In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman addresses a fascinating question from a coaching call about whether couples receive the same information from the same course. She explains how different interpretations arise due to the brain's filtering and meaning-making processes. She emphasizes the importance of curiosity and communication in bridging these gaps in understanding, using this phenomenon as an opportunity to build empathy and rapport within relationships.
00:00 Introduction to Better Sex
00:30 Fascinating Coaching Call Question
01:32 Understanding Different Perspectives
02:27 Neuroscience of Perception
04:03 Interpreting and Challenging Thoughts
05:57 Building Empathy and Rapport
06:19 Conclusion and Listener Engagement
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In this episode of the Better Sex podcast, host Jessa Zimmerman engages in a meaningful conversation with Vanessa Carlisle about reclaiming intimacy and pleasure after addiction and trauma. Vanessa discusses her personal and professional experience in navigating violence, trauma, and sex work. They explore the gaps in support for sexual recovery among trauma and addiction survivors, the cultural and systemic challenges in discussing sexuality, and the path to reconnecting with one's body and pleasure. Vanessa emphasizes the importance of self-awareness, sensory pleasure, and effective communication in intimate relationships. The episode also highlights the role of community and support networks in healing and thriving.
00:00 Introduction to Better Sex
00:49 Reclaiming Pleasure After Trauma
01:51 Personal and Professional Insights
03:51 Challenges in Recovery and Sexuality
05:53 Impact of Trauma on Sexual Behavior
07:05 Navigating Sobriety and Intimacy
09:09 Sex Work, Substance Use, and Trauma
13:18 Seeking Healing and Integration
18:16 Path to Self-Awareness and Connection
21:06 Taking It Slow: Understanding Your Pace
22:06 Communicating with Your Partner
24:52 Navigating Hookups and Relationships
27:52 The Importance of Self-Care
28:38 Exploring Themes in My Novel
30:27 Vision for a Connected World
36:31 Upcoming Events and Resources
38:45 Conclusion and Final Thoughts
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Bio:
Vanessa Carlisle, PhD, MFA (they/them), is an author, coach, and educator in the fields of gender, sexuality, and trauma. Dr. Carlisle’s lived experience includes over twenty-five years in sex work and fifteen years of advocacy for the sex-working community. As a survivor of both intimate partner and institutional violence, Dr. Carlisle now crafts programs that combat stigma and improve conditions for their communities, including trauma-informed self-defense training, somatic coaching, and end-of-life care services.
Along with many essays and articles, Dr. Carlisle authored the award-winning novel Take Me with You about a queer sex worker who must face her grief to be able to build the life she wants. Learn more about them at www.vanessacarlisle.com.
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Podcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.com
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In this episode of the Better Sex Podcast, host Jessa Zimmerman welcomes guest Cory Allen to discuss the concept of learning to love the spouse you have, rather than an idealized version of them. They delve into topics such as managing expectations, taking personal responsibility, and the challenges that arise in intimate relationships. Cory emphasizes that love has no strings attached and involves acceptance as well as personal growth. They also discuss the importance of owning one's choices, the stages of relationship evolution, and dealing with significant issues like financial deceit or addiction. This conversation includes practical advice for maintaining love and connection while navigating the complexities of marriage.
00:00 Welcome to Better Sex
00:48 Introducing Corey Allan
01:01 Loving the Spouse You Have
01:43 The Idealized Spouse
04:12 Phases of a Relationship
11:18 The Evolution of Marriage
14:52 Desire Discrepancy Resources
15:18 Sexual Expectations and Realities
17:03 Facing Relationship Challenges
21:26 Savoring Intimacy: Slowing Down for Connection
22:33 Navigating Sexual Differences in Marriage
23:22 Embracing Choices in Relationships
24:06 Personal Growth Through Challenges
25:08 Handling Minor Annoyances with Grace
30:15 Confronting Major Relationship Issues
32:03 The Courage to Love and Grow
37:02 The Evolution of Marriage
37:51 Where to Find More Resources
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Bio:
Corey Allan (if you want to be formal it’s Dr. Corey Allan, but he's usually pretty casual) is a husband, father, author, speaker, as well as a Marriage and Family Therapist with a Ph.D. in Family Therapy. He and his wife Pam host a weekly podcast, Sexy Marriage Radio, where they help frame conversations and actions that help couples create a marriage fully alive.
Corey has a practice online and is the founder of SMR, an online resource aimed at helping marriages not just survive, but thrive.
Marriage is more about developing character and wisdom as a human than it is about the two people being happy.
Love is a process, not just a feeling. It produces action. Added to this, life is choice (so is marriage). Therefore we work to help people:
Grow deeper Spiritually
Keep it simple
Be passionate
Live in community with others
Enjoy the ride
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How Big a Problem is Your Sex Life? Quiz – https://www.sexlifequiz.com
The Course – https://www.intimacywithease.com
The Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.com
Podcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.com
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In this episode of the Better Sex Podcast, hosted by sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman, the focus is on helping partners with low or zero libido. Jessa discusses strategies to uncover obstacles that block desire, such as health issues, trauma, and mental health concerns, and provides methods to unlock potential desire. She highlights the concept of reactive desire and offers practical advice, encouraging solo exploration, use of fantasies, and finding alternative ways to share pleasure and connection with a partner, even one of you have zero desire for sex.
00:00 Introduction to Better Sex
01:00 Understanding Low Libido
01:31 Identifying Obstacles to Desire
02:01 Unlocking Reactive Desire
04:00 Exploring Solo Pleasure and Fantasy
05:25 Sharing Pleasure with Your Partner
06:37 Acceptance and New Norms
07:27 Final Thoughts and Encouragement
08:16 Closing Remarks
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Secret Podcast for the Higher Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/hdppodcast
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How Big a Problem is Your Sex Life? Quiz – https://www.sexlifequiz.com
The Course – https://www.intimacywithease.com
The Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.com
Podcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.com
Access the Free webinar: Intimacy Made Easy: 3 Secrets to Bridging Libido Differences: https://intimacywithease.com/masterclass
In this episode of the Better Sex Podcast, host and sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman talks with Dr. Jennifer Valli about the impact of prostate cancer and its treatments on sexual health. Dr. Valli shares insights from her personal and professional experiences, emphasizing the lack of information patients often receive about sexual health post-treatment. They discuss the physical and psychological impacts of prostate treatments like prostatectomy and radiation, and the importance of early and consistent penile rehabilitation to maintain and possibly regain sexual function. The episode also delves into practical advice for men and their partners to adapt to changes in their sexual relationships, including tips on dealing with incontinence, changes in orgasm, and how to maintain connection and pleasure. Dr. Valli highlights the importance of communication and exploring new ways to experience intimacy.
00:00 Introduction to Better Sex Podcast
00:47 Guest Introduction: Dr. Jennifer Valli
01:00 Impact of Prostate Cancer Treatments on Sexual Health
02:24 Challenges Men Face Post-Treatment
05:31 Desire, Arousal, and Orgasm Post-Prostatectomy
08:49 Radiation vs. Prostatectomy: Differences in Impact
16:24 Penile Rehabilitation: Methods and Importance
17:53 Practical Tips for Penile Rehabilitation
23:20 Resources and Support for Men
24:46 Mid-Show Break: How to Get Help
25:16 The Long Road of Rehab
25:32 Awareness and Communication in Prostate Cancer Rehab
26:43 Importance of Early and Consistent Penile Rehab
27:53 Managing Incontinence and Sexual Function
30:28 Psychological Aspects of Sexual Dysfunction
37:54 Partner Support and Communication
47:15 Final Thoughts and Resources
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Bio:
Jennifer Valli, PhD, is a seasoned psychotherapist with 30 years of clinical experience in psychiatry. She is a licensed therapist in Tennessee and is nationally certified as a Sex Therapist through AASECT, the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists, a rigorous credentialing program in sex therapy. A portion of Dr. Valli’s AASECT training was completed with faculty from Johns Hopkins University in the area of paraphilias and fetishes. In 2014, she completed a comprehensive post-graduate program in sex therapy at the University of Michigan. She holds a PhD in Clinical Sexology and, as a lifelong learner, earned a second doctorate from the University of Southern California focused on Macro Social Change, Innovation, and Social Work. Dr. Valli is an Assistant Professor at the University of Tennessee Health Science Center and a proud member of both the Urology and OB-GYN departments. She has delivered national presentations on sex after cancer for the American Society of Breast Surgeons Foundation, SMSNA, and OUTCARE, an organization dedicated to improving the quality of care for medical providers working with LGBTQ+ patients. She is so grateful to be with us today.
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Secret Podcast for the Higher Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/hdppodcast
Secret Podcast for the Lower Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/ldppodcast
How Big a Problem is Your Sex Life? Quiz – https://www.sexlifequiz.com
The Course – https://www.intimacywithease.com
The Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.com
Podcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.com
Access the Free webinar: Intimacy Made Easy: 3 Secrets to Bridging Libido Differences: https://intimacywithease.com/masterclass
In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, sex therapist and host Jessa Zimmerman explores the critical importance of focusing on the lower desire partner in relationships struggling with mismatched libidos and desire discrepancy.
Drawing from real insights from a recent couples coaching call, Jessa reveals why higher desire partners need to shift their perspective and develop deeper empathy and understanding for their lower desire counterparts. This episode is essential listening for any couple dealing with libido differences, sexual desire issues, or intimacy challenges.
What You'll Learn:
✅ How to support the low libido partner in your relationship
✅ Effective communication strategies for couples with desire discrepancy
✅ Ways to rebuild trust after sexual tension and conflict
✅ How to create a safe space for vulnerable conversations about sex
✅ Why empathy and patience are crucial for resolving mismatched desire
✅ How to listen to your partner's struggles and pain without rushing to fix everything
✅ Strategies for overcoming sexual tension in long-term relationships
✅ Steps toward achieving a more fulfilling sex life together
Perfect for couples experiencing sexual frustration, relationship conflict, or anyone wanting to improve their sexual relationship and intimate connection.
00:00 Introduction to Better Sex
01:02 The Value of Focusing on the Lower Desire Partner
02:53 Breakthroughs in Communication
06:16 Steps to Reconnect and Understand
09:10 Final Thoughts and Encouragement
09:47 Closing Remarks and Call to Action
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Secret Podcast for the Higher Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/hdppodcast
Secret Podcast for the Lower Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/ldppodcast
How Big a Problem is Your Sex Life? Quiz – https://www.sexlifequiz.com
The Course – https://www.intimacywithease.com
The Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.com
Podcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.com
Access the Free webinar: Intimacy Made Easy: 3 Secrets to Bridging Libido Differences: https://intimacywithease.com/masterclass
Welcome back to the Better Sex Podcast! In this powerful episode, host Jessa Zimmerman reunites with returning guest Rob Kancler for an in-depth conversation about transforming your intimate life through body-based practices.
🔥 WHAT YOU'LL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE:
✨ Erotic Circuitry & Sexual Wellness
Understanding your unique erotic circuitry and how to activate it
Unlocking your full orgasmic potential through body awareness
How to cultivate body intelligence for better sex
💨 Breathwork for Intimacy
The transformative power of the "Yes Breath" technique
Breathing exercises for sexual enhancement
Physiological aspects of breathing and their impact on arousal
❤️ Emotional & Physical Connection
Emotional self-regulation strategies for intimate relationships
How to reconnect with your body for deeper intimacy
The crucial role of emotions in sexual experiences and overall well-being
This episode is packed with practical tips, actionable strategies, and expert guidance to help you enhance your intimate connections, improve relationship satisfaction, and optimize your personal sexual health.
Perfect for anyone looking to:
Improve their sex life naturally
Strengthen intimate relationships
Learn body-based practices for better intimacy
Understand the mind-body connection in sexuality
Develop emotional intelligence in relationships
00:00 Introduction to Better Sex Podcast
00:45 Welcoming Back Rob Kancler
01:47 Exploring Erotic Circuitry
04:32 Understanding Breathwork and Somatics
10:07 The Importance of Emotional Intelligence
11:31 The Role of Cranial Nerves in Emotional and Physical Health
13:24 The Connection Between Emotions and Physical Health
21:33 The Impact of Suppressed Emotions
40:58 Practical Steps to Open Circuitry for Better Sex and Emotional Health
46:12 The Power of Breathing
46:58 Breathing Techniques for Mental Health
48:41 Practical Breathing Exercise
57:01 The Impact of Breathing on Sexual Health
01:00:09 The Role of Emotions in Physical Health
01:03:34 Integrating Breathwork into Daily Life
01:11:20 The Orgasm Reflex and Sexual Potential
01:19:02 Resources and Next Steps
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Bio:
Rob Kancler is an artist, athlete, entrepreneur, and modern mystic. He runs Men of Substance™, a sexual mastery program serving men worldwide. His revolutionary work gives all people access to the profound sexual experiences hidden in the most obscure spiritual traditions—radically expanding a conversation most people take for granted and revealing the blind spots about sex that everyone carries but no one sees. The truth is this quietly keeps men and women from the confidence, vitality, love, meaning, and deeper fulfillment available in every part of life. Check him out at robkancler.com, take the free assessment at bedroomcompass.com, or explore the foundational Men of Substance™ program at robkancler.com/blueprint.
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How Big a Problem is Your Sex Life? Quiz – https://www.sexlifequiz.com
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The Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.com
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In this soapbox episode of the Better Sex Podcast, host Jessa Zimmerman addresses the common misconception that menopause is a temporary phase. She explains that menopause is a permanent change, where hormone production reverts to levels similar to those of a young child. Drawing on a conversation with Dr. Irwin Goldstein, she emphasizes the importance of adapting to or treating this change, often through hormone replacement therapy (HRT). Jessa encourages listeners to research, talk to their doctors, and consider the best approach for them and their partners. She also mentions prior episodes featuring experts on the topic of HRT.
00:00 Introduction to Better Sex
00:44 Soapbox Episode Introduction
01:00 Understanding Menopause: A Permanent Change
01:50 Insights from Dr. Irwin Goldstein
02:47 Hormone Replacement Therapy (HRT) Discussion
03:25 Adapting to Menopause
04:10 Conclusion and Further Resources
04:28 Listener Engagement and Support
04:58 Credits and Acknowledgements
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How Big a Problem is Your Sex Life? Quiz – https://www.sexlifequiz.com
The Course – https://www.intimacywithease.com
The Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.com
Podcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.com
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Jessa Zimmerman, host of Better Sex, welcomes back Jess Levith to discuss 'sexual emergence' – the fluid nature of sexuality and its changes over time. They delve into personal experiences and professional insights, covering the impact of life stages and contexts on sexual identity. Jess Levith explains how her unexpected crush led to a journey of self-discovery and the concept of sexual emergence. They also discuss the application of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) and the 'sexaflex' model in understanding and navigating changes in sexuality. This episode aims to inspire listeners to explore and understand their sexual identity through different life contexts.
00:00 Introduction to Better Sex Podcast
00:46 Guest Introduction: Jess Levith on Sexual Emergence
02:11 Personal Journey and Realization
03:31 Understanding Sexual Emergence
05:30 Sexual Contextualism and Ecosystems
09:58 Exploring Sexual Fluidity
12:26 Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT)
17:22 Practical Applications of ACT in Sexuality
18:34 Introduction to Sex Therapy
18:48 Deconstructing Sexual Issues
19:37 Exploring Values and Spirituality
21:22 Present Time Awareness and Acceptance
23:05 Sexual Emergence and Midlife Challenges
25:48 Proactive Sexual Exploration
28:59 Writing and Resources
31:10 Conclusion and Listener Engagement
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Bio:
Jess Levith is a certified sex therapist through AASECT (the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists) seeing therapy clients within the state of CA. She teaches at various colleges around the Bay Area and has specialized training in Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), Attachment Focused EMDR, Out of ControlSexual Behaviors (OCSB), and Modern Attachment Theory (interpersonal neurobiology).
In the past few years she's taken a deeper dive into buddhist psychology, completing a certificate program at The Institute for Meditation and Psychotherapy. Currently she's working on a book that takes a deep dive into ACT and sexual emergence later in life.
@jesslevith_cst
sexualcontextualism.com
east-baytherapy.com
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n this episode of The Betters Sex Podcast, hosted by sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman, the focus is on exploring the implications of framing sexual desires as needs within intimate relationships. Jessa discusses the potential problems that arise when individuals feel their sexual needs aren't being met by their partners, and stresses the importance of viewing desires from a mutual perspective. She encourages listeners to reflect on what they truly gain from sex and consider if those desires can be met through other means or in varied ways with their partners, emphasizing collaboration and shared experiences for a more fulfilling relationship.
00:00 Introduction to Better Sex
01:06 Exploring Sexual Desires as Needs
02:28 Understanding the Pressures on Sex
04:10 Shifting the Focus to Mutual Desires
06:51 Conclusion and Listener Engagement
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Secret Podcast for the Lower Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/ldppodcast
How Big a Problem is Your Sex Life? Quiz – https://www.sexlifequiz.com
The Course – https://www.intimacywithease.com
The Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.com
Podcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.com
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In this episode of the Better Sex Podcast, hosted by sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman, guests Britton and Carolee share their transformative journey from a strict Mormon upbringing to a deeply connected and sexually fulfilling relationship. They discuss the challenges of infidelity, the lack of support within their church, and the pivotal role of trauma-informed healing practices, including psychedelics and yoga. The couple's story unfolds from dealing with church disciplinary actions to exploring substances like cannabis and mushrooms, leading to profound emotional and sexual healing. They also highlight their decision to leave the church, undertake an 18-month pilgrimage, and engage in extensive self-discovery and spiritual growth. Carlee and Briton's story provides valuable insights into overcoming deep-seated trauma and embracing a life of authenticity and connection.
00:00 Introduction to Better Sex Podcast
00:50 Meet Carolee Britton: A Journey of Transformation
02:05 Struggles Within the Church
03:58 The Healing Process and Discontent
07:48 Exploring New Paths
14:56 The Role of Psychedelics in Healing
16:46 Mushroom Experience and Church Realization
18:31 Carolee's Healing Journey with Mushrooms
20:40 Transforming Sexual Relationships
23:44 Sexual Reeducation and Moving to Bali
26:32 Raising Children with New Perspectives
28:48 Healing from Infidelity
33:35 Promoting Their Healing Journey
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Bio:
Britton and Carolee, raised in the strict dogma of the Mormon church, and with infidelity threatening their marriage and family, found themselves at a cliff’s edge. Through a deep commitment to heal, these two left everything they knew to find themselves. Over a period of five years, they rebooted their relationship and traveled the world seeking their truth with four kids in tow. They have emerged on the other side as an embodied and awakened couple with a powerful message to share.
@ mystic and witch
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In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman explores what it means to have a healthy sexual relationship. She introduces the six principles of sexual health as identified by the World Health Organization: consent, non-exploitation, honesty, shared values, safety, and pleasure. Jessa delves into each principle, explaining its importance and providing insights on how couples can apply these concepts to strengthen their intimate relationships. Listeners are encouraged to reflect on these principles and consider areas where they can improve to enhance their sexual health and relationship satisfaction.
00:00 Introduction to Better Sex
00:48 Defining a Healthy Sexual Relationship
01:56 Principle 1: Consent
04:40 Principle 2: Non-Exploitation
07:01 Principle 3: Honesty
08:25 Principle 4: Shared Values
09:47 Principle 5: Safety
11:08 Principle 6: Pleasure
13:00 Conclusion and Final Thoughts
13:28 Closing Remarks and Call to Action
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How Big a Problem is Your Sex Life? Quiz – https://www.sexlifequiz.com
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The Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.com
Podcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.com
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In this episode of the Better Sex Podcast, host Jessa Zimmerman interviews Lauren Elise Rogers, a certified holistic sexuality educator and intimacy coach. They discuss the journey from a sex-negative upbringing to crafting a fulfilling and values-aligned sex life. Lauren shares her personal story of overcoming restrictive beliefs rooted in a conservative religious background, through education, therapy, and self-discovery. They explore the concept of sexual scripts and the importance of integrating positive sexual beliefs and values into one's life. The discussion touches on the impact of societal and cultural narratives on sexuality, the role of media, and the significance of writing one's own sexual values mission statement. The episode aims to inspire listeners to rethink and reclaim their sexual identities.
00:00 Introduction to Better Sex Podcast
00:48 Guest Introduction: Lauren Elise Rogers
02:02 Lauren's Background and Upbringing
03:47 Marriage and Personal Struggles
05:01 Turning Point and Seeking Help
07:33 Rebuilding and New Beginnings
10:48 Professional Journey and Current Work
13:08 Exploring Sexual Scripts and Beliefs
16:20 Exploring Sexual Scripts and Improv
17:32 Revisiting Sexual Beliefs and Values
19:17 Crafting a Sexual Values Mission Statement
21:33 Integrating Sexuality into Everyday Life
25:00 The Role of Erotic Literature
29:14 Connecting and Resources
30:35 Conclusion and Listener Engagement
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Bio:
Lauren Elise Rogers is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator and Embodied Intimacy & Relationship Coach, celebrated for her warm and approachable style. Her holistic and embodied approach to education and coaching is deeply rooted in her own pain-to-purpose journey. Lauren brings an empathetic and non-judgmental approach, offering practical tools that empower her clients to take ownership of their pleasure and grow in confidence and connection. She is known for creating shame-free spaces, where she invites individuals and couples to navigate complex topics like long-term partnerships, consensual non-monogamy, life transitions, purity culture and LGBTQIA+ issues.
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More info and resources:
Secret Podcast for the Higher Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/hdppodcast
Secret Podcast for the Lower Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/ldppodcast
How Big a Problem is Your Sex Life? Quiz – https://www.sexlifequiz.com
The Course – https://www.intimacywithease.com
The Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.com
Podcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.com
Access the Free webinar: Intimacy Made Easy: 3 Secrets to Bridging Libido Differences: https://intimacywithease.com/masterclass
In this episode of Better Sex, hosted by sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman, listeners are guided through the complexities behind the lack of sexual intimacy in relationships. Zimmerman discusses the factors that contribute to this issue, such as changes in brain chemistry, desire discrepancies, emotional connection, and life stressors. She provides insight into common feelings, like shame and inadequacy, and offers practical strategies for couples to improve their intimate lives. Emphasis is placed on the importance of addressing relationship problems, rediscovering emotional connection, adapting to changes, and open communication without blame. Professional help is recommended for persistent issues, with advice on seeking certified sex therapists. The episode aims to reassure couples that they are not alone and provide actionable steps to enhance their sexual and emotional bonds.
00:00 Introduction to Better Sex Podcast
00:57 Understanding the Lack of Sex in Relationships
01:41 Normalizing Sexual Struggles
03:12 Addressing Desire Discrepancies
04:13 Identifying Relationship Strengths
06:13 Common Reasons for Reduced Sexual Activity
13:06 Rebuilding Emotional and Physical Connection
19:43 Seeking Professional Help
21:16 Conclusion and Final Thoughts
Want to learn more about my sponsored charity? Charity: Water is committed to providing clean water to every human on the planet, 100% of your contribution will be used directly for water projects around the globe. You can learn more at https://www.bettersexpodcast.com/water.
More info and resources:
Secret Podcast for the Higher Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/hdppodcast
Secret Podcast for the Lower Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/ldppodcast
How Big a Problem is Your Sex Life? Quiz – https://www.sexlifequiz.com
The Course – https://www.intimacywithease.com
The Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.com
Podcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.com
Access the Free webinar: Intimacy Made Easy: 3 Secrets to Bridging Libido Differences: https://intimacywithease.com/masterclass
In this episode of the Better Sex Podcast, host Jessa Zimmerman welcomes author Tash Doherty to discuss her work on a spicy coming-of-age novel and a sex writing journal. Doherty shares her goal of helping people explore their sexuality and desires through writing while confronting shame. The conversation delves into her personal experiences, creative process, and the impact of sharing intimate stories publicly. The episode also highlights an upcoming Kickstarter for Doherty's journal, aiming to guide individuals in their sexual exploration. Listeners are encouraged to visit her blog and join the project. Overall, the discussion offers insights into the power of writing to deepen one's understanding of sexuality and reduce shame.
00:00 Introduction to Better Sex Podcast
00:50 Guest Introduction: Tash Doherty
01:41 Tash's Journey in Writing
02:50 Exploring Personal Experiences in Writing
04:30 Challenges and Vulnerabilities in Writing
07:33 The Impact of Writing on Personal Growth
13:23 The Benefits of Sex Journaling
21:38 Kickstarter and Final Thoughts
23:17 Conclusion and Listener Engagement
Want to share your personal story on the podcast? It can be done anonymously. Email us at info@intimacywithease.com
Bio:
Tash Doherty is a British-Irish-American writer and author. She is the creator of Misseducated, a blog, and podcast on a mission to help the world be shamelessly sexy. She started writing her first novel, These Perfectly Careless Things, when she was 14 years old and self-published the book in September 2023 (finally achieving her childhood dream). These Perfectly Careless Things is a spicy, coming-of-age Young Adult novel set in London. Tash has also gone viral on TikTok for over-sharing her birth control experience.
Tash graduated from the Wharton School, University of Pennsylvania, where she studied Business Analytics and Management. In other lives, she worked in analytics at Postmates and Vox Media and still does corporate consulting to pay them pesky bills. She lives in Mexico City.
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Want to learn more about my sponsored charity? Charity: Water is committed to providing clean water to every human on the planet, 100% of your contribution will be used directly for water projects around the globe. You can learn more at https://www.bettersexpodcast.com/water.
More info and resources:
Secret Podcast for the Higher Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/hdppodcast
Secret Podcast for the Lower Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/ldppodcast
How Big a Problem is Your Sex Life? Quiz – https://www.sexlifequiz.com
The Course – https://www.intimacywithease.com
The Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.com
Podcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.com
Access the Free webinar: Intimacy Made Easy: 3 Secrets to Bridging Libido Differences: https://intimacywithease.com/masterclass
Why do women fake orgasm — and what does it really mean for the relationship? In this video, we dive deep into the real reasons women pretend to climax, from avoiding conflict and protecting their partner’s ego to feeling pressure to “perform.” You’ll learn what’s actually happening beneath the surface, why faking it can create emotional distance, and how couples can rebuild honesty, safety, and genuine pleasure in bed.
If you’ve ever wondered:
Why do women fake orgasm even when they love their partner?
What does it say about desire, communication, or compatibility?
How can couples start having real, connected sex again?
This conversation will help you understand the dynamics at play — and how to shift from performance to true intimacy.
Listen now to explore the psychology behind why women fake orgasm, and how both partners can move toward honesty, ease, and real satisfaction.
00:00 Introduction to Better Sex
00:56 Why Women Fake Orgasms
03:09 The Cost of Faking Orgasms
04:21 How to Address Faking Orgasms with Your Partner
04:55 A Real-Life Example
06:44 Encouragement for Open Communication
07:46 Conclusion and Listener Engagement
Want to learn more about my sponsored charity? Charity: Water is committed to providing clean water to every human on the planet, 100% of your contribution will be used directly for water projects around the globe. You can learn more at https://www.bettersexpodcast.com/water.
More info and resources:
Secret Podcast for the Higher Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/hdppodcast
Secret Podcast for the Lower Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/ldppodcast
How Big a Problem is Your Sex Life? Quiz – https://www.sexlifequiz.com
The Course – https://www.intimacywithease.com
The Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.com
Podcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.com
Access the Free webinar: Intimacy Made Easy: 3 Secrets to Bridging Libido Differences: https://intimacywithease.com/masterclass
Should You Take HRT? | Hormone Replacement, Menopause & Perimenopause Explained
Are you navigating perimenopause or menopause and wondering, “should I take HRT?” In this video, Dr. Sarah Daccarett and I break down hormone replacement therapy (HRT), how it works, risks, benefits, and who might be a good candidate. We also explore the hormonal shifts during perimenopause and menopause, and ways to manage symptoms naturally (or with medical support).
Topics covered include:
What HRT is and how it replaces lost estrogen and progesterone
Typical symptoms of perimenopause and menopause (hot flashes, low libido, mood swings, vaginal dryness)
Pros and cons of taking hormone replacement therapy
Different HRT options: bioidentical vs. synthetic, delivery methods (pills, patches, creams)
Underlying health factors to consider (heart health, cancer risk, bone density)
Signs that HRT may be helpful — and when to avoid it
Complementary strategies: diet, lifestyle, herbal supports, stress reduction
How to talk to your doctor about HRT and make an informed decision
If you're asking, “Is it safe? Will it help me feel like myself again?” — this is the conversation for you.
00:00 Introduction to Better Sex Podcast
00:51 Guest Introduction: Dr. Sarah Dakkar on Hormone Balance
01:32 Dr. Dakkar's Journey into Hormone Therapy
02:11 Understanding Hormone Imbalances
03:24 Challenges and Misconceptions in Hormone Therapy
05:14 Common Hormone Imbalances and Their Effects
12:21 Environmental and Lifestyle Factors
18:15 Sexual Health and Hormone Imbalances
20:37 The Role of Estrogen in Women's Health
21:56 Challenges Women Face with Medical Professionals
23:04 Effective Hormone Replacement Therapy
25:41 Understanding Individualized Treatment
29:41 Risks and Benefits of HRT
34:45 Product Information and Accessibility
37:03 Conclusion and Resources
Want to learn more about my sponsored charity? Charity: Water is committed to providing clean water to every human on the planet, 100% of your contribution will be used directly for water projects around the globe. You can learn more at https://www.bettersexpodcast.com/water.
More info and resources:
Secret Podcast for the Higher Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/hdppodcast
Secret Podcast for the Lower Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/ldppodcast
How Big a Problem is Your Sex Life? Quiz – https://www.sexlifequiz.com
The Course – https://www.intimacywithease.com
The Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.com
Podcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.com
Access the Free webinar: Intimacy Made Easy: 3 Secrets to Bridging Libido Differences: https://intimacywithease.com/masterclass
Can a Sexless Marriage Be Happy? | Understanding Low Desire, Intimacy, and Relationship Satisfaction
Can a marriage without sex still be a happy one? In this episode, we explore what it really means to be in a sexless marriage—from couples who are mutually content without sex to those where one partner feels lonely, rejected, or frustrated.
We’ll look at the common reasons for a sexless marriage, including conflict, emotional distance, mismatched libidos, sexual dysfunction, trauma, menopause, and avoidance patterns that quietly erode connection over time. You’ll learn practical steps to rebuild intimacy, overcome sexual avoidance, and start creating a healthy, fulfilling sexual relationship again.
And for those facing a partner who’s unwilling to address the issue, we’ll talk about what it means to choose happiness, fulfillment, and self-respect—whether or not the sexual dynamic ever changes.
If you’ve ever wondered whether love can last without sex—or how to bring desire back when it’s faded—this conversation is for you.
00:00 Introduction to Better Sex
00:58 Can You Be Happy in a Sexless Marriage?
01:47 Understanding the Causes of a Sexless Marriage
02:27 Addressing Sexual Avoidance and Rebuilding Intimacy
05:26 When One Partner is Unwilling to Work on the Relationship
06:03 Making the Final Decision
07:36 Conclusion and Final Thoughts
Want to learn more about my sponsored charity? Charity: Water is committed to providing clean water to every human on the planet, 100% of your contribution will be used directly for water projects around the globe. You can learn more at https://www.bettersexpodcast.com/water.
More info and resources:
Secret Podcast for the Higher Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/hdppodcast
Secret Podcast for the Lower Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/ldppodcast
How Big a Problem is Your Sex Life? Quiz – https://www.sexlifequiz.com
The Course – https://www.intimacywithease.com
The Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.com
Podcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.com
Access the Free webinar: Intimacy Made Easy: 3 Secrets to Bridging Libido Differences: https://intimacywithease.com/masterclass
In this episode of the Better Sex Podcast, host Jessa Zimmerman welcomes Dr. Winnifred Cutler to discuss her extensive research on pheromones and their impact on human sexuality. Dr. Cutler, a passionate researcher, shares her journey from psychology graduate student to becoming a leading expert in the field of pheromones. The conversation covers the history of pheromones, the different types, and their effects on human attraction, fertility, and romantic behavior. Dr. Cutler also highlights her development of pheromone products and shares testimonials of their impactful use. Tune in to learn about pheromones' scientific basis and their potential to enhance intimate relationships.
00:00 Introduction to Better Sex Podcast
00:53 Guest Introduction: Dr. Winnifred Cutler
01:53 Dr. Cutler's Journey into Pheromone Research
03:33 Understanding Pheromones
04:54 Types of Pheromones
07:17 Sex Attractant Pheromones
10:57 Developing Pheromone Products
13:32 Testing and Results
18:59 Pheromones for Men
21:37 Chemical Compounds and Romantic Gestures
21:56 Tracking Sexual Behaviors
24:04 Testimonials and Effects of Pheromones
26:32 Natural Production of Pheromones
29:50 Pheromones and Same-Sex Attraction
30:58 Global Reach and Customer Insights
33:57 Impact of Pheromones in Academic Settings
38:48 Athena Institute and Women's Health
40:35 Conclusion and Podcast Information
Jessa's desire discrepancy resources can be found at https://www.desirediscrepancy.com
Bio:
Dr. Winnifred Cutler, B.S. in Psychology cum laude from Ursinus College in 1973, earned her Ph.D. in Biology from the University of Pennsylvania in 1979 followed by postdoctoral work in behavioral endocrinology at Stanford University. In 1985 she co-founded the Women's Wellness Program at the Hospital of the University of Pennsylvania. She has published over 50 scientific papers, is co-inventor on 5 patents and author of eight books on women's health translated into 7 languages - including the 2020 (3rd) edition of Love Cycles: The Science of Intimacy chronicling both her discovery of Human Pheromones and development of successful formulas as well as her book, Hormones and Your Health: The Smart Woman's Guide to Hormonal and Alternative Therapies for Menopause with essential information for women over age 35 to achieve their 'personal-best' health.
Want to learn more about my sponsored charity? Charity: Water is committed to providing clean water to every human on the planet, 100% of your contribution will be used directly for water projects around the globe. You can learn more at https://www.bettersexpodcast.com/water.
More info and resources:
Secret Podcast for the Higher Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/hdppodcast
Secret Podcast for the Lower Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/ldppodcast
How Big a Problem is Your Sex Life? Quiz – https://www.sexlifequiz.com
The Course – https://www.intimacywithease.com
The Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.com
Podcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.com
Access the Free webinar: Intimacy Made Easy: 3 Secrets to Bridging Libido Differences: https://intimacywithease.com/masterclass
In this episode of The Better Sex Podcast, host and sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman discusses the crucial role of experiential practice in improving intimate relationships. She underscores the importance of embodying the knowledge gained through communication, challenging myths about sex, and understanding desire. Drawing on her Intimacy With Ease Method, Zimmerman highlights the need for hands-on experiences to truly transform one's sex life. Listeners are provided with valuable resources and are encouraged to actively practice the concepts discussed to achieve meaningful change in their intimate lives.
00:00 Introduction to Better Sex
01:02 The Importance of Experiential Practice
01:21 The Intimacy with Ease Method
02:55 Practical Exercises and Analogies
03:39 The Giver Receiver Exercise
04:39 The Role of Experiential Learning in Sex Therapy
05:35 Resources and Conclusion
Want to learn more about my sponsored charity? Charity: Water is committed to providing clean water to every human on the planet, 100% of your contribution will be used directly for water projects around the globe. You can learn more at https://www.bettersexpodcast.com/water.
More info and resources:
Secret Podcast for the Higher Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/hdppodcast
Secret Podcast for the Lower Desire Partner: https://www.intimacywithease.com/ldppodcast
How Big a Problem is Your Sex Life? Quiz – https://www.sexlifequiz.com
The Course – https://www.intimacywithease.com
The Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.com
Podcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.com
Access the Free webinar: Intimacy Made Easy: 3 Secrets to Bridging Libido Differences: https://intimacywithease.com/masterclass