Families fall apart not because of big issues, but because no one ever learns the difference between a preference and a principle. In this episode, we break down one of the most important frameworks for raising kids, parenting adult children, and building a healthy marriage. If your home feels tense, misunderstood, or stuck in cycles of conflict, this conversation will give you language, clarity, and direction.We talk about why some parents lose influence, why adult children pull away, and how families confuse “non-negotiables” with personal preferences. You’ll hear real stories about raising sons, navigating church expectations, dealing with kids moving in with partners, communication breakdowns, and how to rebuild connection without compromising truth.Whether you're an empty nester, a young family, or somewhere in the middle, this episode will help you communicate better, set healthier boundaries, and understand what actually matters long term.In This Episode:The difference between preferences vs principles in real family decisionsHow to parent adult children without pushing them awayMaintaining influence vs controlling their choicesWhen to speak up and when to stay silentHow faith impacts family values and non-negotiablesWhy some “principles” are actually preferences in disguiseHow unmet expectations create conflict between parents and kidsNavigating kids moving in with partners before marriageCommunication strategies that build trust instead of resentmentWhat rules should exist when kids still live at homeHow to create safety without abandoning your convictionsGrab Lance's Book "The Legacy Navigator" Here: https://a.co/d/dNLqB4MSteal Lance & Allison's discussion guide for getting on the same page every month: thelancewelch.com/firstfriday

Every parent wants to be “fair,” but what if treating your kids the same is actually damaging communication, creating unnecessary conflict, and shutting down connection? In this episode, we break down the four core personality types we’ve seen across 30+ years of parenting, how they show up in your home, and the exact communication shifts that instantly change the atmosphere between you, your spouse, and your kids.Whether you’re raising a strong-willed/driven child, a social connector, a steady processor, or a deep thinker, this episode will help you understand your child’s wiring so you can communicate with clarity, reduce frustration, and build real connection.We share the mistakes we made, what we wish we knew years earlier, and the parenting frameworks that transformed our home.In this episode, we cover:• Why “treating kids equally” often backfires• The 4 personality styles every child falls into• How your communication style may be hurting connection• What driven/strong-willed kids actually need from you• Why social kids struggle with follow-through• How steady, sensitive kids process tension• How deep thinkers respond to rules, discipline, and conflict• The biggest parenting blind spot we didn’t see until adulthood• How to repair connection at ANY age (8, 18, 28, even 58)Grab Lance's Book "The Legacy Navigator" Here: https://a.co/d/dNLqB4MSteal Lance & Allison's discussion guide for getting on the same page every month: thelancewelch.com/firstfriday

Every parent wants to be “fair,” but what if treating your kids the same is actually damaging communication, creating unnecessary conflict, and shutting down connection? In this episode, we break down the four core personality types we’ve seen across 30+ years of parenting, how they show up in your home, and the exact communication shifts that instantly change the atmosphere between you, your spouse, and your kids.Whether you’re raising a strong-willed/driven child, a social connector, a steady processor, or a deep thinker, this episode will help you understand your child’s wiring so you can communicate with clarity, reduce frustration, and build real connection.We share the mistakes we made, what we wish we knew years earlier, and the parenting frameworks that transformed our home.In this episode, we cover:• Why “treating kids equally” often backfires• The 4 personality styles every child falls into• How your communication style may be hurting connection• What driven/strong-willed kids actually need from you• Why social kids struggle with follow-through• How steady, sensitive kids process tension• How deep thinkers respond to rules, discipline, and conflict• The biggest parenting blind spot we didn’t see until adulthood• How to repair connection at ANY age (8, 18, 28, even 58)Grab Lance's Book "The Legacy Navigator" Here: https://a.co/d/dNLqB4MSteal Lance & Allison's discussion guide for getting on the same page every month: thelancewelch.com/firstfriday

Navigating the holidays with adult children, in-laws, blended families, and changing traditions can feel overwhelming and obligatory. In this episode, we break down the unspoken dynamics that create conflict, disappointment, and distance during the holiday season — and how to rebuild connection without guilt, pressure, or control.Whether you're an empty-nest parent, a couple adjusting to a new family & traditions, or someone carrying old expectations into a new season, this conversation exposes the real reasons holiday drama happens and offers practical ways to experience peace again.Topics covered– Why adult kids pull away during holidays– How control masquerades as love– The grief parents feel but never talk about– Letting go of traditions without losing your family– De-escalating holiday pressure between families– How to build connection through flexibility– Setting expectations as a couple before the chaos hits– The psychology behind feeling “left out”– How gratitude literally rewires the brain– Rebuilding relationships with daughters-in-law, sons-in-law, and grandkids– Why guilt and obligation destroy holiday joy

If you've ever felt disappointed or sad about what your kids have done with their lives, or felt like you didn't do enough, this episode was made with you in mind :)We have had a lot of couple's ask us about what do you do when your kids life looks different than how you expected it to go, and in this episode, we go over things we would tell the younger versions of ourselves of how to set proper expectations with ourselves, our kids, how we would grieve differently etc. We hope this episode blesses you and creates clarity for you and your family- The Welch'sGrab Lance's Book "The Legacy Navigator" Here: https://a.co/d/dNLqB4MSteal Lance & Allison's discussion guide for getting on the same page every month: thelancewelch.com/firstfriday

As grandparents who love our grandkids and spending time with them, we decided to do some research on the positive effects grandparents have on kids, butWith that also comes how do we define healthy grandparenting? What should be the roles of being a grandparent, and how should they interact with the kids? In this episode, we dive into what we found and how it can benefit you at home!Grab Lance's Book "The Legacy Navigator" Here: https://a.co/d/dNLqB4MSteal Lance & Allison's discussion guide for getting on the same page every month: thelancewelch.com/firstfriday

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