This isn’t a lesson. It’s not advice. It’s just me… sitting with 2025 before it leaves. A quiet reflection on the year—the love, the lessons, the growth, the clarity, and the moments of peace. Join me as I share what I’m leaving behind, what I’m carrying forward, and why sometimes, surviving and showing up is the biggest win.
Heart, Unfiltered—because life is happening now.
In this episode of Heart, Unfiltered, we dive deep into the emotional confusion and silent heartbreak of situationships—those almost-relationships that feel like something, look like something, but never actually become anything.
We unpack what a situationship really is, why so many people don’t realize they’re in one, and why these connections rarely grow into real relationships. From mismatched intentions to lost mystery to the emotional cost of hoping someone will eventually choose you, this episode calls for honesty, clarity, and self-preservation.
If you’ve ever found yourself holding onto “almost,” waiting for someone who enjoys access but won’t offer commitment, this conversation is for you.
It’s time to stop watering dead plants—and start choosing yourself with the same clarity you want from others.
In today’s episode, we explore perspective and perception—and how they silently shape the way we give advice, receive love, handle conflict, and interpret people’s intentions.
From why people project their past on you, to why misunderstandings happen over text, to how your worldview affects your relationships—this episode breaks down the hidden forces behind human behavior.
It’s not about who’s right or wrong.
It’s about understanding the lens people see life through.
Listen in, reflect, and share with someone who needs this.
Keep your heart unfiltered. ❤️
This episode is for anyone who feels like the year is ending and they have nothing to show for it.
As November brings its usual pressure—year-end goals, weddings, relocations, new houses, festive plans, it’s easy to feel like you’re falling behind.
Like you’ve just been surviving for years.
Like everyone else is moving, achieving, winning… except you.
In this episode, we strip away the masks and talk honestly about that quiet pain.
The pressure, the comparison, the loneliness, the distractions we hide behind, and the fear of not becoming who we thought we’d be by now.
But we also talk about perspective, how many battles you’ve already won without noticing, how far you’ve actually come, and why isolation isn’t the answer.
This episode is a reminder that you are not alone, that your story isn’t over, and that even what doesn’t feel like “enough” can still overflow.
A soft, honest conversation you may need more than you realize.
Can honesty alone really keep relationships, friendships, or even situationships healthy? In this episode, we dive into the often-overlooked power of transparency, the proactive truth that prevents misunderstandings, builds trust, and strengthens connections.
Yusuf shares personal experiences from friendships and romantic relationships, showing how knowing each other’s plans, schedules, and intentions can save energy, reduce tension, and create emotional safety. Transparency isn’t about control; it’s about consideration, understanding, and keeping the people you care about included in your world.
Tune in to discover why being transparent is often more powerful than being honest and how a little foresight can prevent a lot of heartbreak.
Keep your heart unfiltered.
"You won’t find the same person twice, even in the same person."
This quote got me thinking, does it mean people change, so it’s okay to go back to your ex? Or does it mean the version of them you loved no longer exists?
In this episode, I reflect on the delicate idea of going back to your ex, when it makes sense and when it doesn’t. From the belief that exes should stay exes to realizing that sometimes love ends not because it was wrong, but because the timing wasn’t right.
It’s not a rulebook, just honest thoughts on love, change, timing, and boundaries.
Sometimes, the conversations that start casually end up reshaping how we see everything.
In this episode, I reflected on a simple chat that led to a deeper realization — maybe relationships were never meant to be “non-transactional.” Maybe they’ve always been built on exchange — not money or material things, but emotional currency: effort, energy, time, and presence.
I explore how those silent exchanges form the backbone of every relationship, how love bombing distorts them, and why understanding your own “exchange rate” might just be the key to healthier connections.
Because at the end of the day, it’s not about giving without expecting — it’s about giving where it’s valued, and receiving where it’s earned.
Somewhere along the way, love can start to feel heavy.
Not because your partner isn’t right… but because in the process, we sometimes forget ourselves.
In this episode, we explore why losing your individuality in relationships can quietly affect your friendships, your happiness, and even your connection with your partner.
We talk about why people chase highs in love, how to spot the warning signs, and most importantly — how to love in a way that adds to your life, rather than trying to complete it.
Because love shouldn’t make you feel half of yourself — it should help you be more than half.
Somewhere along the line, our generation made emotional distance look powerful — like the one who feels less, wins. But in the war of ego, the loser always wins.
This episode dives into avoidant attachment — what it truly means, where it comes from, and how it quietly shapes how we love and connect. We talk about how fear of vulnerability often hides behind phrases like “protecting my peace,” and how avoidance might explain you, but can’t excuse how you treat people.
It’s not a blame session — it’s a gentle reminder that while your past may have shaped your patterns, healing is your responsibility. Because love, friendship, and connection can’t grow through distance.
💭 Vulnerability isn’t weakness. It’s courage.
Because in the war of ego… the one who feels, always wins.
Heart, Unfiltered – Episode 15: The Weight You Don’t See
Low self-esteem is often invisible, but it quietly shapes self-doubt, imposter syndrome, and how we see ourselves. In this episode, I share personal stories, unpack societal and familial pressures, and explore real ways to rebuild self-worth — without pretending to be perfect.
Reflection: What’s one thing you’re downplaying about yourself but are actually good at?
Tune in, breathe, and remember: your worth isn’t defined by the mirror.
Ever feel like you don’t belong, even after you’ve achieved something? In this episode, we dive into imposter syndrome — what it really feels like, why it sneaks up after self-doubt, and how to navigate it without losing yourself. Real stories, and lessons for anyone trying to figure life out, one step at a time.
Perfection is a trap that keeps too many of us waiting on the sidelines. In this episode, we explore the weight of self-doubt, the illusion of “perfect timing,” and why waiting until it’s perfect often means waiting forever.
From the pressures of comparison to the surprising truth about why many highly intelligent people underachieve, this conversation is as real as it gets. I even share parts of my own journey—how self-doubt kept me from applying for jobs I could have thrived in, and how I almost let fear stop me from starting this very podcast.
If you’ve ever told yourself, “I’m not ready yet,” this episode is for you. Perfect can wait—but your life can’t.
🎧 Listen now and let’s unlearn the myth of perfection together.
Sometimes the most powerful thing you can do for someone isn’t giving advice, fixing their problems, or sharing your own story—it’s simply listening. This week, we explore the art of truly hearing the people in your life, honoring their struggles and their victories, and holding space without judgment.
Who are you when the titles, labels, and first impressions are stripped away? In this episode, we explore the part of you that can’t be summed up in a résumé or a social media bio — the quiet legacy you leave behind in every room you enter. Through real voices, heartfelt reflections, and an honest challenge, Beyond the Bio invites you to rethink how you define yourself… and how others will remember you.
Many of us are good people who still struggle to love well. This episode explores how emotional neglect, unhealed trauma, and cultural norms have shaped the way we give and receive love, and why we need to relearn the basics: presence, respect, kindness, consistency, and vulnerability.
It’s not just about romance. It’s about the kind of love that builds us—and others—up.
Have you ever felt like you’re always the one giving, checking in, or trying?
Maybe the problem isn’t you. Maybe… they were never your tribe.
In hopefully the concluding episode of our Friendship Series, we talk about mismatched friendships, wrong expectations, and the cycles we repeat—even when we know better.
This episode is a sequel of sorts — a continuation of our last conversation around friendships and the many "-ships" we find ourselves in. But now that you’ve identified your people, the real question is: are you showing up for them? Are you putting in the effort, being intentional, and being present?
Let’s talk about the difference between being anchored and actually maintaining the anchor. Let's talk effort, presence, and choosing your people — every day.
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🎵 Music Credit:
"Filaments" by Scott Buckley – www.scottbuckley.com.au
Licensed under CC BY 4.0
You call everyone your friend… but deep down, you feel like no one’s really yours.
In this episode, I’m talking about blurred boundaries, why we confuse connection with commitment, and how that leaves us emotionally scattered and quietly heavy.
🎙 Episode 7 — All These -ships, But No Anchor
Open hands, heavy heart — let’s talk about why boundaries matter.
We say we’re healing… but are we really?
Or are we just avoiding, numbing, distracting?
This week on Heart, Unfiltered, I’m unpacking the not-so-linear journey of healing, the relapses, the silence, the mess, and what real, intentional healing might actually look like. No fluff, just truth.
🎧 Episode 6 – “That didn’t fix it?” is out now.
Ever felt taken for granted by the people closest to you? This episode unpacks the Nigerian concept of “see finish”, what happens when familiarity turns into disregard. Let’s talk about how closeness can either deepen connection… or quietly erode it. It’s raw, honest, and a little uncomfortable, but necessary.