 The Shusher Tantrum Style
13:01 The Avoider Tantrum Style
15:13 The Controller Tantrum Style
18:01 Becoming a Balanced Parent
22:26 Final Thoughts and Encouragement
"If you’re struggling with toddler tantrums and behaviors like hitting & not listening... I have a free guide for you! It’s called The Tantrum and Behavior Guide: 7 Toddler Struggles and How to Solve Them Fast—It's HERE!
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Heather has her M.Ed, and a proud Twin Mama of busy toddlers. She's the Toddler Toolkit Podcast Host, a co-author of the #1 International Best Selling Book, The Perfectly Imperfect Family & the founder of the Happy Toddler, Confident Parent Cohort and Course. You might've tried advice tailored for one child, but that's not our journey, right? With a decade of teaching experience under her belt, she's seen it all – from toddlers to teenagers in the classroom. Now, as a parent to toddlers, she's experiencing the flip side of the coin. She's discovered a toolbox to help parents with everything toddler times two!
Let's unlock the secrets to understanding toddler behavior, preventing meltdowns, and raising intuitive, resilient children.