Unbox Yourself with Samantha Fox®
Do you ever feel trapped by expectations, conditioning, or fears that keep you from embracing your true self? Unbox Yourself™ with Samantha Fox® is your weekly dose of real, raw conversations to help you break free from those limitations and step into a life of full authenticity.
Each episode features guests who are navigating their own journey of self-discovery—especially those who have come out later in life or are questioning their sexuality after believing they were straight or bisexual. From struggles with shame, people-pleasing, and religious conditioning, to breaking free from compulsory heterosexuality, this podcast opens up honest dialogues about what it takes to live authentically.
As you listen, you’ll not only find yourself feeling less alone in your struggles, but you’ll also gain the tools, compassion, and curiosity to start your own journey toward self-acceptance and alignment. You’ll hear stories that inspire and encourage you to take your next steps toward the life you truly deserve.
And if you’re someone who’s navigating these challenges, we want to hear your story too! Unbox Yourself isn’t just a podcast; it’s a conversation—and you can apply to be a guest. Come share your experiences with Samantha, get support, and leave with new tools, insights, and a sense of empowerment to continue your journey.
Tune in weekly, and let’s unbox ourselves together. Your story could inspire others—and you may just find that your struggles are the keys to your own freedom.
Looking for help Unboxing Yourself? Apply to be on the show at unboxyoursexuality.com
Unbox Yourself with Samantha Fox®
Do you ever feel trapped by expectations, conditioning, or fears that keep you from embracing your true self? Unbox Yourself™ with Samantha Fox® is your weekly dose of real, raw conversations to help you break free from those limitations and step into a life of full authenticity.
Each episode features guests who are navigating their own journey of self-discovery—especially those who have come out later in life or are questioning their sexuality after believing they were straight or bisexual. From struggles with shame, people-pleasing, and religious conditioning, to breaking free from compulsory heterosexuality, this podcast opens up honest dialogues about what it takes to live authentically.
As you listen, you’ll not only find yourself feeling less alone in your struggles, but you’ll also gain the tools, compassion, and curiosity to start your own journey toward self-acceptance and alignment. You’ll hear stories that inspire and encourage you to take your next steps toward the life you truly deserve.
And if you’re someone who’s navigating these challenges, we want to hear your story too! Unbox Yourself isn’t just a podcast; it’s a conversation—and you can apply to be a guest. Come share your experiences with Samantha, get support, and leave with new tools, insights, and a sense of empowerment to continue your journey.
Tune in weekly, and let’s unbox ourselves together. Your story could inspire others—and you may just find that your struggles are the keys to your own freedom.
Looking for help Unboxing Yourself? Apply to be on the show at unboxyoursexuality.com
Keywords
gender identity, gender transformation, self-perception, gender presentation, coming out later in life, leaving the church, later in life lesbian, deconstructing, self-acceptance
Summary:
In this episode Samantha and Buffy explore how transforming ones gender presentation can open up identities that have been repressed for years. Join in the conversation as Buffy shares her journey where one decision to cut her hair leads her down a path of discovering her authentic Self.
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Keywords
relationships, identity, personal growth, LGBTQ+ experiences, same-sex attraction, internalized misogyny, Gen X women, internalized homophobia, patriarchal conditioning, WLW attraction, bisexual, sex parties
Summary
In this conversation, MJ shares her personal journey of marriage, divorce, and early in life experimentation with same-sex encounters. Calling herself an oportunistic hedonist, she asks Samantha to help her unbox what it is that keeps her from being able to see that a woman could also be a life partner. fears of what her family members would all say about her, and her own discomfort with her body as she enters her 50's. Together this raw conversation uncovers the deep conditioning that comes from misogyny, comphet and homophobia, and people pleasing.
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Keywords
Purity culture, female sexuality, religious expectations, desire, sexuality, beauty, gender norms, deconstructing evangelical christianity, exvangelical
Summary
The conversation delves into the complexities of Christian purity culture and its impact on female sexuality. Alyssa shares her experiences of navigating religious expectations around beauty and desire, highlighting the contradictions faced by women in expressing their sexuality. The discussion reveals how these religious norms and constructs can suppress natural feelings of attraction and arousal for both men and women.
Takeaways
There's a pervasive belief that women's beauty is a temptation for men.
The church's narrative often blames women for men's lack of control.
Female desire is often misunderstood and stigmatized.
The pressure to conform to purity standards can be overwhelming.
Women that grow up under the church often face conflicting messages about their bodies.
The conversation highlights the need for open discussions about sexuality.
Keywords
lgbtq, late in life lesbians, LAT, relationship anarchy, personal growth, learning by doing, societal expectations, lesbian relationships, lesbian dating, healthy communication
Summary
In this conversation, Samantha Fox and Trish discuss the complexities of expectation, how its energy can be distancing and the idea that communicating wants and needs to those you are intimate, with whether that be family members or a partner, cultivates more vulnerablity and closeness.
Takeaways
We are often pressured by society to make one right choice in partners.
Choosing the right person is not always straightforward and its ok that relationships don't last forever
Relationships are about learning through experience.
You can't predict what someone will bring to a relationship until you're in it.
It often takes at least two years to truly know someone.
Emotional intelligence plays a key role in relationship choices.
The idea of 'the right choice' can be misleading.
Each relationship teaches us something new about ourselves.
Personal growth is a continuous journey in relationships.
Understanding a partner requires time and shared experiences.
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Keywords
lesbian matchmaking, queer dating, monogamy, LGBTQ+, dating apps for lesbians, love stories, personal growth, authenticity, lesbian dating, lesbian relationships
Summary
In this engaging conversation, Samantha Fox reconnects with Sophia Spallino, a luxury lesbian matchmaker, to discuss her journey of self-discovery, the challenges of dating in the LGBTQ+ community, and the unique services offered by the Queer Country Club. They explore themes of monogamy, the importance of self-work in relationships, and the elusive nature of attraction and love. Sophia shares her insights on helping women find meaningful connections while navigating the complexities of modern dating.
Takeaways
Sophia Spallino identifies as a late-in-life lesbian, coming out at 29.
She runs the Queer Country Club, a matchmaking service for monogamous women.
Sophia believes in the importance of values and lifestyle alignment in relationships.
The desire for love is a divine calling, according to Sophia.
Both women discuss the prevalence of polyamory in dating apps.
The need for self-work in order to have the chance at a successful relationship.
The spark in relationships is often elusive and requires nurturing.
The importance of reciprocity in relationships.
Both women express hope for finding love in the future.
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Are you tired of constantly spiraling in thought as to whether or not you are gay? Bi? And then wondering if any of it even matters?
If the answer is YES, then you are ready to Unbox Your Sexuality®
In a matter of weeks you will be able to connect your dots as you are guided through sequential lessons that will help you Unpack, Unlearn and Unleash whatever is most authentic to you.
You've got one life! What are you waiting for?
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Keywords
conditioning, authenticity, male gaze, internalized misogyny, women's value, aging, beauty standards, self-worth, empowerment, societal constructs
Summary
In this episode, Samantha Fox delves into the themes of conditioning, authenticity, and the societal constructs that shape women's perceptions of their value and beauty. She discusses the impact of the male gaze, internalized misogyny, and the pressures of aging and appearance. Through personal anecdotes and insights, Samantha encourages listeners to reclaim their power, challenge societal narratives, and engage in self-reflection to foster growth and self-acceptance.
Takeaways
Conditioning affects women's power and self-worth.
The male gaze influences how women perceive themselves.
Societal constructs strip women of their value beyond appearance.
Aging brings unique challenges to self-acceptance.
Women often compete based on physical attractiveness.
Self-worth should not be tied to societal beauty standards.
Reclaiming power involves questioning internalized beliefs.
Curiosity about self can lead to personal growth.
Value comes from what the body can do, not how it looks.
Engaging with supportive communities can aid in self-discovery.
Chapters
00:00 Exploring the Male Gaze and Its Impact
03:30 Conditioning and Internalized Misogyny
08:50 Aging, Youth, and Societal Expectations
13:42 Reclaiming Power and Value Beyond Appearance
21:22 Encouragement for Self-Reflection and Growth
22:23 Early Awareness of Family Dynamics
24:31 Understanding Gender Roles and Conditioning
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Keywords
compulsory heterosexuality, comphet, self-discovery, relationships, identity, LGBTQ, societal expectations, lesbian community, authenticity, personal growth, bisexual, late in life lesbian, late blooming lesbian, societal conditioning
Takeaways
Compulsory heterosexuality can shape one's identity and relationships.
Understanding early life experiences is crucial for self-discovery.
Navigating relationships often involves unlearning societal expectations.
Grieving past relationships is a necessary part of healing.
Finding community is essential for support and connection.
Self-care is vital for emotional well-being and growth.
Embracing authenticity can lead to a more fulfilling life.
It's important to unpack emotions and understand their origins.
Conditioning affects how we perceive relationships and ourselves.
It's never too late to explore one's identity and desires.
Summary
In this conversation, Samantha Fox and Jen Rosenstein, a member of The Bi Life community, delve into the complexities of identity, relationships, and the impact of societal expectations, particularly focusing on the concept of compulsory heterosexuality. Jen shares her personal journey of self-discovery, reflecting on her early life experiences, the challenges of navigating relationships, and the importance of finding community. They discuss the significance of grieving past relationships, unpacking emotions, and the journey towards authenticity and self-acceptance. The conversation emphasizes the need for self-care and the importance of embracing one's true identity, regardless of age or societal pressures.
Keywords:
LGBTQ, compulsory heterosexuality, self-discovery, relationships, coming out, authenticity, personal journey, comphet, societal conditioning, internalized misogyny
Summary:
In this episode of Unbox Yourself, Samantha Fox interviews Mandy, who shares her journey of self-discovery and acceptance as a member of the LGBTQ community. Mandy discusses her early experiences with attraction to women, her relationships with men, and the challenges of navigating her identity in a society that often promotes compulsory heterosexuality. She reflects on her marriage, the turning point that led her to embrace her true self, and her excitement about her engagement to the love of her life. Mandy also talks about her passion for writing and how her newfound authenticity has inspired her creative endeavors.
Takeaways:
Mandy reached out to Samantha after discovering the term 'comphet'.
She realized her attraction to women very early in life, during her teenage years.
Mandy's experiences in college helped her explore her sexuality, yet comphet won.
She felt validation through her interactions with women.
Mandy's marriage was a turning point in her self-discovery.
She found a supportive community in her pole dancing group.
Mandy's journey reflects the struggle with the brutal regime of compulsory heterosexuality.
She now feels more settled and authentic in her identity.
You can learn more about Mandy and her upcoming Sapphic Novel on TikTok and IG @mandyaspey
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Keywords:
coming out, sexuality, healing, relationships, LGBTQ+, self-discovery, support, community, personal growth, parenting, time to heal
Summary:
In this episode of Unbox Yourself, Samantha Fox discusses the complexities of coming out later in life, the healing process that follows, and the importance of taking time before making significant relationship decisions. She emphasizes that while healing takes time, individuals can find hope and transformation in their journeys. Samantha also highlights the significance of understanding oneself and one's partner before rushing into new relationships, especially after a divorce. The conversation touches on co-parenting and the emotional challenges that come with it, ultimately encouraging listeners to embrace their authentic selves and seek supportive communities. Takeaways:Keywords
sexual identity, bisexuality, lesbian, queer, self-discovery, relationships, sexual desire, community, LGBTQ, personal growth, same-sex desire, sexuality coach, questioning
Summary
In this conversation, Samantha Fox delves into the complexities of sexual identity, particularly focusing on the experiences of women questioning their sexuality. She discusses the societal pressures and rigid definitions surrounding labels like 'lesbian' and 'bisexual,' emphasizing the importance of personal exploration and self-acceptance. Through her work, she encourages individuals to connect with their true selves and find community support in their journeys of self-discovery.
Takeaways
Rigid definitions of sexuality can hinder self-discovery.
Many women feel pressured to conform to societal norms.
Exploring one's sexuality can be a brave journey.
Community support is vital for those questioning their identity.
Labels like 'lesbian' and 'bisexual' can be limiting.
Self-acceptance is key to understanding one's desires.
Experiences with partners can inform but not define identity.
Curiosity about one's sexuality is a healthy pursuit.
Finding pleasure and connection is a personal journey.
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Keywords
loss, friendship, sexuality, identity, relationships, self-acceptance, attraction, societal norms, personal growth, authenticity
Takeaways
Summary
In this episode of Unbox Yourself, Samantha Fox and her guest Charlotte explore themes of loss, identity, and the complexities of friendships across different sexual orientations. They discuss personal experiences, societal expectations, and the importance of open communication in building connections. The conversation highlights the journey of self-acceptance and the beauty of authentic relationships, celebrating the unique dynamics of their friendship as they navigate these themes together.
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queerphobia, internalized homophobia, religious conditioning, coming out, sexuality, sobriety, relationships, shame, self-acceptance, LGBTQ+
Summary
In this conversation, Samantha Fox and Heather Rosendahl explore the complexities of queerphobic conditioning, internalized homophobia, and the impact of religious upbringing on sexual identity. Heather shares her personal journey of coming out, navigating relationships, and the challenges of sobriety, while discussing the shame often associated with sexuality. The dialogue emphasizes the importance of self-acceptance and the healing process in reclaiming one's identity and pleasure.
Takeaways
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UNBOX YOUR QUEER PHOBIC CONDITIONING
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You can find Heather on TikTok and IG @handsomeheather
And via email HeatherRosendahlcoaching@gmail.com
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Ready to come chat with me on the show?
Drop me an email at Samantha@unboxyoursexuality.com
Keywords
sexual identity, self-discovery, bisexuality, relationships, trauma, health challenges, communication, community, authenticity, fluidity
Takeaways
Summary:
In this conversation, Samantha Fox and Cali explore the complexities of sexual identity, particularly in the context of coming out later in life. Cali shares her journey of self-discovery, navigating her feelings of attraction towards women while being married to a man. The discussion delves into the impact of health challenges on sexuality, the importance of communication in relationships, and the fear of rejection. Throughout the conversation, they emphasize the significance of finding community and support, embracing authenticity, and the gradual process of understanding one's identity.
Would you like to come on the show? Email Samantha
at Samantha@unboxyoursexuality.com today!
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Keywords:
evangelical christianity, religion, trauma, identity, purity culture, sexuality, coming out, LGBTQ, self-discovery, relationships, personal growth
Summary:
In this conversation, Emily Rich shares her journey of self-discovery, navigating the complexities of growing up in a conservative Christian environment. In this environment her emotional system created protective parts that worked to keep her from knowing herself and her truth by self-gaslighting. Emily's diligent work through her trauma and ability to over time soften these gaslighing parts helped her to ultimately embrace her true identity as a queer woman. She discusses the impact of purity culture, the challenges of coming out, and the importance of finding community. Through her experiences, Emily highlights the significance of self-acceptance and the ongoing journey of living authentically.
Takeaways:
To learn more about Emily find her on IG at https://www.instagram.com/emilyofftheclock/
Keywords
LGBTQ, internalized homophobia, pride, community, self-acceptance, family dynamics, visibility, authenticity, personal growth, conversations
Summary
In this episode of Unbox Yourself, Samantha Fox and Trish delve into Trish's transformative journey during her big gay solo adventure. They explore themes of internalized homophobia, the importance of community, and the challenges of visibility and vulnerability. Trish shares her experiences at a Pride event, her interactions with supportive individuals, and her reflections on family dynamics and acceptance. The conversation emphasizes the significance of embracing authenticity and the ongoing journey of self-acceptance, highlighting the healing power of community and open conversations.
Takeaways
Trish's journey involved confronting internalized homophobia. Community plays a crucial role in healing and acceptance. Visibility can be both empowering and vulnerable. Conversations about acceptance can strengthen family bonds. Embracing authenticity is a continuous process. Trish's experiences at Pride highlighted the importance of support. Navigating family dynamics requires open communication. Self-acceptance is a journey that takes time. Building community can foster connection and support. Healing often comes from sharing stories and experiences.
**Trish received approval to share the stories from each of the people she names in these two episodes.
Here is the link that Trish mentions in the Podcast about Angela Cooper https://www.huckmag.com/article/invisible-women-documentary-angela-cooper-luchia-fitzgerald
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