Episode 12 Part 2: Danny & Michelle Confirmations of Cheating

Episode 12 Part 1: Motivations for Lying, Effect of Images Popping into the Cheated-On Spouse's Mind

Episode 11 Part 2: Jeff & Tanya Confirmation of Cheating

Episode 11 Part 1: Lying About the "Whys" behind Cheating Behavior

Episode 10 Part 2: Nicole and Dave Confirmation of Cheating

Episode 10 Part 1:   Cheaters' Lies when Confronted About Cheating. Cheaters lie about all aspects of cheating, not just about IF they are cheating. They lie about how many times, where they cheated, how they cheated and most of all WHY they cheated. They often even find a way to blame the cheated-on for their cheating. Emotions Experienced by Cheated-On Spouse. The cheated-on spouse often feels surprised by how much anger they feel toward the person their cheating spouse cheated with. They often feel more hurt than expected, are surprised at feeling relief at discovering they were right about their spouse cheating, and feel a roller coaster of emotions. Common Apps used for Cheating. There a lot of apps commonly used for cheating. Some of these are specifically designed for cheating, others are common apps whose functionality has been taken advantage of by cheaters. We discuss the most common ones that cheaters currently use and why.

Episode 9 Part 2: Stacy & Todd Confirmations of Cheating

Episode 9 Part 1: Support Systems, Vehicles and Work Schedules as Red Flags   Support Systems are critical for physical, mental and emotional health Vehicles can often contain a lot of evidence of cheating, as they are common hiding places for cheaters Work is one of the most common claims to conceal cheating incidents

Episode 8 Part 2: Amy & Chad Confirmations of Cheating

Episode 8 Part 1: Rumors, No Smoke Without Fire, Confessions by Cheating Partners, The Impact of Cheating on a Cheated-on Spouse Rumors, No Smoke without Fire The impact of rumors of cheating on relationships Why do cheaters confess their cheating to others Why do Cheaters' Cheating Partners Confess to the Cheated-On Spouse The Impact of Cheating on a Cheated On Spouse's Feelings of self-worth

Episode 7 Part 2: Michelle & Danny Suspicions of Cheating Arise, Raquel & Kyle Suspicions of Cheating Arise

Episode 7 Part 1: Difficulty in Identifying Emotional Abuse is Occurring, Types of Evidence of Cheating, the Impact of Cheating on a Couple's Sex Life   It is often difficult for people to realize they are being emotionally abused Emotional abusers often don't realize that their behavior is abusive Emotional abusers are often self-centric Types of evidence of cheating, four main categories (claims of others, confessions, physical and witnessing it) The impact of cheating on partners' sexual relationship with each other, misconceptions about this and red flags 

Episode 6 Part 2: Nicole and Dave Suspicions of Cheating Arise, Tanya and Jeff Suspicions of Cheating Arise

Episode 6 Part 1: Why Doesn't Amy Leave? Stacy & Todd's Retaliatory Behavior, Keeping Fit Does Not Guarantee a Partner's Fidelity, Trusting Instincts  Why doesn't Amy leave Chad if she's so lonely? The barriers to leaving and reasons for staying. The impact of avoidant behavior, cheating or emotional abuse on a partner The importance of getting the right kind of help, and harm that can result from wrong help Stacy and Todd's retaliatory behavior pattern, where they respond with harmful behavior if they perceive harm has been done to them Keeping Fit and Looking Good does not guarantee the fidelity of your partner, people cheat on partners who look good and are sought after by the opposite sex all the time If your instincts are telling you something does not sound, true, right or make sense, it probably is because it isn't true

Episode 5 Part 2: Chad & Amy Suspicions of Cheating, Todd & Stacy Suspicions of Cheating   Chad & Amy Suspicions of Cheating Arise. Chad spends far too much time away from home. The word divorce is brought up by Amy. She is achingly lonely. Chad doesn't respond to her efforts to spend time on their marriage. Baffling incidents occur that don't make sense to Amy. Todd & Stacy Suspicions of Cheating Arise. Therapy is only slightly helping. Stacy looks forward to flirting with exes at church each week. Todd engages in behavior that causes another rift in their marriage. The family business gets off the ground. But the business brings problems into the marriage.     

Episode 5 Part 1: Why is Raquel Struggling to Believe Rumors, Telling Someone About a Partner Cheating, Shooting the Messenger, Cheaters Flipping the Script to Impeach the Credibility of Rumors of Their Cheating, Financial Evidence of Cheating   Why is Raquel Struggling to Believe Rumors of Kyle Cheating? Including an upsetting rumor about her husband getting another woman pregnant? What makes it difficult for people to accept that what they are hearing about their spouse from others might be true? The difficulty of reconciling our personal experiences with a person with information that is contrary to that impression of them. Telling someone about their spouse cheating, or rumors of their spouse cheating. Why might it result in a "Shoot the Messenger" situation? The need to be careful in telling someone about their spouse's infidelity. How Cheaters respond to their partner confronting them about rumors regarding their cheating. Cheaters may Flip the Script to Impeach the Credibility of the person sharing the rumors with their partner. Cheaters will often try to develop an "us versus the world" mentality to prevent their partner from believing others outside the marriage about rumors.  Chaters may watch how you respond to different methods of responding, to determine the most effective way to convince their partner that the rumors are not true.   Financial Evidence of Cheating. There is frequently financial evidence of cheating. Charges, Lines of Credit, Secret Credit Cards, Apartments or Rental Properties. 

Episode 4 Part 2: Michelle and Danny After the Alter, Raquel and Kyle After the Alter   Michelle and Danny struggle with intimacy, Michelle is highly uncomfortable with engaging in physical intimacy with Danny. She feels immense guilt over this, but Danny is very understanding. Danny excels at work and they move into a good neighborhood. They have twins and Michelle is determined to get into shape and hopefully that will help solve her intimacy issues. Raquel and Kyle begin their life together, rumors of infidelity begin immediately. Kyle is a huge flirt and will not stop flirting with other women. Raquel finds out she is pregnant, but also finds out a very upsetting rumor.

Episode 4 Part 1: What is Legal Marriage, Is a Cheater Always a Cheater, Changed Appearance is a Sign of Cheating In Episode 4 Part 1, we discuss what Legal Marriage is, it's not about Love. It's about granting rights to the person you are marrying, as to you, including rights to the income you earn and property you accrue. This makes it particularly important that you keep your marriage strong and do not remain married to someone whom you don't want to have those rights. And to be careful not to be in a marriage where harm is occurring. We also discuss whether or not a cheater is always a cheater, and if someone who has been cheated on is less likely to cheat. We end with a discussion of the red flag of a partner altering their appearance and/or carrying items to reapply during the day.

Episode 3 Part 2: Nicole & Dave After the Alter and Tanya & Jeff After the Alter   Things begin to crack immediately for Nicole & Dave, but Dave is able to smooth things over Things are looking really good for Tanya & Jeff, they aren't showing any cracks well into their marriage

Episode 3 Part 1: Lying in Family Law, "It Didn't Mean Anything to Me" and the Impact of Infidelity on Property Division in Divorce We discuss why it's not a good idea to accuse the opposing party of lying in Family Law, and why it's better to use evidence to show that they aren't being honest instead. We discuss the loaded impact of certain words and why it's important to be careful about how you approach your case in the court system. We also discuss the "After the Alter" episodes of both Amy & Chad and Stacey & Todd We discuss the commonly pushed belief that it's somehow "less bad" if infidelity didn't involve emotions versus when it does involve emotions and explore the impact each scenario has on the long-term success of the marriage. We discuss how Infidelity can affect property division in a divorce