This episode is a look back at 2025, our highs, lows, and buffalos, complete with storytelling, laughs, and a few hard-earned lessons. We chat about our favorite trips and hotels, unforgettable moments like my brother’s wedding, and what made this year feel so full. 2025 brought major year of the snake energy with growth, recalibration, and shedding old skins. We also talk about our intentions for 2026 and why it’s still the perfect time to reflect and reset. The year of the horse doesn’t sta...

Brian openly admits he’s a big “should-er” - my brother should’ve bought that, my kids should’ve done this, Harley should’ve done that. While these thoughts often come from love or wanting the best, they can subtly undermine relationships and create shame. We explore how “should-ing” on yourself or others is really a form of arguing with reality - and how that never actually helps anyone move forward. This is a great episode to listen to going into family holiday's if you want less tens...

Today we’re talking about Mary Magdalene Revealed and the lost gospel that never made the biblical cut because the early church clearly wasn’t interested in hearing from women. With men mentioned by name around 1,700 times in scripture and women only 93, the imbalance speaks for itself. We explore what Christianity might have looked like if the divine feminine hadn’t been edited out. Harley has a lightbulb moment about why she always hated history class: it all based on men and war and power ...

We’ve officially decided it’s time to get back into the Christmas spirit. In this episode, we unpack our childhood Christmases - the magic, the traditions, and the moments that made us step back from the holiday cheer for a while. We dive into the great Santa debate (should you lie to your kids in the name of Christmas magic?), the glory and the chaos of Elf on the Shelf, and why, after a few grinchy years, we’re finally feeling excited about Christmas again.

We start off this episode a little lighter, recounting the adventure of getting Harley's Dad to Cabo for her brother's wedding and discovering that weddings are the Super Bowl for singles. Then we shift into Brian’s latest therapy realization: what he long thought was anger was actually guilt running the show. We talk about how guilt shaped his reactions, his parenting, and his internal world, and how naming it is already creating space for more peace and freedom.

In this episode, we dive into the follow-up you’ve all been asking for. After Brian’s near-death experience made its way into People Magazine, we’re sharing where things actually stand now - the doctor’s appointments, the lingering fatigue, and the very real ups and downs of the past five weeks. Harley finally hits her emotional wall mid-recording (yep, we paused and came back two days later), and we talk about what this whole experience has shaken loose for both of us.

As painful as it is to relive the terrifying day we faced in Italy, we’re opening up about Brian’s unexpected health scare - what happened and the lessons we’re still learning. Our hope is that by sharing this experience, it resonates with anyone who’s had to navigate a similar situation in their own lives.

This week, we’re recapping the first half of our Italian adventure where we found paradise. We dive into our dreamy days on the Tuscan coast, one of our favorite hotels ever, and the story of how we politely declined a yacht invite from a couple wild old Italian men. We also talk about being open to synchronicities and a crazy run-in with a very famous chef. Don’t miss next week’s episode… when heaven turns just a little bit hellish.

We’re digging into the gold digger convo. After some comments on our age gap relationship reel, we decided to break down what actually makes someone a gold digger - and why that label gets tossed at women way more than men. We talk about how both sides usually benefit, the importance of keeping your own identity (even if you step into a more traditional role later), and how women’s roles have evolved while society’s judgments… not so much.

In this episode, we pull back the curtain on what “raw dogging life” really looks like. You’ll hear us in real time - frustrated, vulnerable, and working through it. For the first time in 40 years, Brian is facing his emotions without the buffer of substances, and it’s revealing the deeper layers of healing still to come. Recorded across two days, you’ll hear the evolution - from high tension to deeper understanding.

Malarkey just hit 53 - and also marked 3 years (mostly) alcohol-free! We talk about his one slip-up, the surprising gifts sobriety has brought him, and how quitting booze led him to drop other numbing habits like weed, caffeine, nicotine, and antidepressants (have a time & a place - no shame!). Plus, a quick dive into Harley’s experience with the other side of addiction: how some people are drawn to dating addicts in the first place.

Our first episode on age-gap relationships was one of our most popular - so we’re back, answering the questions you really want to know. We talk about our different music tastes, what our friends and family actually thought about our age difference, and why we believe love defies age (with a few exceptions). Plus, Malarkey coins a brand-new term of endearment for Harley to call him - her ol’ nut dragger. Expect plenty of laughs and some honest conversation about what it’s really like to be in...

First booze, then coffee… and now the gummies?! Brian just dropped his last vice and is officially running on water and oxygen. In this episode, he gets real about why it was time to say goodbye to his beloved weed gummies, and how ditching them has already leveled up his mood, focus, and energy.

This week’s episode dives into both big and small questions through a couples card game called Tales. From “What was your favorite game at recess?” to “Who inspires you?” and “What do you want to do when you retire?” - we cover it all. We share a cautionary story about why waiting until retirement to enjoy your life is a bad idea, and give our thoughts about how to win at the game of life if SIM theory is real.

Harley and Malarkey share practical strategies for navigating life with a narcissist. Drawing from their own experiences with narcissists and borderlines, they reflect on the hard lessons they've learned along the way. They explore where these personality disorders may originate - both from a psychological and a spiritual perspective and offer concrete tools to help you avoid getting pulled into a narcissist's trap.

Missed it the first time? We’re back with our Instagram Etiquette episode. We get into the do’s and don’ts of navigating social media with a partner, how alcohol fueled some of Malarkey’s not-so-great choices in the past, and why being honest with yourself matters most.

Who are five people who are no longer with us that you’d like to spend some time with in eternity? The similarities between your choices can reveal the qualities you might be seeking to develop in yourself. Malarkey’s list shows he’s craving more peace, while Harley’s picks prove she’s ready to shake things up and make the world better by challenging the status quo.

We've officially joined the cult of weightlifting. Malarkey was as Harley affectionately called him a "cardio queen" terrified of bulking up, but now he's feeling the gains and not just in his biceps. We get into the surprising benefits of strength training, self-care routines, and how it’s never too late to turn your life around - whether that means quitting booze, kicking nicotine, or finally picking up a dumbbell.

This week we're talking about the stress of us fighting more in the past couple of weeks. We share the petty details, how we pulled ourselves out of the spiral, and how not to let a few arguments ruin an otherwise good trip. Through the disagreements, we landed on something helpful: sometimes a lose-lose can actually be a win-win. When both people own their part and take responsibility, it’s easier to reconnect and put the relationship first.

In Harley D's words, this is a woo-woo one. We’re talking reincarnation, soul contracts, and the idea that you might’ve actually chosen your parents before you got here. We explore how this perspective can make the hard stuff in life feel a little more meaningful—and maybe even give us a reason to thank the difficult people in our lives for the opportunity for growth. Plus some book recommendations if you're spirit curious.