Amiga, today we’re diving into a big, juicy, uncomfortable but necessary question: Are you actually choosing yourself?
In this episode, I’m unpacking what it really looks like when we don’t choose ourselves... in our inner dialogue, our relationships, our business, our decisions, and all the tiny everyday moments where we shrink, stay quiet, or slip back into old versions of us.
I share the stories, the triggers, the patterns, and the sneaky ways we abandon ourselves without even realising it… and the powerful shift that happens when we start backing the woman we’re becoming instead of the woman we’ve been.
We talk:✨ choosing yourself vs choosing comfort✨ the inner wise woman and why she whispers✨ people-pleasing, silence, shrinking and self-doubt✨ evolving into the next version of you✨ making decisions from self-worth, not fear✨ the business upgrade that happens when you finally say “I choose me”
If you’re ready to stop second guessing and start showing up with grounded, rock solid self belief; this one’s for you.
And if this hits home? Pop into my DMs and let’s chat about 1:1 support. You don’t have to figure this out alone!
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Queeeeen! Today’s episode is all about that sticky, sweaty, heart thumping space outside your comfort zone. You know the one where your brain screams “get TF outta here!” even though your soul is whispering “go girl!”
In this episode, I’m sharing my real and raw experience of walking into a room full of strangers, battling resistance, and doing it anyway. Because here’s the truth, confidence isn’t built in comfort. It’s built in the stretch, in the moments we show up despite the fear, self doubt, or stories we tell ourselves.
Here's what you'll take with you:
Why your body and mind resist change (and how to move through it)
How to recognise your self sabotage patterns before they trip you up
The mindset shift that turns “I can’t” into “watch me”
Practical ways to calm your nervous system when fear kicks in
How to strengthen your Girl on Fire mindset — the one that says, “F*** yes, I can and I will.”
Growth doesn’t come from staying safe, it comes from showing up when it feels hard. The resistance isn’t a sign to stop; it’s proof that you’re stepping into something new.
I want to know... what’s one thing you’re doing this week to stretch out of your comfort zone?
Send me a DM and tell me about it! www.instagram.com/jesssotoramirez
And if you’re ready to dismantle the limiting beliefs that keep you stuck, lets chat about how I can support you!
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In this episode, I’m sharing the fire that was lit inside me after speaking at the Candle Business Coach’s Glow & Grow Retreat - a powerful event filled with women ready to expand, connect, and dream big.
From the nervous jitters before I hit record to the deep conversations that unfolded at the retreat, I’m taking you behind the scenes to share my 3 biggest takeaways; lessons every woman in business needs to hear:
* Create your own opportunities – No one’s coming to hand them to you. You get to go first.
* Women thrive in connection – We rise higher when we’re supported, seen, and surrounded by the right people.
* Dream boldly – Those wild ideas in your heart are there for a reason. It’s time to bring them to life.
If you’ve ever questioned your worth, felt stuck, or wondered if it’s too late to dream again, this episode is your reminder that you’re capable of more than you think.
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Ok Queen, this episode is PRACTICAL in CAPS!
As the women who wear ALL the dam hats, our minds get overloaded with STUFF - details, dates, deadlines and the rest!
So I'm sharing with you a simple AF hack that I've been using to simplify my life and offload all the tiny details that take up valuable brain space!
This episode will help you
It's not rocket science but it will change your life when you apply it consistently and diligently.
Share it with your fellow "all the hats" wearer - she'll appreciate it! I did and she was so excited to simplify her life!
Enjoy Queen!
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I sat down with the incredibleHayleigh Watson from Hali Helper to talk about identity, healing, and what it really means to rewrite your story.
Hayleigh grew up in the foster care system from birth to 18, carrying abandonment wounds, fear of being seen, and a constant need to “be good” just to feel safe. These childhood experiences didn’t just shape her; they followed her into adulthood, relationships, and even into business ownership.
But here’s the powerful part, Hayleigh didn’t let her past define her. She’s built a life and a business rooted in helping women rise, not from a place of perfection, but from deep resilience, honesty, and heart.
In this conversation we go deep on:
- Growing up in foster care and what most people don’t see- The invisible weight of abandonment wounds and fear of being seen
- How childhood patterns sneak into business, relationships, and self-worth
- Reclaiming identity after shrinking to fit into someone else’s box
- Building a business legacy rooted in helping women do the work that lights them up
- Learning to rest, set boundaries, and become your own safe place
This episode is about choosing freedom, creating your own identity, and finding strength in the softness of who you are.
Share it with one person today!
CONNECT WITH HAYLEIGH:Hayleigh is a passionate entrepreneur and community builder, dedicated to empowering female founders. She is the founder of Hali Helper, abusiness support studio that supporting women in business, and Girls Gotta Work, a thriving community and podcast for female entrepreneurs.Drawing on her own experiences of resilience and growth, Hayleigh combines authenticity, practical insights, and a supportive spirit to help others build businesses and lives they love. She’s committed to helping women feel supported, connected, and confident in their entrepreneurial journeys.www.instagram.com/halihelper
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You’ve probably heard affirmations and imposter syndrome described as complete opposites, right? One builds you up, the other tears you down. But what if I told you that the way you’re using affirmations might actually be fuelling your imposter syndrome instead of helping you rise above it?
In this episode, I get real about:
✨ Why “fluffy” affirmations often fall flat (and sometimes make us feel worse)
✨ How your mean girl voice interrupts those affirmations the second you say them
✨ The sneaky link between generic affirmations and feeling like a fraud
✨ Why worthiness and imposter syndrome are so deeply connected
✨ The process I use to create affirmations that actually transform, rather than trigger
I’ll walk you through how to move from empty words to affirmations that land on a soul level—ones that not only feel true but empower you to finally launch that course, pitch that podcast, press ‘go live,’ or say yes to the opportunities you’ve been holding back from.
And because I know how powerful this practice can be, I’ve created a free playbook called Rewire & Rise - your guide to rewriting affirmations that connect with your truth, rewire your subconscious, and help you rise into the next version of yourself.
👉 Grab it here: www.coaching.jesssotoramirez.com/freebie
👉 If this episode hits home, share it with your bestie (and don’t forget to leave a review! Your review helps this podcast create the ripple effects and reach even more women).
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On this episode I’m joined by Elisha Tamasi, The Polynesian Life Coach. You guys know I love a good old raw, real and juicy chat, especially when it comes to sharing a story that can change someone’s life.
From the age of 6, Elisha felt different. She grew up in government housing in “the hood”, had big dreams, went left when everyone else was going right, yet deep down she battled with body shame and searched for freedom, worthiness and self acceptance,recalling her first diet at the tender age of 11.
Now, Elisha Tamasi is a Self Love and Confidence Coach dedicated to empowering women to embrace their worthiness, love what they see in the mirror, and step boldly into their power. Through her coaching and signature program, Destination Self Love, Elisha helps women break free from the chokehold of dieting, perfectionism, and self criticism to reclaim their confidence and live unapologetically as their most authentic selves.
Jump in with me as we weave our way through Elisha's life and witness her "unbecoming" from external expectations and comes home to herself with self love and compassion.
Connect with Elisha:
@thepolynesianlifecoach on Facebook, Instagram, Tik Tok and Youtube.
And check out this incredibale opportunity to join her coaching program - Destination Self Love - fully funded! Complete your online application - https://form.jotform.com/252128635988874Connect with Jess:DM me - www.instagram.com/jesssotoramirez
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After a foggy morning in Sydney and an emotionally heavy day, I want to explore the truth that so many female entrepreneurs avoid - the power of sitting in the discomfort AND understanding your body!
Instead of rushing through the hard days, what happens when we actually pause and listen to what our bodies are trying to tell us?
Is it your nervous system sabotaging your next level?
How can you create new safety in the discomfort?
In this episode, you’ll hear:
My emotional crash and what it sparked in me
My childhood stress that showed up in my body
How our bodies physically react to playing small, self-silencing, and avoiding truth
The subconscious patterns that whisper “Who do you think you are?”
The real reason my throat would literally shut down every time I spoke my truth on camera
How to tell the difference between your body saying rest vs your fear keeping you “safe”
Tired of second guessing, done with self silencing, and ready to reclaim your fire ?
Book a free 20 minute chat to see how I can support you to go deeper to untangle the fear and doubt that is holding you back from unshakable safety while growing your business with boldness.
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Ever felt that ick feeling of stuckness lingering in you when you think about your business?
Overwhelmed with the sheer question of how do you undo the overwhelm?
But the answer is simple
However it requires patience, discipline, commitment and consistency
In this episode I want to share with you a lesson I learned recently that helps to answer this loaded question.
And it doesn't just apply to your business, it applies to life and your mindset is as much a part of this!
The big chunky stone over feeling stuck and overwhelmed becomes what you choose to create with it.
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This one’s raw, real, and straight from a shower download — no notes, just truth bombs.
As a woman building a business (and building a new version of yourself), this episode is your reminder: the way you speak to yourself will make or break your experience of life.
I’m going all in on the power of inner dialogue, subconscious beliefs, and why shifting the voice inside your head is the biggest game changer you'll ever make.
We’re calling out the self doubt, the toxic self talk, the comparison traps... and we’re replacing them with fire, confidence, and grounded self-leadership.
Because the most important relationship in your life? It's the one you have with yourself!
!! You’re not here to play small.
!! You’re here to trailblaze.
In this episode:
How your self-talk shapes your reality
Why your subconscious beliefs are holding you back
What to do when you’re the one tearing yourself down
Practical ways to shift your inner voice and step into your girl on fire mindset
Need support with this work?
I’ve got a FREE resource to help you start shifting your internal dialogue today.
Grab your instant download here: https://coaching.jesssotoramirez.com/freebie
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Share this with someone who needs to hear it. Let’s stop playing small!
Got a big idea, then instantly talk yourself out of it?
In this episode, I'm sharing a powerful breakthrough from a recent coaching call — and the 3 questions that can snap you out of fear and self-doubt before it spirals.
🔥 You’ll learn:
Why self-doubt kicks in right after inspiration hits
How scarcity thinking sneaks in and keeps you small
The 3 questions to shift your mindset and move forward instantly
I know you're over falling down the spiral, so this episode will show you how to STOP getting stuck in the deep dark hole of doubt and start backing yourself!
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💌 Share this with a queen who needs to hear it. Let’s go!
If you ask me, this is a pretty funny episode [at my expense] yet deeply insightful as I share a story that starts with an awkward [and wildly uncomfortable] on-stage moment involving a fluffy pink sloth, a lap dance competition, and a crowd of strangers - and evolves into a powerful reflection on business, integrity, and staying true to yourself.
Let's chat about
Recognising when something doesn’t feel right
The importance of tuning into your inner "yes" and "no"
The subtle but powerful difference between pushing your comfort zone vs. compromising your values.
Tune in!LET'S CONNECT:
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This episode is here to challenge the quiet woman in you who feels like she can't fully speak with confidence!
If you:
Apologise often, even unnecessarily
Avoid asking for help or following up on opportunities
Fear being seen as pushy, rude, or arrogant
Dilute your words to avoid judgment
Stay quiet instead of speaking your truth
Listen in!
It's time to move past the deeply ingrained fear of "taking up space"!
So many women are unknowingly seeking permission to speak, act, and pursue what they want.
Let's untangle where this is coming from and get your voice heard so you can create your dream!
It's time to step out of shrinking habits and own your voice unapologetically!
Want help with this? Let's book a time to chat! Here:
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Life will test you amiga. It’ll throw a whole lot of sh*t your way! Let's be real.
This raw and unfiltered episode is for you if you're filled with confusion, frustration, and “WTF am I doing?” energy.
I want to remind you, struggle doesn't mean failure. You are not alone, and you are not behind. You have something powerful inside you.
If you're:
questioning your path...feeling stuck, unseen, or uninspired...If you need a hug in podcast form...
Listen in. This one's for you.
You're a change maker, impact driven and a heart led visionary.
Your voice matters. You're worthy. And this messy moment? It's part of your becoming.
Send this to someone who’s in the thick of it right now.
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What does it really take to move forward with a new project or idea in your business? You know those ideas to create something new or the buzz when you decide to step into a new path!
Last episode we spoke about self doubt [ep 117] and today we chat about how to to stay aligned with your passion, idea or goal without getting sidetracked by overwhelm, doubt, or confusion.
I'm taking you BTS & sharing real insights inspired by my program Fuel Your Fire - a membership for women wanting to take consistent steps in their business and be part of a community of like minded women. With accountability calls every fortnight so that you don't fall off the bandwagon and you have clarity on where you are going.
Let's chat about the importance of honoring the "honeymoon phase" of new ideas, practical steps to maintain momentum and managing the inevitable wobbles along the way.
Ready to fuel your fire and take action?
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Queeeeeen! Do you find yourself doubting your every move? In this episode, I'm unpacking the self doubt spiral and how it leads you on a wild bounce, idea hopping and not really committing to anything.
Self doubt stops you from creating meaningful momentum and progress. You may have brilliant ideas; a podcast, a book, a course - but if you're only ever dabbling and jumping between them, you're always going to feel stuck.
I'm covering;
How self-doubt manifests - in mays you may not even expect!
Why believing in yourself isn’t just about affirmations
The importance of intentionally choosing
Building real roots in your vision through mindset shifts and deep inner work
How to identify and disrupt your own patterns of doubt
Done with dabbling and ready to go all in on what’s been keeping you up at night?
I've got a powerful (and free!) tool to help you ground your vision and start building momentum.
Grab it here: www.coaching.jesssotoramirez.com/eeplaybook
Your step by step guide to overcome self doubt and move forward with clarity and confidence.
If you're bouncing from idea to idea, and never really landing; that’s self-doubt in action - this conversation is for you.
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This is a super inspiring episode! I know I am biased but this deeply raw, honest and real conversation with Cat Dunn is exactly why this podcast was created - to share a story that we don't often hear with such depth, to share hope for what is possible and to share the real insiders, BTS take on how to find a light in the dark tunnel.
You can expect to hear:
Jump in and have a listen. This episode delves deep into personal growth, personal development and truly embracing the next version of you waiting to be untapped.
More about Cat:Cat Dunn is an award-winning Online Business Manager (OBM), Mentor, Speaker, and the founder of her own speaker’s event, Life After I Left.With a background in corporate administration, marketing, and communications, Cat transitioned from Virtual Assistant to OBM, specialising in streamlining systems and providing strategic guidance for visionary coaches and creatives. She mentors aspiring OBMs through her vibrant community, the OBM Motley Crew, helping them confidently level up their skills and impact.Cat is a domestic violence advocate and sought-after speaker, empowering women through her raw honesty, resilience, and transformative storytelling. Her mission is to help women reclaim their power, amplify their voices, and build businesses and lives they love.
Connect with Cat and grab tickets to her event!IG - www.instagram.com/catlouisedunnFB - www.facebook.com/catlouisedunnLI - www.linkedin.com/in/catlouisedunnWebsite - www.catlouisedunn.comLife After I Left tickets - https://www.eventbrite.com.au/e/life-after-i-left-tickets-1253924625309Connect with Jess:
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In this episode, I’m diving into what it really takes to break through self-doubt, build confidence, and take bold action in both life and business.
Entrepreneurship can feel like an awkward first kiss—uncertain, awkward, and full of overthinking. But here’s the truth: success isn’t just about strategy; it’s about self-belief, mindset shifts, and having a strong community that lifts you up. Inspired by Alicia Keys - Girl on Fire, I’m here to remind you to stop dimming your fire and fully step into making the moves that make a difference.
I also share details about my Girl on Fire program—an immersive, high-touch, eight-month experience designed to help impact-driven women like you grow personally and professionally - send me a DM on the gram @jesssotoramirez to chat more about it!
Plus, I’ve got a free Empowered Entrepreneur Playbook to help you get clarity and take action today! Get your instant download coaching.jesssotoramirez.com/eeplaybook
To work with me, let's start of with a chat to see the best option for you!
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Queen, get ready for a fire-filled, no BS episode that’s going to light up your soul and kick your dreams into high gear! I'm diving into the big, beautiful vision you have for your life and business—and why you’re not making it happen....YET!
But guess what! By not making it happen, it's like stealing from the people needing what your business offers!
If you’ve got that FIRE IN YOR BELLY about a project, an idea, or a desire that keeps bubbling up, but you’re stuck in self-doubt, fear, or analysis paralysis—this episode is for YOU!
What I'm digging into:
What’s the dream you’re holding back on?
Why you’re not taking action—and how to change that.
The stories we tell ourselves that keep us stuck.
How NOT showing up is impacting your life and others.
The ripple effect of stepping into your power.
Identifying what truly drives you (impact, purpose, freedom, money?).
How to shift your mindset and become unstoppable.
Ready to kick off?
Want a copy of The Empowered Entrepreneur Playbook - a transformational tool to set bold goals, crush self doubt and build unstoppable confidence! - Send me a DM @jesssotoramirez
LET'S CONNECT:
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If you've ever faced rejection in your life [which is almost inevitable] you know that it can become debilitating and all consuming - throwing us into feelings on unworthiness, self doubt and we often question who we are - our identity!
Lalitha is no different.
But what is inspiring about Lalitha; is her transformative approach to facing rejection and learning to reclaim her power in the midst of challenges.
Lalitha has a vulnerable conversation with us today about:
Listen in and send us a DM - did you have any lightbulb moments? Do you have thoughts to share about being a woman of colour in the entrepreneurial space?
We'd love to hear from you! Enjoy the episode!
@jesssotoramirez or @thechailoft
More about Lalitha:
Lalitha Kirsnan is an artisan chai blender who weaves mindfulness into every aspect of her work. As the creative force behind The Chai Loft, she crafts carefully curated blends while also serving as a full-time academic at Western Sydney University. A self-described "pracademic," she bridges the gap between theoretical knowledge and industry practice, bringing real-world marketing insights into the classroom. Her philosophy centers on mindful living – finding beauty in small moments and practicing gratitude as part of life's greater ecosystem. Through her work in both craft beverages and academia, she demonstrates how thoughtful integration of different disciplines can create richer, more meaningful experiences.
Connect with Lalitha:
www.thechailoft.com.auwww.instagram.com/thechailoftConnect with Jess:
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Chat soon Queen!