Lately, I’ve been feeling this quiet shift in my life. It’s hard to explain, but it’s like I can sense something changing—like one chapter is slowly coming to an end, and another one is waiting to begin. There’s this mix of emotions that comes with it. A little bit of fear, a lot of uncertainty, but also… peace. Almost like my soul knows it’s time to move forward, even if my mind hasn’t completely caught up yet.
So in this moment, I’m choosing to listen to that shift instead of fighting it. I’m learning to let go with grace, to close the pages that no longer serve me, and to trust that whatever comes next is part of the story I’m meant to live. Because sometimes, the most powerful growth doesn’t come from forcing change—it comes from recognizing that you’ve already changed.And maybe that’s what this new chapter is really about—trusting myself enough to turn the page.
It’s been three wonderful years that I’ve started Yours Druelee podcast. I really don’t know what direction I am taking, whether to continue with the podcast, or to end it all. A part of me feels that sense of ending a part of my life and who knows, maybe this could be the end of my podcast. But to truly know if it’s the end, on this episode, I’ll be explaining myself and where I envision my podcast to be at, most likely, where I see my life heading towards. So if you are dying to know whether it’ll be the ending or a new beginning to my podcast and life, keep listening because you don’t want to miss this episode.
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❤️Yours Druelee
For a long time, I believed the key to life was something I had to go out and find. I thought it was hidden in the next big achievement, the right relationship, the dream job, or that “perfect” moment I hadn’t reached yet. I told myself, Once I get there… once I have that… then I’ll feel fulfilled, then I’ll finally be living the life I’m supposed to live. But here’s what actually happened. I reached some of those milestones—things I thought would unlock happiness—and instead of feeling whole, I still felt empty. I still felt like something was missing. And I couldn’t figure out why.
That’s when it hit me: the problem wasn’t the goals. The problem was where I thought the answer was. I kept searching out there for something that could only be found in here. The key to life wasn’t hidden in my circumstances. It wasn’t sitting in someone else’s hands. It wasn’t locked away in some future version of me who finally “had it all together.” The key to life was always with me.
So on this episode, I want to share with you some of the discoveries that made me realize that the key to life has always been in my own hands. I realized that no matter what changes around me, I’m the constant in my own life. My mindset, my choices, my boundaries, the way I treat myself—those things shape my reality more than anything outside of me ever could. My hope is that by the end, you’ll see that same truth for yourself—and maybe even feel inspired to start turning that key today. If you are ready to start taking charge of your life and be in control of it, keep listening because you don’t want to miss this episode.
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❤️Yours Druelee
If you were just like me, where growing up I did not like or took the time to learn and understand about the Hmong culture, to now being a lot older and realizing that the language, customs, and traditions—they were always just there in the background, like family photos you walk past but never really stop to study.
I knew I was Hmong, but I didn’t know what that meant. Then life happened. I went through some personal challenges and experiences which if you have been a long time listener from the beginning till now, you already know what those experiences were. There were moments where I felt lost, disconnected, like I didn’t fully belong anywhere. And for the first time, I found myself wanting to understand where I came from to learning more about the Hmong culture.
I’m still learning. Still asking. Still discovering. Although I don’t fully understand certain things about the culture, I know that I cannot hate, blame, or see the negativity of it because I rather understand than to make assumptions just because I had bad past experiences. I know a lot of us younger Hmong people do not like what the Hmong culture stand for or the custom ways of doing life such as weddings, divorcing, funerals, and such forth. However, let’s at least take the time to seek the truth and knowledge of the culture. Like I always say, we can agree to disagree, however we shouldn’t hate or be bitter just because the culture may have failed us in certain points in our life.
So on this episode, I’ve invited a good friend of mine name HanXueyi Vang, who will be my guest on my podcast where we will be talking about his personal experiences of rediscovering his Hmong roots through deep research and personal exploration. From him studying traditional customs, language, and history to connecting with elders and cultural leaders, his growing knowledge sparked a deeper appreciation for the Hmong culture. With this understanding, he has taken steps to give back—whether through cultural education or community advocacy. His story highlights how reconnecting with culture and heritage can inspire meaningful change and strengthen the Hmong community as a whole. So if you are searching to find answers to your questions pertaining to the Hmong culture and don’t know where to start, I highly recommend you to take a listen to this episode because it will give you so much insightful information and knowledge of the culture itself and how you can take the first step to finding those answers.
*To reach out to Han for additional questions*
Email: vang.leem85@gmail.com
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❤️Yours Druelee
I always preach about the good of being single and that for those who are in the point of their life of where they are giving the chance to live their single life is to embrace it and see the good in it. Of course being single is not always happy dandy because there’s always the bad side to singleness.
So on this episode, I’ll be sharing with you some of the bad things I’ve experienced as a single woman and no those things aren’t bad, it’s just things that I find to be challenging and hard to live life as a single person. If you are interested in knowing more about the shadow side of singleness, keep listening because you don’t want to miss this episode.
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The older I get, the more I realize—not everyone is meant to understand me. I used to think that if someone didn’t agree with how I lived my life, how I made decisions, or how I saw the world… then maybe I was doing it wrong. But now? I see it differently.
I knew that from the beginning of creating my podcast, people who listen to my episodes will either understand where I’m coming from or they won’t. To have many subscribers or followers is not my top priority because I already know that my messages, life experiences, and lessons I’ve learned will not resonate with some. The topics that I’ve discussed so far can be too much for others and too deep to comprehend. But that’s not going to stop me for speaking the truth or speaking my truth.
On this episode, I just want to share my thoughts and reflection on what I have recently been thinking about when it comes to being understood. It’s a hard pill to swallow but having thoughts on this has shifted my mindset to see a different view on it. So if you need words of encouragements to let go of trying to make people understand you, keep on listening because you don’t want to miss this episode.
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https://www.yoursdruelee.com/post/ep56-miss-understand
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I recently had an epiphany about expectations—specifically, the ones I place on other people. For so long, I believed that if I voice my opinions, concerns, or emotions, they’d eventually become who I needed them to be. But I’ve come to realize that expecting others to change for me was never fair to them—or to myself.
This shift in perspective helped me see that true connection isn’t about trying to mold someone into an ideal. It’s about accepting people as they are, in this moment. I’ve learned that peace comes not from trying to control outcomes, but from letting go of unrealistic expectations and meeting people where they truly are. So on this episode, I will be discussing why people have expectations for others to become someone they are not and what we can do to stop having those expectations set on others when really, some of them will not or cannot change for us.
If you are curious to learn more about not having expectations from others and my honest opinions on it, keep listening because you don’t want to miss this episode. what can you do to stay you when you are in a romantic relationship, keep listening because you don’t want to miss this episode.
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When you enter into a romantic relationship, you have the intention of giving your all—but in doing so, you slowly begin to lose yourself. You compromise your needs, silence your voice, and reshape your identity to fit your partner’s expectations, all while believing that love means sacrifice. The real issue? You never realized the importance of putting yourself first.
I will admit, I am one of those people who had lost themselves in a relationship because I didn’t know better and I didn’t know that I matter more than my past partners. The outcome of it didn’t serve me, however, if you are curious to know why people loose themselves and their identity and what can you do to stay you when you are in a romantic relationship, keep listening because you don’t want to miss this episode.
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https://www.yoursdruelee.com/post/ep54-my-love-don-t-cost-a-thing
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After experiencing heartbreak and disappointment in past relationships to entering the single/ dating world, I’ve realized that I have been seeking men based on emotions rather than stability. I had been in relationship and dated men who lacked ambition, financial responsibility, which leaves me to feel unsupported and exhausted and feeling like I am the only one carrying the relationship.
Since navigating the dating world, I have stumble upon many resources, videos, podcast, coaches, and much more that talks about the different types of dating style and the do’s and don’t when dating. Hypergamy was on of those dating style that made me feel very intrigued to learn more about. If you are unsure or never heard of hypergamy, on this episode I will be discussing the negatives and positives of dating base on hypergamy and whether or not I would practice this dating style. I mean who wouldn’t want to date up to have a better sustainable life? To hear more about hypergamy dating and my options on it, keep listening because you don’t want to miss this episode.
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From my previous episode where I talked about the 4B Movement, the red and blue pill community is just another movement or group of people who has been taken part of either moving away from the opposite gender due to the misbehaviors they have experienced in which they no longer want to conform to or refusing to do anything for them just to obtain a relationship, to be in submissions, or have access to sex. This woke movement targets men who no longer want to cater to women base off of their personal bad experience with them.
In my opinion, specifically the red pill community, is full of little boys complaining and low key hating on women because they couldn’t find or be with a woman who would bow down and submit to their every demands. Being called a simp or a betta is not what they want to be called but rather an alpha. I can go on and on about this, however, if you want to hear my opinions about this community and why I don’t advise anyone to support or be part of this community, keep listening because you really do not want to miss this episode!
To read and get more information resources of this episode, click the link below:
https://www.yoursdruelee.com/post/ep52-red-pill
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We may live our lives masking a different person, whether we are a mom, dad, christian, muslim, catholic, heterosexual, homosexual, and tons and tons of titles we live by. But at the end of the day, when all those titles which we consider our identity is stripped away from us, can we truly be our authentic self, or are we just masking ourselves to portray to others that we are those things to truly hide our true identity? 2025 just started, however as the year progress, lets not forget to live authentically verses living for others when really, are we truly happy to live for others? Are we really ourselves or are we hiding our true self from the world?
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❤️Yours Druelee
The 4B Movement, originating in South Korea, is a cultural and social movement centered around four principles, no dating, no sex, no marriage, and no childbirth. Primarily led by women, this movement challenges traditional societal expectations by rejecting conventional relationship and family norms. The 4B Movement advocates for personal autonomy, encouraging individuals to prioritize self-fulfillment, career aspirations, and financial independence without the societal pressures of being in a romantic relationships or family life. While initially focused on South Korean culture, the movement has resonated globally, especially among those questioning traditional gender roles and societal expectations.
As I enter the dating world, I have come across many labels or terms in which it has describe a certain group of people base on their mentality and the issues they have faced as an individual or as a collective. 4B is one of those groups that I did not know I was practicing, not knowing that 4B was the term describing me not wanting to date men. I have my reasons why I am still practicing the 4B movement. Will I change my mind and jump out of the bandwagon and start dating men again? To hear more about the 4B movements and my answer to that question, keep listen because you don’t want to miss this episode.
To read and get more information resources of this episode, click the link below:
https://www.yoursdruelee.com/post/ep50-4b
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Let's celebrate as we enter Sagittarius season! By the time you are listening to this mini episode, it’ll be my birthday already! Wishing all my Sagittarius and anyone’s birthday on November a happiest fulfilled birthday!!
Along with that, let's not forget to give thanks on Thanksgiving day. Whether you celebrated it early, the day, or afterwards, I am thankful for each and every one of you for listening and supporting Yours Druelee from the beginning till now. I love you long time!
I’ll be back with the main episode next month so stay tuned as always because you don’t wanna miss the up coming episodes I have for you.
Happiest Birthday, Happy Thanksgiving, and Happy Hmong New Years everyone!!
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❤️ Yours Druelee
The "no contact" rule, often used at the end of a relationship, is an effective strategy for healing and moving forward. By cutting off communication with an ex-partner, individuals can create the emotional distance necessary to process their feelings, regain independence, and break unhealthy attachment patterns. This period of no contact allows for self-reflection, reduces the chances of prolonging emotional pain, and prevents the rekindling of toxic dynamics. Ultimately, it helps individuals focus on personal growth and recovery, making it easier to move on from the relationship.
Depending on how you ended things with an ex-partner, implementing the no contact rule into your life may or may not work. However, on this episode, I will be sharing the importance of practicing no contact when it comes to completing cutting off people who no longer are meant for you so that you can move on with your life and attract those who are really meant for you. To hear how affective no contact really works, keep listening because you don’t want to miss this episode.
To read and get more information resources of this episode, click the link below:https://www.yoursdruelee.com/post/ep49-no-contact
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Although I did not get married legally, I did however get married culturally. I do see the benefit differences and both have good and bad perks when it comes to deciding whether or not to get marry legally or culturally. This topic sparks my interest due to a recent social media drama that involved an oversea Hmong woman who came to America and got legally married when back in her homeland she has a husband and a child.
There are three truths when it comes to what actually happens: your truth, their truth, and the real truth. I don’t know who is telling the truth but I do have an idea of what could have happened in this situation. To hear more about legally and culturally marriage and my opinion on the drama circulating on social media, keep listening because you don’t want to miss this episode.
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❤️Yours Druelee
Before you continue listening to this episode, I do want to warn you that this episode contains discussions of sensitive topics, including marital r&%e, SA, and explicit language which may be triggering or distressing for some listeners. I strongly advise you to proceed with caution and prioritize your well-being. Viewer discretion is advised, and I encourage anyone affected by these topics to seek support from trusted resources or professionals.
I’ve always try to enlighten any heavy taboo topics I have mentioned on my podcast and I’ve also have given my personal experiences as an example. My experiences when it comes to marital r&%e may be minor, but it’s still something I want to share with you. So if you are interested in hearing more and what you can do to not only help yourself and the people you may know that is going through this, keep listening because you don’t want to miss this episode.
To read and get more information resources of this episode, click the link below:
https://www.yoursdruelee.com/post/ep47-consent-yours-druelee-podcast
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Yours Druelee
It has been four years since my divorce and what better way to keep moving and creating a life that I know I deserve is to share some of the things I’ve learned to accept for myself and to bring forth only the good things in my life. Restarting life all over again has its good and bad times but all in all, I have no regrets choosing this path. I mean, I am living my best life and am looking forward to better days to come. To hear more about what those things are, keep listening because you don’t want to miss this episode.
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❤️Yours Druelee
I don’t know about you guys, but growing up in an asian household and going to church and practicing the christianity religion, the purity culture was something I was taught to follow in order to save myself for marriage. When I say save myself, I mean no sex till marriage. Now that I am a lot older, do I still believe and follow the purity culture? Keep listening because you don’t want to miss this episode.
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Born and raised in the United States, I have lived my life to identify myself as Hmong and an American. Being the first generation in my family to intertwine both cultures and belief has made me feel conflicted as to who I truly identity myself and whether or not I may or may not belong to neither of those culture. The things I’ve learned and was taught in my upbringing were things I thought I was supposed to carry onto my adult years. However, with the experiences I have lived and learned from my past and present life, it has made me to redirect my life to where I no longer believe or live the life I did before. The things my parents and the Hmong culture has taught me has no force or bondage against me, and now I am breaking away from it to become a free spirit individual.
I’m sure many of you listeners who are first generation or multicultural has struggled to truly define your identity when it comes to your culture. On this episode, I’ll share my experiences of my struggle of identifying and to where I am currently standing when it comes to my cultural identity. To get to know a bit more about me and my opinions about the Hmong culture, keep listening because you don’t want to miss this episode.
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❤️Yours Druelee
For those who have been with me from the beginning of my podcast, I started sharing with you the before and after of my marriage and restarting my life all over again as a single woman. Throughout the years of being single, I took the time to reevaluate my life as to what I could have done differently and to understand the situation from both parties. After going through this traumatic experience, I have grown to become the best version of myself and yes, you can meet the light at the end of the tunnel because I have seen the light. The beginning may not be so pleasant but trust me, when you use the time to work on yourself, heal, and choose you, you will definitely get the life that you truly deserve.
On this episode, I’ll share with you what I have learned since being divorced and I hope for those who are thinking, currently, or is already divorce can relate and feel comfort in whatever decisions you make in your life. If you are interested in hearing more, keep listening because you don’t want to miss this episode.
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❤️Yours Druelee
This episode is near and dear to my heart. To know other Hmong women from families, friends, or acquaintances who went through similar life experiences and situations as I have, it is only right for me to express and share some knowledge of how you can become the best Hmong women in today's modern society. The things we were taught in our upbringings can either make us, or break us. These things that I will be sharing with you on this episode is to challenge you to see life in a different way and to open your eyes to realize that you too matter in your life and you can live the life you deserve. To hear more about what those things are, keep listening because you don't want to miss this episode.
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❤️Yours Druelee