Lessons in (Anxious) Attachment is the podcast for people who are still struggling with overthinking, anxious attachment patterns, or chasing unavailable partners...even though you understand the theory.
With a lifetime of personal experience and over 15 years of professional experience, I (Carly Ann) am here to help you move beyond just knowing the logic of attachment and actually start applying it to create real change.
You should know, my podcast isn’t about getting your ex back or making your partner fix your anxiety. Lessons in Attachment is about empowering you to become your own coach - using attachment theory, third-wave CBT techniques, and practical tools to transform your daily life.
We dive deep into life-changing topics, so be sure to take care of yourself along the way. This is the podcast that helps you finally shift your attachment style and stop letting worry control your life
Come and get to know me more on Instagram @carly.ann_ or head to www.carly-ann.co.uk for freebies and community!
Lessons in (Anxious) Attachment is the podcast for people who are still struggling with overthinking, anxious attachment patterns, or chasing unavailable partners...even though you understand the theory.
With a lifetime of personal experience and over 15 years of professional experience, I (Carly Ann) am here to help you move beyond just knowing the logic of attachment and actually start applying it to create real change.
You should know, my podcast isn’t about getting your ex back or making your partner fix your anxiety. Lessons in Attachment is about empowering you to become your own coach - using attachment theory, third-wave CBT techniques, and practical tools to transform your daily life.
We dive deep into life-changing topics, so be sure to take care of yourself along the way. This is the podcast that helps you finally shift your attachment style and stop letting worry control your life
Come and get to know me more on Instagram @carly.ann_ or head to www.carly-ann.co.uk for freebies and community!
Work with Carly Ann HERE
Follow Carly Ann on Instagram HERE
This meditation is a gentle shield for moments that feel overwhelming.
Whether you’re navigating difficult conversations, challenging people, intense relationships, or emotionally charged situations, this practice helps you stay grounded without taking everything personally.
It’s designed to support you in remaining true to yourself, less reactive, and less triggered—so you can move through life with more ease, clarity, and self-protection. By strengthening your inner boundaries, you’re more likely to cope calmly and respond from a place of balance rather than stress.
You can listen to this meditation before entering a challenging situation, or take a short break during the day whenever you need to reset and reconnect with yourself.
Brethren, Arise by Chris Zabriskie is licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution 4.0 license. https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/
Source: http://chriszabriskie.com/darkglow/
Artist: http://chriszabriskie.com/
In this episode I (Carly Ann) am honoured to sit with mental health counsellor Lara Land for an honest and important conversation about trauma and recovery.
As you will hear, Lara is a compassionate expert - she is qualified, realistic, and so passionate which is what this podcast is all about.
This is really one not to be missed if you are interested in trauma recovery for yourself or clients.
We talk about trauma, without quick fixes or overwhelming explanations. This episode explores how trauma affects the nervous system, why healing is deeply connected to safety and choice, and how recovery can unfold at a pace that feels supportive rather than scary.
This episode is for anyone who wants a clearer, more compassionate understanding of trauma and what healing truly involves
LINKS
Listen if you self-sabotage
If you’ve ever wondered why you keep falling into the same habits, the same blocks, or the same frustrating cycles, this episode is going to hit home. I'm diving deep into self-sabotage (the quiet, often unconscious ways you get in your own way and hold yourself back from the life, relationships, success, and happiness you’re trying to create)
You’ll hear why these repeat patterns show up again and again, even when you know what you “should” be doing, and even when you genuinely want things to change. We explore the inner mechanisms that trigger self-sabotage, the hidden beliefs that keep you stuck, and the subtle ways your mind tries to protect you by doing the opposite of what you need.
And because awareness is only the first step, this episode also includes a powerful guided exercise designed to help you interrupt these patterns and start shifting them in real time.
If you’re tired of being the one thing standing between you and your goals… if you’re ready to understand why you keep repeating the same self-sabotaging behaviours… and if you want a practical tool you can use anytime you feel yourself slipping back into old patterns - you’ll want to listen all the way through.
BOOK YOU 90 minute CLARITY CALL
Other useful links:
If you worry and spiral, this episode is with you in mind.
I'm thinking of you if you catch yourself fixating on a mistake you made, or worrying about someone abandoning you, or worrying about what might go wrong...and it takes over your mind and can be paralysing.
This pattern is truly a therapy insight, this is a key part of education for managing worry and it could really make a difference if you are keen to worry less.
Keywords: worry, overthinking, anxiety, mental habits, stress, self-awareness, coping strategies, emotional resilience, mindset, rumination
BOOK YOU 90 minute CLARITY CALL
Other useful links:
In this episode, we dive deep into the moments that send us spinning and spiralling. Christina Lane joins us for an honest conversation about what a spiral really is, how to recognise the early signs, and how to support yourself so you can respond instead of react.
We explore whether it’s truly possible to stop being triggered by certain things, why triggers happen in the first place, and how self-awareness can shift the entire experience. Christina also shares practical strategies to prevent a spiral, interrupt it once it starts, and guide yourself back before you reach the point of regret.
If you’re struggling with spiralling and feeling like it's out of your control - this episode will help you understand the answer and show you how to navigate the moment with more clarity, compassion, and control.
Christina would love to gift listeners her free somatic tools -an Audio Reset for Men and a Journal for Women- both designed to bring you back into presence and connection.
Listeners can access them through: www.christinalanecoaching.com/email
BOOK YOU 90 minute CLARITY CALL
Other useful links:
Understanding self-esteem and recognising if you’re anxiety is related to low self-worth
In this episode we will spend some quality time breaking down the most common signs of low self-esteem using the Rosenberg Self-Esteem Scale which is a trusted psychological tool for measuring a person’s overall self-esteem
Recognising low self-esteem is important because it helps you understand the root of how you think, feel, and behave. When you become aware of whether your self-esteem is strong, shaky, or inconsistent, you can start to understand why you react the way you do - why certain situations trigger you, why you feel anxious or stuck, or why certain patterns keep repeating - we need that if we want to change and strengthen self esteem
I am Carly Ann, and I’m on a mission to bring the wisdom of therapy beyond the couch — helping people grow, connect, and thrive in life and love. This is not a replacement for therapy, but a space where you can learn practical tools, gain insight, and feel supported as you navigate life from your old self to your new self
Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/carlyann_therapy/
Join stuck to Secure: https://carly-ann.mykajabi.com/21-days-course
1:1 Therapy & Coaching: https://carly-ann.mykajabi.com/work-with-carly-ann
Free Workshop: https://carly-ann.mykajabi.com/free-btc-workshop
BOOK YOU 90 minute CLARITY CALL
Other useful links:
We break down the common mindset pattern that shows up in the therapy room over and over again - it fuels shame, anxiety, and low self-worth - the subtle thinking style that convinces you you’re always behind, always falling short, and never quite “enough.” If you feel stuck, overwhelmed, or constantly judging yourself, this episode will help you understand why.
If you have goals, dreams, or even the desire to feel better in your own life, you need to stop falling into this trap. You’ll learn how this unhelpful thinking pattern shows up in everyday moments, and you’ll hear a real example of someone who broke free from it.
You’ll walk away with a powerful cognitive reframe and guided prompts to help you reflect on your own day-to-day life - so you can interrupt this mindset and replace it with something grounded, compassionate, and truly empowering.
If you’re tired of feeling not enough, stuck, or weighed down by who you think you “should” be, this episode is for you, listen today
BOOK YOU 90 minute CLARITY CALL
Other useful links:
If you’ve ever felt like your happiness depends on other people’s approval, or like you keep losing yourself trying to be “enough” this podcast is for you.
Stop Giving Your Self-Worth & Happiness to Someone or Something Else is your reminder that you don’t have to keep chasing validation - you can reclaim your confidence, peace, and power today.
Carly Ann shares important therapy insights to help you reclaim your power and what is rightfully yours!
BOOK YOU 90 minute CLARITY CALL
Other useful links:
In this episode you will be given a simple therapy framework that could help you make sense of any problem, and actually interrupt it in real time. This is truly a powerful therapeutic framework designed to give you key insight and understanding into your thoughts, emotions, and behaviours, and habits. Meaning you can break old subconscious patterns and cycles.
You’ll learn this tool applies to common challenges like anxious attachment, procrastination, and worry, and discover how the same process can be used to navigate almost anything life throws your way.
We’ll break down each step of the framework, share real-world examples, and give you guided self-reflection prompts so you can start using it for your own growth and clarity right away.
Whether you’re a therapist, a self-development enthusiast, or just someone ready to stop feeling stuck, this episode will help you see your patterns clearly, interrupt them compassionately, and create space for change.
BOOK YOU 90 minute CLARITY CALL
Other useful links:
Getting triggered over and over can be exhausting. It is frustrating when you can't control your reaction to the same trigger. If your triggers have been running the show lately, this episode is for you. Today, we’re diving into what it means to be triggered. I’ll walk you through four key pieces of psychoeducation that will completely change the way you see your triggers. This is what I always want my client to take-away.
Think of this episode as a therapy session for your triggers - one that helps you move from “I can’t believe I did that again” to “Ah, this is how I can move forward”
Believe it or not, when you can meet your triggers with curiosity instead of criticism, you stop living in reaction mode and start feeling safe inside yourself again.
BOOK YOU 90 minute CLARITY CALL
Other useful links:
Is morning anxiety a problem? Mornings is one of the times people can feel in a real funk
Waking up with a racing heart, a clouded mind, or a sense of dread is a common theme and I believe the sooner we get a handle of our mornings the sooner we can start the day of fresh and feeling more like ourselves (and happy!)
In this episode, we dive into how to help when mornings can feel like the hardest part of the day. We explore the roots of morning anxiety.
BOOK YOU 90 minute CLARITY CALL
Other useful links:
Tonight, I’m feeling inspired to share with you.
If you’re in the thick of it right now - feeling triggered, anxious, overwhelmed, maybe caught in your thoughts or emotions - I am meeting you right there
Where you can't let go, stop worrying, or calm down - I've recorded this for you
Sometimes we just need someone to pause with us, to remind us that we can soften, breathe, and come back to ourselves. So today, I want to offer a few gentle tools to help soothe your anxiety and reconnect with your calm in real time.
This space is for you to slow down even in the middle of the storm.
I truly hope it helps
If you need support right now, check out Stuck to Secure and have me as your coach and mentor: https://carly-ann.mykajabi.com/21-days-course
BOOK YOU 90 minute CLARITY CALL
Other useful links:
Do you find yourself endlessly waiting for a text, replaying conversations, or worrying about whether you upset someone? That’s your anxiety showing up and it usually means you’re stuck in old patterns instead of truly feeling your emotions.
We act out as a way to feel better, and it often makes you feel worse
In this episode, I’ll explain what it really means to feel your feelings and why sitting with them is so important for breaking anxious cycles. I’ll give examples that anxious attachers commonly experience, like waiting for messages, overthinking interactions, or catastrophising about someone pulling away.
You’ll also get a practical checklist you can use to pause, notice, and work with your feelings in the moment, so you can respond to life instead of reacting out of habit.
This episode is for anyone ready to stop letting old patterns control their heart, and start learning how to feel without fear.
BOOK YOU 90 minute CLARITY CALL
Other useful links:
Join stuck to Secure HERE
Feeling stuck in a cycle, habit, trigger, or mood you just can’t seem to break? You’re not alone - and you don’t have to stay stuck.
In this Workshop, Carly Ann guides you through a powerful 5-Step Therapy Framework designed to help you interrupt the patterns that are keeping you stuck and create real, lasting change.
Whether it’s emotional spirals, unhelpful habits, or recurring triggers, this framework gives you the tools to understand what’s happening, reset your mindset, and move forward with confidence.
Once you learn it, you can return to it any time, in any area of your life.
Expect big “aha” moments - so grab your notebook, your favourite drink, and get cosy. Let’s break the cycle together
BOOK YOU 90 minute CLARITY CALL
Other useful links:
If you’ve ever promised yourself “this time will be different” only to end up back in the same cycle... the same relationship problems, the same habits, the same procrastination - this episode is for you.
Carly Ann breaks down the key areas to focus on if you actually want to create change that lasts. She shares therapy insights that no one else is talking about, sharing the psychology of what it really takes to rewire your mind and behaviour for good.
Whether you’re stuck in love, habits, or life itself, this episode will help you understand what you need to focus on in order to break free
BOOK YOU 90 minute CLARITY CALL
Other useful links:
Do you have feeling you are made for more?
Do you see yourself repeating the same cycles and pattern even though you KNOW it’s not meant for you.
You may or may not be aware of your thoughts… especially negative thoughts.
In this podcast, I am talking about the beliefs that pull you back, keep you in a loop, and drive anxiety/low mood.
As well as key therapy insights, you will also receive motivation to get out of this, and of course - I’ll share a technique with you that you can then use again and again!
You are the leader of your life, you get to make a choice, and you can make a change.
Listen to this episode if you get stuck in your head overthinking, obsessing, worrying, and losing yourself
BOOK YOU 90 minute CLARITY CALL
Other useful links:
Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) is a proven approach that helps you stop fighting your thoughts and feelings, make peace with what you can’t control, and start living a life guided by what truly matters to you
This episode is for those of you who feel like life just isn’t going your way right now. Maybe you’re stuck in overthinking, worrying if someone is pulling away, or replaying conversations in your head. Perhaps you’re caught up in anxious attachment, struggling to let go of what you can’t control. In this video, I’m sharing some key principles from Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) that can help you move forward, make peace with your feelings, and start creating the life and love you deserve
BOOK YOU 90 minute CLARITY CALL
Other useful links:
Ever wonder how elite athletes stay consistent, how top business leaders keep showing up, or why your favourite podcast hosts seem to have it all together? It’s not just willpower, so many of them use mental training & visualisation.
Visualisation is a powerful mental technique - one of the most underrated tools for building habits that actually stick. It’s used by high-performers in sport, business and media to stay focused, motivated, and aligned with their goals (day in, day out0!
If you’ve ever felt frustrated by stop-start habits, struggled to stay consistent, or found yourself slipping back into old routines, you’re not alone. The truth is, most people rely on motivation... but that runs out fast.
In this episode, you’ll learn what visualisation really is, why it works (even if it sounds a bit “woo”), and three simple techniques you can start using straight away to finally stay on track with the goals and habits that matter most to you.
BOOK YOU 90 minute CLARITY CALL
Other useful links:
Do you have an abandonment wound? Or are you questioning if you have one? An abandonment wound can affect your daily life in very subtle ways. An abandonment wound is usually the result of past experiences and it can hugely impact your life today, as an adult. The question is, how does your abandonment wound show up in your daily life? Seeing these patterns improve your wellbeing, choices, and relationships. Let's dive into the different ways your abandonment wound might show up at work, in relationships, and other areas of your life. You will hear what a recap of what an abandonment wound is, and key signs of how it shows up. I will also share the details of my CBT course, Becoming Secure. As always, at the end of the video I give you big value - one shift you can make when your abandonment wound is triggered. I would love to hear from you in the comments, what is the main takeaway that can help you live happier?
FREE WORKSHOP: https://carly-ann.mykajabi.com/5-steps-to-breaking-the-rules
Becoming Secure (Carly Ann's Signature course): https://carly-ann.mykajabi.com/becoming-secure-course
BOOK YOU 90 minute CLARITY CALL
Other useful links:
This workshop is sponsored by my signature 6-week course, Becoming Secure. It does exactly what it says on the tin... it helps you move from feeling insecure, lost, or anxious, to feeling grounded, confident, and secure. It’s six weeks to rediscovering yourself..and right now there’s a special early bird offer available.
Join Becoming Secure with Early Bird Pricing until Wed 3rd: https://carly-ann.mykajabi.com/becoming-secure-course
BOOK YOU 90 minute CLARITY CALL
Other useful links: