Leave a message & include your contact or I won't know it's you. The New Year is soon! So let's dive in to being a Better You. Do you ever feel like you’re stuck in life — spinning your wheels, starting over and over but never following through? Maybe you’ve tried to eat healthier, save money, be a better partner, or show up as the mom you want to be… but no matter how hard you try, you just can’t seem to stick with it. That constant cycle of starting, failing, and feeling like you’re not...

Leave a message & include your contact or I won't know it's you. Free Starter Pack with "how to truly stay no contact" https://www.radiatenrise.com/survivor-starter-pack It’s officially Hoover Season — that magical time of year when toxic exes suddenly remember you exist and send a “Merry Christmas ❤️” text that derails your entire night. If you’ve ever felt your heart drop, your stomach twist, or your brain spiral from one message… this episode is for you. We’re breaking down why narciss...

Leave a message & include your contact or I won't know it's you. If the holidays hit you harder than any other time of year, you are not alone — and nothing is wrong with you. In this episode, we’re digging into why December activates old emotional wounds, resurfaces trauma you thought you healed, and pulls you back into patterns, people, and feelings you’ve outgrown. We break down what I call the Holiday Regression Effect — the way your nervous system remembers past experiences, holiday ...

Leave a message & include your contact or I won't know it's you. If December turns you into everyone’s emotional paramedic, this episode is your intervention. We’re unpacking the Holiday Savior Complex, that sneaky trauma-driven pattern where you over-function, over-give, manage everyone’s moods, smooth over conflict, and basically try to save the entire holiday season from falling apart. And yes… we’re going there with adults and kids. I’m breaking down why survivors of emotional ...

Leave a message & include your contact or I won't know it's you. Today I am shedding light on the unique challenges faced by abuse victims and survivors during the holiday season—dubbed "Stressmas." As the festive spirit envelops many, those navigating abuse often find themselves in heightened stress, facing tactics from their abusers that intensify during this time. The episode delves into the common challenges victims experience, exploring the ways abusers may escalate tactics and creat...

Send us a text In this eye-opening episode, we unravel the intriguing complexities behind the world of positive affirmations and why they so often don’t work. We explore the profound impact of subconscious communication, emphasizing the transformative power of images, stories, and analogies that speak directly to the deeper layers of your mind. Discover why positive affirmations can actually backfire—creating cognitive dissonance and even self-gaslighting when your conscious mind repeats word...

Send us a text Have you read all the books, journaled your heart out, listened to the podcasts, and done all the work — yet still wake up anxious, triggered, or doubting your worth? You’re not broken. You’re just trying to heal with the wrong tools. In this episode, emotional healing coach Allison K. Dagney reveals the real reason survivors stay stuck even after months or years of “doing the work.” You’ll learn why conscious mindset tools don’t always reach the subconscious beliefs that drive...

Send us a text Have you ever felt a wave of guilt the moment you finally laughed, smiled, or felt a spark of joy after abuse? You’re not alone. For many survivors, healing can feel like betrayal — especially when your kids, family, or others are still struggling. In this raw and honest episode, Allison K. Dagney, survivor, author, and subconscious reprogramming expert, breaks down why joy can feel unsafe and how subconscious beliefs keep you stuck in guilt. You’ll hear the hidden thoughts tha...

Send us a text After emotional abuse, solitude can feel like safety. You tell yourself, I’m fine on my own. I don’t need anyone. But what if that fierce independence—the “lone wolf” mindset—is actually what’s keeping you from healing? In this episode, author and subconscious-reprogramming coach Allison K. Dagney exposes the hidden cost of trying to heal alone. You’ll learn why isolation keeps your nervous system in survival mode, how hyper-independence is a trauma response, and what happens w...

Send us a text The wounds of emotional abuse aren’t always visible. Survivors often carry scars that the outside world can’t see—feelings of isolation, anxiety, self-doubt, and the deep loss of identity. These are the hidden costs of emotional abuse, and they are just as damaging as physical violence. In this final episode of the Domestic Violence Awareness Month series, Allison K. Dagney—survivor, author, and subconscious reprogramming expert—shines a light on the long-term impacts of abuse ...

Send us a text “Why didn’t you just leave?” It’s the question survivors of abuse hear the most—and the one that causes the deepest shame. The truth is, leaving an abusive relationship isn’t simple. The reason is something called the cycle of abuse and trauma bonding. In honor of Domestic Violence Awareness Month, Allison K. Dagney—survivor, author, and subconscious reprogramming expert—explains why survivors feel trapped even when they want to escape. In this episode, you’ll learn: The ...

Send us a text Most people think abuse has to be physical or obvious to “count.” The truth? Some of the most damaging forms of emotional abuse are subtle, confusing, and hard to explain—yet they leave deep scars. In honor of Domestic Violence Awareness Month, Allison K. Dagney—survivor, author, and subconscious reprogramming expert—exposes the lesser-known tactics of abuse that rarely get talked about: The intrusive stare that silently intimidatesNegging and backhanded compliments that chip a...

Send us a text When you’ve lived through emotional abuse, the very idea of a healthy, loving relationship can feel like a fantasy. Maybe you’ve never experienced respect, true friendship, or kindness in a partner. Maybe you’ve been told—through words or through wounds—that love is supposed to be hard, painful, or disappointing. And maybe you secretly believe that happy marriages are reserved for other people, not for you. That’s exactly why I invited Michelle W. Lentz, author of Hey Beginner ...

Send us a text October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month, and in this episode of Be A Better You Podcast, Allison K. Dagney—survivor, author, and subconscious reprogramming expert—pulls back the curtain on 3 key ways emotional abuse presents itself. Emotional abuse isn’t always screaming, yelling, or physical violence. More often, it shows up as gaslighting, coercive control, minimization, and subtle psychological manipulation that makes you question your worth, your memory, and even your ...

Send us a text Going through a high-conflict divorce can feel overwhelming, isolating, and downright scary. In this rapid-fire episode of Be A Better You Podcast, host Allison K. Dagney sits down with Certified Divorce Coach Chantal Contorines to answer the toughest questions women face when divorcing a high-conflict personality. You’ll learn: How to recognize high-conflict behaviors and protect yourselfThe biggest mistakes to avoid in communication and co-parentingWhy documentation and bound...

Send us a text Do you feel guilty for being angry about what happened to you? Survivors of emotional abuse are often told to “forgive and forget,” or they fear that expressing anger will make them just like their abuser. But here’s the truth: your anger is not only valid—it’s necessary for healing. In this episode of Be A Better You Podcast, host and subconscious reprogramming expert Allison K. Dagney explains why anger is a healthy, protective emotion and not a sign of being “stuck.” You’ll ...

Send us a text Do you beat yourself up with the thought, “I should’ve left sooner”? Survivors of emotional abuse often live with deep regret, believing they wasted years or failed themselves and their children by staying too long. But here’s the truth: you couldn’t have left any earlier—because your brain and nervous system were working to keep you alive. In this episode of Be A Better You Podcast, host and subconscious reprogramming expert Allison K. Dagney explains the real science behind w...

Send us a text Do you replay your past and think, “I should’ve known better”? Survivors of emotional abuse often torture themselves with regret, believing they failed by not recognizing the truth sooner. But here’s the reality: you couldn’t have known better at the time—because abuse clouds judgment, rewires the brain, and makes survival feel safer than clarity. In this episode of Be A Better You Podcast, host and subconscious reprogramming expert Allison K. Dagney explains why survivors carr...

Send us a text Do you ever catch yourself thinking, “I should’ve seen the signs of abuse”? If you’ve been replaying your past and blaming yourself for not noticing the red flags, this episode will bring you relief and clarity. The truth is, you couldn’t have known—because abusers hide the warning signs on purpose. In this episode of Be A Better You Podcast, host and subconscious reprogramming expert Allison K. Dagney explains why survivors of emotional abuse aren’t meant to spot the red flags...

Send us a text Struggling to make decisions after emotional abuse? You’re not alone. Survivors often face crippling self-doubt, fear of making the “wrong” choice, and the exhausting cycle of second-guessing themselves. In this episode of Be A Better You Podcast, host and subconscious reprogramming expert Allison K. Dagney explains why survivors get stuck in indecision, how abuse wires the brain to fear choice, and the exact steps you can take to rebuild self-trust. You’ll hear real client and...