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Authentic Masculinity

Seth Troutt

33 episodes

3 days ago

A man who can't be pushed on is a dangerous man. Not dangerous in the way you'd hope—formidable, unshakeable—but dangerous in the way that stunts growth and poisons every relationship around him. When criticism lands, your instincts betray you. The defensive flinch dismisses everything. The people-pleasing collapse accepts everything. Both keep you exactly where you are, and both dishonor the person who risked awkwardness to tell you hard truth. That person offered something precious: an oppo...

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A man who can't be pushed on is a dangerous man. Not dangerous in the way you'd hope—formidable, unshakeable—but dangerous in the way that stunts growth and poisons every relationship around him. When criticism lands, your instincts betray you. The defensive flinch dismisses everything. The people-pleasing collapse accepts everything. Both keep you exactly where you are, and both dishonor the person who risked awkwardness to tell you hard truth. That person offered something precious: an oppo...

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Episodes (20/33)

Authentic Masculinity

Stop Defending Yourself: Why Hard Feedback Is the Advantage Men Keep Refusing

A man who can't be pushed on is a dangerous man. Not dangerous in the way you'd hope—formidable, unshakeable—but dangerous in the way that stunts growth and poisons every relationship around him. When criticism lands, your instincts betray you. The defensive flinch dismisses everything. The people-pleasing collapse accepts everything. Both keep you exactly where you are, and both dishonor the person who risked awkwardness to tell you hard truth. That person offered something precious: an oppo...

3 days ago

6 minutes

Authentic Masculinity

The Husband's Paradox: Why the Best Father Serves His Wife First

What if the best way to be a good dad is to prioritize being a good husband? You're a new father and you're ready to show up. But here's what so many husbands miss: the best thing you can do for your child during the very early years isn't necessarily anything with the child. Instead, the best way to be a good father is to enable your wife to thrive. Love, nurture, and cherish her as she loves, nurtures, and cherishes your child. When you actively support your wife's flourishing rather than a...

1 week ago

6 minutes

Authentic Masculinity

Your Mentor Pitch: The Foolish Question Wise Men Hear All the Time

One of the scariest things the Bible teaches is that the fool thinks he's wise. And if you're pursuing mentorship the way most men do, you might be acting like that fool without realizing it. This episode exposes what the truly wise actually do instead. The successful man didn't build his marriage by spending Friday nights coaching strangers. He's won success through careful boundaries, not by abandoning those principles just because you asked politely. Most men approach wisdom like a job app...

2 weeks ago

5 minutes

Authentic Masculinity

You Are A Common Man: Why Your Uniqueness Won't Save You

You've been told what makes you valuable is what makes you different. Your unique story, your distinct perspective, your one-of-a-kind experiences—these supposedly form the core of your worth. But what happens when those distinctives disappear? Instagram influencer culture and resume-building have convinced you that standing out is everything. So you craft an identity around what separates you from the crowd—your athletic ability, your career success, your financial position. Then you blow ou...

3 weeks ago

5 minutes

Authentic Masculinity

The Noonday Demon: Why Your Distraction Problem Is Worse Than You Think

You think you just need better focus, another productivity hack, or maybe more caffeine. What if your scrolling habit isn't a brain chemistry issue but something far more sinister actively hunting you? The early church understood something we've forgotten: there's a personal force invested in your wasted hours. Every time you doom scroll instead of doing meaningful work, every YouTube rabbit hole, every "just five minutes" that becomes fifty—it's not random weakness. It's calculated warfare a...

1 month ago

4 minutes

Authentic Masculinity

Monogamy Is Unnatural: Men with Multiple Wives Are Actually Cowards

"Monogamy is unnatural"—you've heard the claim from internet prophets selling evolutionary permission slips for wandering eyes. The argument sounds scientific: real men spread their seed, build harems, maximize genetic legacy. But this liberation delivers a specific form of slavery. Here's what the polygamy peddlers won't admit: the man with multiple baby mamas isn't demonstrating masculine strength—he's revealing his terror of genuine intimacy. Fake connection with ten women will always feel...

1 month ago

6 minutes

Authentic Masculinity

Shut Up and Listen: The One Assumption That Saves Your Marriage

What if the key to becoming a better listener starts with admitting you're terrible at it? Most people assume they're good listeners, then proceed to miss what's actually being said, connect dots that don't exist, and hear words that were never spoken. The gap between physical hearing and genuine understanding creates distance in every relationship you value. When you passively let sounds hit your eardrums without working to comprehend, you miss the tension behind words, fail to ask clarifyin...

1 month ago

3 minutes

Authentic Masculinity

Beyond Lions and Sheep: You Are A Sheep. Who Is Your Shepherd?

You've seen the shirt everywhere—"Lions not sheep"—and something about it resonates. Being an independent thinker, resistant to manipulation, not following the herd. But what if this framework completely misses the point? When you swap CNN for Fox News or trade your governor's advice for that podcaster's wisdom, you haven't become a lion. You've just changed shepherds. The chest-pounding about independence is still herd mentality—you've simply picked a different pen. Here's the uncomfortable ...

1 month ago

5 minutes

Authentic Masculinity

Beneath the Rage: Processing Male Anger Without Sinning

When you explode at the driver who cuts you off or sulk when your boss ignores your input, you think anger is the problem. What if your anger is actually protecting you from something more uncomfortable? Most men cycle between hostile outbursts and withdrawn pouting without understanding what's beneath the surface. You feel the rage, either unleash it or stuff it down, then wonder why relationships suffer. The biblical command seems impossible—be angry and do not sin—until you grasp what ange...

1 month ago

9 minutes

Authentic Masculinity

The Therapy Epidemic: When Paid Support Replaces Real Connection

"Should I go to therapy?" sounds simple until you realize you might be asking the wrong question entirely. What if the normalized path to mental health support has become an escape from something more fundamental you're meant to face? Paying someone for emotional support has become easier than looking a friend in the eye and admitting struggle. This paid vulnerability feels safer than real connection, yet perpetuates the isolation it claims to solve—emotional outsourcing that replaces what fr...

2 months ago

6 minutes

Authentic Masculinity

The Conflict Paradox: Why Peace-Seeking Men Often Create More Problems

"If possible, so far as it depends on you, live peaceably with all." But what happens when pursuing true peace requires initiating conflict? This episode exposes the hidden cost of conflict avoidance that plagues many relationships. From Adam's blame-shifting in the garden to our own defensive reactions, the pattern of dodging necessary confrontation creates a false peace that ultimately satisfies no one. Discover why even Jesus—the Prince of Peace—regularly initiated conflict rather than set...

2 months ago

8 minutes

Authentic Masculinity

Breaking Generational Patterns: Why You Keep Becoming Your Father Despite Your Best Intentions

You swore you'd never repeat those patterns, yet here you are—responding to your children exactly as your father did to you. This episode explores the powerful force of generational patterns that pull us into behaviors we've explicitly rejected. Through the biblical story of Isaac unwittingly repeating Abraham's exact sin, we discover why awareness alone isn't enough to break the cycle. These inherited patterns aren't your fault, but they are unmistakably your responsibility—especially as you...

2 months ago

9 minutes

Authentic Masculinity

The Idiot Dilemma: Finding Christ's Balance Between Judgment and Compassion

When you spot someone doing something objectively foolish—the teenager without a helmet doing wheelies near toddlers, the man demanding fairy pronouns—what's your instinctive response? This episode explores the challenging tension between labeling folly accurately and falling into smug self-righteousness. Christ modeled a clear approach: He named sin without hesitation while maintaining genuine compassion for the sinner. Both modern extremes fail—refusing to call anything foolish abandons tru...

2 months ago

6 minutes

Authentic Masculinity

The Minimum Viable Dose: Physical Disciplines for Men Who Hate Exercise

What's the least amount of exercise you can get away with while still honoring your body? This episode cuts through fitness industry maximalism to reveal the true minimum requirements for long-term health in a world of time scarcity and caloric abundance. One grandfather's experience growing up in the depression upends everything you thought about food preferences and frames the discussion for why your physical discipline needs look nothing like your ancestors'. As you navigate time scarcity ...

3 months ago

8 minutes

Authentic Masculinity

The Want-to-Want Principle: A Revolutionary Approach to Desire

What if the key to transformation isn't willpower but a simple shift in how you approach your desires? This episode introduces a life-changing principle hidden in plain sight: Do not do what you want—do what you want to want. The competing desires within you aren't a design flaw but evidence of being made in God's image. When Jesus first speaks in John's Gospel, he asks a striking question: "What do you want?" This reveals his interest not just in changing your behavior but rewiring your want...

3 months ago

3 minutes

Authentic Masculinity

The Bottom-Up Solution: Why Your Mental Health Starts With Your Body

When you're stuck in a funk, conventional wisdom says "fix your thinking first." But what if that approach has it exactly backward? This episode challenges the soul-body hierarchy most men have accepted without question. The biblical narrative presents humans not as souls trapped in bodies, but as "in-souled bodies"—a distinction that transforms how we should approach depression, anxiety, and spiritual disconnection. Discover how God's treatment of Elijah's suicidal thoughts began with sleep ...

3 months ago

6 minutes

Authentic Masculinity

How to Pray: Simple Framework for Powerful Connection

"Am I praying or just talking to myself?" If you've ever wondered this question, you're not alone. This episode cuts through the confusion about prayer to reveal a straightforward approach that transforms scattered thoughts into meaningful conversation with God. Between Christians who struggle with prayer and non-believers who surprisingly claim answered prayers, the conversation around spiritual connection has become increasingly muddled. Discover how a simple four-part framework—built direc...

3 months ago

9 minutes

Authentic Masculinity

The Lost Art of Confession: Why Men Who Hide Never Heal

The moment someone asks "How was your day?" and you respond with "Fine" - you've missed an opportunity that's more powerful than you realize. This episode exposes the hidden cost of living unconfessed in a culture that encourages men to maintain a façade. Beyond the religious connotation of admitting sins, true confession is about something far more fundamental—the courage to translate your inner world into language others can understand. The inability to name what's happening inside you crea...

4 months ago

7 minutes

Authentic Masculinity

When Life Sucks: The Masculine Guide to Disappointment

The rejected job application. The wife who sends you to the couch. The contract that falls through. This episode confronts those moments when disappointment crashes into your life with crushing weight—and why your initial instincts might be exactly wrong. Men typically respond to disappointment in two ways: checking out through medication and distraction, or lashing out with anger and aggression. Both reactions seem hardwired into our nervous systems, yet both lead away from growth rather tha...

4 months ago

7 minutes

Authentic Masculinity

The Imposter's Guide to Spiritual Leadership: Leading When You Don't Feel Qualified

"How can I lead my family spiritually when I'm still struggling with my own faith?" This question haunts countless men who feel the weight of biblical responsibility but carry a deep sense of personal inadequacy. This episode tackles the apparent contradiction head-on. The tension between spiritual insecurity and spiritual leadership creates a paralysis that keeps many men from ever starting. Discover why this very insecurity might actually be your greatest qualification rather than a disqual...

4 months ago

7 minutes