Hello explorers, and welcome to episode 68 of Unbroken. I’m Alexandra Amor.



I’m here today with a little announcement. As you possibly saw in the title of this episode, I’ve called it pausing and stepping into quiet. I’m feeling a really strong urge lately to do just that, to pause things, step into the silence, spend a lot of time in quiet.



We’re coming into summertime, here on the west coast of Vancouver Island, as I record this, and the days are getting longer and sunnier. And it’s not so much that I want to spend more time in the sun because I’m not really that type of person. But I do just want to spend time in quiet right now. And slow down a little bit and listen for wisdom, really.



This episode is a little announcement letting you know that that’s what’s happening. I will keep you posted on any future directions or things that go on. Hopefully I’ll be back in a few weeks or a couple of months or whatever it is however long it lasts. I really feel drawn to just listening to wisdom, listening to my intuition, that kind of thing and following those nudges. So that’s what’s pulling me at this moment.



For the next few weeks, I hope you are doing great, doing really well taking good care of yourself.



Please remember that we are all always unbroken.



Take care, bye.



Featured image photo by Jack Church on Unsplash

As we discuss so often on Unbroken, there is an intelligence and wisdom that, if we allow it to, can guide our lives to interesting and fulfilling places. As with most of us, it took Stephanie Benedetto some time to really listen to this wisdom and to trust that it would support her. When she did, she unlocked a life and a business that flow with ease, even in the challenging moments.




Stephanie Benedetto is a transformational business coach, storyteller and (Un)Marketer at The Awakened Business, where she helps transformative coaches, healers and entrepreneurs unleash their heart’s message to create soulmate clients with playful (Un)Marketing — no hustle, or hype of endless social media required.








You can find Stephanie Benedetto at TheAwakenedBusiness.com.



You can listen above, on your favorite podcast app, or watch on YouTube. Notes, links, resources and a full transcript are below.



Show Notes




* Business as a vehicle of creation



* Giving ourselves permission to create the lives we want



* Noticing what is alive within us that wants to guide us



* Following the nudge to make a big life change



* How we create our worlds based on Thought



* How the pressures we feel have nothing to do with what’s going on in our lives and everything to do with what’s going on in our heads



* How discomfort is created when our thoughts look real



* Paying attention to what we’re listening to



* How you being you is enough




Resources Mentioned in this Episode




* The Surrender Experiment by Michael Singer




Transcript of Interview with Stephanie Benedetto



Alexandra: Stephanie Benedetto, welcome to Unbroken.



Stephanie: Thank you for having me, Alexandra, this is a great pleasure.



Alexandra: I’m so pleased to have you here.



Tell us a little bit about your background and how you got interested in the Three Principles.



Stephanie: I have been a pretty much a lifelong entrepreneur. Definitely in my adult life. But as I reflected on my childhood, I used to play games like Office and sell at Mr. Dobbs candy shop. And I used to sell cards and things. I was actually interested in entrepreneurship, even when I was quite young. So I’ve had multiple businesses. 



The most notable and successful were we’re a business as a wedding DJ, with my now ex husband for 15 years. And then we transitioned into a digital marketing business, basically, internet marketing. So I used to create courses and a membership online, for other wedding professionals to teach them about business. I’ve been in love with business for a long time. 



But my first love is really people. And I love business as a vehicle of creation. It’s a way that people can create the change they’d love to see in the world, they can be of service. That’s what I see business as. And so over the years, I wanted to have deeper impact with people. And that drew me more and more into coaching. 



In my prior career, it looked more like consulting, marketing strategy.

We all have a built-in GPS, a guidance system that never lies and that always has our best interests at heart. We can call that guidance whatever we want – wisdom, intuition, insight, knowing; the name isn’t as important as learning to listen to it. And, as Bonnie Jarvis points out, figuring out how your guiding wisdom speaks to you makes life so much easier.




Bonnie Jarvis has a BA in Graphic Design, MS in Computer Science, MA in Spiritual Psychology and has completed several coaching programs. Using the skills she learned over the years, she’s helped many coaches with the technical details of building successful and thriving online businesses.



For 9 years, Bonnie worked for 3PGC, a non-profit organization with a mission to share the simplicity of The Three Principles as uncovered by Sydney Banks. She developed all areas needed for their online business to thrive and significantly expand the understanding globally.




You can find Bonnie Jarvis at BonnieJarvis.com.



You can listen above, on your favorite podcast app, or watch on YouTube. Notes, links, resources and a full transcript are below.



Show Notes




* On being a ‘secret seeker’



* Following the breadcrumbs of insight, interest, and synchronicities



* How the Three Principles explain what is before other philosophies and traditions



* Having the courage to leap into the unknown based on inner knowing



* The importance of coming back to the present moment



* Getting really familiar with how wisdom speaks to you




Resources Mentioned in this Episode




* 3PGC



* Raymond Moody’s book Life After Life



* Azul Leguizamon’s Unbroken podcast episode



* Bonnie and Azul’s monthly free webinar, What Has Wisdom Shown You Lately?



* Bonnie and Azul’s The Heart of Service program




Transcript of Interview with Bonnie Jarvis



Alexandra: Bonnie Jarvis, welcome to Unbroken.



Bonnie: Thank you so much. Thanks for inviting me, Alexandra, I really appreciate being here.



Alexandra: Oh, my pleasure. I’m so thrilled to talk to you one on one. We’ve been in events together. I think I was trying to recall when that was. I think it was a class with Cathy Casey. That was last year, I think. But anyway, so it’s lovely to talk to you one on one. 



Bonnie: I keep seeing your name around the community. So I’m glad that we’re getting this opportunity.



Alexandra: Me too.



Tell us about your background and how you discovered the Three Principles.



Bonnie: Well, like so many people who have come across the Three Principles, I was looking around for a very long time. I know people come to this understanding,

We all have one: an inner critic. That voice inside our heads that is critical of so much that we do. That voice can become debilitating, if we let it. But when we apply what we know about the Three Principles of innate health, we can teach that voice to take a back seat, where it belongs. And, on a positive note, hearing the inner critic can even become an ally in helping us to practice stepping into a better feeling.



You can listen above, on your favorite podcast app, or watch on YouTube. Notes, links, resources and a full transcript are below.



Show Notes




* A neurosurgeon’s explanation for the inner critic



* A reminder about the purpose an unwanted habit is serving



* How the feeling that comes with the inner critic alerts us to its falsehood



* On the possibility of having a different experience at any moment



* The beautiful feeling that’s always available to us



* How our thinking can be like the grooves in a record




Resources Mentioned in this Episode




* Mind Magic by Dr. James Doty




Transcript of episode



Hello explorers, and welcome to episode 65 of Unbroken. I’m Alexandra Amor. I’m here today to talk about the inner critic or that negative voice that can dog us all the time. And this is a subject, particularly close to my heart. I feel like it’s something that I’ve wrestled with for a long time and for a long time, couldn’t see it. 



Years ago, it was invisible to me, even though it was going on. And then gradually, I became more and more aware of it, but didn’t know what to do about it. And then I came into this understanding, and I put it off to the side. But it’s come up in my awareness lately. And I’ll tell you a bit more about that in just a moment.



I was reading a book recently about brain science, called I think it’s either called Mind Magic or Magic Mind by Dr. James Doty. And one of the things he mentioned in there was, how his approach to our inner critical voice or his understanding of it was really interesting. And it was about the evolutionary process that we’ve gone through, and how our brains are wired to look for danger.



Given the society that we live in now and how generally safe we are – I hope I can say that about you – that the part of our brain that’s looking out for danger, even looks out for it in our own behavior. So it’s able to be critical of us, or it believes it’s being critical of us, in order to serve a purpose in order to keep us safe. 



I probably haven’t explained that, as well as he did in the book. But it got me thinking about the negative voice, the inner critic, that so many of us hear, and maybe don’t hear, that’s maybe silent. I find it at times just kind of running behind whatever else is going on, in my mind, and I’ll talk about in a minute how that doesn’t actually matter if we can’t specifically hear what it’s saying. So that’s some of the good news. 



Let’s jump in and talk about this. The reason I wanted to bring it up was that, in the past, we’ve talked about how unwanted habits are working in our favor, even though it might not look like they are.

When it comes to our mental well-being and our physical health it can be so easy to look outspide ourselves for answers. Ellen Friedman takes a different approach; she guides her clients inward to connect with the innate wisdom and wellness that is already there.




Ellen Friedman guides people home to the sacred space within, where they shift their relationship with themselves, their health, and others. She partners with people who are curious to explore a simple path to wholeness through the inside out nature of life.



In addition to having a Master’s degree in Spiritual Psychology with an emphasis in Consciousness Health and Healing, Ellen has a Certificate in Soul-Centered Professional Coaching, and she shares the Three Principles understanding. Her journey has been blessed coaching nearly 1000 divine beings using a human experience to remember who they truly are.




You can find Ellen Friedman at HealingHouseCalls.com.



You can listen above, on your favorite podcast app, or watch on YouTube. Notes, links, resources and a full transcript are below.



Show Notes




* Seeing the whole person when it comes to healing



* Noticing how health improves when our nervous system is downregulated



* Ellen’s personal discoveries experiencing chronic fatigue



* How mental busyness affects our physical health



* How fatigue can be a signal that there is pressure on our mental system



* Are you the source of your energy?



* How our feelings are a barometer for what’s going on within us




Resources Mentioned in this Episode




* Mavis Karn’s book It’s That Simple



* Mavis Karn’s Unbroken podcast episode



* Azul Leguizamon’s Unbroken podcast episode




Transcript of Interview with Ellen Friedman



Alexandra: Ellen Friedman, welcome to Unbroken.



Ellen: I’m so happy to be here with you, Alexandra.



Alexandra: I’m so happy to have you here. 



Tell our audience a little bit about yourself and your background and how you got interested in the three principles.



Ellen: I’m always amused where that story begins every time. I was happily minding my own business, enjoying my career as a physical therapist, when the knock on the door to coach came in 2011. And I was like but I love what I do. I thought you had to be miserable to do something else. 



Then I started feeling miserable by not following that. I got in my car one day after seeing a patient and I was like, almost without logic, and I said, Okay, I heard you, I’m coming back. So I began coaching in 2011. 



Then, in 2013, in a coach training program, one of the instructors introduced a video on the inside out understanding of stress. At that time, it was a really old video. And I remember the feeling inside me, I can like, remember the chair I was sitting in. I remember the feeling. And then I also remember my personal mind going, Oh, but we’ve got techniques and tools and things to do with people.

We usually think of stress as coming from the circumstances that surround us: busy jobs, busy lives, difficult bosses or clients. But what if stress has another origin? What if it comes from the thinking we have in any given situation?




Clare Downham is the dedicated mentor you need on your unique journey to unlock your innate potential and cultivate a thriving business aligned with your true purpose. As a certified ILM Success Mentor, she specialises in guiding emerging and established female entrepreneurs to embrace their innate mindfulness and harness it as a powerful tool for success.



With a deep understanding of the inside-out nature of our human experience, Clare expertly navigates the complexities of the entrepreneurial journey, helping women to silence the inner critic, dissolve self-doubt and cultivate a strong sense of intuition and self-trust.




You can find Clare Downham at ClareDownham.com and on Insight Timer at claredownham.



You can listen above, on your favorite podcast app, or watch on YouTube. Notes, links, resources and a full transcript are below.



Show Notes




* On what happens when we ignore warning signs from our bodies



* The false messages business owners receive about having to be ‘on’ and ‘up’ all the time



* How motivation ebbs and flows naturally and there’s nothing wrong when we’re at a low ebb



* On the cyclical nature of levels of personal energy



* How some of our best ideas come during down or quiet times



* How we believe we need to be busy all the time and that resting is ‘lazy’



* How we so often try to be in a different feeling state than the one we’re naturally in



* On overwhelm and its one cause



* How being in the present moment starves stress of the oxygen it needs




Resources Mentioned in this Episode




* Insight Timer




Transcript of Interview with Clare Downham



Alexandra: Clare Downham, welcome to Unbroken.



Clare: Hello. Lovely to be here.



Alexandra: Oh, my pleasure. It’s lovely to see you. 



Why don’t you tell us a little bit about your background and how you got interested in the Three Principles.



Clare: I was a primary school head teacher. So our primary school in the UK is aged three to 11. I was in primary education for 20 years. And the last five or so I was a head teacher to two different schools. And I became very stressed, although I didn’t know I was stressed at all, I didn’t have a clue. 



I knew there were things wrong with me. But I thought those things were what was wrong with me rather than stress as the underlying cause. One day I went into work, fully intending to start my working day and I took one look at my computer. And it was like, it was like I was frozen. It was like, my body just finally went, “No, no more, let’s go, let’s leave.” 



I literally did walk out of work.



And I never went back in the end. Didn’t know I wasn’t going to go back. I thought it was going to have a nap,

Old-paradigm psychology can try to convince us that unwanted habits are caused by a need to feel loved or safe or cared for. It can feel like we’re using food, or other substances, to soothe or comfort ourselves. In this podcast episode we bust this myth and look toward the true origin of unwanted habits.



You can listen above, on your favorite podcast app, or watch on YouTube. Notes, links, resources and a full transcript are below.



Are you interested in connecting with others who are exploring this understanding? Would you like some coaching and ongoing support with an eye toward resolving an unwanted habit? Click the image below to learn about the Unbroken Community and join the waitlist.






Show Notes




* The five reasons an unwanted habit has nothing to do with replacing love



* Does it matter where our painful thoughts about food originate?



* On the fluidity of thought and how it can change, morph and disappear



* How the feeling connected to a thought is going to tell us if it’s the truth or a lie



* How it’s not on us to change, manage or control our thoughts



* How we are not in control of the timeline of when things change




Transcript of episode



Hello Explorers and welcome to episode 62 of Unbroken. I’m Alexandra Amor. I’m here today to talk about the really common myth that when we have an unwanted habit where we’re using that habit to replace love that we might feel that we are missing. 



So in other words, as it said on the title card for this episode, is food really love? Or is that a myth? I’m going to tell you why I think it’s a myth.



Before I say that, I should say that I think it makes sense that we came to that conclusion. And I know for me, I spent years and years trying to love myself in a way that would cause my unwanted overeating habit to disappear. And none of what I tried worked. I tried things like journaling, affirmations, radical self-compassion. What else was in that arena of loving ourselves? Cognitive behavioral therapy. I took a course I’ve talked about this before. And it was all about creating a loving feeling within ourselves. In order that our overeating habit would drop away. And none of that worked. 



I’m going to talk about that today and about what I see now, when we have the thought that we’re using a substance like food to try to replace love within ourselves.



Before we get into that, I want to quickly have a reminder here, that if you haven’t done so already, you can sign up for the waitlist for the Unbroken community.



The address for that is AlexandraAmor.com/community. And there’s lots of information there on that page. 



The community will be launching later this year in 2024. And we will be having some live coaching in the community, we’ll have an online group, we’ll have a couple calls a month live with me. And as I say, all the details are there on that page, AlexandraAmor.com/community. 

As a long-time coach, and before that an HR professional, Dominic Scaffidi points his clients back toward an awareness of their innate wisdom and ability to thrive effortlessly. He reminds us that we are always more than our human minds can grasp.




As a Master Certified Coach (MCC) credentialed with the International Coaching Federation (ICF) Dominic works with leaders, teams, entrepreneurs and individuals to achieve professional and personal aspirations. He points clients to a realization of who they really are as they focus on creating what they most desire in life.



Dominic is a Registered 3 Principles Practitioner who is grounded in the teaching of Sydney Banks.




You can find Dominic at DominicScaffidi.com and on Facebook.



You can listen above, on your favorite podcast app, or watch on YouTube. Notes, links, resources and a full transcript are below.



Show Notes




* On the overlap between the Law of Attraction and the Three Principles



* Being willing to sit in paradox and wait for clarity



* On the innate intelligence that flows through every living thing



* Our human ability to resist that intelligence with our thinking



* Manifesting: Allowing ourselves to perceive what already exists



* Following a good feeling toward what wants to be



* Your wisdom is always in a beautiful feeling



* How our feelings are always indicating what we’re thinking




Resources Mentioned in this Episode




* Michael Neill’s TedX Talk Why aren’t we awesomer?




Transcript of Interview with Dominic Scaffidi



Alexandra: Dominick Scaffidi, welcome to Unbroken.



Dominic: Thank you, thanks for the invitation. I’m really looking forward to our conversation.



Alexandra: Me too. I’ve never spoken to you one on one. So this will be fun. 



Tell us a little bit about your background and how you got interested in the Three Principles.



Dominic: I’ve been self-employed as a coach, executive coach, mostly. I deal with leaders and organizations like that. And I’ve been self-employed for about 15 years. Prior to that, tt was a corporate career that I had in very large organizations. The last corporate role that I held was a VP of HR position. And so that’s kind of a bit of that. 



My career has continually moved to more and more reflection of what I’m interested in, my passion. So that kind of relates to the Three Principles, in that my purpose in life, I say, is to awaken greatness. Maybe you could say it as to reveal greatness, to reveal what’s within us. And so that’s a link to what appealed to me about the Three Principles. 



Maybe seven or eight years ago, I came across the Principles and the teachings of Sydney banks, and they immediately resonated as this is true, this is pure truth. What he was pointing to, it was just obvious, it was obvious that this is just true. And so I became really interested in delving into that into that understanding, which is a deeper understanding of who I really am, my true nature and the nature of reality. 

So often we demonize our bad habits. But what if those habits are working to bring us messages about our perfect human design?



You can listen above, on your favorite podcast app, or watch on YouTube. Notes, links, resources and a full transcript are below.



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Show Notes




* Your unwanted habit is not a problem



* The good feeling our habits point us toward



* How we are designed to return to a state of calm and quiet



* How understanding the nature of thought resolves habits



* The gift of knowing where our experience is coming from




Transcript of Episode



When we have an unwanted habit like overeating it can feel like there’s something broken about us. Our culture tends to shame those with unwanted habits and it is widely assumed that there is something wrong with anyone who struggles with them. Judgments, including self-judgments, are made about a perceived lack of discipline or lack of self-care. 



But what if an unwanted habit like overeating was a sign of all that’s right with you, not with something that’s wrong?



What if your unwanted habit is a solution, not a problem?



For decades, we’ve been approaching unwanted habits as though they are the enemy. How’s that working for us? Not well, I’d say. We only have to look at the rising statistics about obesity or drug and alcohol addiction to see that this seems to be a battle we’re losing. Badly.



In this course, I’d like to explore turning our attitude toward unwanted habits on its head. It’s so easy to misunderstand what an unwanted habit is trying to tell us, so we’ll explore the messages habits are trying to send us and how our unwanted habits are actually a perfect part of our innate design.



If that sounds absurd or ridiculous, consider that until very recently we thought we had only five senses. Scientists now identify more than 20. Things look true until we are presented with an alternative.



I’m Alexandra Amor and I’m an author, a podcaster, and someone who’s searched for answers about my own unwanted overeating habit for the past three decades. Name a strategy for resolving a habit and I’ve tried it. Nothing worked.



Then in 2017 I discovered a field of spiritual psychology that had me doubting my perceived brokenness and instead awakening to the innate well-being that is within all of us. This change in understanding has me looking toward my wholeness, rather than perceived brokenness, and has helped me to resolve so much of what I had been suffering with for years. It has led me back to my natural state of calm resilience. No will power required.



If you are someone who has an unresolved and unwanted habit that’s what I want to share with you in this course.



Lesson 1: Your habit is not a problem



Hello and welcome,



Have you ever found yourself engaged in a behaviour while simultaneously berating yourself for that behaviour? I’m guessing you answered yes to that question because the truth is almost all humans have this experience at one time or another. This is an unwanted habit.




* Smoking



* Drinking too much

One Sunday afternoon in April a traveller and a podcaster meet and share a drive through the mountains of Vancouver Island. As a result, the podcaster is deeply moved by the message the traveller, and the universe, had for her.



You can listen above, on your favorite podcast app, or watch on YouTube. Notes, links, resources and a full transcript are below.



Show Notes




* Clarification about the traffic light metaphor



* Trusting a good feeling that comes with an unusual experience



* Following that good feeling



* Listening to nudges from the universe



* Listening to the feeling behind the words someone is sharing



* Learning to relax as a spiritual practice



* Noting the miracles and synchronicities that happen to us




Resources Mentioned in this Episode




* Michael Singer’s books are The Untethered Soul and The Surrender Experiment



* Dominic Scafidi and Grace Kelly’s Living Miraculously course




Transcript of Episode



Hello explorers and welcome to Unbroken. I’m Alexandra Amor. This is episode 59. Thank you for being here with me today.



I want to remind you that if you’re interested in joining the Unbroken Community, or at least getting on the waitlist there, you can do that at AlexandraAmor.com/community. That’s going to be an interactive twice monthly group call, lots of interaction with me, lots of support, lots of community, as the name implies, and connection with your fellow explorers. And all the details are on that webpage. As I said, AlexandraAmor.com/community.



Second thing. Last week in Episode 58, partway through, I talked about the red, yellow, green light of truth of tuning into or leaning into connecting with our intuition about moving forward, which is going to connect to today’s show, actually. My friend who listens to this episode pointed out to me, she said, “When you’re talking about the red, green, yellow light, are you seeing that visually?” which made me realize, Oh, I didn’t really explain that properly, then.



The light metaphor that I used, really just explains a feeling.



So when I say I would get a green light in my body, what I mean is, I feel it somewhere inside me. Now I specifically feel that feeling in my solar plexus, that’s the place where I always feel everything. You know how we talk about it, we have a gut feeling, I think that’s where that expression must come from. Because I always feel those things in the area of my solar plexus. Sort of behind my belly button. That part of my body.



When I feel green light feeling it’s there. I don’t see a green light or anything. Same with red, and then yellow. The yellow light’s kind of interesting, because it’s either it’s a little bit binary, you know, it’s a yes or no, very often. And I guess sometimes it feels like a well, you know, maybe maybe not, there’s a bit of hesitation there, it’s less, perhaps less dramatic than a full a no, full stop. So that maybe we could classify that as yellow light.



In your own experience, you might, if you give the traffic light metaphor a try,

Our bodies are the vehicles in which we move through life. Our thinking can be the fog that sometimes fills up the windshield we are looking through. Thankfully, we all have factory installed GPS to help guide our way.



You can listen above, on your favorite podcast app, or watch on YouTube. Notes, links, resources and a full transcript are below.



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Transcript of Episode



Hello, explorers, and welcome to episode 58 of Unbroken. I’m Alexandra Amor. I’m here today to talk about the windshield of life. I’ll get into that in just a moment. And it is really the one thing I think that when we see it about life, when we understand this idea, this metaphor, it really does change everything, including our ability to deal with things like anxiety, or depression, or unwanted habits like overeating. So we’ll get into that in just a second. 



I do want to mention again about the Unbroken Community that I’m starting up. So if you’re interested in joining a group of like minded people, having some one-on-one coaching from me, meeting regularly, twice a month to do that, and learning from the coaching that other people receive as well, go to alexandraamorcom/community. You can learn all about what I’m thinking of for this community. And learn more about the details, including the 10% off that you’ll receive for all my books and courses, and a library of videos that will be available, all that kind of stuff, Alexandraamor.com/community. And there, you can sign up to join the waiting list. 



The community hasn’t started yet, if you’re listening to this, as I’m recording in early April 2024. But I want to gauge the level of interest and just see if there’s enough interest in having a group like that. So that’s where you can go to learn more about that and sign up if you would like further information when the group comes together, and when it will be meeting and all that kind of stuff.



All right, let’s get on to this metaphor that I’ve got for you today about the windscreen of life.



This came to me the other day, and I jotted it down, probably more than a week ago. And I’ve been sort of contemplating it ever since. I really like it, I think it really explains a lot about what we’re trying to get our heads around when we’re exploring this inside out understanding. So it looks like this. 



Picture a car, for me, any kind of car doesn’t matter what kind of car it is, could be your car could be your fantasy car, whatever it is. And that car is going to be a metaphor for us for the way that we move through life. And in every car nowadays, anyway, there’s always a windscreen protecting the driver and the passengers, the interior of the car from what’s on the outside. And so like I said, yeah, the car is a metaphor for you for your body. It’s the vehicle that you are using to move through life. 



The windscreen is our ability to see.



It’s as clear as possible. We want it to be clean and clear so that we can see what’s happening outside of the vehicle, outside of the car. And then what happens?

Life has an unerring knack for presenting us with challenges and opportunities for change. Dr. Linda Pettit explores our innate intuitive nature and how we can use that to help us navigate the curves that life brings to us.






Dr. Linda Sandel Pettit is a distinguished author known for her insightful work, including her acclaimed memoir, Leaning into Cuves: Trusting the Wild, Intuitive Way of Love.



With over five decades dedicated to writing, four decades immersed in counseling psychology, and two decades serving as a spiritual mentor, Dr. Linda brings a wealth of experience and expertise to her practice as a speaker, writer and mentor.



Unafraid to delve into divine wisdom, deep feminine knowing, and intuition, Dr. Linda empowers her clients to tap into their innermost truths. Through her guidance, she inspires and facilitates the release of pure love, allowing individuals to express their authentic selves fully.



You can find Linda Pettit at LindaSandelPettit.com and on Instagram at lindasandelpettit.



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You can listen above, on your favorite podcast app, or watch on YouTube. Notes, links, resources and a full transcript are below.



Show Notes




* Discovering that anxiety is thought created 



* What if being calm and in a good feeling is how we’re meant to exist?



* The only thing that ever gets in the way of love is our thinking



* Using self-reporting instruments to gauge how clients were being helped by the Three Principles understanding



* How our intuitive knowing is a life raft for us



* How mystical experiences are the norm or all of us



* Examples of listening to intuitive knowing and letting it guide us



* Why waiting for the moving parts of life to align is important




Resources Mentioned in this Episode




* Linda’s book Leaning Into Curves



* Book: The Butterfly Effect by Andy Andrews




Transcript of Interview with Dr. Linda Pettit



Alexandra: Dr. Linda Sandel Pettit, welcome to Unbroken.



Linda: Thank you. Good to be here.



Alexandra: It’s lovely to have you here. So why don’t we begin with a bit of your background? 



Why don’t you tell us who you are and when you came across the Three Principles?



Linda: I have kind of an interesting background. I started out in journalism and public relations. And then I found my way into the helping professions. I was a counseling psychologist for 30 some, 35 years. And now I do speaking, and writing and mentoring. 



I came across the Three Principles about what was exactly 21 years ago. So when I met my husband, who many know in the Three Principles world, Dr. Bill Pettit, he’s a psychiatrist. And he had been mentored by Sydney Banks, the man who shared the principles originally. Or boy, even at that point, I think it had been close to 20 years. And so I got introduced through Bill. 

When we strive for perfection are we doing ourselves a favour or adding unwanted stress into our lives? When it comes to eating well and resolving an overeating habit, I think embracing the beautiful messiness of life is much more helpful.



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You can listen above, on your favorite podcast app, or watch on YouTube. Notes, links, resources and a full transcript are below.



Show Notes:




* The top 3 ways perfection is a mistake



* How needing to be perfect increases the amount of thinking we’re dealing with



* Why perfection is boring



* How important the messiness of life is



* On the unkindness of perfection




Transcript of Episode



Hello explorers and welcome to episode 56 of Unbroken. I’m Alexandra Amor. I’m here today to talk about perfection, and how it’s a mistake. 



Before I jump into that I wanted to mention, in case you didn’t hear me last week, that I’ve put together a page of information about a community I’m starting, called the Unbroken Community.



You can join a join up for the waitlist for that community at:



AlexandraAmor.com/community



I want to find out if there’s interest in this sort of thing. So there’s a whole bunch of information on that page that I just mentioned, about what the community will look like, when the group coaching calls that we’ll have, the pricing and all the other details about what’s involved, whether it’s a good fit for you, there’s information there about that, and whether it isn’t.



I think it’s always really important in these situations to make it clear what the offering is, and one of the ways to do that is to make it clear that this might not be a good fit for you. If so, you’ll see a little list of bullet points about that as well. So lots of information there.



Check it out: AlexandraAmor.com/community if you’re interested in connecting with me, connecting with others who are wanting to resolve unwanted habits, like overeating, but it could be any kind of unwanted habit as well. Because as I said last week, they all have the same root cause. So yeah, check that out.



All right, so now let’s talk about perfection. In the last few weeks, since I had my coaching call with Tanya Elfersy \that you can listen to on episode 53.



As I said, a couple of weeks ago, my eating habits have been way better. 



I’m so grateful for that. And I’m really happy because it feels like I turned a corner. I had had more insights, learned some more stuff as we do. It’s an ongoing journey. It’s never over is it really? I think as long as we’re alive, we’re going to be continuing to learn. 



Since then, since that corner that I turned, I’ve noticed some more some thinking and more thinking that I’m comfortable with about perfection about holding myself to a standard when it comes to eating that feels a l...

When was the last time you felt deeply heard? Nurse and Three Principles practitioner Wendy Williams shares the impact deep listening has on both the listener and those being listened to. We also discuss the priceless benefits that understanding every human’s innate resilience can have for nurses and other healers.




As a nurse educator and clinician for over 25 years, Wendy Williams helps people facing extraordinary (and ordinary) challenges to move forward with grace and ease. She is an experienced mental well-being educator.



As Wendy sees it (and teaches it), we are meant to thrive in this world, but sometimes we get stuck. Whether it’s being swept up in the whirlwind of everyday life or struggling to overcome a major life hurdle, getting back on track, and moving forward can, and will, happen quite naturally. Wendy’s deep experience mixed with her practical and kind-hearted teaching & education point the way forward.




You can find Wendy Williams at ForwardWithWendy.com and on Facebook at Find Your Way Forward.



You can listen above, on your favorite podcast app, or watch on YouTube. Notes, links, resources and a full transcript are below.



Show Notes




* Paying attention to work we’re naturally drawn to



* Recognizing an awareness of our innate well-being



* How in any circumstance in life we can react in any number of ways depending on our thinking



* On the universal intelligence that flows through everything, including us



* The benefits for healers like nurses of knowing about our innate resilience



* The difference between deep listening and active listening




Resources Mentioned in this Episode




* Wendy’s Deep Listening class with Lori Carpenos, April 5 to 7, 2024



* Sydney Banks’ book The Missing Link



* Beyond Recovery



* Jacqueline Hollows’ book Wings of an Angel




Transcript of Interview with Wendy Williams



Alexandra: Wendy Williams, welcome to Unbroken. 



Wendy: Thank you very much for having me. I’m excited to be here with you. 



Alexandra: Oh, I’m excited, you’re here as well. So let’s begin with a little bit of your background.



Tell us about yourself and how you got interested in the Three Principles.



Wendy: Sure thing. Well, I live in the northeastern part of the United States near Boston, Massachusetts, I have been a nurse for more years. I got married at the ancient age of 38 to a guy that I just adore, even as we speak, I adore him. 



I have been a nurse, like I say, for a very long time, specializing for years in conditions like HIV AIDS, cancer, hospice, so I’m a real pro at the bedside when people are saying goodbye. And, a lot of what I do happens to do with ongoing or chronic pain. 



I’m still practicing as a nurse in that regard. But I’m also having a real focus on bringing the Three Principles to a wider community in health c...

Last week, on episode 53 of Unbroken, Tania Elfersy coached me around my overeating habit and the return of that habit after months of having it resolved. This week I share the moments that had the most meaning for me and also expand on some of the highlights to offer greater clarity and understanding for those who are dealing with an unwanted habit like overeating.



You can listen above, on your favorite podcast app, or watch on YouTube. Notes, links, resources and a full transcript are below.



Show Notes




* How the words we use in this exploration are pointing to a feeling



* Why did I forget what I know about the drive to overeat?



* How wrestling with ‘problems’ makes them sticky



* How we can use even healthy food to quell the drive to overeat



* How our feelings are always an accurate barometer about our state of mind and/or connection to our well-being



* Why awareness is enough to change an unwanted habit




Resources Mentioned in this Episode




* Episode 53, It’s Not All On You with Coach Tania Elfersy



* Tania’s website



* My new course on Insight Timer is called How To Tell If A Group Has Cult-Like Tendencies



* Sydney Banks’ YouTube Channel



* Book: It’s Not About The Food



* Podcast: Psychology Has It Backwards with Christine Heath and Judith Sedgeman




Transcript of Episode



Hello explorers and welcome to episode 54 of Unbroken. I’m Alexandra Amor. I’m back with a follow up to last week’s episode 53 with Tania Elfersy where she coached me. So I’m going to go through, as I mentioned, and pull out the things that really stuck out for me, the highlights, and talk about what resonated with me, maybe provide some clarity if things weren’t clear.



Tania and I are quite good friends, we’ve known each other for over four years, we are in a mastermind group together. So I suspect that we were able to shorthand some things. So I just want to pull a couple of those things out, and make sure that it was clear to you the listening audience.



Before we begin, a couple of pieces of information I wanted to share.



One is that because of Tania’s coaching session with me, my eating is back on track, I’m eating in a way that really works for me that feels good. And that feels healthy. And it doesn’t feel disordered, for lack of a better word. I don’t feel that drive to overeat anymore. I just feel really good about the way I’m eating. So yay, that’s a victory.

You’ve heard me struggle for the past few months because I’ve had a relapse into my overeating habit. I finally wised up and called in my friend Tania Elfersy to coach me. In this episode, Tania shares so much wisdom and teaches me many things including that awareness of what is truth and what isn’t is so important and that once we’re aware our divine design will take things from there.






Tania Elfersy has a passion for revealing rarely discussed truths about women’s life-cycle events.



She is a transformative coach, speaker, writer and educator. Since 2015, Tania has been supporting women through perimenopause and menopause, allowing them to reach natural symptom relief, and a greater sense of well-being.



You can find Tania Elfersy at TheWiserWoman.com and on Facebook @TheWiserWoman.



You can listen above, on your favorite podcast app, or watch on YouTube. Notes, links, resources and a full transcript are below.



Show Notes




* The truth is always in clarity, never in a bad feeling



* What is an unwanted habit telling us about?



* What happens when we fall off the path of truth?



* The importance of being aware of our experience in the moment



* How wrestling with what we’re feeling makes it ‘sticky’



* How it’s not on us to fix how we feel – it will fix on it’s own once we’re aware of having fallen off the path of truth



* When we are calm solutions arise




Transcript of Interview with Coach Tania Elfersy



Alexandra: Thank you for being with me here today. I really appreciate it. And here’s the funny thing. I had a couple of insights in the last couple of days that have felt like they’ve been quite helpful.



I was listening to some Sydney Banks stuff while I was cooking the other night. And I guess it doesn’t really matter what was said, but he said,




“You are a divine being walking through this life trying to find yourself.”




I really resonated with that. It really encapsulated everything we do, and just shifted something for me. But let’s talk about the stuff that’s tricky. Because that’s where the juice is.



My main question is if you felt stuck, what do you do in that situation?



Tania: That’s why I often feel stuck. Because I’m such a human. I don’t fly on my little enlightenment cushion. And sometimes, it just occurs to me that the feeling is telling me what’s true. So I fall back into the feeling. And ponder on that.



I’ve checked this out now for about six, seven years. Because it’s not enough that I’ll tell you, the feeling is pointing to what’s true. And in that sense, as I’m sure you know, that is the feeling of clarity. And everything else is not true. So, again, I could tell you this, but until you’ve really experienced it. I’m still surprised when I get that. And I’ll give you an example, really, it’s not, I guess it’s not like a stuck example, but it’s an example of that.



I was trying to go to sleep, I’d almost fallen asleep or I just about falling asleep. And all of a sudden there was a huge bang. I mean, boom.

Insight creates change. This I know for sure. Not willpower. Not restriction. Not even information. Insight. But what happens when we get tired of waiting for insight? What if we want to change and just…aren’t? Can we cultivate insight? Is there a way to seek out insight without layering more thinking onto a situation?



You can listen above, on your favorite podcast app, or watch on YouTube. Notes, links, resources and a full transcript are below.



Show Notes




* Struggling with being in the back of the spiral for 5 months



* Looking for answers in universal intelligence in an active way



* Are spirit guides the same as universal intelligence?



* Is there a way to access guidance when we need it?



* Not wanting to share what I’m not embodying



* Is unresolved trauma causing what I’m experiencing?




Resources Mentioned in this Episode




* George Pransky’s new book The Secret to Mental Health



* Episode 22 of Unbroken with Maryse Godet Copans




Transcript of episode



Hello, explorers, and welcome to episode 52 of Unbroken. I’m Alexandra Amor. I’m happy to have you here today with me. Thank you for joining me.



I’ve got a couple of housekeeping items before we launch in here.



The first is – and probably no one cares about this but me – I’m going to change the numbering system of the podcasts. Again, I’m sure nobody cares. I used to number them like q&a Number five, and then regular number five for the interview episodes. But now that there’s just one episode per week going out, I’m just going to number them sequentially. I’m not going to break them out, like they were being broken out before. So if you’re wondering about that, and I’m sure you weren’t, there you go. Now you have an answer.



The second little bit of housekeeping I wanted to mention is:



George Pransky has a new book out, it’s called The Secret to Mental Health.



I haven’t read it yet. So this isn’t a review or anything. But I wanted to mention it in case you were interested in picking that up. George Pransky has been around this understanding for a very long time. He was one of the very first students who worked with Sidney banks. He and Roger Mills and Elsie Spittle were people right at the very beginning hearing from Mr. Banks, way before he started calling it the Three Principles. It wasn’t really called anything then.



He has specialized in relationships, he has a really good book called The Relationship Handbook.



That’s one of his earlier works. And so this one new one is called The Secret to Mental Health. I’ve downloaded the sample to my Kindle app on my iPad. So I’ll be starting in on that very soon. When I get finished with the mystery novel that I’m reading, that I’m really enjoying, that I couldn’t put down last night.



I just realized as I hit record, I haven’t figured out what the title of this episode is officially going to be when I put the little illustration up, and the blog post and everything.

Author, therapist and coach Lori Carpenos has seen that what affects our relationships the most is our state of mind. When the couples she works with see that ‘working on’ their relationship is not the answer to a loving relationship, that’s when everything changes.






Lori Carpenos opened a private individual, couples and family counseling practice, in 1994, to pass along something she had stumbled upon in 1985, when she was privileged to meet the late Sydney Banks. As a result, her life changed in ways she could never have imagined at that time.



She maintains a private practice in West Hartford, CT as a therapist, life coach, business consultant, facilitator, and writer.



You can find Lori Carpenos at 3PrinciplesTherapy.com.



You can listen above, on your favorite podcast app, or watch on YouTube. Notes, links, resources and a full transcript are below.



Show Notes




* Starting out as an art teacher



* Resonating with Sydney Banks’ exploration of innate mental health



* On recognizing that ‘working’ on a relationship only makes things harder



* How we all fall back into love when our minds are quiet



* Getting on the wrong bus with our thinking but knowing we can choose a different ride



* How we all always have all the love we need within us



* How arguments originate from our state of mind



* On being single and our relationship to thought about that



* How we are all in relationship with our thinking




Transcript of Interview with Lori Carpenos



Alexandra: Lori Carpenos, welcome to Unbroken.



Lori: Oh, thank you, Alexandra. It’s nice to be with you.



Alexandra: It’s great to have you here. I’m so happy to meet you.



Tell us a bit about your background and how you came to find the Three Principles.



Lori: Well, they actually found me. It was quite by happenstance. I’d never heard of Sydney Banks, never heard of the three principles. I was an art teacher in Massachusetts, and I got a master’s in expressive arts therapy. I had this idea I wanted to do art therapy. And the place for that was California.



So I was 25 years old, and I decided to quit my tenured art teacher job. Much to the dismay of my parents. They tried to stop me. But I felt called in retrospect, when I realized it was not to be an art therapist, because I’m driving across the country. Because California was known as the land of New Thought and new things. And art therapy was supposedly really big.



I get halfway across. And I’m listening to a program, NPR, where they’re talking about a bill that had just passed in California, eliminating art, music, all the extra curricular activities in hospitals, schools, and I couldn’t believe it. It was like I was hearing something that was not true. And I’m thinking well, I’m halfway there. I already quit my job. I don’t have a job back on the east coast. So what do I do?



I decided to keep going. I didn’t have a job. I knew one person in Northern California where I was headed to. No job, a cocktail waitress with my master’s degree my pocket...

In instances where our bodies and our innate wisdom are speaking to us, it can be tempting to see those messages as problems. But when we see them for the wisdom they carry and stay open to the messages these ‘problems’ have for us, we begin to see that they are always trying to help us on our paths as human beings.



You can listen above, on your favorite podcast app, or watch on YouTube. Notes, links, resources and a full transcript are below.



Show Notes




* When a good sleeper encounters a bout of insomnia



* Discovering insightfully that is people pleasing tendencies keeping me awake



* How insomnia does not mean that I’m broken or that my ability to sleep is broken



* How insomnia, like overeating, is feedback about our mental state



* What is insight and how does it arrive?



* On the universal intelligence that is always flowing through all of us




Transcript of episode



Hello explorers and welcome to Q&A episode 50 of Unbroken. I’m Alexandra Amor.



Before we get started today, I want to have a little mini celebration with you. Because this is q&a Episode 50. That means there are 100 episodes have Unbroken now. 50 episodes like this q&a one and 50 interview episodes. I’m pretty happy and proud of that milestone and I thank you for being with me here along for the ride, however long you’ve been joining me.



It’s a real pleasure for me to be here to do this every week, and to share what I see with the aim of helping others, of supporting and uplifting and sharing what has made such a big huge difference in my life. So here’s to another 100 episodes. I aim to be around for the next year as well.



February 14, 2024 will be the one year anniversary of the current website and the Freedom From Overeating course and Unbroken podcast. So we’ll celebrate that as well.



Today’s q&a episode is going to involve a bit of a story.



I’m also going to give you some background to give some context for what I’m about to share. And this story today has to do with insight, it has to do with our unbrokenness, which is really nice given that this is the 100th episode. So let’s get started.



I’ll begin by telling you that about towards the end of 2023, October or November, there came a situation. I should back up a little further. I’m on the board or I was on the board of a little nonprofit that exists here in the town where I live. It’s a nonprofit housing society, independent living for seniors in the Ucluelet area. I’ve been on the board for a couple of years. And there’s one paid position in this organization. And the building is just a small, like, it looks like an apartment building. It has 10 apartments, all for seniors.



And it’s independent living, like I said, so everybody is independent.



They really don’t need any kind of assistance with mental health or physical chores or that kind of thing. Some of them can get care workers to come in, but 80% 90% of them don’t. It’s like an apartment building. And there’s one paid position. And it’s an administrative position that is 15 hours a week in the building. The woman who had been doing it was of retirement age. And also, she had been with the organization for five years and had brought the people,

Nikon Gormley had achieved success as a top-level athlete, but he was still searching for answers. He wanted to feel calm during his taekwondo matches so he began looking in all the usual places. It wasn’t until he discovered the Three Principles that things began to click into place for him. Now he coaches others about the innate resilience and well-being that we all possess.




Nikon Gormley is passionate about guiding people to unleash their true, full potential so that they can experience greater levels of success, purpose, and well-being in their lives. He helps people understand and experience the beauty of how their minds work, harness the power of insight to navigate life with more clarity and ease and achieve more with less struggle, less anxiety, and less pressure.



Nikon is also passionate about Taekwondo. He have been practising Taekwondo for 25+ years and has a 5th Dan Black Belt. He has trained and competed around the world as an elite athlete.




You can find Nikon Gormley at NikonGormley.com and on YouTube @nikongormley.



You can listen above, on your favorite podcast app, or watch on YouTube. Notes, links, resources and a full transcript are below.



Show Notes




* Training as an Olympic taekwondo athlete



* Searching for ways to be a better athlete



* Growing a business at its own pace, rather than out of insecurity



* When the habit of being discontented stops being interesting



* How our feelings are always guiding us home



* How ‘nobody gets stupid when they’re peaceful’



* On the nature of worry and its origin in thought



* Choosing what we pay attention to



* How ambition can be insecurity in disguise




Resources Mentioned in this Episode




* Michael Neill’s book The Inside Out Revolution



* Mavis Karn’s book It’s That Simple



* Listen to my interview with Mavis




Transcript of Interview with Nikon Gormley



Alexandra: Nikon Gormley, welcome to Unbroken.



Nikon: Thank you for having me, Alexandra. It’s pleasure to be here.



Alexandra: It’s so nice to have you here.



Tell us a little bit about your background and how you discovered the Three Principles.



Nikon: My background started as a taekwondo athlete, as a young boy, as a martial art taken as a Korean martial art. And being called the athlete side of it, right, there’s a martial art side of it. And there’s an athlete side of it, because it was the Olympic sport in Thailand, it’s just very popular, we have it in our national Olympics, or we can get University scholarship scholarships for it.



I started when I was 12. And I played for about 20 years. And being in a sport, you develop this thing where you just want to be better, you get obsessed with yourself not being good enough, and you get obsessed with wanting to be better. And apart from doing everything I physically could to be better and training, I knew I had to work on my mind.