Unplayable,Why Men Shrink Themselves and Attraction Dies, Episode 294

A lot of men do not lose their relationship all at once, they lose themselvesfirst.

Inthis episode, I break down a pattern that shows up in heterosexualrelationships everywhere. A man starts out confident, funny, grounded, andattractive, then once he gets attached he starts editing himself to keep peaceand keep access. He over gives. He over explains. He swallows conflict. Hebecomes agreeable instead of authentic. And slowly, attraction dies.

Wealso talk about the uncomfortable piece people avoid. In some relationships,warmth, distance, and intimacy become a steering wheel. Not always on purpose,not in every couple, but often enough that many men end up trained to managemoods instead of leading their lives.

Thisis not a men bad, women bad episode. It is a mechanics episode. Men willrecognise how they become playable, meaning steerable by fear, withdrawal, andreward. Women will recognise how a man can start to feel less solid over time,and why that shift changes attraction.

Iclose with a step by step way out, how to rebuild backbone without becomingrude, how to stop walking on eggshells, how to reset respect, and how to becomeunplayable in the healthy sense, like an NPC in a video game, a character withpurpose and a code that cannot be controlled by someone else’s reward andpunishment system.

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