This In-Case-You-Missed-It-Episode and a must-listen-to episode. Coming to you from Nashville, Tennessee, Dr. Tracy reunites in person with her dear friend Dr. Tanya Cotler, a clinical psychologist specializing in maternal mental health and child-parent attachment. Dr. Tracy kicks off the episode by sharing a recent personal experience of a body memory—a sudden, unexplained emotional outburst she later linked to her childhood. This episode dives deep into the concept of body memories—emotions stored physically that our brains may not recall cognitively—and the importance of addressing intergenerational trauma. They discuss how modern parenting is shifting towards acknowledging and processing these traumas to prevent passing them on to the next generation. The conversation also explores the nervous system's role in safety and emotional responses, mindfulness practices, attachment theory, the influence of social media on our understanding of attachment styles, and so much more. You don’t want to miss this one!  Be sure to follow Dr. Tanya on ⁠Instagram⁠ and visit her ⁠website⁠  RESOURCES: Free Annual Relationship Check-In - Apple Users⁠https://apps.apple.com/ca/app/be-connected-relationships/id6749022241⁠ Free Annual Relationship Check-In - Google Play Users⁠https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.kj134873.app Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz:⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Ready to deepen your connection?⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ LINKS: ⁠⁠⁠HelloFresh:⁠⁠⁠ Get 10 Free Meals ⁠⁠⁠hellofresh.com/TRACY10FM⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠NativePath:⁠⁠⁠ Special Bundle deal at ⁠⁠⁠getnativepath.com/Tracy⁠⁠⁠ Rula: Get the support you need with ⁠⁠⁠rula.com/Tracy⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠KiwiCo:⁠⁠⁠ Save 50% off with code TRACY ⁠⁠⁠KiwiCo.Com⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Vionic Shoes⁠⁠⁠⁠: Use code TRACY for 15% off at https://www.vionicshoes.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this solo episode, clinical psychologist and relationship expert Dr. Tracy Dalgleish invites listeners into the real emotional landscape of the holidays, far beyond picture perfect family photos. She shares five powerful reflections to help couples and parents move through holiday stress with more connection, less pressure, and a lot more self compassion. Drawing from her experience as a highly sensitive person and a mom to a highly sensitive child, Dr. Tracy explores what it means to hold big feelings on Christmas morning, respond to disappointment without shame, and let go of the belief that kids must always be grateful and happy to make the day a success. She also unpacks how resentment shows up between partners around traditions, mental load, and invisible work, and why communicating expectations before the holiday is essential for staying on the same team. Book #1https://drtracyd.com/i-didn-t-sign-up-for-thisBook #2https://drtracyd.com/you-your-husband-and-his-mother Challenge Your Assumptionshttps://drtracyd.mykajabi.com/assumption 30 Days to Us Challengehttps://drtracyd.mykajabi.com/offers/B2s9epue/checkout RESOURCES: Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz:⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠⁠⁠ Ready to deepen your connection?⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠⁠⁠ LINKS: ⁠⁠HelloFresh:⁠⁠ Get 10 Free Meals ⁠⁠hellofresh.com/TRACY10FM⁠⁠ ⁠⁠NativePath:⁠⁠ Special Bundle deal at ⁠⁠getnativepath.com/Tracy⁠⁠ Rula: Get the support you need with ⁠⁠rula.com/Tracy⁠⁠ ⁠⁠KiwiCo:⁠⁠ Save 50% off with code TRACY ⁠⁠KiwiCo.Com⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Vionic Shoes⁠⁠⁠: Use code TRACY for 15% off at https://www.vionicshoes.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

As the year winds down, many couples reflect on work, finances, and goals—but often forget to reflect on their relationship. In this episode, clinical psychologist and relationship expert Dr. Tracy Dalgleish shares why an end-of-year relationship check-in is one of the most powerful tools couples can use to move out of autopilot and into intention. This conversation isn’t about fixing, blaming, or problem-solving. It’s about pausing, listening, and creating shared meaning. Drawing on relationship research and the Gottmans’ work on connection, Dr. Tracy explains how intentional reflection helps couples break reactive patterns and feel more secure and aligned. She offers one deceptively simple but deeply impactful question to ask your partner—and guidance on how to listen without defensiveness. This episode is a gentle invitation to slow down, reconnect, and intentionally shape the year ahead together. Free Annual Relationship Check-In - Apple Usershttps://apps.apple.com/ca/app/be-connected-relationships/id6749022241Free Annual Relationship Check-In - Google Play Usershttps://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.kj134873.appFree Relationship Quizhttps://quiz.tryinteract.com/#/5f4b84f59cc5d6001429f108 RESOURCES: Order my new book! ⁠⁠You, Your Husband, and His Mother⁠⁠ Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz:⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠⁠⁠ Ready to deepen your connection?⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠⁠⁠ LINKS: ⁠⁠HelloFresh:⁠⁠ Get 10 Free Meals ⁠⁠hellofresh.com/TRACY10FM⁠⁠ ⁠⁠NativePath:⁠⁠ Special Bundle deal at ⁠⁠getnativepath.com/Tracy⁠⁠ Rula: Get the support you need with ⁠⁠rula.com/Tracy⁠⁠ ⁠⁠KiwiCo:⁠⁠ Save 50% off with code TRACY ⁠⁠KiwiCo.Com⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Vionic Shoes⁠⁠⁠: Use code TRACY for 15% off at https://www.vionicshoes.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dr. Tracy Dalgleish answers listener questions on caregiving burnout when a partner has chronic health issues, using Spoon Theory to protect the relationship without losing yourself. She shares practical scripts for rebalancing roles during flare-ups, nervous system regulation tools, and ways to support kids with honesty, predictability, and emotional safety. The episode also covers how to stay connected to a younger sister in an emotionally abusive relationship while avoiding the drama triangle, plus navigating “low effort” in-laws who show love through gifts. Finally, Dr. Tracy offers guidance on estate planning conflict, resentment, boundaries, and staying united as a couple, and how to support a partner with emotionally neglectful parents while protecting your children. RESOURCES IN THIS EPISODE: Submit a Question for the Podcasthttps://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLScKBYWwVsUAAwh31qEJmKK6iSQ7b0tKF3UD7fMcTufSEPVGqw/viewformCouples IntensiveInner Calm Workshop inside Be Connectedhttps://drtracyd.com/be-connected10 Rules for Hard Conversationshttps://drtracyd.mykajabi.com/ten RESOURCES: Order my new book! ⁠You, Your Husband, and His Mother⁠ Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz:⁠ ⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠⁠ Ready to deepen your connection?⁠ ⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠⁠ LINKS: ⁠HelloFresh:⁠ Get 10 Free Meals ⁠hellofresh.com/TRACY10FM⁠ ⁠NativePath:⁠ Special Bundle deal at ⁠getnativepath.com/Tracy⁠ Rula: Get the support you need with ⁠rula.com/Tracy⁠ ⁠KiwiCo:⁠ Save 50% off with code TRACY ⁠KiwiCo.Com⁠ ⁠⁠Vionic Shoes⁠⁠: Use code TRACY for 15% off at https://www.vionicshoes.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this From The Couch episode, clinical psychologist and relationship expert Dr. Tracy Dalgleish unpacks a painful but common experience many couples face in in law relationships: The moment when a partner seems to disappear emotionally after stepping into their family of origin, leaving the other partner feeling alone, unprotected, or disconnected. Dr. Tracy explains why this shift happens, drawing on family roles, nervous system responses, and inner child patterns that resurface in familiar environments. She clarifies why this is not about choosing parents over a partner, but about old survival strategies taking over without awareness. The real wound, she explains, is not just in law behavior, but the loss of the couple bond in these moments. This episode reframes the goal from setting perfect boundaries to learning how to stay connected as a team. Listeners will hear practical questions and small, grounding strategies couples can use to protect their relationship while navigating difficult family dynamics. IN THIS EPISODE: Get immediate support for your relationship: Join Be Connected Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz:⁠ ⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠⁠ RESOURCES: Order my new book! You, Your Husband, and His Mother Want your questions answered on the show? ⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠     Ready to deepen your connection? ⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠ Build better connection and feel close starting today. Join the ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠ LINKS: HelloFresh:⁠ Get 10 Free Meals ⁠hellofresh.com/TRACY10FM⁠ ⁠NativePath:⁠ Special Bundle deal at ⁠getnativepath.com/Tracy⁠ Rula: Get the support you need with ⁠rula.com/Tracy KiwiCo: Save 50% off with code TRACY KiwiCo.Com ⁠Vionic Shoes⁠: Use code TRACY for 15% off at https://www.vionicshoes.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this candid conversation, clinical psychologist Dr. Tracy Dalgleish and her husband Greg unpack a real moment from their own marriage to explore one of the most common and misunderstood relational challenges dismissiveness. Together they break down why phrases like “you’re right,” “everything will be fine,” and “don’t you think you’re being sensitive” leave partners feeling unseen and alone, even when the intent behind them is positive. Dr. Tracy explains how dismissiveness is often a nervous system response shaped by socialization, attachment patterns, and learned family dynamics, while Greg reflects on the pressures men feel to fix, solve, and move on quickly. Listeners will learn practical tools to interrupt dismissive patterns, slow down reactive cycles, stay curious, repair in real time, and communicate more effectively. This episode offers a relatable look into how couples can transform quick shutdowns into deeper connection and understanding. Links in Show Notes Be Connected Relationship Support https://drtracyd.com/be-connected 30 Days to Us https://drtracyd.mykajabi.com/offers/B2s9epue/checkout Scripts for Defensiveness https://drtracyd.mykajabi.com/defensive RESOURCES: Order my new book! You, Your Husband, and His Mother Want your questions answered on the show? ⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠     Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz: ⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠ Ready to deepen your connection? ⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠ LINKS: HelloFresh: Get 10 Free Meals hellofresh.com/TRACY10FM NativePath: Special Bundle deal at getnativepath.com/Tracy Rula: Get the support you need with rula.com/Tracy KiwiCo: Save 50% off with code TRACY KiwiCo.Com ⁠Vionic Shoes⁠: Use code TRACY for 15% off at https://www.vionicshoes.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, Dr. Tracy Dalgleish shares two of her most trusted strategies for navigating difficult family dynamics—especially during the holiday season when old patterns, expectations, and nervous system triggers tend to flare. Drawing from Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, she explains why we can’t change or control others, and how “dropping the rope” and questioning the stories we tell ourselves can immediately shift our emotional state. With relatable examples, practical guidance, and a compassionate lens, Dr. Tracy helps listeners step out of old cycles, reclaim their bandwidth, and stay grounded—even when others refuse to meet them halfway.You’ll Learn:Why trying to change or convince others keeps you stuck in emotional tug-of-warWhat “dropping the rope” really means—and how it protects your peaceHow family dynamics and nervous system activation intensify during the holidaysThe power of asking, “Is this the story I want to tell myself right now?”How to move out of mental spiraling and into present-moment grounding RESOURCES: Order my new book! You, Your Husband, and His Mother Want your questions answered on the show? ⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠     Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz: ⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠ Ready to deepen your connection? ⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠ Build better connection and feel close starting today. Join the ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠ LINKS: Calm: Save 40% off at calm.com/Tracy NativePath: Special Bundle deal at getnativepath.com/Tracy Rula: Get the support you need with rula.com/Tracy KiwiCo: Save 50% off with code TRACY KiwiCo.Com⁠Vionic Shoes⁠: Use code TRACY for 15% off at https://www.vionicshoes.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, Dr. Tracy Dalgleish unpacks one of the most painful and confusing dynamics she sees in couples: being warmly welcomed into a partner’s family—only to later become the outsider. Through a powerful listener story, she explores why these sudden shifts occur, how family systems create scapegoats, and why meaningful accountability is often out of reach. Dr. Tracy also breaks down what real repair looks like, how to protect your emotional wellbeing, and how to stay united with your partner when extended-family patterns threaten your connection.Whether listeners have felt rejected by in-laws, misunderstood, or pushed to the margins of a family they once felt part of, this conversation offers clarity, validation, and a grounded path forward.What You’ll LearnWhy some in-law relationships shift dramatically after major life transitions—especially becoming parentsHow family systems unconsciously create scapegoats and maintain old rolesWhy apologies and accountability can feel impossible in certain family structuresHow to protect your emotional safety without escalating conflictPractical ways to stay aligned with your partner when extended-family dynamics get in the wayWhat real repair looks like—and how couples can rebuild trust together Download my TEN QUESTIONS to ask yourself to get out of your assumptions and stories. RESOURCES: Order my new book! You, Your Husband, and His Mother Want your questions answered on the show? ⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠     Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz: ⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠ Ready to deepen your connection? ⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠ Build better connection and feel close starting today. Join the ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠ LINKS: Calm: Save 40% off at calm.com/Tracy NativePath: Special Bundle deal at getnativepath.com/Tracy Rula: Get the support you need with rula.com/Tracy KiwiCo: Save 50% off with code TRACY KiwiCo.Com ⁠Vionic Shoes⁠: Use code TRACY for 15% off at https://www.vionicshoes.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode of From the Couch, Dr. Tracy talks about what really happens after ending a toxic or narcissistic relationship and why healing isn’t just emotional—it’s neurological. When you’ve spent years being shamed, blamed, or dismissed, your nervous system learns that mistakes and disagreements aren’t safe. Neurons that fire together wire together, meaning your body develops reflexive responses that follow you into new relationships. Dr. Tracy explains how this wiring forms, why you may still react with fear or shutdown even when you’re no longer in that environment, and why this doesn’t mean you’re broken. Dr. Tracy shares three essential steps for healing: creating new messages of safety through repetition, practicing co-regulation with a safe partner, and releasing stored stress through movement and breath work. She also emphasizes the role of self-compassion in trauma recovery and rebuilding trust. If you’re navigating life after a toxic relationship and wondering why it still feels hard, this episode will help you understand your nervous system and begin rewiring toward safety and connection. RESOURCES: Order my new book! You, Your Husband, and His Mother Want your questions answered on the show? ⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠     Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz: ⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠ Ready to deepen your connection? ⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠ Build better connection and feel close starting today. Join the ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠ LINKS: Calm: Save 40% off at calm.com/Tracy NativePath: Special Bundle deal at getnativepath.com/Tracy Rula: Get the support you need with rula.com/Tracy KiwiCo: Save 50% off with code TRACY KiwiCo.Com ⁠Vionic Shoes⁠: Use code TRACY for 15% off at https://www.vionicshoes.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode, Dr. Tracy and Greg explore what really happens to couples during the holiday season—the mental load, the invisible labour, the unspoken assumptions, and those moments when partners suddenly realize they feel more like roommates than a connected team. Dr. Tracy explains why the holidays create the perfect storm for disconnection, how stress triggers negative sentiment override, and why small moments like “Where’s the tape?” can feel disproportionately heavy on an already overloaded nervous system. They walk listeners through the stories couples often fall into, the strain of increased emotional labour, and the cycle many partners get stuck in: one person carrying the invisible work, the other withdrawing, both feeling unseen. From there, they shift into what actually helps. They share their 10-minute daily connection ritual, the questions that foster emotional attunement, and how small, intentional actions can rebuild a sense of partnership. If you’re moving through the holidays feeling overwhelmed, disconnected, or like two ships passing in the night, this episode offers clarity on the deeper patterns at play—and practical, realistic steps to help you reconnect without needing more time. Join my 10-Day More Than Roommates Challenge Download my free 10 Questions to Challenge Your Stories: https://drtracyd.mykajabi.com/assumption RESOURCES: Order my new book! You, Your Husband, and His Mother Want your questions answered on the show? ⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠     Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz: ⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠ Ready to deepen your connection? ⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠ LINKS: ⁠NativePath:⁠ Special Bundle deal at ⁠getnativepath.com/Tracy⁠ Calm: Save 40% off at calm.com/Tracy Rula: Get the support you need with rula.com/Tracy KiwiCo: Save 50% off with code TRACY KiwiCo.Com ⁠Vionic Shoes⁠: Use code TRACY for 15% off at https://www.vionicshoes.com Calm: Save 40% off at calm.com/Tracy NativePath: Special Bundle deal at getnativepath.com/Tracy Rula: Get the support you need with rula.com/Tracy KiwiCo: Save 50% off with code TRACY KiwiCo.Com ⁠Vionic Shoes⁠: Use code TRACY for 15% off at https://www.vionicshoes.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this short, impactful episode, Clinical Psychologist and Relationship Expert Dr. Tracy Dalgleish answers one of the most common questions she hears: Should I hold out for an apology from a parent or in-law? When you share your hurt and they respond with defensiveness, justification, or minimization, it often triggers shame and escalation—leaving you feeling unseen and even more frustrated. Dr. Tracy explains why some family members simply cannot apologize due to long-standing patterns, emotional immaturity, or generational dynamics, even when they care about you. Instead of staying stuck waiting for repair that may never come, this episode helps you shift toward what you can control. You’ll learn why cutting people off isn’t always the answer, and how all-or-nothing estrangement can become another form of avoidance. You’ll leave with an understanding of forgiveness—not as excusing behavior, but as releasing the emotional hold the situation has on you and redefining the relationship on your terms. RESOURCES: Order my new book! You, Your Husband, and His Mother Want your questions answered on the show? ⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠     Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz: ⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠ Ready to deepen your connection? ⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠ Build better connection and feel close starting today. Join the ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠ LINKS: Calm: Save 40% off at calm.com/Tracy NativePath: Special Bundle deal at getnativepath.com/Tracy Rula: Get the support you need with rula.com/Tracy KiwiCo: Save 50% off with code TRACY KiwiCo.Com ⁠Vionic Shoes⁠: Use code TRACY for 15% off at https://www.vionicshoes.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What really happens behind closed doors when two iconic artists build a marriage, a family, and a creative life together? In this intimate conversation, I sit down with Canadian musicians Raine Maida (Our Lady Peace) and Chantal Kreviazuk to talk about the real work of long-term love. We explore the story behind their documentary I’m Going to Break Your Heart, the “burnt chicken” moment that revealed deeper invisible labor dynamics, and how everyday micro-heartbreaks can either chip away at connection or strengthen intimacy. We dive into maximizer/minimizer patterns, why conflict is inevitable in marriage, and how a simple pause can stop a spiral. You’ll hear how they use tools like CPR (Catch, Pause, Repair), eye-gazing, and intentional autonomy to stay connected through parenting, touring, hormonal shifts, and the evolving seasons of a decades-long relationship. We also unpack men’s resistance to therapy, reframing it as coaching, and why interdependence—not perfection—is the foundation of lasting partnership. If you’ve ever felt alone in the messiness of marriage, this episode will help you feel seen, supported, and equipped to build a stronger, more resilient relationship. Tune in to hear the truth behind long-term love. MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: Check out Raine and Chantal’s Substack: A Rock and Roll Love Story: https://raineandchantal.substack.com/ Raine and Chantal’s Documentary: I’m Going To Break Your Heart RESOURCES: Order my new book! You, Your Husband, and His Mother Want your questions answered on the show? ⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠     Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz: ⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠ Ready to deepen your connection? ⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠ Build better connection and feel close starting today. Join the ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠ LINKS: Calm: Save 40% off at calm.com/Tracy NativePath: Special Bundle deal at getnativepath.com/Tracy Rula: Get the support you need with rula.com/Tracy KiwiCo: Save 50% off with code TRACY KiwiCo.Com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In moments of conflict, it’s easy to feel unheard—and to keep “piling on” examples in the hope that your partner will finally understand. But what if that very habit is the thing preventing real repair? In this episode, Dr. Tracy Dalgleish unpacks why we overload our partners during arguments, how it triggers defensiveness, and what to do instead to foster connection and accountability. You’ll learn why slowing down, naming one feeling, and allowing space for emotion is the key to creating lasting change and deeper understanding in your relationship. Tune in to feel seen, supported, and equipped with practical tools to navigate conflict with compassion and clarity. Grab my new book ⁠⁠You, Your Husband, and His Mother⁠⁠!! Available on all formats RESOURCES: Want your questions answered on the show?⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠⁠⁠     Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz:⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠⁠⁠ Ready to deepen your connection?⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠⁠⁠ Build better connection and feel close starting today. Join the⁠⁠ ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠⁠⁠ LINKS: ⁠⁠Factor Meals:⁠⁠ Save 50% off your first box and get free breakfast for a year. Use code TRACY50OFF at factormeals.com/TRACY50OFF Rula: Get the support you need with ⁠⁠rula.com/Tracy⁠ ⁠⁠Calm:⁠⁠ Save 40% off at ⁠⁠calm.com/Tracy⁠⁠ ⁠⁠KiwiCo:⁠⁠ Save 50% off with code TRACY KiwiCo.Com ⁠⁠Better Help:⁠⁠ Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/TRACYK12 Powered Schools: Learn more at ⁠⁠k12.com/TRACY⁠ Keywords: relationship repair, piling on in conflict, communication skills for couples, defensiveness in relationships, emotional validation, Gottman method, couples therapy insights, relationship podcast Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do you ever feel like you’re just going through the motions in your relationship—managing, reacting, doing, but not truly connecting? In this candid conversation, Dr. Tracy Dalgleish and her husband Greg explore what it means to slip into autopilot mode—that state where we function out of habit rather than intention. They unpack the science and psychology behind it, revealing how early experiences and nervous system responses shape the ways we disconnect from ourselves and our partners. Together, they share real-life examples and practical exercises to help you become more present, rebuild emotional attunement, and reignite connection—one small, conscious shift at a time. Whether you’re stuck in the same arguments, feeling like roommates, or simply moving through your days on repeat, this episode will help you slow down, tune in, and show up differently. Tune in to feel seen, supported, and equipped to reconnect—with yourself and your partner. Grab my new book ⁠⁠You, Your Husband, and His Mother⁠⁠!! Available on all formats RESOURCES: Want your questions answered on the show?⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠⁠⁠     Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz:⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠⁠⁠ Ready to deepen your connection?⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠⁠⁠ Build better connection and feel close starting today. Join the⁠⁠ ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠⁠⁠ LINKS: ⁠⁠Factor Meals:⁠⁠ Save 50% off your first box and get free breakfast for a year. Use code TRACY50OFF at factormeals.com/TRACY50OFF Rula: Get the support you need with ⁠⁠rula.com/Tracy⁠ ⁠⁠Calm:⁠⁠ Save 40% off at ⁠⁠calm.com/Tracy⁠⁠ ⁠⁠KiwiCo:⁠⁠ Save 50% off with code TRACY KiwiCo.Com ⁠⁠Better Help:⁠⁠ Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/TRACYK12 Powered Schools: Learn more at ⁠⁠k12.com/TRACY⁠ Keywords: relationship autopilot, emotional connection, relationship patterns, mindfulness in relationships, couples communication, relationship awareness, Dr. Tracy Dalgleish, Be Connected Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this From the Couch episode, Dr. Tracy Dalgleish answers a listener’s question about navigating conflict with a sister-in-law. Using her expertise as a psychologist and couples therapist, she unpacks toxic family patterns, explores loyalty binds within families, and shares practical strategies to help couples stay united when extended-family dynamics create tension. Learn how to set boundaries, communicate effectively, and protect your marriage from outside drama. Keywords: sister-in-law conflict, toxic family dynamics, mother-in-law, boundaries, marriage advice, family relationships, couples therapy. Order my new book! ⁠⁠⁠You, Your Husband, and His Mother⁠⁠⁠ RESOURCES: Want your questions answered on the show?⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠⁠⁠     Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz:⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠⁠⁠ Ready to deepen your connection?⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠⁠⁠ Build better connection and feel close starting today. Join the⁠⁠ ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠⁠⁠ LINKS: ⁠⁠Calm:⁠⁠ Save 40% off at ⁠⁠calm.com/Tracy⁠⁠ ⁠Factor Meals:⁠⁠ Save 50% off your first box and get free breakfast for a year. Use code TRACY50OFF at factormeals.com/TRACY50OFF Rula: Get the support you need with ⁠⁠rula.com/Tracy⁠⁠ ⁠⁠KiwiCo:⁠⁠ Save 50% off with code TRACY ⁠⁠KiwiCo.Com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Vionic Shoes⁠⁠⁠: Use code TRACY for 15% off at https://www.vionicshoes.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you ever felt caught between your partner and his mother—or wondered how a whole book on that exact dynamic comes to life?  In this cozy, behind-the-scenes conversation, Dr. Tracy sits down with her husband Greg to share the real story of writing You, Your Husband, and His Mother—from 4:30 a.m. writing sessions and walking voice notes, to landing a Big 5 book deal and holding the finished book in her hands. They talk honestly about what it takes to build something big while raising kids, running a practice, and still trying to have a real life together. Together, they unpack why the mother-in-law/daughter-in-law relationship is so charged, how triangles quietly pull couples into painful patterns, and why the VAULT Method is designed to move you out of the victim–villain trap and into “we’re a team” energy. You’ll hear about inner child patterns, feeling “in the middle,” and the deep relief so many women describe when they finally feel seen instead of “crazy” for struggling with in-laws. Tune in to feel understood, hopeful, and equipped with a new way to think about your marriage, your in-laws, and the small steps that can help you become a stronger, more aligned couple. Grab my new book ⁠You, Your Husband, and His Mother⁠!! Available on all formats RESOURCES: Want your questions answered on the show?⁠ ⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠⁠     Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz:⁠ ⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠⁠ Ready to deepen your connection?⁠ ⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠⁠ Build better connection and feel close starting today. Join the⁠ ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠⁠ LINKS: ⁠Factor Meals:⁠ Save 50% off your first box and get free breakfast for a year. Use code TRACY50OFF at factormeals.com/TRACY50OFF Rula: Get the support you need with ⁠rula.com/Tracy ⁠Calm:⁠ Save 40% off at ⁠calm.com/Tracy⁠ ⁠KiwiCo:⁠ Save 50% off with code TRACY KiwiCo.Com ⁠Better Help:⁠ Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/TRACYK12 Powered Schools: Learn more at ⁠k12.com/TRACY⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In Season 2, Episode 2 of Nobody Wants This, Joanne delivers the now-viral line: “Mothers have been hating their son’s girlfriends since the beginning of time…” — and it’s the ultimate masterclass in boundaries. Dr. Tracy Dalgleish, clinical psychologist and author of You, Your Husband, and His Mother, unpacks why Bina’s behavior is a textbook case of enmeshment, guilt, and control disguised as care. From secret keys to guilt trips and emotional manipulation, Dr. Tracy breaks down what happens when families don’t update their roles — and how couples can stay united through it. Learn the key therapy concepts of enmeshment, triangulation, differentiation, and boundary-setting, and walk away knowing how to protect your peace without losing compassion. Order my new book! ⁠⁠You, Your Husband, and His Mother⁠⁠ RESOURCES: Want your questions answered on the show?⁠ ⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠⁠     Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz:⁠ ⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠⁠ Ready to deepen your connection?⁠ ⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠⁠ Build better connection and feel close starting today. Join the⁠ ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠⁠ LINKS: ⁠Calm:⁠ Save 40% off at ⁠calm.com/Tracy⁠ Rula: Get the support you need with ⁠rula.com/Tracy⁠ ⁠KiwiCo:⁠ Save 50% off with code TRACY ⁠KiwiCo.Com⁠⁠⁠Vionic Shoes⁠⁠: Use code TRACY for 15% off at https://www.vionicshoes.com Keywords Nobody Wants This; emotional intelligence, family dynamics, mother-in-law, boundaries, communication, repair, autonomy, differentiation, relationships, parenting Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this final episode of the series, Dr. Tracy Dalgleish, psychologist and relationship expert, discusses the importance of emotional intelligence in family dynamics, particularly focusing on the role of mothers-in-law. She outlines key behaviors that emotionally intelligent mothers-in-law exhibit, such as protecting the couple unit, communicating effectively, owning their impact, including without enmeshment, and practicing differentiation. The episode emphasizes the need for self-awareness, empathy, and the ability to navigate complex family relationships while maintaining healthy boundaries. Preorder my new book! ⁠You, Your Husband, and His Mother⁠ RESOURCES: Want your questions answered on the show? ⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠     Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz: ⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠ Ready to deepen your connection? ⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠ Build better connection and feel close starting today. Join the ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠ LINKS: Calm: Save 40% off at calm.com/Tracy Rula: Get the support you need with rula.com/Tracy KiwiCo: Save 50% off with code TRACY KiwiCo.Com⁠Vionic Shoes⁠: Use code TRACY for 15% off at https://www.vionicshoes.com Keywords emotional intelligence, family dynamics, mother-in-law, boundaries, communication, repair, autonomy, differentiation, relationships, parenting Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this From the Couch session, Psychologist and Relationship Expert Dr. Tracy Dalgleish breaks down one of the biggest questions she gets during the holiday season: What’s the difference between a boundary and a threat? If you’ve ever said, “I’m not hosting this year,” or “If you keep acting like that, we’re never coming over again,” this episode will help you understand why one creates peace and the other fuels conflict.Short, compassionate, and practical, this quick session gives you the language and mindset to protect your peace without guilt. 👉 Listen if you’re searching for:How to set boundaries with family kindlyThe difference between boundaries and threatsHoliday boundary settingHow to protect your peace without starting conflict Preorder my new book and snag your seat to my EXCLUSIVE LIVE COACHING event! ⁠⁠You, Your Husband, and His Mother⁠⁠ RESOURCES: Want your questions answered on the show?⁠ ⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠⁠     Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz:⁠ ⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠⁠ Ready to deepen your connection?⁠ ⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠⁠ Build better connection and feel close starting today. Join the⁠ ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠⁠ LINKS: ⁠Calm:⁠ Save 40% off at ⁠calm.com/Tracy⁠ ⁠KiwiCo:⁠ Save 50% off with code TRACY KiwiCo.Com ⁠Better Help:⁠ Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/TRACY K12 Powered Schools: Learn more at ⁠k12.com/TRACY⁠ ⁠Quince Bedding:⁠ Free Shipping at quince.com/TRACY ⁠Branch Basics:⁠⁠ Use code TRACY15 to save 15% off your Premium Starter Kit ⁠⁠Vionic Shoes⁠⁠: Use code TRACY for 15% off at https://www.vionicshoes.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this special episode of Dear Dr. Tracy, clinical psychologist and relationship expert Dr. Tracy Dalgleish sits down with her husband, Greg, to answer real, anonymous listener questions about mothers-in-law (MILs), in-law dynamics, holiday boundaries, and getting on the same page as a couple.  Drawing from her upcoming book, You, Your Husband, and His Mother (launching November 4), Dr. Tracy breaks down how to ask a partner to “take your side” (validation vs. action), set clear boundaries without disrespect, manage holiday expectations, and respond to subtle digs or manipulative comments—all while protecting the couple bond. Listeners learn practical scripts and the VAULT Method (Values, Aspirations + nervous system awareness, Understanding, Longings, Taking Action) to move out of autopilot and into teamwork. Dr. Tracy and Greg cover fairness myths between families, FaceTime and visit expectations, nervous-system tools for dread and anxiety, how to avoid triangulation during sibling or extended-family conflict, and how to protect parenting choices (consent, food rules, body talk) with warmth and clarity. Whether someone is navigating mild tension or long-standing patterns, this episode offers research-informed, compassionate strategies to keep connection, repair, and co-created family traditions at the center—especially during the holidays. Preorder my new book You, Your Husband, and His Mother and save your seat at my exclusive live coaching event!! RESOURCES: Want your questions answered on the show? ⁠⁠Submit them here!⁠⁠     Discover your relationship negative cycle with my free quiz: ⁠⁠Take it here⁠⁠ Ready to deepen your connection? ⁠⁠Download my 100 Questions⁠⁠ Build better connection and feel close starting today. Join the ⁠⁠30 Days to Us Challenge⁠⁠ LINKS: Factor Meals: Save 50% off your first box and get free breakfast for a year. Use code TRACY50OFF at factormeals.com/TRACY50OFF Calm: Save 40% off at calm.com/Tracy KiwiCo: Save 50% off with code TRACY KiwiCo.Com Better Help: Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/TRACYK12 Powered Schools: Learn more at k12.com/TRACY Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices