Summary:

The episode "The Quiet Yearning: Helping Men Heal, Grow, and Come Home to Themselves" features a deep conversation between Tonya Harris Cornileus, Ph.D., and Sean Harvey, Founder of the Warrior Compassion Institute and a leading voice on men, masculinity, and extremism.

The episode explores the challenges and transformations men face in today's society, focusing on the need for deeper connections, authenticity, and personal growth. Sean Harvey shares his journey from high-pressure environments to founding the Warrior Compassion Institute, emphasizing the importance of creating spaces for men to express vulnerability and engage in meaningful dialogue.

Keywords:

men's healing, masculinity, personal growth, Warrior Compassion Institute, vulnerability, societal pressures, Sean Harvey, Tonya Harris Cornileus

Takeaways

• Men yearn for deeper connections and authenticity.
• Vulnerability is a strength, not a weakness.
• Creating safe spaces for men to express themselves is crucial.
• Societal pressures often hinder men's personal growth.
• Sean Harvey's journey highlights the importance of compassion in leadership.
• The Warrior Compassion Institute focuses on healing and growth for men.
• Men's circles provide a supportive environment for personal exploration.
• Understanding 'dude psychology' is key to engaging men effectively.
• Personal growth should be integrated into professional development.
• Men are not broken; systems are often the issue.
• Systems are broken and broken systems wound men (people).

Sound bites:

"Men yearn for deeper connections." "Vulnerability is a strength." "Safe spaces are crucial for men." "Societal pressures hinder growth." "Compassion in leadership matters." "Men's circles support exploration." "Dude psychology is key." "Growth in professional development." "Men are not broken." "Healing men heals society."

Chapters:

• 00:00:00 Introduction and Guest Welcome
• 00:03:00 Sean Harvey's Journey
• 00:09:00 The Importance of Vulnerability
• 00:15:00 Creating Safe Spaces for Men
• 00:21:00 Understanding Societal Pressures
• 00:27:00 Warrior Compassion Institute
• 00:33:00 Men's Circles and Support
• 00:39:00 Integrating Personal Growth
• 00:45:00 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

To learn more about Sean Harvey and the work he's doing to support men, go to www.warriorcompassion.com, get his book, Warrior Compassion: Unleashing the Healing Power of Men (you can find it on Amazon or ask for it at your indie bookstore), and follow him on his new substack: Dude Psychology.

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XOXO,

Tonya

Summary

In this episode of 'Your Aha Life,' Dr. Tonya Cornileus hosts Dr. Cheryl Jordan to discuss navigating life and career transitions with resilience and authenticity. Dr. Jordan is the founder of U.magine Performance Consulting and an international bestselling author of "Hang on Tight, Pray," a memoir about her experience as a caregiver to her mom, who experienced a severe stroke. After her mother's passing in 2018, Cheryl published her book as a balm for herself and other caregivers. Cheryl says she wrote the book as a "testimony of what anyone can experience when faced with trauma. The book portrays an alchemy for finding moments to learn to breathe again.

In this episode, Tonya and Cheryl explore the role of emotions as a form of intelligence, the impact of fear, and the importance of embracing change with awareness and authenticity. You'll hear how Cheryl chose, when given the opportunity, to leave her corporate job and start her own successful executive coaching and performance consulting firm. Walking into the unknown, Cheryl talks about an inner knowing, listening from within, aligning with her values, and moving forward even in the face of uncertainty and fear. She is an inspiration to anyone navigating life and career transitions.

You can learn more about Dr. Jordan and U.magine Performance Consulting at www.umagineperformance.com or you can find her on Instagram @drcherylwrites

Keywords:

life transitions, career transitions, resilience, authenticity, emotions, fear, personal growth

Takeaways:

• Emotions are a form of intelligence.
• Fear is a common emotion that can lead to dysfunction.
• Embracing change requires awareness and authenticity.
• Understanding emotions aids in personal growth.
• Building emotional awareness is crucial for decision-making.
• Resilience is key in navigating life transitions.
• Authenticity helps align personal and professional life.
• Community support is vital during transitions.
• Vulnerability can lead to personal and professional growth.
• Embracing one's path leads to opportunities.

Thank you for listening to this podcast. If you enjoy the episodes, please follow, leave a review, and share with others. This is the way the podcast will get noticed and heard by others.

Also, great things are coming for Your Aha! Life. If you've been a casual follower or if you're new to Your Aha! Life, please head over to https://yourahalife.com and sign up to receive your gift, the Your Aha! Life monthly newsletter and so much more. Then stay tuned for the big relaunch in early 2026. I want you to be a part of all that's coming.

XO,

Tonya

Yay! Two reasons to celebrate this podcast episode: 1. Video is available; and 2. I'm speaking with my guest, Jenn Andreou, PCC, and Grief Recovery Method Specialist. If you've been with me for a while, you're aware that it's been a while since I've had video or guests. I'm excited to bring this episode to you and hope you'll listen on your favorite podcast platforms and watch the video on Spotify and/or YouTube.

This is such a great episode because it teaches us that grief is normal and provides practical tools and actions we can take as we navigate the grief journey. Here's more of what this episode is about:

Summary:

In this heartfelt episode of "Your Aha Life," host Tonya Cornileus welcomes Jenn Andreou, a grief recovery method specialist and founder of Springboard Coaching. Together, they explore the profound journey of grief, sharing personal stories and insights into how loss shapes our lives. Jenn opens up about her own experiences with grief and the transformative power of healing. Tune in to discover how acknowledging and processing grief can lead to a more joyful and fulfilling life. Don't miss this enlightening conversation that normalizes grief and offers hope for recovery. #GriefRecovery #HealingJourney #YourAhaLife

How to connect with Jenn Andreou and learn more about her work as an Actualized Living Coach and a Grief Recovery Method Specialist - https://springboardcoaching.org and jenn@springboardcoaching.org

Join the Your Aha! Life Community by signing up at: https://yourahalife.com

Keywords:

grief, healing, recovery, emotional support, grief recovery method

Takeaways:

• ​Grief is a normal and natural reaction to any kind of loss, not just death or divorce.
• ​Grief is emotional, not intellectual, and requires feeling your way through it rather than thinking your way through it.
• ​Society often perpetuates myths about grief, such as "time heals all wounds," which can hinder emotional healing.
• ​Support during grief involves listening with empathy and without judgment, often described as being a "heart with ears."
• ​Establishing personal boundaries and self-care practices can help maintain well-being during the grieving process.
• ​Healing is possible, and community support can play a vital role in the recovery process.

Soundbites

• ​Grief is more than just death.
• ​Healing is possible; you're not alone.
• ​Grief is emotional, not intellectual.
• ​Support others by being a heart with ears.
• ​Create a safe space for emotions.

Chapters

• ​00:00:00 Introduction
• ​00:01:30 Jenn's Background
• ​00:05:00 Defining Grief
• ​00:10:00 Personal Stories
• ​00:15:00 Grief Myths
• ​00:20:00 Supporting Others
• ​00:25:00 Self-Support
• ​00:30:00 Moving Forward
• ​00:35:00 Aha Moments
• ​00:40:00 Conclusion

Thank you for listening and watching this episode. Please follow for more, leave a comment or rating, and share with your friends.

XO

Tonya

**Intro/Outro music composed by Kayla McGuinn, a film music composer, University of Georgia, Class of 2025

In this episode of "Your Aha Life," host Tonya Harris Cornileus, Ph.D., shares insights from her latest blog article, "Slow Living for Self-Renewal: Cultivating Resilience from the Inside Out." Tonya explores the power of slow living and self-renewal to build lasting resilience, offering simple practices for a more joyful, grounded, and fulfilling life. She emphasizes the importance of mindfulness, stillness, nourishment, connection, and gentle movement as deliberate acts of resilience in today's fast-paced world. Tune in to discover how these practices can help you thrive amidst life's challenges.

Keywords

slow living, resilience, self-renewal, mindfulness, personal transformation

Takeaways:

• Resilience is cultivated through daily practices.
• Slow living is a deliberate act of resilience.
• Mindfulness and presence are key to self-renewal.
• Create a quiet corner for stillness.
• Practice a daily pause to reconnect.
• Nourishment and rest are essential for resilience.
• Connection and joy enhance personal transformation.
• Gentle movement supports energy and resilience.
• Resilience is about adapting with strength, flexibility, and hope.
• Inner renewal builds a foundation for life's challenges.

Summary

In this conversation, Dr. Tonya Harris Cornileus explores the theme of feeling lost as a natural part of personal growth. She emphasizes that moments of uncertainty are not failures but opportunities for transformation. By embracing obstacles and revisiting one's core values, individuals can navigate their unique paths toward authenticity and fulfillment. Dr. Cornileus provides practical steps to help listeners find clarity and purpose during challenging times, encouraging self-reflection and connection with others.

Keywords

growth, feeling lost, personal development, obstacles, self-discovery, resilience, purpose, journey, adventure, authenticity

Takeaways

• Feeling lost is not failure, but a sign of growth.
• Moments of lostness indicate we are in transition.
• Obstacles can become part of the path to growth.
• Revisiting our 'why' helps reconnect with our values.
• Your journey is unique and not defined by others' expectations.
• Acknowledge feelings of being lost to open curiosity.
• Look for lessons in challenges to foster resilience.
• Trust your own path instead of following prescribed routes.
• Seek support from trusted friends or mentors.
• Reflect on your journey to rediscover your strengths.

Sound Bites

"Your journey isn't shown on any map."

"Acknowledge, I feel lost."

"The answers will arise within you."

Chapters

00:00 Embracing the Feeling of Being Lost

03:46 Transforming Obstacles into Opportunities

06:42 Steps to Navigate Your Journey

Summary

In this episode, Tonya Harris Cornileus, Ph.D., explores the theme of adventure in life, emphasizing the importance of imagination and the various metaphors we use to describe our experiences. She discusses how viewing life as an adventure can transform our mindset and encourages listeners to embrace qualities such as curiosity, openness, wonder, and courage. The episode concludes with practical invitations to incorporate adventure into daily life, reminding us that adventure is a mindset that can lead to joy and fulfillment.

Keywords

adventure, imagination, life metaphors, personal growth, exploration, mindset, curiosity, openness, wonder, courage

Takeaways

• Life is defined by the metaphors we choose.
• Imagination is a free spirit that leads us to new possibilities.
• Adventure is a mindset, not just a physical journey.
• Curiosity is essential for expanding our experiences.
• Openness to new experiences enriches our lives.
• Wonder keeps our hearts alive and engaged.
• Wandering allows for unexpected discoveries.
• Courage is necessary to embrace adventure.
• Small choices can lead to a more adventurous life.
• Adventure is only a thought away.

Sound Bites

"Curiosity keeps life expansive."

"Adventure calls for courage."

"Adventure is a mindset."

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Adventure

04:17 Metaphors of Life

06:55 Life as an Adventure

10:39 Qualities of an Adventurer

18:33 Embracing Adventure in Everyday Life

23:45 Invitation to Adventure

Thanks for listening to this podcast episode. If you love it, please leave a review, follow, and share with your friends. If you want to learn more about Your Aha! Life or me, go to my website at yourahalife.com (Your Aha! Life)

Episode Description: Join Tonya Harris Cornileus, Ph.D., as she explores the profound impact of joy in our lives. Discover how wanting less can lead to more joy, peace, and fulfillment. Learn practical ways to savor life's simple moments through sensory, relational, achievement, and reflective joys. Tonya shares personal insights and stories, emphasizing that joy is a powerful force that can coexist with sorrow and transform our perspective.

Key Takeaways:

Joy is a powerful force that can coexist with sorrow. Wanting less creates space for more joy and fulfillment. Practical ways to savor joy include focusing on sensory, relational, achievement, and reflective joys. Joy is found in the simplest moments and doesn't require grand gestures.

Quotes:

"Joy is one of those few emotions that we can feel even when we're also feeling the deepest of sorrows."

"We don't need to wait for joy to appear. It's always with us--and even more, it's within us."

"The secret to satisfaction is not to increase our haves, but to manage our wants."

Call to Action: This week, take a few minutes each day to reflect on a moment that deepened your joy. Use the four categories as your guide: sensory, relational, achievement, and reflective joys. Write them down and share them with someone you love.

Hashtags: #JoyfulLiving #SavorTheMoment #LessIsMore

Summary

In this episode, Tonya Harris Cornileus, Ph.D., explores the journey of becoming unapologetically oneself. She discusses the societal pressures that lead individuals to perform roles for acceptance, the importance of recognizing one's true self, and the process of unlearning and reclaiming authenticity. The episode emphasizes that living authentically is a sacred journey, not a selfish act, and provides practical steps for listeners to begin their own journey towards self-acceptance and freedom.

Keywords

authenticity, self-discovery, unapologetic living, personal growth, self-acceptance, emotional well-being, self-identity, personal transformation, inner voice, self-worth

Takeaways

• What would it feel like to be fully, freely, and unapologetically you?
• The journey to authenticity involves recognizing what holds us back.
• We learn to perform for acceptance from a young age.
• Socialization can lead us to lose touch with our true selves.
• Pretending to be someone else can become painful.
• Becoming who you are is a transition and a process.
• Unlearning roles and scripts is essential for authenticity.
• Living unapologetically means not shrinking to make others comfortable.
• You have to stop abandoning yourself for others' approval.
• Becoming yourself is a sacred act, not a selfish one.

Sound Bites

"We learn to perform for acceptance."

"We lose touch with our own voice."

"Pretending becomes too painful."

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Authenticity

02:00 The Journey to Becoming Unapologetically You

03:08 Why It's So Hard to Be Yourself

09:16 Becoming You is a Transition

16:15 The Process of Unlearning and Reclaiming

17:13 What It Means to Live Unapologetically

23:22 Understanding Unapologetic Living

24:04 How to Begin

32:20 The Sacredness of Being You

Thanks for listening. Please leave a review and share this episode with someone who will benefit from listening to it. I welcome you to join the Your Aha! Life Global Community. Go to https://yourahalife.com

And follow me on Instagram @tonya.yourahalife.

XO,

Tonya

Summary

In this conversation, Tonya Harris Cornileus, Ph.D., explores the importance of listening to, trusting, and following one's inner wisdom. She shares personal experiences and insights on how to reconnect with this inner voice, emphasizing practices like quiet reflection, journaling, and meditation. Quotes from Oprah and philosopher William B. Irvine help to ground this article in the power of Aha! Moments. The discussion highlights the journey of self-trust and the transformative power of acting on inner guidance, ultimately encouraging listeners to create space for their inner voice and take aligned actions in their lives.

Keywords

inner wisdom, inner voice, self-trust, personal growth, intuition, life transitions, spiritual guidance, self-awareness, mindfulness, personal development, leadership

Takeaways

• Your inner voice speaks to you; will you listen?
• Listening more closely can reveal powerful insights.
• Trusting your inner voice is a journey back to self.
• Your inner wisdom knows what's true before your mind does.
• Creating space in your life helps you hear your inner voice.
• Practices like journaling and meditation can enhance self-awareness.
• Rebuilding trust in yourself is essential for personal growth.
• Following your inner voice leads to living in alignment.
• Insight requires action to transform your life.
• Courage is needed to follow your inner voice.

Sound Bites

"Trust and believe in yourself."

"Insight alone isn't enough."

"Create space to hear it, trust it."

Chapters

00:00 Listening to Your Inner Wisdom

05:41 Hearing Your Inner Voice: How to Recognize the Wisdom Within

08:32 Trusting Your Inner Voice: Reclaiming Your Inner Authority

11:13 Following Your Inner Voice: Living in Alignment

Thank you for listening. I truly appreciate you! I invite you to follow Your Aha! Life - The Podcast. Hit the notifications bell so that you're the first to know when a new episode or audio blog is released. Leave a review, comment, or send me an email to let me know what you think of this audio blog or the podcast.

XO,

Tonya

Summary

In this episode, Tonya Harris Cornileus, Ph.D., discusses the critical importance of adaptability as a skill for the future. She explores how rapid changes in technology, work environments, and societal norms necessitate a mindset of adaptability. Through personal anecdotes and insights from futurists, she emphasizes the need for individuals to strengthen their adaptability skills to thrive in an ever-evolving landscape. The episode concludes with practical strategies for cultivating adaptability in daily life.

Keywords

adaptability, change, future skills, personal development, resilience, AI, lifelong learning, leadership, technology, mindset

Takeaways

• Adaptability is essential for navigating rapid changes.
• The pace of change is accelerating, especially with technology.
• Adaptability is about long-term adjustments, not just quick reactions.
• Personal experiences, like the pandemic, highlight the need for adaptability.
• Futurists agree that adaptability is the top skill for the future.
• Jobs and roles are evolving faster than ever before.
• Technology is transforming industries and requires adaptability.
• Building a support network enhances adaptability.
• Practicing mindfulness and reflection can strengthen adaptability.
• Embracing discomfort is key to developing adaptability.

Sound Bites

"Adopt technology mindfully."

"Community helps us to grow."

"You have the strength to adapt."

Chapters

00:00 The Importance of Adaptability

01:22 Setting the Stage: The World is Changing Fast

05:48 What is Adaptability, Really?

12:21 The Research: Why it's #1

15:00 What Makes Adaptability So Essential

17:43 Practical Ways to Cultivate Adaptability

25:33 Your Season of Growth and Resilience

Summary

In this episode, Tonya Harris Cornileus, Ph.D., invites listeners to rethink their definitions of success and navigate their next life chapters with confidence. She emphasizes the importance of self-awareness, reflection on personal values, and the courage to redefine success on one's own terms. Through her personal journey and insights, she encourages listeners to embrace transitions as opportunities for growth and reinvention.

Keywords

success, personal growth, transitions, self-awareness, life coaching, redefining success, confidence, authenticity, values, purpose, self-belief

Takeaways

• Redefining success is a personal journey.
• Self-awareness is crucial in understanding what success means to you.
• Transitions in life are opportunities for growth.
• Reflect on past experiences to shape future success.
• Values and priorities may shift over time.
• Fear and self-doubt are natural, but can be managed.
• Success should align with your true self.
• Your life is your canvas; define it as you wish.
• Living authentically leads to fulfillment.
• Engage with a community for support in your journey.

Sound Bites

"You are the artist of your life."

"Reflect on what life has taught you."

"Your new definition of success."

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Redefining Success

03:57 The Journey of Self-Reflection

05:03 Redefining Success Start with Self-Awareness

06:49 What Does Success Mean to You Now?

07:27 How to Redefine Success in Your Next Chapter

09:43 Embracing Your New Definition of Success

10:38 Your New Definition of Success

Thank you so much for listening to Your Aha! Life - The Podcast. If you're not a subscriber, I invite you to subscribe today. Check the notifications so you'll never miss a new episode, and share this podcast with your friends.

I welcome your feedback. Leave a comment and/or email me at tonya@yourahalife.com. I answer all messages.

XO,

Tonya

Summary

In this episode, Tonya Harris Cornileus, Ph.D., explores the concept of Appreciative Joy, emphasizing the importance of celebrating others' successes without falling into the traps of comparison and self-doubt. She discusses the detrimental effects of a scarcity mindset and offers insights on how to cultivate an abundance mindset that allows for genuine joy in others' achievements. Through relatable real-life scenarios, she illustrates the common feelings of envy and uncertainty, and provides practical steps to practice Appreciative Joy in daily life. The episode concludes with a call to action for listeners to engage in their own journey of cultivating joy and community support.

Keywords

appreciative joy, abundance mindset, scarcity mindset, self-doubt, comparison, emotional generosity, celebrate others, personal growth, mindfulness, personal development

Takeaways

• Appreciative joy helps you celebrate others' successes without feeling a sense of comparison.
• A scarcity mindset leads to self-doubt and emotional withdrawal.
• An abundance mindset fosters collaboration and trust.
• Real-life scenarios highlight common feelings of comparison.
• Practicing appreciative joy can shift our emotional state.
• Celebrating others can free us from the grip of competition.
• Joy multiplies when shared with others.
• Recognizing our own timeline is crucial for personal growth.
• Appreciative joy is a practice that requires awareness and practice.

Sound Bites

"Their light doesn't dim yours."

"Their win is not my loss."

"Your AHA life is growing."

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Appreciative Joy

02:37 Understanding Scarcity Mindset

04:06 The Scarcity Mindset: When We Believe There's Not Enough

05:16 The Concept of Appreciative Joy

07:17 Real-Life Scenarios of Comparison

12:21 Cultivating an Abundance Mindset

13:44 Practical Steps to Practice Appreciative Joy

15:12 Call to Action and Community Engagement

Thank you for listening to this latest audio blog. If you are enjoying Your Aha! Life - the Podcast, then please subscribe, follow, comment, and share so that this podcast can continue to grow and reach many more people. If there is a topic you'd love for me to cover, send me a quick note at tonya@yourahalife.com or leave a comment.

I wish you more joy, more purpose, and more fulfillment.

XO,

Tonya

Summary

In this episode of Your Aha! Life, Tonya Harris Cornileus, Ph.D., explores the transformative power of self-affirmation. She discusses how our inner dialogue shapes our self-perception and influences our actions. Through practical steps and insights from self-affirmation theory, Tonya encourages listeners to shift their mindset and embrace positive affirmations to foster personal growth and confidence. She shares how self-affirmation can shift your mindset as you navigate transitions, helping you move from self-doubt to possibility.

Keywords

self-affirmation, inner dialogue, personal growth, mindset, confidence, self-belief, positive thinking, personal development, self-improvement, mental health, transitions

Takeaways

• Self-affirmation can shift your mindset and help you achieve breakthroughs.
• Your inner dialogue influences your confidence and choices.
• Affirmations help anchor your sense of identity during challenging times.
• The words you speak to yourself shape your beliefs and actions.
• Affirmations should reflect your personal truth and core values.
• Consistency in affirmations rewires your brain for positivity.
• Speak in present tense and positive language for effectiveness.
• Pair affirmations with small intentional actions for alignment.
• Your inner dialogue can move you from fear to possibility.
• Start with one affirmation to begin your journey of self-discovery.

Sound Bites

"What you tell yourself matters."

"Your inner dialogue shapes how you see yourself."

"Affirmations help anchor you."

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Self-Affirmation

04:19 The Power of Inner Dialogue

09:46 The Science Behind Self-Affirmation

11:40 Why What You Say to Yourself Matters

13:12 How to Use Affirmations to Change Your Inner Dialogue

13:21 Practical Steps for Effective Affirmations

16:45 Call to Action: Start Your Affirmation Journey

Thanks so much for listening to this audio blog. I'd love your feedback. Leave a comment or send me a note at tonya@yourahalife.com.

I wish you more joy, more purpose, and more fulfillment.

XO,

Tonya

Summary

In this episode, Tonya Harris Cornileus, Ph.D., discusses the importance of showing up authentically in life and career. She explores the concept of 'shrinking'—the tendency to downplay one's true self to fit in—and its detrimental effects on confidence and self-expression. Tonya provides actionable steps to embrace authenticity, encouraging listeners to recognize their unique value and take small steps towards self-acceptance and expression.

Keywords

authenticity, self-expression, personal growth, career development, self-acceptance, confidence, overcoming fear, leadership, personal development, community support

Takeaways

• Many people feel the need to shrink to fit in.
• Shrinking can manifest in subtle ways.
• Fear of judgment often leads to shrinking.
• Suppressing your true self erodes confidence.
• The world needs your unique voice and ideas.
• Awareness is the first step to change.
• Authenticity means living in alignment with your values.
• Small acts of self-expression can build confidence.
• Surround yourself with supportive people.
• Embrace your authenticity and take action.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Authenticity

02:17 Understanding Shrinking and Its Impact

02:51 What Shrinking Looks Like

04:49 Why We Shrink and What it Costs Us

06:37 How to Stop Shrinking and Show Up Authentically

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Summary

In this episode, Tonya Harris Cornileus, Ph.D., discusses the courage required to start over after setbacks and rejection. She emphasizes the importance of resilience, reframing rejection as redirection, and embracing new beginnings, whether chosen or unexpected. Through personal anecdotes and motivational insights, she encourages listeners to recognize their inner strength and take bold actions toward their goals.

Keywords

courage, resilience, setbacks, rejection, new beginnings, self-belief, personal growth, overcoming failure, life transitions, empowerment

Takeaways

• Starting over requires courage, whether by choice or circumstance.
• Rejection can be reframed as redirection, not failure.
• Every new beginning demands bravery and resilience.
• Life is filled with both chosen and unexpected beginnings.
• The pain of rejection can shake our confidence but does not define us.
• Self-belief is crucial in overcoming setbacks and failures.
• Playing small can lead to a life of regret.
• Reflecting on past triumphs can build self-belief.
• Setbacks can be seen as stepping stones to greatness.
• Taking bold action is essential for personal growth.

Sound Bites

"You are braver than you think."

"Every new beginning demands courage."

"Playing small costs you everything."

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Starting Over

00:55 The Courage to Start Again

04:12 The Two Sides of Starting Over: By Choice and By Circumstance

06:57 The Pain of Rejection and How to Reframe It

09:50 The Cost of Playing Small

11:37 Looking Back at Your Own Triumphs

12:48 Call to Action: Your Next Step Forward

Summary

In this episode, Tonya Harris Cornileus, Ph.D., shares her personal journey toward embracing an abundance mindset as she approaches retirement. She discusses the challenges posed by a scarcity mindset and how it can hinder personal growth and fulfillment. By identifying two personas—the in-between transitioner and the hesitant dreamer—she emphasizes the importance of shifting perspectives to embrace opportunities. Tonya provides practical strategies to cultivate an abundance mindset, encouraging listeners to trust their journey and recognize that their best days are still ahead.

Takeaways

• Scarcity mindset can stop us from moving forward.
• We can shift our mindset from scarcity to abundance.

• An abundance mindset opens up possibilities and opportunities.
• Your best work may still be ahead of you.
• You don't need to have everything figured out to start.
• Three practices can help you shift from a scarcity mindset to an abundance mindset.
• Anchor to your core values makes it easier to say yes to the right next steps
• Reconnect with your vision and let yourself imagine that future with boldness and hope

• Practicing gratitude and affirmations can help cultivate abundance.
• Your next chapter is not a detour; it's part of your becoming.

Sound Bites

• "Now is my time."
• "Your best work is still ahead of you."
• "Abundance feels like trust."
• "Your moment is now."
• "Shift from scarcity into abundance."

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Abundance Mindset

02:08Personal Journey and Retirement Announcement

04:24Understanding Scarcity Mindset

08:43Transitioning with an Abundance Mindset

12:14Identifying Personas: In-Between Transitioner and Hesitant Dreamer

15:30Characteristics of an Abundance Mindset

22:50Practices to Cultivate Abundance Mindset

Summary

In this episode of Your Aha Life, Tonya Harris Cornileus, Ph.D., explores the mindset and psychology behind why individuals often play small and how they can reclaim their confidence and take up space in their lives and leadership roles. The discussion emphasizes the importance of self-belief, integrity, and resilience, and provides practical steps to overcome psychological barriers that prevent individuals from fully expressing themselves. Through personal anecdotes and reflective exercises, listeners are encouraged to recognize their worth and embrace their authentic selves.

Keywords

confidence, self-belief, personal growth, leadership, authenticity, taking up space, resilience, empowerment, mindset, psychology

Takeaways

• The journey to confidence involves recognizing when we play small.

• Taking up space means being mentally, emotionally, and energetically present.
• Societal conditioning often teaches us to shrink ourselves.
• Past experiences can lead to a fear of being too much or not enough.
• Imposter syndrome can hinder our ability to take up space.
• We often seek approval before expressing ourselves.
• Confidence comes from within, not from external validation.
• Taking up space is about owning your presence and voice.
• Practical steps can help build confidence and reclaim space.
• Reflecting on how to take up space can lead to personal growth.

Sound Bites

"We moderate too darn much sometimes."

"Have you ever dimmed your own light?"

"You don't need approval to be yourself."

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Confidence and Taking Up Space

07:15 Understanding the Conditioning to Play Small

17:37 The Meaning of Taking Up Space

22:56 Psychological Reasons for Shrinking

26:49 Practical Steps to Build Confidence

29:36 Closing Thoughts and Call to Action

Summary

In this episode, Tonya Harris Cornileus, Ph.D., explores the often overlooked 'in-between' moments in life, emphasizing their significance in personal growth and transformation. She discusses her own experiences of navigating transitions in her career and life and introduces the concept of the 'neutral zone' from William Bridges' transition model. The conversation highlights the importance of patience, self-reflection, and embracing uncertainty as essential components of the journey toward clarity and fulfillment.

Keywords

life transitions, personal growth, in-between moments, self-discovery, patience, transformation, career changes, emotional resilience, William Bridges model, self-renewal

Takeaways

• The in-between moments are crucial for personal growth.

• Patience is an active choice during transitions.
• The neutral zone is a fertile ground for creativity.
• Self-renewal occurs in the in-between spaces.
• Embracing uncertainty can lead to profound transformation.
• Micro wins should be celebrated during transitions.
• Self-discovery is a key aspect of the in-between.
• The in-between is not idle time; it's a time of preparation.
• Reflecting on what we learn about ourselves is vital.
• The in-between may be the most important part of our journey.

Sound Bites

"Don't rush to fill that space."

"Growth isn't always loud."

"Patience is not passive."

Chapters

00:00 Welcome to Season Five

00:49 The Hidden Power of In-Between Moments

06:21 Understanding the Neutral Zone

09:10 Embracing the In-Between

12:35 Strategies for Navigating In-Between Moments

15:59 The Importance of the In-Between Journey

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Summary

In this conversation, Dr. Tonya Harris Cornileus discusses the vital distinction between empathy and compassion, emphasizing that while empathy allows us to feel the pain of others, it is compassion that drives us to take action. She encourages listeners to engage in compassionate activism through small, consistent actions in their daily lives, highlighting that every effort, no matter how small, contributes to a larger ripple effect of change. The conversation serves as a call to action for individuals to reflect on their values and find ways to support their communities.

Keywords

compassion, empathy, activism, community, change, social justice, kindness, daily actions, ripple effect, personal growth

Takeaways

• Compassion rooted in love is about showing up consistently.
• Empathy helps us feel, but compassion urges us to respond.
• Compassionate activism can be quiet, personal, and deeply local.
• Opportunities for compassionate activism are often closer than we think.
• Compassionate activism isn't a one-time act, it's a practice.
• Small actions done regularly have a cumulative impact.
• Your actions can be the spark that lights the way for others.
• The world needs compassionate hearts willing to act.
• Every act of compassion contributes to a greater ripple of change.
• Find your own way to make a difference.

Sound Bites

"Find your own Calcutta."

"Stay consistent, stay hopeful."

"Be the pebble that starts the ripple."

Chapters

00:00 The Call to Action: From Empathy to Compassion

03:31 Why Empathy Isn't Enough

04:45 Compassionate Activism: Making it Accessible

06:11 Opportunities for Compassion are Everywhere

08:16 Making Compassion a Way of Life

09:26 Call to Action:

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Summary

In this conversation, Tonya Harris Cornileus, Ph.D., discusses the significance of mentorship, especially during National Mentoring Month. She shares her personal experiences with mentors and emphasizes the transformative power of these relationships. The discussion covers how to find a mentor, what qualities to look for, how to approach potential mentors and the importance of being a proactive mentee. Tonya encourages listeners to reflect on their needs and take actionable steps toward establishing meaningful mentoring relationships to support their personal and professional growth.

Keywords

mentorship, finding a mentor, mentoring relationship, personal growth, career development, professional guidance, mentee, mentor qualities, mentorship benefits, mentoring process

Takeaways

• Mentorship can be life-changing at any stage of life.
• A mentor should align with your values and goals.
• Building a relationship with a potential mentor is crucial.
• Be specific when asking someone to be your mentor.
• Meaningful conversations deepen the mentoring relationship.
• A great mentee prepares and takes action on advice.
• Respect your mentor's time and be focused in meetings.
• Vulnerability fosters trust in the mentoring relationship.
• Giving back to your mentor enriches the experience for both.
• Finding a mentor is a proactive step toward growth.

Sound Bites

"Finding the right mentor is worth the effort."

"Mentorship is a relationship, not a transaction."

"Finding a mentor may feel intimidating at first."

Chapters

00:00 The Importance of Mentorship

04:09 Finding the Right Mentor

04:52 When to Engage a Mentor

05:58 What to Look for in a Great Mentor

06:54 How to Approach and Ask Someone to be Your Mentor

08:57 Question to Ask a Mentor

10:30 How to Be a Great Mentee

13:48 Call to Action

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