Are you struggling with setting healthy boundaries as a Christian? Do you feel guilty saying no or find yourself people-pleasing instead of being honest? In this episode, we dive deep into James 5:12—'Let your yes be yes and your no be no'—to discover what the Bible really says about healthy boundaries in relationships.   Join my membership Dating After Divorce for Christian Women and go  FROM:  A divorced Christian woman over 40 who is wounded, isolated, and paralyzed by fear—carrying shame about her past, believing she's unworthy or "damaged goods," convinced good men don't exist or won't want her, second-guessing her standards, afraid to trust herself picker or date again.  Although she “believes” that there is someone out there for her, she feels hopeless and exhausted at times and doubts that God's plan includes real love for her at this stage of life. TO:  A healed, confident woman who knows and owns her worth in Christ, clearly understands what she wants in a relationship without apology.  Has shifted her limiting beliefs about men, dates with discernment and boundaries (not desperation or fear), and she engages in faith-based dating while continuing her growth, and trusts both herself and God's timing to bring the right man to her.  She is patiently waiting for the right person. If you join me as a founding member, you’ll get first access and a seriously discounted  50 % discounted locked-in for life! rate—even when the price increases later. DM me @relationshipcoach4women on Instagram for more information 

HUMILIATION WOUND -THE CHILDHOOD TRAUMA THAT CREATED THIS:What Actually Happened to You:INJUSTICE WOUND - THE CHILDHOOD TRAUMA THAT CREATED THIS:What Actually Happened to You: listen to the full episode to find out if you need to heal from these traumas and how they are affecting your current adult life in general, not only your love life.   If you’d like to schedule a FREE discovery call with me click the link below: I AM INTERESTED!  🔗  https://forms.gle/LoB9CRzbNEUvPY7e8     Women’s Retreat 2026-Waitlist   🔗   https://forms.gle/SZ2aGP2xUxoutpCR7 Join our Facebook group Dating After Divorce 🔗https://www.facebook.com/groups/1765979270789001/people Similar episodes   EP 31| Why You Can't Trust Good Men - Part 3 The Wound of Betrayal  EP 30| Stop Shape-Shifting Into Who He Wants- Part 2 The Wound of Rejection EP 29| Your Childhood Trauma Is Ruining Your Love Life - Part 1 The Wound of Abandonment

Another year has gone, let the old habits go with that year as well and welcome the new better habits this 2026   Let me teach you how....     If you’d like to schedule a FREE discovery call with me click the link below: I AM INTERESTED!    IG Account: https://www.instagram.com/datingcoach4christianmoms      🔗https://pattymartinlifecoach.kit.com/a6e831b666 Women’s Retreat 2026-Waitlist   🔗   https://forms.gle/SZ2aGP2xUxoutpCR7 Join our Facebook group Dating After Divorce 🔗https://www.facebook.com/groups/1765979270789001/people Similar episodes   EP 18| My Ex Has Not Apologize For What He Did Ep 27| Your Person Exists - What To Do In The Waiting Season

In this episode we explore how past betrayal trauma affects your current relationships, even with good men who are doing everything right.   We discuss the self-sabotaging behaviors many of us develop as protection mechanisms—checking phones, creating loyalty tests, keeping escape plans—and why these patterns keep us trapped in a cycle of distrust.   I share Monica's story, a woman who ended a healthy relationship because she couldn't accept that someone could be genuinely transparent, and I give you a practical vulnerability exercise you can start today.   If you've experienced betrayal in the past and feel like you can't let your guard down with someone new, this episode will help you understand why—and how to begin healing.   If you are interested in the $10.00 gift card in exchange of a 20 minute zoom call with me, please email me at  patty.martinlifecoach@gmail.com     Women’s Retreat 2026-Waitlist   🔗   https://forms.gle/SZ2aGP2xUxoutpCR7 Join our Facebook group Dating After Divorce 🔗https://www.facebook.com/groups/1765979270789001/people   Similar episodes S01 EP 29 | Your Childhood Trauma Is Ruining Your Love Life - Part 1 The Wound of Abandonment S01 EP 30| Stop Shape-Shifting Into Who He Wants- Part 2 The Wound of Rejection

What is the Inner Child? Abandonment WoundHumiliation WoundBetrayal WoundRejection WoundInjustice Wound   Learn:  What Creates Rejection Wounds? and How to begin to heal from it.   This episode is for you if you: You keep attracting the same type of man—different face, same problems ​​You feel incapable of choosing the right man  You give your all and get breadcrumbs in return  You don't know how to trust your judgment after it's "failed" you before  You're exhausted from dating apps and game-playing  You wonder if God is punishing you for what you did in the past  You're ready to stop the cycle but don't know    Interested in a FREE Discovery call with me? I AM INTERESTED!     🔗https://pattymartinlifecoach.kit.com/a6e831b666 Women’s Retreat 2026-Waitlist   🔗   https://forms.gle/SZ2aGP2xUxoutpCR7 Join our Facebook group Dating After Divorce 🔗https://www.facebook.com/groups/1765979270789001/people     Similar episodes 29| Your Childhood Trauma Is Ruining Your Love Life - Part 1 The Wound of Abandonment 25 | Why You Keep Attracting Emotionally Unavailable Men: And How to Finally Break the Pattern

Learn What Creates Abandonment Wounds?Physical abandonment: absent parent, divorce in childhood, death of a parentEmotional abandonment: parent present physically but emotionally unavailable, neglectConditional love: love given only when you performed, achieved, or behaved "right"How Abandonment Shows Up in Your Dating Life:Anxious Attachment - You become clingy, need constant reassurance, fear being leftTesting Behavior - You push men away to see if they'll stay (self-fulfilling prophecy)Settling - You accept breadcrumbs because any attention feels better than noneHyper-Independence - "I don't need anyone" becomes your armor, preventing intimacyMoving Too Fast - You rush commitment to secure the relationship before they can leave   Does This Sound Like You? ​ You keep attracting the same type of man—different face, same problems ​​You feel incapable of choosing the right man  You give your all and get breadcrumbs in return  You don't know how to trust your judgment after it's "failed" you before  You're exhausted from dating apps and game-playing  You wonder if God is punishing you for what you did in the past  You're ready to stop the cycle but don't know    If you nodded your head to any of these, I'd like to ask you some questions for a research I am doing. I AM NOT SEELING ANYTHING - I simply want to understand your journey better so I can serve women like you more effectively If you or someone you know are interested, please send me an email to my email address listed below. 🔗 patty.martinlifecoach@gmail.com     Similar episodes 24| You Have It All But Still Feel Empty - From Loneliness to the Companionship You Deserve  20| How To Overcome Fear & Anxiety

Spotting Narcissists Before You Fall Again Why your fear of dating again isn't about you being "not enough"5 red flags that identify narcissistic behavior earlyThe difference between godly love and manipulationHow the Holy Spirit guides you toward healthy relationshipsBiblical truths to anchor your worth and decision-making   Ready to Go Deeper?Join the You Are Enough Workshop and learn how to free yourself from narcissistic relationships with parents, ex-partners, or current relationships. Break the cycle and step into healthy, God-honoring love. You keep attracting the same type of man—different face, same problems ​​You feel incapable of choosing the right man  You give your all and get breadcrumbs in return  You don't know how to trust your judgment after it's "failed" you before  You're exhausted from dating apps and game-playing  You wonder if God is punishing you for what you did in the past  You're ready to stop the cycle but don't know  If you nodded your head to any of these, then my end of year workshop is for you. Sign up for my completely online workshop YOU ARE ENOUGH I AM INTERESTED! 🔗https://pattymartinlifecoach.kit.com/a6e831b666   Women’s Retreat 2026-Waitlist   🔗   https://forms.gle/SZ2aGP2xUxoutpCR7   Join our Facebook group Dating After Divorce 🔗https://www.facebook.com/groups/1765979270789001/people   Similar episodes 3| Manipulation Is Not Love, Don't Let Him Fool You  4| He Is Still Married... 10| The Temptation of Being Friends With Benefits

Your Person Exists: Why the Wait Is Preparing You for the Love You DeserveIf you've been waiting for the right person and starting to wonder if they even exist, this episode is for you. As a life coach for Christian women navigating life and love after divorce, I see so many beautiful women losing hope in their waiting season. But what if I told you the wait has a sacred purpose? Ready to Stop Waiting and Start Preparing? Join my 5-Day workshop YOU ARE ENOUGH, where you will learn how to: ✓ Begin your healing journey after divorce✓ The patterns keeping you stuck✓ Prepare for lasting love actually looks like✓ Become the woman who's ready for her person Don't spend another year waiting passively. Your person exists - let's make sure you're ready when God brings you together.   Sign up before November 21st and receive the BONUS  I AM INTERESTED! 🔗https://pattymartinlifecoach.kit.com/a6e831b666 Women’s Retreat 2026-Waitlist   🔗   https://forms.gle/SZ2aGP2xUxoutpCR7 Join our Facebook group Dating After Divorce 🔗https://www.facebook.com/groups/1765979270789001/people Similar episodes 20| How To Overcome Fear & Anxiety EP 17| Unashaming Divorce - Regaining Your Worth  

Normal (short-term symptoms not long after your divorce): Divorce memory loss, can't remember after divorce, divorce fog, post-divorce trauma, healing after divorce, divorce brain fog.   Can't remember details from your first year after divorce? The fog is real. Learn why memory gaps are normal, how your brain protects you during trauma, and how to heal. The Fog is real when going through such trauma as Divorce! I am sharing how I struggled to remember certain events from the first year after my divorce, and how that made me feel like I was damaged goods. Don't miss the blessing that this episode will be to you, and help you to move forward from thinking you as if you are defective.   Does This Sound Like You? You keep attracting the same type of man—different face, same problems ​​You feel incapable of choosing the right man  You give your all and get breadcrumbs in return  You don't know how to trust your judgment after it's "failed" you before  You're exhausted from dating apps and game-playing  You wonder if God is punishing you for what you did in the past  You're ready to stop the cycle but don't know  If you nodded your head to any of these, then my end of year workshop is for you. Sign up before November 21st and receive the BONUS  🔗https://pattymartinlifecoach.kit.com/a6e831b666   Women’s Retreat 2026-Waitlist   🔗   https://forms.gle/SZ2aGP2xUxoutpCR7   Similar Episodes Episode 9 | From Broken to Beautiful Episode 17 | Unashaming Divorce - Regaining Your Worth Episode 19 | Discover How Your Traumas Affect Your Love Life

Does This Sound Like You? ​You keep attracting the same type of man—different face, same problems ​​You feel incapable of choosing the right man  You give your all and get breadcrumbs in return  You don't know how to trust your judgment after it's "failed" you before  You're exhausted from dating apps and game-playing  You wonder if God is punishing you for what you did in the past  You're ready to stop the cycle but don't know  If you nodded your head to any of these, then my end of year workshop is for you. Sign up now and receive a BONUS -  I AM INTERESTED   Follow me on social media: Applepodcast spotify Instagram Join our Facebook group Dating After Divorce

You're successful. You've built an incredible career, achieved financial stability, and created a life most people dream of. But when you come home after a long day, there's an emptiness. The one thing missing? A loving, caring husband to share your life with.In this episode, I'm opening up about my own journey—how I had everything at 49 except the right person. I'll share how shifting to a God-led approach to relationships transformed everything and how you can create the same breakthrough, no matter your age. This conversation is for the woman who has worked hard, achieved her goals, and is ready for the next chapter—a God-centered marriage with a partner who truly sees and values her. If you're frustrated, tired of the dating scene, or wondering if it's even possible for you, this episode is your permission slip to believe again. If you would like guidance in your dating journey and save yourself  years of disappointments doubting yourself and settling for less than what you deserve, schedule a FREE 30-minute session with me. .  "Discover Your Dating Mirror" 1-on-1 FREE Session (regular price of $197usd) Free relationship patterns assessment SAVE YOUR SPOT HERE   visit my webiste: www.pattymartinlifecoach.com 

Dating after divorce is complicated. Dating as a Christian single mom requires additional wisdom, clear boundaries, and a lot of faith. In this episode, we explore five essential steps that every single mom should know before opening her heart again. Scriptures Mentioned: 2 Corinthians 5:17Proverbs 4:23Isaiah 40:31Psalm 139 If you would like guidance in your dating journey and save yourself  years of disappointments doubting yourself and settling for less than what you deserve, schedule a FREE 30-minute session with me. .  1-on-1 FREE Session (regular price of $197usd) Free relationship patterns assessment SAVE YOUR SPOT HERE   Connect With Me: Instagram Facebook Did You Like This Episode?Leave us a 5-star review and share with a friend who needs to hear this message.

Key Topics Covered: Why comparison steals your God-given identityHow comparison blocks your blessings and future opportunitiesWhy comparison dishonors God's timing and sovereignty5 transformative questions for breaking free from the comparison trap Key Bible Verses Referenced: Galatians 2:20Psalm 139:14Hebrews 12:2Ephesians 3:20Ecclesiastes 3:1Romans 8:28 Resources : One-on-one breakthrough coaching sessions: HERENext Steps for Listeners: Answer the 5 questions shared in the episodeConsider booking a breakthrough coaching sessionShare this episode with a friend who needs to hear this message Connect With ME: Instagram: HEREEmail: patty.martinlifecoach@gmail.com

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How to build a life that naturally creates healthy boundaries 5 practical strategies to shift from "too available" to "appropriately interested"
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Today we're going to talk about that invisible companion that controls your life without anyone else noticing: anxiety If you wake up with a weight on your chest and don't know why, this is for you Key Points: Anxiety isn't "just stress"It's not cured by positive thinking or "getting over it"It's a prison you build yourself, brick by brickPhrase to repeat: "Anxiety convinces you that if you worry enough, you can prevent bad things" Description of how it feels: The constant knot in your stomachThe voice saying "something terrible is going to happen"Permanent hypervigilanceThe exhaustion of always being on guard Concrete examples: "You stop accepting invitations because 'what if...?'""You avoid difficult conversations because conflict terrifies you""You stay in relationships that don't nourish you because change scares you""You postpone your dreams because you never feel 'ready'" Transition:"And so, without realizing it, your life becomes smaller and smaller. You live in your comfort zone, but the truth is there's nothing comfortable about it." THE REAL COST OF ANXIETYFour areas anxiety destroys:1. It steals your present 2. It sabotages your relationships 3. It paralyzes your potential 4. It exhausts your body If you're seeing yourself reflected in this, I want you to know it's not your fault. But it is your responsibility to do something about it.In my personalized sessions, we identify exactly how anxiety is manifesting in YOUR specific life. We don't talk in generalities. We go straight to YOUR triggers, YOUR patterns, YOUR solutions. And this month I only have space for 5 new women because each session requires my complete attention. WHY YOU HAVEN'T BEEN ABLE TO OVERCOME IT What you've tried (and why it didn't work):Meditation apps Give temporary reliefDon't work on the root of the problemAnxiety comes back stronger Motivational phrases "Positive thinking""Just breathe deeply"Don't work because anxiety isn't logical Keeping it secret "I don't want to bother anyone""Others have worse problems"Isolation makes anxiety worse Waiting for it to pass on its own "Someday I'll feel better"Anxiety doesn't disappear without interventionIt becomes your new "normal" The hard truth:If you could get out of anxiety alone, you would have already done it. It's not lack of willpower. It's that anxiety creates deep neurological patterns that require specific intervention and expert guidance.Transformation story: Client who couldn't sleep without checking doors 10 timesOr woman with panic attacks in public placesOr the one who avoided everything out of fearHow they broke free with specific work I don't do generic therapy. I don't give you a list of exercises and 'good luck.' I create a specific plan for you. For your type of anxiety. For your circumstances. And I can only do this with a limited number of women because it requires real depth. WHAT FREEDOM LOOKS LIKE Close their eyes and imagine: "Waking up without that immediate weight on your chest""Making decisions based on what you want, not what you fear""Having a difficult conversation without your heart jumping out of your chest""Sleeping deeply, without 'what if...' scenarios""Being present with people you love, truly present""Pursuing your dreams without fear paralyzing you" YOUR MOMENT TO DECIDETwo paths:Path 1: Stay the same Wait for anxiety to disappear on its own somedayAnother month, another year with the same weightWatching your life become smallerLosing opportunities, relationships, peace Path 2: Commit to your freedom Make the bravest decision of your lifeDo the deep workRegain controlLive without that constant weight Don't wait for anxiety to get worse. Don't wait to hit rock bottom. Don't wait to 'be ready.' The perfect moment doesn't exist. The moment is now.If the idea of contacting me gives you anxiety, that's exactly the sign you need to do it. Anxiety doesn't want you to change. I do.Contact me today for your personalized session. Not tomorrow. Not next week. To

Your Past Traumas Are Sabotaging Your Love Life (And How to Heal Them)"In this episode we explore: Why you repeat the same patterns in relationshipsSigns you need to heal these woundsThe first step to transforming your love life   Schedule your discovery session: LINKFollow me on Instagram: LINK

If you've ever stayed awake waiting for an apology that never comes, this episode is going to free you Stop being a prisoner of external validation Learn self-forgiveness as a radical act Learn the freedom that comes with self-acceptance Learn how to start building your new life without their blessing   If you would like guidance in your dating journey and save yourself years of disappointments doubting yourself and settling for less than what you deserve, schedule a FREE 30-minute session with me. . .   "Discover Your Dating Mirror" 1-on-1 FREE Session (regular price of $197usd)   Free relationship patterns assessment SAVE YOUR SPOT HERE  

Divorce doesn't define you, disqualify you, or diminish your worth in God's eyes. If you've been carrying shame about your past marriage, this episode will help you break free and step into the love and life God has planned for you. Why God sees your heart, not your marital statusHow divorce doesn't disqualify you from God's best Breaking free from shame vs. conviction - knowing your true identity in ChristPractical steps to release shame and embrace who God says you are Key Scripture:"Therefore, there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus." - Romans 8:1Resources Mentioned: Subscribe to my podcast so you don't miss any of my episodes. https://pattymartinlifecoach.kit.com/59ffcf3a15   Join The Walk of Faith Saturday hiking group - find out more here https://www.facebook.com/groups/1765979270789001/people        

The Mirror Effect: Why You Keep Attracting the Same Type of Man"Are you tired of the same relationship patterns repeating in your life? In this powerful episode, we explore the Mirror Effect - how our past relationships reflect our internal beliefs about love, worth, and God's design for us.   Discover the three types of mirrors revealing your heart and learn how to break the cycle once and for all.What You'll Learn: The biblical foundation of the Mirror Effect in relationshipsHow to identify the three mirrors: Wound, Worth, and WallGod's three-step healing process: Recognition, Repentance, RenewalPractical steps to prepare your heart for your God-given partner   "Discover Your Dating Mirror" 1-on-1 FREE Session (regular price of $197usd) Free relationship patterns assessment SAVE YOUR SPOT HERE   Connect With Me: InstagramWebsiteEmail  

Discover God's blueprint for setting healthy boundaries that honor Him and promote your healing.🙏 What You'll Learn✅ Why guarding your heart is a biblical command, not selfishness✅ Practical boundaries to set with your ex-spouse, family, and yourself✅ How to protect your heart without hardening it✅ Signs of a guarded vs. unguarded heart during divorce✅ How healthy boundaries affect your children and future relationships 📝 Main ScriptureProverbs 4:23: "Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it." Morning Boundary Assessment: Pray for daily heart protection guidanceThe "Gate Check": Evaluate conversations before engagingEvening Reflection: Journal about how boundaries helped your decisions 📚 Supporting Verses 1 Corinthians 13:4-5 (Love and boundaries)Joshua 1:9 (Courage for boundaries)Acts 5:29 (When others criticize boundaries) 💬 Let's Connect If this message touched your heart and you're walking through divorce, I'd love to offer you a free 30-minute breakthrough session. We'll create a personalized plan for your healing journey. Book at the link in the description!👇 COMMENT BELOW: What's one boundary you know you need to set but have been afraid to implement?   If you would like guidance in your dating journey and save yourself  years of disappointments doubting yourself and settling for less than what you deserve, schedule a FREE 30-minute session with me. .  HERE #DivorceRecovery #ChristianWomen #HealthyBoundaries #BiblicalHealing #TrustAgain #ChristianDivorce #WomenOfFaith #BibleStudy #Boundaries #HealingJourney