A husband asked: “I know my wife needs therapy, but when I bring it up it hurts her. I feel stuck and I have to watch her suffer.” In this episode, Rabbi Eisenberger explains a common pattern: when we feel hurt, angry, or unsafe, we sometimes jump to labels and diagnoses instead of working on the relationship. This is not medical advice and not a diagnosis. If someone has a real mental or physical concern, they should speak to a licensed professional. What you will learn: • Why “diagnosing” your spouse often makes things worse • The healthiest first move: work on yourself • How to see her goodness and her perspective • How to listen, feel with her, and stop running away • How caring more can rebuild love and calm the home Submit a question for a future episode, and subscribe for weekly marriage guidance.

Chanukah is not just about lighting candles. It is about learning how blessing flows into a home. In this episode, we learn a powerful idea from the Kedushas Levi on Chanukah, based on the Gemara that says all prophets prophesied with “thus,” while Moshe prophesied with “this.” We explore the two ways blessing comes into the world: one through our actions, and one through pure Divine kindness. This episode connects deep Torah ideas to marriage and family life, showing how a husband creates joy, warmth, and blessing in his home by how he treats his wife and those around him. If you want Chanukah to bring real light into your marriage and your family, this episode will change how you see it.

Chanukah is not just about lighting candles. It is about learning how blessing flows into a home. In this episode, we learn a powerful idea from the Kedushas Levi on Chanukah, based on the Gemara that says all prophets prophesied with “thus,” while Moshe prophesied with “this.” We explore the two ways blessing comes into the world: one through our actions, and one through pure Divine kindness. This episode connects deep Torah ideas to marriage and family life, showing how a husband creates joy, warmth, and blessing in his home by how he treats his wife and those around him. If you want Chanukah to bring real light into your marriage and your family, this episode will change how you see it.

This episode covers practical halachos exactly as written in Shulchan Aruch: ✔ What happens if the menorah goes out early ✔ Do you have to relight on Friday afternoon before Shabbos ✔ What if you accidentally put it out while adjusting it ✔ When clay containers become unusable, and when metal is fine ✔ Why wicks do not need to be replaced every night ✔ Lighting one Chanukah light from another ✔ Why many do not light even from candle to candle ✔ When the candles become permitted for benefit ✔ Using one mitzvah candle to light another (Shabbos candles, synagogue lights, lights for a sick person, etc.) This shiur is based on Shulchan Aruch: תרע״ג 2–4 and תרע״ד 1–2.

In this halacha shiur, Rabbi Eisenberger learns the entire foundation of Ner Chanukah directly from Shulchan Aruch תרע״ג סעיף א. This single סעיף teaches all the practical halachos we need at home: • Which oils and wicks are kosher for Ner Chanukah • Olive oil vs. wax candles, What is מצוה מן המובחר? • Can you use the menorah light? The halacha of אסור להשתמש לאורה • When does a shamash help, and when does it not? • The minhag to add an extra candle to avoid using the light A clear and very practical shiur straight from the Mechaber and Rema, helping us fulfill the mitzvah of Ner Chanukah correctly.

This episode is in Yiddish. Hilchos / Hashkafah for Marriage – Parshas Vayishlach, “Katonti” In this episode, we learn how Yaakov Avinu’s tefillah “קָטֹנְתִּי מִכָּל הַחֲסָדִים” becomes a full roadmap for your marriage. We go through: - Ramban, Yaakov knows he doesn’t “deserve” anything; everything is pure chesed. - Zohar, why real tefillah has to be spoken out in detail, not just “Hashem knows.” - Degel Machane Ephraim, when the Shechinah spreads Her wings “אם על בנים,” nothing bad can touch you and “bishvili nivra ha’olam”. - Midrash on the story of Rabbi Levi bar Sisi, who forgot his Torah when they put him on a high platform. Then we bring it all straight into marriage: • How to stop feeling “I deserve” and start seeing your wife as a gift. • How to ask from Hashem and from your wife, without score-keeping or pressure. • Why clear, detailed communication prevents fights and builds trust. • How to be the “only one” responsible in your home without ego, with deep humility. Listen and learn how counting your blessings, speaking clearly, and staying humble can bring the Shechinah into your home and turn your marriage into the place you and your children love to be most.

This episode is in English. Hilchos / Hashkafah for Marriage – Parshas Vayishlach, “Katonti” In this episode, we learn how Yaakov Avinu’s tefillah “קָטֹנְתִּי מִכָּל הַחֲסָדִים” becomes a full roadmap for your marriage. We go through: - Ramban, Yaakov knows he doesn’t “deserve” anything; everything is pure chesed. - Zohar, why real tefillah has to be spoken out in detail, not just “Hashem knows.” - Degel Machane Ephraim, when the Shechinah spreads Her wings “אם על בנים,” nothing bad can touch you and “bishvili nivra ha’olam”. - Midrash on the story of Rabbi Levi bar Sisi, who forgot his Torah when they put him on a high platform. Then we bring it all straight into marriage: • How to stop feeling “I deserve” and start seeing your wife as a gift. • How to ask from Hashem and from your wife, without score-keeping or pressure. • Why clear, detailed communication prevents fights and builds trust. • How to be the “only one” responsible in your home without ego, with deep humility. Listen and learn how counting your blessings, speaking clearly, and staying humble can bring the Shechinah into your home and turn your marriage into the place you and your children love to be most.

Reminder: We begin saying ותן טל ומטר Thursday evening, the night going into Friday, after nightfall. Includes quick halacha on what to do if someone forgets to say it.

In this Q&A I address a question many husbands struggle with but are often afraid to ask. Am I obligated to let my wife look at my phone? What does real trust look like in a marriage? And when is it normal to want privacy for the right reasons, not because you’re hiding something? I explain how openness creates safety between husband and wife, why a marriage works best when neither side feels the need to check the other, and the difference between healthy transparency and unnecessary pressure. If your situation is more complex, or there’s a specific reason you don’t want your wife to look at your phone, you can send it in and I’ll guide you with clarity. With Hashem’s help, every home can have peace, trust, and a deep connection.

Hilchos Chanukah, Siman תרע״א סעיף ח׳ וסימן תרע״ב Today we cover two essential halachos: 1. Two openings in a courtyard or home, Do you need to light at both? 2. Exact time to light, and what to do if you’re late. 3. How long the candles must burn. This shiur explains the Shulchan Aruch, Rema, Magan Avraham, Pri Megadim, and today’s minhag. Clear, practical, for every home preparing for Chanukah.

This episode is in Yiddish. When Yaakov left home and faced darkness, fear, and uncertainty, he taught us how to survive every kind of hardship. This episode shows how his journey, the ladder, the angels, the exile, the trust, becomes a roadmap for your marriage. How do you stay strong when marriage feels dark, confusing, or painful? In this episode, Rabbi Eisenberger brings powerful chizuk from Parshas Vayeitzei, Zera Kodesh, and the Yesomach Yisroel, showing how Yaakov Avinu taught us exactly how to move through hardship with strength, trust, and joy. You’ll learn: • How to stay calm and connected during conflict • How to strengthen trust when your “night” feels dark • How Yaakov taught us to pray for Hashem, not only for ourselves • Why trusting Hashem brings miracles • How humility lifts your marriage instead of lowering you • Why praying for Hashem’s happiness brings you personal salvation • Why humble confidence protects your marriage • Why real rescue comes from Hashem, not from your wife • How to turn hardships into the deepest joy in marriage • Why Hashem pairs every couple, and how to “sing” instead of struggle • How Hashem sends you strength even when you feel empty • Why your neshama came from the Kisei HaKavod and how that empowers you • The Medrash of the Roman noblewoman and the meaning of zivug from Shamayim If you’re going through a rough patch, this episode will calm your heart and give you clarity.

This episode is in English. When Yaakov left home and faced darkness, fear, and uncertainty, he taught us how to survive every kind of hardship. This episode shows how his journey, the ladder, the angels, the exile, the trust, becomes a roadmap for your marriage. How do you stay strong when marriage feels dark, confusing, or painful? In this episode, Rabbi Eisenberger brings powerful chizuk from Parshas Vayeitzei, Zera Kodesh, and the Yesomach Yisroel, showing how Yaakov Avinu taught us exactly how to move through hardship with strength, trust, and joy. You’ll learn: • How to stay calm and connected during conflict • How to strengthen trust when your “night” feels dark • How Yaakov taught us to pray for Hashem, not only for ourselves • Why trusting Hashem brings miracles • How humility lifts your marriage instead of lowering you • Why praying for Hashem’s happiness brings you personal salvation • Why humble confidence protects your marriage • Why real rescue comes from Hashem, not from your wife • How to turn hardships into the deepest joy in marriage • Why Hashem pairs every couple, and how to “sing” instead of struggle • How Hashem sends you strength even when you feel empty • Why your neshama came from the Kisei HaKavod and how that empowers you • The Medrash of the Roman noblewoman and the meaning of zivug from Shamayim If you’re going through a rough patch, this episode will calm your heart and give you clarity.

In this episode, we learn how the Torah teaches us to serve Hashem not only in davening and mitzvos, but also inside regular daily life, eating, working, talking, scheduling, building a home, and especially in the relationship with your wife. Based on: • בת עין (תולדות) • בעש״ט על התורה אות ד • קדושת לוי • מדרש רבה ס״ג We discuss: • “ואלה תולדות יצחק בן אברהם אברהם הוליד את יצחק”, How the Torah teaches two layers of life. • Yaakov holding the עַקֵּב, bringing חכמה even into the physical side of life. • When you live with awareness, Hashem sends blessing without effort (“מלאכתו נעשית ע”י אחרים”). • יצחק מתפלל בזכות רבקה, how to see your wife as your source of blessing, not as “your opposite.” This shiur will show you how to create a marriage where the day-to-day moments themselves become holy and joyful.

In this episode, we learn how the Torah teaches us to serve Hashem not only in davening and mitzvos, but also inside regular daily life, eating, working, talking, scheduling, building a home, and especially in the relationship with your wife. Based on: • בת עין (תולדות) • בעש״ט על התורה אות ד • קדושת לוי • מדרש רבה ס״ג We discuss: • “ואלה תולדות יצחק בן אברהם אברהם הוליד את יצחק”, How the Torah teaches two layers of life. • Yaakov holding the עַקֵּב, bringing חכמה even into the physical side of life. • When you live with awareness, Hashem sends blessing without effort (“מלאכתו נעשית ע”י אחרים”). • יצחק מתפלל בזכות רבקה, how to see your wife as your source of blessing, not as “your opposite.” This shiur will show you how to create a marriage where the day-to-day moments themselves become holy and joyful.

This shiur covers the halachos of Rosh Chodesh from Shulchan Aruch Orach Chaim Simanim ת״כ – תכ״ב, including: • When women may or may not lament (קינה) • Saying צדוק הדין and קדיש • The minhag of saying "ובראשי חדשיכם" in פסוקי דזמרה • The laws of יעלה ויבא in Shemoneh Esrei, when one must repeat • How and when to say Hallel on Rosh Chodesh • Minhag differences between יחיד and ציבור • When interruptions are permitted during Hallel • Standing for Hallel Everything is explained clearly and simply, according to the Shulchan Aruch, Rema, and primary Acharonim.

This episode is in English. In this episode, we explore how the deepest blessings in marriage come when we show up without keeping score, without measuring, without “I did, now you do.” Avraham received blessing bakol — blessing without limits and the same becomes possible in our home when we give from a place of warmth, gratitude, and trust in Hashem. In this episode you’ll learn: • The difference between blessings that are measured vs. blessings that are endless • Why a marriage cannot run on “give and take” accounting • How to awaken love and softness toward your wife • How gratitude transforms the atmosphere in your home • How to recognize your wife as Hashem’s personal gift for your growth and joy

This episode is in Yiddish. In this episode, we explore how the deepest blessings in marriage come when we show up without keeping score, without measuring, without “I did, now you do.” Avraham received blessing bakol — blessing without limits and the same becomes possible in our home when we give from a place of warmth, gratitude, and trust in Hashem. In this episode you’ll learn: • The difference between blessings that are measured vs. blessings that are endless • Why a marriage cannot run on “give and take” accounting • How to awaken love and softness toward your wife • How gratitude transforms the atmosphere in your home • How to recognize your wife as Hashem’s personal gift for your growth and joy

In this shiur, we learn the halachos of which breads require HaMotzi and Birchas HaMazon, based on Shulchan Aruch Orach Chaim Siman קס״ח סעיפים א–יז, with Rema and the main Acharonim. Topics covered: • When we prefer whole bread over pieces • When wheat bread takes precedence over barley, and when barley (מין שבעה) is first • If the whole loaf is small and the piece is large • Different types of dough and how cooking, baking, or frying changes the bracha • The halacha of פת הבאה בכיסנין • When מזונות becomes המוציא because one is קובע סעודה • What counts as תואר לחם • Pas Yisrael vs. Pas Akum when both are on the table • Halacha for rolls, crackers, pastry, knaidlach, lukshon, etc. Everything is explained step-by-step, clean and practical.

Language: English In Parshas Vayeira, Avraham Avinu teaches us what real greatness looks like in marriage. Not speeches. Not knowledge. Not inspiration. Action. Presence. Warmth. Generosity. When Avraham was weak, exhausted, and recovering from surgery, he still welcomed and cared for his guests with energy and joy. Where did that strength come from? From gratitude, from recognizing the endless chesed Hashem does for us every moment. This week’s episode shows: • How to bring warmth and kindness back into your home • Why your wife must feel seen, valued, and important in your eyes • How to communicate clearly and avoid resentment • How patience and presence rebuild trust • Why your wife is included in “yourself” and how that changes everything This is where real marriage growth happens.

שפּראַך: אידיש In Parshas Vayeira, Avraham Avinu teaches us what real greatness looks like in marriage. Not speeches. Not knowledge. Not inspiration. Action. Presence. Warmth. Generosity. When Avraham was weak, exhausted, and recovering from surgery, he still welcomed and cared for his guests with energy and joy. Where did that strength come from? From gratitude, from recognizing the endless chesed Hashem does for us every moment. This week’s episode shows: • How to bring warmth and kindness back into your home • Why your wife must feel seen, valued, and important in your eyes • How to communicate clearly and avoid resentment • How patience and presence rebuild trust • Why your wife is included in “yourself” and how that changes everything This is where real marriage growth happens.